Are you clingy??

Or have you experienced clingy Libra's? I'm not the clingy type infact majority of my ex's only complaints about me was that I didnt seem to want to spend enough time with them. My libra, when we were fist together, was perfect for me. We saw eachother a couple of nights a week and that was fine for both of us. But since we have gotten back together he wont leave me alone!

I need to tell him to back off but I dont want to hurt him, we have had BIG talks about his intamacy issues and I finally managed to get him to open up and allow himself to be vulnrable and we got back together so I feel if I tell him to back off a bit he will shut down and go back to being a weirdo like he was before.

Any advice or similar experiences appreciated 🙂

Are you a virgin? I'll bet you a million dollars that you are. Let's end the suspense! Is it gonna be... a white wedding

Ha what about me is giving off Virginal vibes?? Lets just say I wouldnt be able to wear white to my wedding without a few snide remarks 😛

Have you ever kissed a boy on the mouth?

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Have you ever been felt up? Over the bra, under the blouse, shoes off... hoping to God your parents don't walk in?

Posted by libra sun
Yes, late December back in 63, what a very special time for me, as I remember what a night! haha

I LOVE THAT SONG!!!!!!

Lol if you don't want him to close up again then grin and bare it. I'm sure you'll be fine with how he is after a while. You just need to endure it for a while then you should get used to it. Anything for him...right?

I would like to know where the clingy/attentive line is. I don't believe I am clingy but I very much like spending time with the person I am with... and I love cuddling. I like a lot of physical contact.

Am I clingy? Maybe...If I really like someone, I cant get enough of them especially in the beginning and if we have slept together. That could be seen as clingy I guess, but I can't help that. If they dont like it then they leave.

Of course it levels out for me once I've had my fix, then I want a little more independence back.

But if you feel smothered early on in the peace then you obviously aren't in it emotionally for the long haul so give the guy a break and let go quickly.

hmm I really like the guy but I like my personal space. He seemed hurt when I told him I wanted a night to myself. I just need to have "Me time".

I know I have the capacity to be REALLY clingy (especially having Venus in scorp) but I do not want to be that couple who are joined at the hip, because I hate it when my friends do that and dont make time for me.

He also has venus in scorp so maybe I should stop fighting it and just cling back haha.

Sweets. You couldn't ignore me if you tried. So... so. Are you guys like boyfriend-girlfriend? Steady dates? Lovers? Come on, sporto, level with me. Do you slip her the hot beef injection?

Libra sun, you must have never watched 'The Breakfast Club' ha?

Posted by libra sun
I need to tell him to back off but I dont want to hurt him, we have had BIG talks about his intamacy issues and I finally managed to get him to open up and allow himself to be vulnrable and we got back together so I feel if I tell him to back off a bit he will shut down and go back to being a weirdo like he was before.

I laughed when I read this. HAhahahahhaa

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Posted by libra sun
I need to tell him to back off but I dont want to hurt him, we have had BIG talks about his intamacy issues and I finally managed to get him to open up and allow himself to be vulnrable and we got back together so I feel if I tell him to back off a bit he will shut down and go back to being a weirdo like he was before.

I laughed when I read this. HAhahahahhaa

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It reminded me of when me and my Liebe first got together. I was so excited on getting him to open up. He shut off like a clam even more tightly and refused to budge. hahahahhahahaha
Word of advice: Let him come to you when he is ready. Libras are not good with emotions and doing this will scare them off.. but not for good if they really like you 🙂

Not really.

i've noticed that if i'm feeling clingy, there's probably something wrong. i'm not naturally clingy at all. the only times i've acted clingy is when someone is mindfucking me. or maybe not mindfucking. i don't want to accuse. maybe they just aren't compatible with me. either way, it's a sign that i should reevaluate the situation and person, and maybe end it.

i dunno. i'll do what i feel like, and sometimes i feel like calling someone to talk or ask to hang out. but that isn't really clingy. they're allowed to be busy. i just wanted to ask. you know?

im so fucking clingy sometimes i fucking hate it!!!! when i cling like a cling wrap its so suffocating i even suffocate myself and then when it tears its gone. no im not on drugs. im on a saturn return shit.

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Posted by curious visitor
i've noticed that if i'm feeling clingy, there's probably something wrong. i'm not naturally clingy at all. the only times i've acted clingy is when someone is mindfucking me. or maybe not mindfucking. i don't want to accuse. maybe they just aren't compatible with me. either way, it's a sign that i should reevaluate the situation and person, and maybe end it.

Thanks for putting this into words, it's exactly the same for me

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I have noticed now that I tend to cling if the person is pushing me away, and if they are pushing me away I tend to cling! maybe its the Libra balance thing coming into play? Apparently I have been cold and distant which is probably true since I didnt know how into me my guy was but now we have talked about it things seem to be back to normal 🙂

I am so gald somebody has this thread! I am a virgo with alot of Libra placements (venus and moon etc).

The only two Libras I have dated are completely insane!

I was in a relationship with one for 5 years with the first. WE BROKE UP IN 2003....he still stalks me and my family(if he see's them at the local shopping centre). I have made no contact since then, unless I bump into him. I had to hide out at an aunt's when we broke up, while he continually knocked for me for about two months....SERIOUSLY. He turned up the other with the belief I may marry him?!?!?

The second, who I saw casually from time to time but were mainly friends. I had to cut off cause he got offended if I didn't reply to his 10 daily messages. manipulating me by claiming we are friends but within seconds always turned the conversation sexual. never had anything normal to say. I have ignored him for 4 months but he still contacts me daily!!!!!!!!!!!!!

people I know say I am too soft, I even considered that I might attract these sorts of people cause I like the attention. But having cut both off( I gave Libra number 2 about a thousand hints to back down!) its clearly not my problem.

As the sign of the scales, I thought you Libras were quite balanced? I'm sure 99% of Libras are fine but WTF!

I get palpitations and this horrible feeling of suffocation just thinking about it and have sworn of Libras for life!

Depends on how much you like the person i think, if I like their company then I will spend time with them but still give them their space maybe this is because I don't like clingy people so I would do the same and balance it out like a typical libra would lol

Clingly I think unless you have an extraordinarily amount of water placements..depends on how you're reacting to the other person's chart.(the aspects between the two charts)

You can have a person that is a stone cold reserved earth natal chart with one water moon, he meets a water sign and turns to mush, becomes erratic, does things completely unlike him. He isn't really a 'clingly' person, but to THIS person, he's acting clingly.

So yah, aspects are where it's at.

My Libra dog is clingy, wants to always be by my side 🙂

Hmmm not really clingy..
I can rationalize a situation, stay detached and..usually move on fast

I'm not a libra but yes I'm very clingy.

The libras I know are so so

Posted by Bender
Are you a virgin? I'll bet you a million dollars that you are. Let's end the suspense! Is it gonna be... a white wedding

ha ha.

Posted by TheBeautifulStruggle
Clingly I think unless you have an extraordinarily amount of water placements..depends on how you're reacting to the other person's chart.(the aspects between the two charts)

You can have a person that is a stone cold reserved earth natal chart with one water moon, he meets a water sign and turns to mush, becomes erratic, does things completely unlike him. He isn't really a 'clingly' person, but to THIS person, he's acting clingly.

So yah, aspects are where it's at.

This is so true! I have aalways been cold and distant in relationships until i met my libra. His venus in scorp drew my venus in scorp out of me and i've never felt love like it, we are inseperable and I dont even care if anyone thinks we're clingy losers haha.

reading back this thread I cant believe I was feeling smothered because now I see it as "surrounded with love" lol.

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The only two Libras I have dated are completely insane!

I was in a relationship with one for 5 years with the first. WE BROKE UP IN 2003....he still stalks me and my family(if he see's them at the local shopping centre).

As the sign of the scales, I thought you Libras were quite balanced? I'm sure 99% of Libras are fine but WTF!

I get palpitations and this horrible feeling of suffocation just thinking about it and have sworn of Libras for life!

I was in a relationship for nine years with a Libra.... Emotional blackmail, mental and physical abuse and when i finally kicked him out he lost the plot, used to walk ten miles just to go to my local pub to run into me or just stand outside my house. Crazy crazy man!
Although my dad and brother are also Libra's and they're cool :0)

I'm an Aquarius woman married to a Libra Sun, who also has a Libra moon. He is very Libra. And YES, very clingy, loves sweetness and romance and cuddling and touchy feely stuff. It's taken me some getting used to over the years but now I quite enjoy it. He literally seems to worship me, and I love him for it.

I usually give my wife plenty of space , but when we are home alone I hug her every other time she walks by me and i tell her I love her. At night when we are going to bed I snuggle right up into her , and i give her a rubbing little massage as she begins to doze off. Most of the time she likes it , unless she is super cranky that day ! I swear she has Fire in Mercury but I'll never know for sure ...