communication issue with libra

my boyfriend is a libra and I'm a pisces and it seems we just keep confusing each other. I can never know what goes on inside its head. its like one minute I'm everything and the next I feel ignored and forgotten. We've been going out for 3 months and I have just been getting the feeling that he doesn't want me around like he used to.
he gave me more attention and showed more interest in me before we started going out. I don't even know how to bring this up to him because we are both very bad at communicating with each other.

How can I get him to talk to me more?

from what I know..libra people cant hold on to people (friends/lovers) for very long...because they get bored. or smothered..or whatever other reason, they will justify it though...so if you do talk to him just know that whatever he tells you will only SOUND logical..and its really hard to wiggle out of that web..

ALSO, if you dont talk to them they usually come and talk to you but it might take a while...obviously these are just my personal experiences..

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from what I know..libra people cant hold on to people (friends/lovers) for very long...because they get bored. or smothered..or whatever other reason, they will justify it though...so if you do talk to him just know that whatever he tells you will only SOUND logical..and its really hard to wiggle out of that web..

ALSO, if you dont talk to them they usually come and talk to you but it might take a while...obviously these are just my personal experiences..

I must also disagree.

Libras hold onto friends and even their exes for a long time. It is true that they need mental stimulation but it doesn't mean that if you ain't giving it, they will just drop you out of their world. I have had one libran friend I have been with since grade school, we don't talk all the time but the relationship doesn't require it, when we do get together, it is always fun and we catch up.

OH yeah..im sorry..I guess that came off like they drop you forever...they wont drop you forever.. no no..Thats why I said if you dont talk to them for a while they come back..like a boomerang

I have known this Libra since 6th grade middle school..and its been well over 15 years now..and we still have months..and sometimes years before we speak again...

like I was saying they simply get bored, or distracted, they live only in there own heads basically. and they are always thinking about people, so when they have time (or need something) they come back. and its fun and happy and were smiling YAY!!! that's probably the best way to have a Libra friend once in a while...

ok so I read what you guys wrote and I have kept trying to talk to him... we even got drunk and I was feeling gutsy and anytime I tried to talk to him he would get annoyed and just seem to not want to talk... so I'd back off.
I really don't know what is going on.
I think I'm just going to start distancing myself. See if he'll even care or notice...

Ask and listen to what he has to say.. for a libra guy to go silent on you that mean you need to hear him out.

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Posted by dreamingpisces
my boyfriend is a libra and I'm a pisces and it seems we just keep confusing each other. I can never know what goes on inside its head. its like one minute I'm everything and the next I feel ignored and forgotten. We've been going out for 3 months and I have just been getting the feeling that he doesn't want me around like he used to.
he gave me more attention and showed more interest in me before we started going out. I don't even know how to bring this up to him because we are both very bad at communicating with each other.

How can I get him to talk to me more?

My boyfriend and I are in the same boat, aside from the neglectful thing..
We confuse each other a lot of the time, but we can explain.
Although, all you have to do is speak carefully like you're treading on egg shells. Be very careful about how you say it.

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see thats what I'm scared of... I'm scared of coming across as, idk... clingy/needy? or that I'll scare him off

@dreaming...

Libras are non-confrontational by nature. So you have to remember that if you take an over-all indecisive person who is also non-confrontational what's going to happen is you have a man who wants to talk but doesn't know when or how so as to avoid an argument or almost guaranteed emotional conflict.

Phew...that was a mouthful.

However; one thing I will say is right now you are in a relationship where you are, from what I can tell UNHAPPY. Communication is a big huge part of any relationship. Why are you sacrificing "your" happiness because of his inability to confront the issues at hand. You cannot be prepared to spend a lifetime with your "soulmate" walking on eggshells afraid to talk to him. When you met him...he saw you AS IS. And that's what made him fall in love with you....so go back to being that person! Don't change your style for him now...not after 3 months...better yet...never change for anyone.

And Libras also like to "mirror" reflect what they see in others. So if you're hesitant best believe he can see that and sense that which futher adds to his indecisiveness. He has something to say. Every Libra I've ever dealt with...I'm very non-confrontation because Aqua's are that way by nature however; when something is bothering me they are going to know it.

Speak your mind clearly, precisely and thoroughly. Don't brow-beat him but express your concerns. And then if he's not ready to talk...LEAVE IT. Men of all signs process and receive information differently than women do. But whenver I've expressed my concern and then left it....the guy ALWAYS comes back to it. It may take a day or a few days but eventually once he's "processed" it....he will come back to it. And respect the fact that you maintained your dignity...you stood your ground and you spoke your mind. Non confrontational....of course 😉

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Posted by dreamingpisces

My boyfriend and I are in the same boat, aside from the neglectful thing..
We confuse each other a lot of the time, but we can explain.
Although, all you have to do is speak carefully like you're treading on egg shells. Be very careful about how you say it.

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And I'm sorry but NOONE should ever have to feel like they are walking on "eggshells" with their mate. That's a term commonly used for battered women or women in abusive relationships. Keeping in mind abuse can also be mental. So if he's got you in a position where you feel you can't speak freely to him....that's not cool. Not trying to be mean....just speaking from experience because I've been there. You don't have to be a *bleep* but passiveness only adds fuel to an abuser, which not saying he IS...but folks who like to verbally and mental abuse the "weaker" and more "passive" you are...the STRONGER it makes them.

What else is going on in his life? Is his life outside of your relationship going the way he wants it? Does he seem motivated and inspired?

One thing you need to take into consideration is that it might not be a problem with your relaitonship, or specifically with your relationship. When we are struggling with our own issues we like to keep them our own. We don't want to burden our partner with issues that are ours, we also don't like to act in a way that will give the other person stress about our well being.

Sometimes that can lead to issues with the relationship if the other person is convinced that the issue is the relationship and they won't take our word for it that things are fine between "us" and persist in trying to isolate the problem between "us".

One way to tell if this is the case is if he seems in his head or contemplative alot but still cuddles you when you go to sleep.

I have had periods where I am struggling with aspects of my life, I seem distant because I am focused on analyzing the situation in my head, not because I have had a change of heart regarding the person I am with. Then Angel will ask if something is wrong, mention that I feel distant and I will realize how I was acting made her feel that way, assure her everything is fine between us and let her know I have just been in my mind about things.

We are usually the pillar for the people we care about, we like to be the source of strength and comfort in relationships so it is hard for us to open up about things that are bothering us. In a relationship of only three months, he may not feel comfortable enough to express what is going on in his own head in a situation like this and the reaction is distance to keep you away from the "dark side".

I am not saying I think this is the case, but it could be and it hasn't been mentioned yet. One thing I can say from experience from relationships with water signs is that they need to be open to the idea that something being wrong with us doesn't have to mean something is wrong with our relationship too.

aquafemmefatale: yeah I get what you're saying... I'm not really happy in this relationship right now. and I know he really liked me, and now its just as if its changed... I don't know what it is because I'm still the same person and you're right, I won't change for anyone. Hes the one that has changed. I know I'm also at fault for not expressing any of this to him but hes just SO difficult to talk to! Anytime he senses a serious conversation coming on he shuts down. And when I say stuff he doesn't say anything back, I've even tried texting him because he could be one of those people just not comfortable talking about these things face to face but then the texts just get ignored. I don't know what to do anymore. If I do have to leave this relationship I'd like to leave it knowing I tried my hardest to make it work. Hes making it so difficult.

nicodemus: as far as i know theres nothing really going on in his life. but since he is so secretive theres really no way for me to really know... I wish I could just for once know what it is that goes on inside his head. but you are right I have noticed that with water signs we tend to wonder if somethings wrong w/the relationship when really its just something completely different. I'll have to try and keep that in mind. we've been together for 3 months but known each other for a year and a half I'd just like him to be a bit more open with me... like he used to.....

I would try to stop trying to get him to communicate whats going on for a while. Maybe a week or so. Try to act normal, be warm and friendly but neutral as far as distance goes and see if he starts initiating something regarding what is going on.

It is admirable that you are willing to try everything you can before ending a relationship. If ultimately he does not show his appreciation for that in response then it is probably time to let him go. When you really care about someone it is virtuous to ignore your own happiness for another temporarily in order to try to get a much larger reward of happiness later. The virtue wares off if you don't recieve any signs that it will lead to greater happiness.

I had a bit of what he is displaying in me when I was younger. We are a lot more cold and distant when we are confronted with heavy relationship issues when we are younger. My first long and serious relationship was with a water sign, I would not entertain any heavy emotional topics she brought up, even after four years. I opened up to her emotionally, I wasn't completely closed off, but no where near what is actually necissary for a healthy functional relationship. Whenever she brought up something my first reaction was to create space and try to force her to think about things rationally. I often felt like if she would take it upon herself to do this we (she) would cut our "problems" at least by half. I always felt her emotional concerns regarding us were excessive, that she was making big problems out of small ones. It turns out she just had really intense feelings. I thought that her inability to understand that about me was her problem not mine until after the relationship was over and our chance with each other was long gone.

As I matured I became more and more willing to confront heavy and emotional relationship issues. Now, if Angel brings up something of this nature, even if I feel like avoiding it I sit down, listen and talk until we are both satisfied. That includes all night if I have too. It took many years and relationships to learn that is what you should do when you care about someone. He might be a long way from doing the same, if he ever does. If any of that feels familiar make the best use of it for yourself as possible.

"I always felt her emotional concerns regarding us were excessive, that she was making big problems out of small ones. It turns out she just had really intense feelings."

THIS.
My feelings are just so intense.
and with him it really just seems like he doesn't care at all...

but I've been laying everything out. Just stating what I feel and I haven't been pressuring him to talk to me.
But I'm going to get bored of just waiting around...

UPDATE: ok so heres whats been going on... i'm still not getting the attention that I want from him and hes still being incredibly distant with me. Even when we hangout with friends its like I'm not even there. Then I just was getting so fed up that I texted him "do you even still want to be with me?" and he replied "huh? where did that come from?" and I told him because hes being really distant and to just answer... well he never answered me right away. I asked him if he got my text and he finally said "yes I do still want to be with you" but he still hasn't shown for it. So we were hanging out the other day at a friends house and I had just told him to come out and talk to me, well I was sitting there waiting for him and he was taking forever so I go back in to find out that he just left... without even telling me, then I called him and he never picked up. Then hes just been ignoring my texts and calls. A mutual friend says that I gotta just talk to him but I'm TRYING! and I just don't know what to do anymore. I really don't. I'm just so hurt. and I feel so disrespected.

So he obviously wants space, but he needs to man up and not just ignore me out of the blue like that. If things do work out for us though, I am definintely going to have to tell him how all that made me feel and that he can just TALK to me next time that he wants space.

He may have been irritated that you tried to address an emotional relationship issue at a friends house. We don't like that. When it comes to hashing things out we believe there is a "time and place" for relationship issues. I don't identify personally identify with most of how this guy acts but I would have shut you down in that situation too and would not have rewarded that with granting you the attention you wanted.

It seems to me like your relationship concerns (emotions) trump everything else that is going on around you. I get the sense that you can't seperate yourself from emotional concern, while you have painted a very clear picture on how his actions are affecting you, I am assuming that you have a heavy air of tension and dissatisfaction around you because of the relationship problems. An energy that he can constantly pick up.

I also get the sense that you are very different people when it comes to expressing emotions and feelings and it has a negative affect on each other. Not that either of you do things the wrong way, but that the way you do it is not right for each other.

If you live your life by what you feel from moment to moment he isn't going to want the closeness you seek. He can appreciate it if he is sure you understand that he can appreciate it without wanting it for himself. Emotions for the most part to us Libra guys are "signals" they provide a small amount of subjective informaiton of which we rationalize and objectify to process mentally. Anyone who is unable to see past the way they feel in order to address anything gives us caution. If he doesn't think that you can meet him on the intillectual level he is going to resist meeting you on the emotional level because someone who lives in their emotions is inconsistent in their satisfaction of what is going on around them.

I agree it was probably wrong for me to try and bring it up at a friends house but theres really no other moment for me to do it since we never get any time alone together and that mostly the thing I was going to talk to him about. & I wasn't going to say it in front of our friends thats why I asked him if we could talk in private outside.

and theres not really been any tension between us at all, not coming from me at least i'm very "whatever" about it and I'm not trying to be pushy or anything. just simply making it known to him that there are things I'd like to talk to him about alone.

but i'm just beginning to realise that this relationship is probably doomed since theres no communication between us I don't see the point anymore.
I'll give him time... but if it keeps up like this, its best to just move on.

but thank you nicodemus, you give really great advice, and some insight on the inner workings of a libra mind. I appreciate it 🙂

Your welcome. If the communication issue doesn't clear up and you need to make a decision...go with your gut that is the best way to go IMO.

Hopefully the opportunity to really hash it out doesn't come after you have told him you need to break things off. It might though, sometimes younger libras need to be shoved to engage.

man. that's a tough situation.

a couple things...if libra is dealing with emotions that are unpleasant to talk about, he just won't talk about them. some will try...you'll get a lot of "um" and "you know" and "i don't know" and stuff like that, with very little actual information about what's going on. libras are surprisingly emotional creatures, being air signs and all. but emotions are emotions and words are words. it's hard to translate one into the other. and usually when we do try to express our feelings, we speak so intensely that things seem way bigger than they are, when really we tend to just be drama queens (the guys too).

with libra, just do the fun part. no heavy conversations. there's no point. if they say anything, it will just be about how awful you are for upsetting them by wanting to talk.

and when you wanted him to come outside to talk, he probably saw it as the kind of conversation that would lead to a breakup, and he probably left to avoid that.

pisces and libra are tough match. but pisces has an advantage in that it's the sign of the ideal lover. the dreaminess. not to mention intoxication and addiction. in other words, if you appear to be the ideal lover, you will get libra totally addicted. if you do this, you'll probably be turned off by him though. and he probably subconsciously knows this. you can/will completely destroy him, at least temporarily. you're the one with the power.

curious visitor, I get what you're saying, and I can tell that he has a lot of emotion... because I can sense it even if he won't voice it, I can just tell that there are things going through his mind when we are quiet and I just wish I knew what goes on in his mind. but I'm just not going to try and force him to talk because I know if I do any more than I already have its just going to push him away.

I still just wish I knew how I can talk to him because this is not a way for a relationship to grow... and I don't want to destroy this, I don't. I really really don't.

one of the reasons pisces and libra are a difficult match is that we're actually pretty similar in a lot of ways. we both spook easily. we both avoid situations that make us feel uncomfortable, while pushing forward when we need answers even if it makes other people feel uncomfortable. we're both romantics. we've both got concurrent and contradictory needs for stability and freedom.

you should deal with this the same way a libra would need to deal with a pisces in this situation. just assume the best. talk about other things than what's bothering you. normal conversation stuff...movies, music, politics, whatever you both like talking about. don't talk about the relationship. even if things are bad, they can always be salvaged pretty easily by focusing on the good parts. smile. be happy. get along.

consider what the libra finds attractive in the pisces. you are a dream. you are loving. you are accepting. you're the christ figure, arms open. etc, etc. pisces gives the libra the opportunity to feel wanted and accepted and loved. pisces allows libra to be. to not have to try. this isn't something you do on purpose or anything, it's just how you are. it's the dynamic that exists between the two.

libras can be charmed very well by mirroring the things they do to charm. look at him. start with a pleasant look on your face. catch his eye for a moment, then break into a big silly smile, like you were suddenly overwhelmed by how awesome you think he is. have a look in your eye like he's just the best thing ever. if you do this a couple times and doesn't yield any positive results, maybe it's too late. but i highly suspect it will help a lot. libras are really easy to charm. you just have to act like you find us totally charming. we will start feeling charming, then we'll start acting charming. it's so easy to control our moods if you know what to do. it's disgusting really.

i've noticed with guys with any strong water influence (which is what i gravitate toward in dating), our feelings go back and forth between us. and it can be a downward spiral. i get in a bad mood over something, he feels that way, i get worried, he gets worried. it's a mess. i'll bet this is what's been going on between the two of you. if one of you doesn't break it, i'll just keep going. talking will not work.

curious visitor, everything that you said makes a lot of sense... and everything you said is VERY spot on about how we are! Its crazy. lol Like, I really do always just try and make him feel loved and no matter what he does, even if it upsets me I always just let him back it makes NO sense. the old me would have never accepted this. but if things are ok between us, like even if we just talk about random things, then all is forgiven and forgotten really quickly.

I just hope things can be fixed. things are really strange/awkward between us right now to the point where I don't even know if I'm going to see him again. I text, and nothing... I call... no answer. I don't know. I will back off some, and try again. I'm just trying to be really casual about all this without overdoing it or underdoing it. its all so complicated!

well I think I lost him. I confronted him straight up because I couldn't just sit there and pretend that everythings alright when its not.
he left.
and I didn't hear from him again.
I call him, no answer. I text, nothing...

then this morning he texts me out of nowhere
and it has nothing to do with anything

i'm just getting really fed up.

I'm officially backing down.

As much as I like to advocate for my own sign, if that is the way he is acting then he does not deserve what you desire to share with him. Even when I was an immature Libra I would not have up and walked out only to dissapear and leave you hanging.

Following your situation I think that your handling of the situation as a whole is commendable and it is time to leave this guy to figure out what he wants on his own.

Better to leave him behind before his behavior leaves you with issues beyond heartache or heartbreake. Not to mention ruining it for a good libra out there who might actuallty be right for you. :p

So turns out I am really missing him 😢 ... yes... even though he has been making me unhappy I think I am unhappier now without him and I just miss being around him. I think I am able to forgive him for how hes treated me if he can let me get my say in about how hes been making me feel and just UNDERSTAND. I don't need him to say anything.... just to understand my view.
I haven't seen him in 2 weeks and thats tough considering we used to see each other almost every day.
I just don't know what to do anymore about him. But I think I've lost him & hes still who I always think about.
I've done all I can and I guess I can just only hope that when he comes back to me (thats if he comes back) he will no longer take me for granted.

time will tell I guess.
but until then... this is hard.

Some of the "unhappier now" stuff is natural after a break up. People often feel rejected even if they initiated it. They tend to glorify the positive aspects of the relationship and gloss over the bad stuff. To make it worse, when you are in a relationship people start (consciously or not) making plans of how the future would be. The fantasize about all the good times to come. When a break up happens you have to accept losing the person but you also have to let go of the dreams and plans you were making.

I know break ups are hard. All of us have been there before and many of us are there again right now too. Take it slow and really think about how you felt during the relationship as a whole. You admit that he didn't make you happy. You should be happy, everyone deserves someone that helps them and makes them feel good about the relationship.

Okay I didn't read everyones post, scanned, sorry feeling super lazy today but I'm just going to say it, dreamingpisces you are your own worst enemy. When women feel something is wrong, say like in your instance you feel something is wrong b/c you both don't communicate the way you would like to and then of course most women want to communicate that over to a man well men are not women and when we bring our transgressions, our issues to a man he feels CRITICIZED....Also (some men) are clueless they feel everything is fine, everything is working for the best and you are silently sitting around seething with resentment and fear and remember emotions are contagious, the worse you feel, more fearful anxious you are well that translates over to a man and he just wants to run and distance himself, your energy is bad so you make him FEEL bad and he would rather not be with you b/c let's face it your a bit of a downer due to holding onto this...LET IT GO

Can you tell us exactly what is the problem? What is it you need him to understand about you? Have you ever took into consideration there is NOTHING WRONG with him or with you and this is just normal relationship stuff. And what is it that you have to say so bad that you would cause so much drama between the 2 of you? You want get a conversation by forcing it out of him, you won't get much of anything but dumped going about it the way you are.

Is it me (I could be sensing this wrong) but you don't really seem to have a problem...You just want to talk....Is there something specifically you want to talk about?

Unless I'm reading this wrong his behavior is typical male behavior and the way your behaving has everything to do with how he's reacting....Your coming across resentful, needy, demanding and the more of that kind of energy you put out the more negative he becomes towards you...What you lead with is what the other person follows with, so if you lead with this negative thought that he doesn't want me then he will follow with that same kind of energy.

Stop it...Take your mind off of it, he's not your world, your only means of happiness, if he is then you need a reality check...Go do your own life, focus on something you absolutely love outside of him and do that, it will change everything when you take the focus OFF of him, he's not a lab rat or a project you have to fix, your making him feel like he's WRONG, he's done something wrong and that creates distance...

yeah it makes a lot of sense... and this is my first relationship and all. I just want some sort of closure I guess or to understand why he started being all distant towards me but I don't think I'm going to know.. or maybe not any time soon.

but thank you nicodemus, librasid, curious visitor and all others that have answered my post you all have been very helpful and insightful 🙂

I know it seems as though I'm picking on you but your the only one that I have to work with and you are making a huge amount of mistakes...You are part of the reason why he's so distant...Your attitude is negative, you believe his behavior has SOMETHING to do with you which is the wrong way to think b/c it only leads to MORE PROBLEMS, he is not going to talk and communicate his feelings, he's not a girl, you have to understand how men are before you judge him as wrong, if you want to know if he's still attracted to you then do something attractive, something fun, something that brings you both together and if he reacts distant then you know he's the one with the problem and thus leave him alone, give him some space to figure things out for himself....If there is another woman on his mind, if there is a heavy issue on his mind inevitably you will know about it...slow down....be patient and find something or someone else to do and be with.

NEVER EVER associate a man's behavior with something about you....That's the wrong attitude and it will end your relationship, when you sense distance, YOU ADD MORE DISTANCE to the equation to bring him closer, nagging will only get you more distance and inevitably dumped.

Posted by dreamingpisces
yeah it makes a lot of sense... and this is my first relationship and all. I just want some sort of closure I guess or to understand why he started being all distant towards me but I don't think I'm going to know.. or maybe not any time soon.

but thank you nicodemus, librasid, curious visitor and all others that have answered my post you all have been very helpful and insightful 🙂

You have a ton to learn, you don't need closure, you need to get a life and stop focusing your every thought on this one man, your suffocating the hell out of him...Just go on and do something else instead of sitting around adding more and more fuel to the fire and pushing this situation to the bring of no return...THERE IS NOTHING WRONG for the exception of the shit your making up in your head....If he truly is not interested he would be gone, relationships naturally change, they shift, they go from exciting to boring to dead it's over and some relationships manage to hang in there if the woman understands and is prepared for the change...You were not prepared so you feel everything is wrong...

You don't need closure you need patience and go find other guys to flirt with and go have fun....Were is your playfulness? Your losing your edge and becoming a nagging wife...What guy wants that.

He's being distant b/c that is how men are (most men) the next guy you get unless he's insecure and super clingy he too will distance himself...It's not about HIM distancing himself, it's about you not being able to understand and KNOW how to deal with it...you decided to nag and whine and make it all wrong...If you understood FROM THE GET GO that is how men can be and how men are you would have shrugged it off and made it his problem not yours.

Just find something else to do besides whine about him behaving in a way that you don't like...That's him, that's his choice, you can't change any of it but you can take your focus off of it and go do what makes you feel happy, NEVER let a man control your happiness, it's unattractive and it only serves to make feel responsible for making you feel happy all the time, no man wants that kind of pressure.

Your young..you have lots to learn....You will definitely experience this one until you figure out how to deal with it with less negativity.

tiki33, I totally get what you are saying, and no I know you aren't picking on me 🙂
I know I have a lot to learn about relationships... and that each one whether it works out or not will be a learning experience. But I guess I am just frustrated with the fact that somehow something shifted between us, I don't know when but something made him grow distant with me and with that I freak out and by trying to fix things I guess I just make them worse by trying to get him to talk to me and that probably come off as needy, etc.

Hell I would be happy just being FRIENDS, but its really getting me down that I'm being completely ignored.

But yeah like you said I'm just going to go back to focus on myself... I've already let this get me down way more than I should have.

When you try to FIX things you continue to make the relationship WRONG which makes a man feel like it's too hard being with you, that the relationship just won't work b/c if it was working you wouldn't feel the need to fix any of it...Stop trying to fix it and as you said FOCUS ON YOURSELF, if there is something wrong he will make you aware of it, out lean his ass, lean back so far that he has no choice but to come to you, yes it's excruciatingly hard for some women to do that, to take the focus off of him, off of the relationship and back onto herself but that's the key to fix it, that's how you fix it by doing NOTHING and I can guarantee you he will come to you and if he doesn't then you know your not the problem he is and give yourself permission to MOVE ON.

Posted by TasteOfChaos
You just miss the good times you had with him... when he was being all charming and nice and all those wonderful things...

Maybe you should focus on the way he treated you and how he made you feel like shit...

Thats what I do! I know how you feel tho, its hard not to miss the good times you had with someone who was once special to you...

But if made you feel insecure about where you stand with him or he made you doubt your own actions... then he really isnt worth missing at all!

yes. thats EXACTLY it! I miss the days when things were so easy between us, and we would always laugh, etc. The days when he would actually call me and make me feel special because he DID make me feel special at one point and he was always very attentive of me and made sure I was ok, etc.
But now that thats gone THATS what I'm missing, not neccessarily him...

He has just made me feel very lost lately, very confused, and this is definitely not me.
So I guess I'll just step back and do my own thing... And thats all I can do.

Sadly air signs are quite apathetic when they he/she decides to cut a person off emotionally, it's like we can only give so much and then NOTHING...I myself being an Aqua completely get were your guy is coming from although I'm a girl, we just lose interest, doesn't mean we want to get rid of the person and dump him or her, well for me it didn't, I just needed a ton of mental space to miss that person, I can't speak for him but having dated a libra many moons ago I understand your guy, it's not that he has a problem with you, he's just being selfish and won't make any apologies for it, also I hate to say this but there may be another love interest lurking around that's capture his mind....Best to place distance b/c the more you attempt to fix it the more he will find reasons to behave the way he's behaving...IGNORE HIM, air signs hate it, we abhor it.

see and thats why I hate being a pisces sometimes 😢
It is incredibly difficult for me to detatch myself from my emotions...
but I have to really be strong with this. and not text. or call anymore. Its honestly not helping like you guys are saying but just digging myslf into a bigger hole...

Posted by TasteOfChaos
Haha! WE do!! We truely dooooo!

I hate being ignored!!

Although, I was thinking about the whole "air sign detachment" the other day... I can PHYSICALLY detach, no problems! Laaaaater!!!

But!!

I take AGES to mentally detach...

So even tho, I can callously remove a person from my life without warning... I will still think about them and miss them for a long time... well, until I find someone else to play with that is

So true.....mental detachment is the hardest for me as well, seems like it takes forever to move on mentally.

ok so I guess he misses me...... he won't say it but his friend says he thinks he misses me that hes just been sleeping and drinking.
I stopped calling and texting.
Now i'm getting random texts from him that don't have anything to do with anything but its obvious that hes just sending them to let me know he still exists. lol
I'm not going to go all "I miss you" on him again... but just, sit back and give him the time that he needs...