SyntheticAnesthetic
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Sorry, actually he said "I don't want to rush things"
Your first mistake was calling him and asking if your date was "still on". If you had a date, he would make sure you knew it.
Your second mistake was asking him if he still wanted to talk to you. You are handing control over to him.
No contact. No texts, no email, no phone calls. Don't give up your power to this idiot. If he wants to talk to you, he will contact you. Leave him wondering what you are doing and who you are with. Men will fake a future with you as long as you buy it.
I have a Leo in my life now. We are just friends. He contacts me...if I don't hear from him for a few days, no big deal. If you are truly in a Leo's "life", they will let you know what's up when they go MIA. Then when I hear from him, I am happy to hear from him, not dwelling on drama in the "relationship". I have my own life to conduct and he knows I am not waiting around for him to grant me with his voice or presence.
Your second mistake was asking him if he still wanted to talk to you. You are handing control over to him.
No contact. No texts, no email, no phone calls. Don't give up your power to this idiot. If he wants to talk to you, he will contact you. Leave him wondering what you are doing and who you are with. Men will fake a future with you as long as you buy it.
I have a Leo in my life now. We are just friends. He contacts me...if I don't hear from him for a few days, no big deal. If you are truly in a Leo's "life", they will let you know what's up when they go MIA. Then when I hear from him, I am happy to hear from him, not dwelling on drama in the "relationship". I have my own life to conduct and he knows I am not waiting around for him to grant me with his voice or presence.
You are completely right, being an Aries, I act way too much on impulse. I really need to step back and think and not act on my current emotions. (My moon's in Scorpio, so you see my problem)
Right now, I am in a bad spot, and he made it better. I guess now I have get my life back together and try to forget about him. It sucks, a lot, so much. In all my years of dating, relationships and such, there's only been 1 guy I've ever loved, numerous ones I felt ok with, and a very very very small number that I actually could see myself with in every aspect.
He was one of the last ones I mentioned.
I just...don't know what to think.
Right now, I am in a bad spot, and he made it better. I guess now I have get my life back together and try to forget about him. It sucks, a lot, so much. In all my years of dating, relationships and such, there's only been 1 guy I've ever loved, numerous ones I felt ok with, and a very very very small number that I actually could see myself with in every aspect.
He was one of the last ones I mentioned.
I just...don't know what to think.
play harder to get. Leos like the chase. and we're romantic. he can't sweep you off your feet if you're already on top of him. 😉
Yeah, I won't be making the mistake of contacting him again. I've learned my lesson the hard way.
But does this seem like a situation where he will come around in a few days, or does this convo/situation seem like he's done?
But does this seem like a situation where he will come around in a few days, or does this convo/situation seem like he's done?
I think his ex still has a hold on him unfortunately. He says he doesn't love her anymore, but considering they have a small child together, there's something still there.
With having a child there's always going to be something there - but rather because the child is such a gift, you know? Not for romance purposes.
And I'm with a Scorpion moon as well. The fire 'heart' and water 'soul' combination can be tricky at times. I can understand the pull between head, heart & soul. Sometimes it's a war when you're not sure if it's just you in your head, or multiple personalities that REALLY don't 'get' each other!
Do your best to hold on to your Moon right now. It will keep you 'sane' and I promise you won't be as likely to regret your actions if you get too 'Aries' on your judgment and want to press the 'redo' button.
Just calm down dear.
And I'm with a Scorpion moon as well. The fire 'heart' and water 'soul' combination can be tricky at times. I can understand the pull between head, heart & soul. Sometimes it's a war when you're not sure if it's just you in your head, or multiple personalities that REALLY don't 'get' each other!
Do your best to hold on to your Moon right now. It will keep you 'sane' and I promise you won't be as likely to regret your actions if you get too 'Aries' on your judgment and want to press the 'redo' button.
Just calm down dear.
Syn, believe me, I know exactly what you are talking about. I was involved with a Scorpio for 4 years, gave up all my power, self esteem, self confidence and my life because I thought he was "the one". In hindsight, and after a lot of reading and research, and therapy (had never got to therapy) I started working on myself and lo and behold, I became the woman I once was before the Scorpio, and may I add, a much better version.
You know how all the "experts" will tell you to "love yourself"...sure, just how the hell do you do that? You take it one day at a time, know your boundaries (I didn't have a clue what mine where) and enforce them. Do things for you that YOU want to do. If I had one piece of advice I would give it would be not to plan your life around men, especially ones who don't know what the hell they want. You sit and analyze the butter TO DEATH and before you know it, a day has gone by. So not worth it on SO many levels.
You know how all the "experts" will tell you to "love yourself"...sure, just how the hell do you do that? You take it one day at a time, know your boundaries (I didn't have a clue what mine where) and enforce them. Do things for you that YOU want to do. If I had one piece of advice I would give it would be not to plan your life around men, especially ones who don't know what the hell they want. You sit and analyze the butter TO DEATH and before you know it, a day has gone by. So not worth it on SO many levels.
I found a web site that has been one of my saving graces....http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk...you want a reality check? This chick will give you one. I've spent hours reading her articles.....give it a whirl. Also the book, Why Men Love Bitches is awesome. Now, I wouldn't follow everything the author tells you to do, but it does give you an excellent insight on men and how women need to be true to themselves. Obviously adapt the book to your own personality.
Kick this guy to the curb. Go work on yourself and come back and be a happy woman. Remember, you attract what you project.
At this point, it doesn't matter if he will call in a few days..it may be days, weeks, or whatever. Just know what you will and will not put up with.
Kick this guy to the curb. Go work on yourself and come back and be a happy woman. Remember, you attract what you project.
At this point, it doesn't matter if he will call in a few days..it may be days, weeks, or whatever. Just know what you will and will not put up with.
Chick, I'm Aries too.. With Scorpio ascending and Leo moon. I have been 'involved' very casually with a Leo for the last three-and-a-half years now and I can tell you, the only way it's lasted so log is because I don't really give a shit when I'm going to speak to him again and I go on with my life. If I speak to him then cool, if not... Cool. Not once have I asked him when he's going to contact me again and not once have I put myself in the position where I'm "that girl" who's being clingy and needy. Not once have I asked him why he hasn't replied to me when I have tried to make contact first if he doesn't reply. He's told me before that what we have is nuts but that it's because I'm so chilled and give him his freedom that it's still going on. He likes that I'm strong inside myself and that he doesn't have to be my emotional crutch or that I don't even try to get him to be my emotional crutch.
What do you want from him? Do you want a relationship? Or do you just want a casual affair?
And did you bone him when you went out with him on the first night?
There is neither a right or a wrong answer to that... I just want some more insight on what went down after he told you he loved you?
How log have you known him?
What do you want from him? Do you want a relationship? Or do you just want a casual affair?
And did you bone him when you went out with him on the first night?
There is neither a right or a wrong answer to that... I just want some more insight on what went down after he told you he loved you?
How log have you known him?
Also... Experiences I have with other Leo's who I thought would be as easy as him to handle have taught me they're scared we might want more from them than they're willing to give and so they send us packing because when we contact them, it makes them think we are nuts about them and want to get into relationships with them. The same experience has taught me to back the hell away and leave them alone for a while and then approach them a few months later all laid back and chilled out and then hey ausually see they don't have to worry about being sucked into some co dependent emotional shit storm with this needy chick because we're not "that girl".
Just back off for a while and try again in like three months when you're feeling less desperate and controlling about the situation.
Just back off for a while and try again in like three months when you're feeling less desperate and controlling about the situation.
tip top advice lotuslily 🙂
i have one really close leo friend who i seem to always nearly forget by the time he contacts me, LOL. it seems if you aren't waiting around for them, they come to you....a bit like london buses.
i have one really close leo friend who i seem to always nearly forget by the time he contacts me, LOL. it seems if you aren't waiting around for them, they come to you....a bit like london buses.
I can't agree more with callmegenesis, lotuslilly and Rigormortis.
My long distance Leo also goes silent for time to time.. it used to really drive me crazy.. it still does but I try to not let it bother me now. I figured it is not really worth my time and effort to keep chasing his tail, then stopped contacting him (ie, sending emails and messaging him on chat). About 2 or 3 days later, he phoned me in the morning to wake me up and chatted for an hour... although half of it was phone sex... but still, he called!!! 🙂
Being a Scorpio, I can't help but wonder if he contacted me because he just wanted phone sex... but I try not to analyse it too much because we continue to exchange emails after and he would tell me he misses me and thank me for having him in my life. But I am keeping it care-free... if he msg me, great, if not, it bugs me but I don't let myself go crazy either.. he would eventually come around to remind you why you love him in the first place. Like what Rigormortis said, when you stop waiting around, they come to you! 🙂
I know it is more easily said than done... but please take care, stay strong and best wishes to your situation.
*Hugs*
My long distance Leo also goes silent for time to time.. it used to really drive me crazy.. it still does but I try to not let it bother me now. I figured it is not really worth my time and effort to keep chasing his tail, then stopped contacting him (ie, sending emails and messaging him on chat). About 2 or 3 days later, he phoned me in the morning to wake me up and chatted for an hour... although half of it was phone sex... but still, he called!!! 🙂
Being a Scorpio, I can't help but wonder if he contacted me because he just wanted phone sex... but I try not to analyse it too much because we continue to exchange emails after and he would tell me he misses me and thank me for having him in my life. But I am keeping it care-free... if he msg me, great, if not, it bugs me but I don't let myself go crazy either.. he would eventually come around to remind you why you love him in the first place. Like what Rigormortis said, when you stop waiting around, they come to you! 🙂
I know it is more easily said than done... but please take care, stay strong and best wishes to your situation.
*Hugs*
I have however flexed my feistiness with him a few times. It does annoy me occasionally when he doesn't get back to me, but usually know that if he is in a position to reply... Like alone, not busy and horny, then he will reply. Sometimes my self respect demands that I say something for myself because if I don't then this male will just carry on treating me like he wants to. But when I do give him a side plate of feist, I'm not really saying "why haven't you replied?". I'm saying "listens here buddy, I'm not one of hose girls you play with on the weekend who will put up with bad behaviour to have you again. I expect you to exercise some manners with me if you know what's good for you."
Then he'll be assy for a while and sulk but then like a month later we've both forgotten what happened and it's back to humping each other's legs through our phones and wanting each other more than anything on this planet. He has apologised out of his own before for being so silent. And usually when he's been silent for long periods of time, then there's usually been some crises in his life that has affected his sex drive. Or... He's out having fun... And I refuse to be a whiny bitch about him having a real life because if I do whine about him not replying when he's out living his life.... Then clearly: I don't have one! Haha... It can get frustrating, but don't be "that girl". Really! Keep your self pride! He is just a male. Yes his sex is the best you've had and his cock and balls are the most beautiful you have seen... But really.... He's still just a guy, filled with bad 'guy' traits.
Then he'll be assy for a while and sulk but then like a month later we've both forgotten what happened and it's back to humping each other's legs through our phones and wanting each other more than anything on this planet. He has apologised out of his own before for being so silent. And usually when he's been silent for long periods of time, then there's usually been some crises in his life that has affected his sex drive. Or... He's out having fun... And I refuse to be a whiny bitch about him having a real life because if I do whine about him not replying when he's out living his life.... Then clearly: I don't have one! Haha... It can get frustrating, but don't be "that girl". Really! Keep your self pride! He is just a male. Yes his sex is the best you've had and his cock and balls are the most beautiful you have seen... But really.... He's still just a guy, filled with bad 'guy' traits.
I want to thank you ALL for your words, advice and stories.
I just was really confused by the shift in everything, but after doing an insane amount of reading, I guess it's just typical.
At first I was like, damn what did I do? But I honestly don't think it's me, and I'm not taking it personally (of course I came to this conclusion after going over everything in my head 1000 times)
He's not a bad guy at all, I just hate the disappearing act, but then again, he wasn't easy to talk to before we met either, so I don't know why it's bothering me now.
I also found out he's a Leo/Virgo cusp so that thickens the plot. Everything makes sense.
I've been slowly working on myself, and I won't let this small bump affect my progress. I can't lie though, it was really nice to experience something I never thought I'd feel again. I'm not fickle with my feelings whatsoever.
If he comes back (I hope he does, because I enjoyed spending time with him) then awesome, if not, his loss. We weren't meant to be and I'm sure there's someone else out there for me.
I can't dwell.
I used to have a guy bff who was a Leo, we are no longer friends, because after many years he decided he wanted to embark in a romantic relationship with me, and I did not feel the same. I miss him from time to time, but maybe someday we'll see each other again.
All in all, I drive myself crazy with thoughts, analyzing and being emotional. It comes and goes.
We'll see what the future brings.
I just was really confused by the shift in everything, but after doing an insane amount of reading, I guess it's just typical.
At first I was like, damn what did I do? But I honestly don't think it's me, and I'm not taking it personally (of course I came to this conclusion after going over everything in my head 1000 times)
He's not a bad guy at all, I just hate the disappearing act, but then again, he wasn't easy to talk to before we met either, so I don't know why it's bothering me now.
I also found out he's a Leo/Virgo cusp so that thickens the plot. Everything makes sense.
I've been slowly working on myself, and I won't let this small bump affect my progress. I can't lie though, it was really nice to experience something I never thought I'd feel again. I'm not fickle with my feelings whatsoever.
If he comes back (I hope he does, because I enjoyed spending time with him) then awesome, if not, his loss. We weren't meant to be and I'm sure there's someone else out there for me.
I can't dwell.
I used to have a guy bff who was a Leo, we are no longer friends, because after many years he decided he wanted to embark in a romantic relationship with me, and I did not feel the same. I miss him from time to time, but maybe someday we'll see each other again.
All in all, I drive myself crazy with thoughts, analyzing and being emotional. It comes and goes.
We'll see what the future brings.
omg...phone sex and sexting...i find it to be ridiculous. there are chatlines for that kind of thing aren't there? it's just absolutely pointless and i don't know why you girls are getting involved in it. sure, if you're having a relationship with someone and they go away for a bit, you may get a little suggestive when you talk but you seem to have whole RELATIONSHIPS built on remote sex, lol.
i think it's so tacky!! is it just me——
i think it's so tacky!! is it just me——
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
omg...phone sex and sexting...i find it to be ridiculous. there are chatlines for that kind of thing aren't there? it's just absolutely pointless and i don't know why you girls are getting involved in it. sure, if you're having a relationship with someone and they go away for a bit, you may get a little suggestive when you talk but you seem to have whole RELATIONSHIPS built on remote sex, lol.
i think it's so tacky!! is it just me——
Hookers are tacky... And sleeping around can be tacky too. Sexting relations can be fun when u find someone you can trust and who trusts you. It makes for some hot mutual masturbation... It's interactive fantasizing... The anticipation of what the other person will say in response to what you have been secretly thinking about.
Are you a Leo, Rig? Leo's are normally non judgemental about sexual things people are into. They tend to understand that different things turn people on and they get that what works for one might not work for someone else, but in general they're quite open minded about sexually related taboos.
I for instance don't want an emotional relationship and while I do enjoy the company of some hot males every now and then, the guy I'm sexting has become reliable in a sense that I can trust him: that he won't show anyone what I've sent him. He's proved his trustable over the years and I also trust that he won't judge the dirty things I'm turned on by. You can't always be that open about what really gets you off when you have a boyfriend. You have to be a 'good' girl. Or at least the boyfriends I've had prefer innocent girls as girlfriends to filthy minded girls.
It works for both of us and we are honest and open about a lot of things we would have to maybe even lie about if we were in a real relationship.
Haha... Maybe you're just not doing it right... Hahahaha. Or maybe the dudes u hit up don't have vivid imaginations. I suggest trying again with someone you have intense sexual chemistry with.
I had sex with the guy I'm sexting before sexting started, so it's not like I'm sending booty pics to a random stranger I don't know and have never met.
I had sex with the guy I'm sexting before sexting started, so it's not like I'm sending booty pics to a random stranger I don't know and have never met.
Posted by everevolvingepithet
ppSshhh, says miss writer and editor of porn stuff once upon a time if I do remember correctly which I tend to, FoxiRoxi ?
😄
i'm a jew!! we specialise in making money out of other peoples' vices...that's why there's so many involved in the online gaming world but you never catch them gambling 😉
no lotuslily, i am not a leo and you need to wash your mouth out for saying that!!! i have mars in leo, that's my only feline affliction. i'm scorp, so of course i'm judgemental lol...don't wanna be that way but you gotta embrace your failings.
texting, schmexting!!! it's cock or nothing for me to put it bluntly.
texting, schmexting!!! it's cock or nothing for me to put it bluntly.
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
no lotuslily, i am not a leo and i'm so jealous and wish i was!!! i have mars in leo, that's my only feline aspect. i wish i had everything leo... i'm scorp, but i...don't wanna be that way and am trying to be a leo...
texting, schmexting!!! it's leo or nothing for me to put it bluntly.
-ahem-
fixed
you bugger sheathed!
bling...tight-lipped was intentional double entendre right? or is my mind beyond redemption?
bling...tight-lipped was intentional double entendre right? or is my mind beyond redemption?
heheh 😉
Posted by SyntheticAnesthetic
I want to thank you ALL for your words, advice and stories.
I just was really confused by the shift in everything, but after doing an insane amount of reading, I guess it's just typical.
At first I was like, damn what did I do? But I honestly don't think it's me, and I'm not taking it personally (of course I came to this conclusion after going over everything in my head 1000 times)
He's not a bad guy at all, I just hate the disappearing act, but then again, he wasn't easy to talk to before we met either, so I don't know why it's bothering me now.
I also found out he's a Leo/Virgo cusp so that thickens the plot. Everything makes sense.
I've been slowly working on myself, and I won't let this small bump affect my progress. I can't lie though, it was really nice to experience something I never thought I'd feel again. I'm not fickle with my feelings whatsoever.
If he comes back (I hope he does, because I enjoyed spending time with him) then awesome, if not, his loss. We weren't meant to be and I'm sure there's someone else out there for me.
I can't dwell.
I used to have a guy bff who was a Leo, we are no longer friends, because after many years he decided he wanted to embark in a romantic relationship with me, and I did not feel the same. I miss him from time to time, but maybe someday we'll see each other again.
All in all, I drive myself crazy with thoughts, analyzing and being emotional. It comes and goes.
We'll see what the future brings.
If somebody tells you they love you on the first night together then they don't and never will — this should have been a huge red flag to you and you should have backed off instantly. For him to then back off and tell you he doesn't want to rush things is another red flag. Take these two warnings and run with them. Even if he comes back to you later on with —apologies?? and —wanting to try agains??, ignore it, he has shown you his true character, just thank your lucky stars he showed it this early — you should have boundaries in place and this conduct should be one of them, intolerable, he has broken a boundary so flush him loose.
Posted by sheathedclawsPosted by R1g0rM0rT1s
no lotuslily, i am not a leo and i'm so jealous and wish i was!!! i have mars in leo, that's my only feline aspect. i wish i had everything leo... i'm scorp, but i...don't wanna be that way and am trying to be a leo...
texting, schmexting!!! it's leo or nothing for me to put it bluntly.
-ahem-
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Lol!
Actually, he contacted me last night. A rush of feelings, thoughts, and fears. He's had a lot of really bad stuff going on, and kept saying he wasn't ok. I have no idea how to help him. His ex did a real number on him, I know that much.
I almost thought he sounded suicidal. I just...want to help.
I almost thought he sounded suicidal. I just...want to help.
Posted by SyntheticAnesthetic
Actually, he contacted me last night. A rush of feelings, thoughts, and fears. He's had a lot of really bad stuff going on, and kept saying he wasn't ok. I have no idea how to help him. His ex did a real number on him, I know that much.
I almost thought he sounded suicidal. I just...want to help.
Honestly, he sounds like he has problems, even if you can help him to get over whatever his ex did it will just make you the re-bound girl, you'll fix him so he can move on to someone else. You have to decide what it is you want and the amount of heartbreak you are prepared to put up with. Maybe just be his friend?
Posted by celticlionessPosted by SyntheticAnesthetic
Actually, he contacted me last night. A rush of feelings, thoughts, and fears. He's had a lot of really bad stuff going on, and kept saying he wasn't ok. I have no idea how to help him. His ex did a real number on him, I know that much.
I almost thought he sounded suicidal. I just...want to help.
Honestly, he sounds like he has problems, even if you can help him to get over whatever his ex did it will just make you the re-bound girl, you'll fix him so he can move on to someone else. You have to decide what it is you want and the amount of heartbreak you are prepared to put up with. Maybe just be his friend?click to expand
Yes, definitely, I think that's what he needs most. I hate to see anyone in pain, let alone someone I was close to for a short time. Either way, I want to help whether or not he wants to be with me or not, I care about him as a person.
He was telling me last night it's easier to keep the doors closed on love so no one can come in and hurt you again. I hate for anyone to feel that way about anything.
+1 callmegenesis is very insightful and giving you a great reality check of information to help you focus on yourself and NOT HIM, he's not that important, calling him and nagging about a date and nagging about if he wants to still talk is speaking a certain language...It's called DOORMAT...Men that sense you are all too willing to be his doormat, men that sense you are calling--asking which feels like NAGGING will RUN AWAY FROM YOU and this isn't about good or bad men, this is about YOUR BEHAVIOR sending out the WRONG messages about you to men, a man will fall OUT OF LOVE with you just like that if he sense you are insecure, needy, desperate for his approval, plus anyone who says he love you on the first night is a liar. That was your first red flag to back up on this guy, use your gut instinct, don't act like your dumb because you're not, you are a 30 something year old woman that should know better.
But does this seem like a situation where he will come around in a few days, or does this convo/situation seem like he's done? He's done and if you're smart you won't let him back in to hurt--drop you--disappoint you again. Men who drop off like that are not healthy men, they have issues, big ones and those issues can't be resolved through talking nor can love resolve those issues. Strengthen your self esteem! If you had a healthy level of self esteem NO WAY YOU WOULD ASK THIS QUESTION, you know a man that drops off the face of the earth has dumped you, don't be so naive, it's time to mature and grow up.
Learn from this experience so when the next guy comes along saying I love you before he actually KNOW YOU--, says he loves you before he actually know who you are you'll immediately know he's NOT telling the truth and you can decide to either slow things down or dump him for using pick up lines.
Leo's (not all of course) do tend to fall fast and lose interest fast and if you FAIL to recognize during the dating process you could actually end up taking him seriously and end up deeply disappointed and hurt when he's done expressing that part of himself and chooses to move on...
But does this seem like a situation where he will come around in a few days, or does this convo/situation seem like he's done? He's done and if you're smart you won't let him back in to hurt--drop you--disappoint you again. Men who drop off like that are not healthy men, they have issues, big ones and those issues can't be resolved through talking nor can love resolve those issues. Strengthen your self esteem! If you had a healthy level of self esteem NO WAY YOU WOULD ASK THIS QUESTION, you know a man that drops off the face of the earth has dumped you, don't be so naive, it's time to mature and grow up.
Learn from this experience so when the next guy comes along saying I love you before he actually KNOW YOU--, says he loves you before he actually know who you are you'll immediately know he's NOT telling the truth and you can decide to either slow things down or dump him for using pick up lines.
Leo's (not all of course) do tend to fall fast and lose interest fast and if you FAIL to recognize during the dating process you could actually end up taking him seriously and end up deeply disappointed and hurt when he's done expressing that part of himself and chooses to move on...
STEP AWAY FROM THE LEO!!!
as usual, he's made this all about him and you're playing along with it. you don't really want to be his friend, you want something more but you won't get it if you support him when he's all over the place. did the poor liddle pussy cat get hurt before? trust me, that doesn't mean he's not incapable of hurting someone himself.
some leo men just find it impossible to say it how it is. they end up stringing you along cos of it too.
if i found myself in this situation again, i would ignore him completely until such times i'm convinced he's not bullshitting me...cos the thing is, they don't even realise they're doing it! they think they're being kinder to you by giving you 'reasons' for not wanting a relationship but still stick around, knowing that you do!!
grrrr...if leo men were as honest as they are boastful, they would be great. but at the end of the day...they're men and OMG i wish i was a lesbian!
no matter what they put you through, you still wanna stroke 'em 😛
DON'T!!
as usual, he's made this all about him and you're playing along with it. you don't really want to be his friend, you want something more but you won't get it if you support him when he's all over the place. did the poor liddle pussy cat get hurt before? trust me, that doesn't mean he's not incapable of hurting someone himself.
some leo men just find it impossible to say it how it is. they end up stringing you along cos of it too.
if i found myself in this situation again, i would ignore him completely until such times i'm convinced he's not bullshitting me...cos the thing is, they don't even realise they're doing it! they think they're being kinder to you by giving you 'reasons' for not wanting a relationship but still stick around, knowing that you do!!
grrrr...if leo men were as honest as they are boastful, they would be great. but at the end of the day...they're men and OMG i wish i was a lesbian!
no matter what they put you through, you still wanna stroke 'em 😛
DON'T!!
"Yes, definitely, I think that's what he needs most. I hate to see anyone in pain, let alone someone I was close to for a short time. Either way, I want to help whether or not he wants to be with me or not, I care about him as a person.
He was telling me last night it's easier to keep the doors closed on love so no one can come in and hurt you again. I hate for anyone to feel that way about anything."
Oh gawd you still don't get it...He doesn't want your love, men who CLAIM to be hurt by ex's DON'T WANT LOVE, they are angry and looking for someone to take that hostility and anger out on, stop the doormat thinking that you can help him understand love and love again--because you can't, he developed this out look all by himself and only he can fix it. He immediately began to PUNISH YOU and you thought it was about you, no it's about him being a fucked up assclown that feels entitled to dump and hurt women.
You said he 2x's, you said him 2x's and you said I 4x's in regards to HIM & HIS NEED none of what you said was about you, you said HE 1x in regards to HIM & HIS FEELINGS, HIM HIM HIM HIM--And exactly were do you fit into this if it's all about him?
He was talking about HIMSELF this is a sure BREEDING ground for encouraging him to be NARCISSISTIC--ONLY THINK ABOUT HIMSELF which means you won't exist in his world which means he'll neglect you in some way, take advantage b/c you are NOT thinking about yourself, you are only thinking about him and this is what NARCISSISTIC MEN LOOK FOR women who are too insecure to insist he take care of her side of the relationship, this is a sure recipe for you getting used, neglected and someone wiping his feet all over you because you're not looking out for YOU b/c you're too busy trying to look out for him, you're teaching him you are a doormat and If he's the kind of leo that will exploit a woman he'll use you---IF YOU LET HIM and this isn't just a leo thing, this is a man thing, there are certain types of men that will BRING YOU HIS PROBLEMS and hope you'll try to fix his life.
He was telling me last night it's easier to keep the doors closed on love so no one can come in and hurt you again. I hate for anyone to feel that way about anything."
Oh gawd you still don't get it...He doesn't want your love, men who CLAIM to be hurt by ex's DON'T WANT LOVE, they are angry and looking for someone to take that hostility and anger out on, stop the doormat thinking that you can help him understand love and love again--because you can't, he developed this out look all by himself and only he can fix it. He immediately began to PUNISH YOU and you thought it was about you, no it's about him being a fucked up assclown that feels entitled to dump and hurt women.
You said he 2x's, you said him 2x's and you said I 4x's in regards to HIM & HIS NEED none of what you said was about you, you said HE 1x in regards to HIM & HIS FEELINGS, HIM HIM HIM HIM--And exactly were do you fit into this if it's all about him?
He was talking about HIMSELF this is a sure BREEDING ground for encouraging him to be NARCISSISTIC--ONLY THINK ABOUT HIMSELF which means you won't exist in his world which means he'll neglect you in some way, take advantage b/c you are NOT thinking about yourself, you are only thinking about him and this is what NARCISSISTIC MEN LOOK FOR women who are too insecure to insist he take care of her side of the relationship, this is a sure recipe for you getting used, neglected and someone wiping his feet all over you because you're not looking out for YOU b/c you're too busy trying to look out for him, you're teaching him you are a doormat and If he's the kind of leo that will exploit a woman he'll use you---IF YOU LET HIM and this isn't just a leo thing, this is a man thing, there are certain types of men that will BRING YOU HIS PROBLEMS and hope you'll try to fix his life.
You are a natural caregiver, the kind of woman that will fix pain and that kind of behavior leaves you WIDE OPEN to be exploited, try reserving that for a man who doesn't run away, reserve it for a man that doesn't dump you out of nowhere and still takes advantage of what your willing to give because you're allowing him back in, try fixing someone's pain that actually will stick around and reciprocate and be into you and take interest in you and your life, he's available for love.
You have so many excuses why he's treating you half ass and it's all bullshit, he's not into you but he's willing to take advantage of your desperation to keep him in your life....This won't end good for you.
Stop worrying about HIM, he's a grown man, he can take care of his own bleak out look on life, stop inserting yourself into his feelings about love, THAT'S HIS PROBLEM, he's a grown man, wish him well and hope he has the tenacity to fix his own bleak out look about love, you can't fix him, you can't save him from himself, move on and seek greener pastures with a man that less damaged.
You have so many excuses why he's treating you half ass and it's all bullshit, he's not into you but he's willing to take advantage of your desperation to keep him in your life....This won't end good for you.
Stop worrying about HIM, he's a grown man, he can take care of his own bleak out look on life, stop inserting yourself into his feelings about love, THAT'S HIS PROBLEM, he's a grown man, wish him well and hope he has the tenacity to fix his own bleak out look about love, you can't fix him, you can't save him from himself, move on and seek greener pastures with a man that less damaged.
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
STEP AWAY FROM THE LEO!!!
as usual, he's made this all about him and you're playing along with it. you don't really want to be his friend, you want something more but you won't get it if you support him when he's all over the place. did the poor liddle pussy cat get hurt before? trust me, that doesn't mean he's not incapable of hurting someone himself.
some leo men just find it impossible to say it how it is. they end up stringing you along cos of it too.
if i found myself in this situation again, i would ignore him completely until such times i'm convinced he's not bullshitting me...cos the thing is, they don't even realise they're doing it! they think they're being kinder to you by giving you 'reasons' for not wanting a relationship but still stick around, knowing that you do!!
grrrr...if leo men were as honest as they are boastful, they would be great. but at the end of the day...they're men and OMG i wish i was a lesbian!
no matter what they put you through, you still wanna stroke 'em 😛
DON'T!!
+1
+1 & +1, Tiki and Rig.....Amen sistas to your posts. Spot on, as usual.
You're all completely right, I'm forgetting myself in all of this. It's just what I'm used to doing. In every relationship.
It's a bad pattern I've been repeating and need to stop. This is why I take long, long, long periods away from dating and everything having to do with it.
Maybe I'm just better off alone
It's a bad pattern I've been repeating and need to stop. This is why I take long, long, long periods away from dating and everything having to do with it.
Maybe I'm just better off alone
Posted by SyntheticAnesthetic
You're all completely right, I'm forgetting myself in all of this. It's just what I'm used to doing. In every relationship.
It's a bad pattern I've been repeating and need to stop. This is why I take long, long, long periods away from dating and everything having to do with it.
Maybe I'm just better off alone
You're not better off alone, you're better off learning to love yourself while alone - a relationship will then be an extension of this rather than the whole of it.
**throws another +1 into the mix**
our advice is rocking isn't it?? omg, if oooooonly i could be this level-headed in my own romantic life (using the word 'life' euphamistically of course lol), i might not be single!
our advice is rocking isn't it?? omg, if oooooonly i could be this level-headed in my own romantic life (using the word 'life' euphamistically of course lol), i might not be single!
+1 Celtic and Rig
So not better off alone, learn how to love yourself first, learn how to love yourself around a man--learn what that looks like, learn how to love yourself within a relationship so you'll know when you're being taken for granted, if a woman has poor self esteem she really isn't aware or conscious of poor treatment, she's more apt to look the other way and make up excuses for his behavior rather than take care of herself FIRST, learn how to KNOW when a man is taking you for granted then you'll be better off.
So not better off alone, learn how to love yourself first, learn how to love yourself around a man--learn what that looks like, learn how to love yourself within a relationship so you'll know when you're being taken for granted, if a woman has poor self esteem she really isn't aware or conscious of poor treatment, she's more apt to look the other way and make up excuses for his behavior rather than take care of herself FIRST, learn how to KNOW when a man is taking you for granted then you'll be better off.
Posted by callmegenesis
If I had one piece of advice I would give it would be not to plan your life around men
Every girl who is born should receive a plaque with this on it as they leave the maternity ward in their bassinets.
What sign is Syn? I don't see that anywhere.
Aries, that Leo boy don't know what he's missing 🙂
Posted by Xin
What sign is Syn? I don't see that anywhere.
Yes celtic is right, Aries here, all the way. With a Scorpio moon and Aries venus.
I'm an awesome and caring and fun person, I have a lot of heart and passion, I've never cheated, or lied to a boyfriend.
I'm pretty too, so whatever, if he wants to wallow in his misery, he can. I can't help him any longer especially if he keeps pushing me away.
Too bad, so sad lol.
Time to move on and find someone who wants me as much as I want them. Wish me luck ladies (and gents)
I must be slow...I don't understand the "I'm pretty" statement. Can you explain please?
Posted by SyntheticAnestheticPosted by Xin
What sign is Syn? I don't see that anywhere.
Yes celtic is right, Aries here, all the way. With a Scorpio moon and Aries venus.
I'm an awesome and caring and fun person, I have a lot of heart and passion, I've never cheated, or lied to a boyfriend.
I'm pretty too, so whatever, if he wants to wallow in his misery, he can. I can't help him any longer especially if he keeps pushing me away.
Too bad, so sad lol.
Time to move on and find someone who wants me as much as I want them. Wish me luck ladies (and gents)click to expand
Good woman 🙂
Posted by BigGirlPanties
I must be slow...I don't understand the "I'm pretty" statement. Can you explain please?
Self explanatory, it means she knows she is pretty, lots of women don't
I agree not only are you pretty--you're smart as well and you don't have to play doting mommie therapist to keep a man around, let him lick his wounds and live in his pitiful misery all by himself, maybe he'll come out to breathe, maybe he won't, his problem--his loss and while he's doing that you'll be living a great happy life, maybe he'll come and join you some day, whatever the case you'll be fine.
I'm an awesome and caring and fun person, I have a lot of heart and passion, I've never cheated, or lied to a boyfriend.
I'm pretty too, so whatever, if he wants to wallow in his misery, he can. I can't help him any longer especially if he keeps pushing me away.
Yeh thats right!
agree not only are you pretty--you're smart as well and you don't have to play doting mommie therapist to keep a man around, let him lick his wounds and live in his pitiful misery all by himself, maybe he'll come out to breathe, maybe he won't, his problem--his loss and while he's doing that you'll be living a great happy life, maybe he'll come and join you some day, whatever the case you'll be fine.
Aha this one too!
Depends on if you want them to be with you or not! Seems like your ego is hurt coz they arent doing what you want them to do, maybe its you that has the problem? Not them. If you cant be happy with them getting on with their life or be honest with them then its you fault and problem for them not wanting to be with you in the first place.
I'm pretty too, so whatever, if he wants to wallow in his misery, he can. I can't help him any longer especially if he keeps pushing me away.
Yeh thats right!
agree not only are you pretty--you're smart as well and you don't have to play doting mommie therapist to keep a man around, let him lick his wounds and live in his pitiful misery all by himself, maybe he'll come out to breathe, maybe he won't, his problem--his loss and while he's doing that you'll be living a great happy life, maybe he'll come and join you some day, whatever the case you'll be fine.
Aha this one too!
Depends on if you want them to be with you or not! Seems like your ego is hurt coz they arent doing what you want them to do, maybe its you that has the problem? Not them. If you cant be happy with them getting on with their life or be honest with them then its you fault and problem for them not wanting to be with you in the first place.
Posted by Capriquoise
I'm an awesome and caring and fun person, I have a lot of heart and passion, I've never cheated, or lied to a boyfriend.
I'm pretty too, so whatever, if he wants to wallow in his misery, he can. I can't help him any longer especially if he keeps pushing me away.
Yeh thats right!
agree not only are you pretty--you're smart as well and you don't have to play doting mommie therapist to keep a man around, let him lick his wounds and live in his pitiful misery all by himself, maybe he'll come out to breathe, maybe he won't, his problem--his loss and while he's doing that you'll be living a great happy life, maybe he'll come and join you some day, whatever the case you'll be fine.
Aha this one too!
Depends on if you want them to be with you or not! Seems like your ego is hurt coz they arent doing what you want them to do, maybe its you that has the problem? Not them. If you cant be happy with them getting on with their life or be honest with them then its you fault and problem for them not wanting to be with you in the first place.
I didn't do anything to them, all I tried to do was be a friend, or whatever they needed in their times of crisis. I don't get why I'm getting the blame here?
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