DennyV......THE TRILOGY

ok everybody, here is the new post

no, there is no way im getting her those tix...first off i cant afford it, and secondly i wouldnt get them even if i could afford it. Too big a thing too soon.

I dotn know waht im goign to do for V-day

I dotn even know waht im going to do this weekend with her. School is coming down hard on me. Today, i really got into studying, and i realized how much i have to catch up. Now, if she wanted to go out saturday again, i would defenetly go, dotn get me wrong....but i have to get caught up with my school work in the mean time.

Definitely get your school work done! That's priority numero uno!!!! I think you two will see one another this weekend!
*glad u started a new thread 😉*

so there was a cut off point...wooohooo LOL

Catch up with school work and let us know how the weekend goes 🙂

? she doesnt have tix..she told me...she said she wanted to go really bad. But tix are like 600 a pair. Idk if i can afford that.

Don't you DARE get those tickets. I know you said you wouldn't but really don't. If you got them, and she accepted, I wouldn't like her.

? so wait...she has no tixs...you offerred something up to do that night....she actually does not have other plans?

* ummm....ok, that is not so good.

Yes and no. I don't blame her. I wouldn't be into it either, no offence Denny. Too forced. It might also seem like making a commitment to couplehood with him, that she isn't ready for. It doesn't mean he is out of the scene. It might mean she is undecided.

thats what i say sparrow

but, last night we went back and forth texting all night..finally at 1:30am shes like, "would you rather text or talk on the phone?"...so we wound up talking on the phone from 1:30am - 4:45am. Then i woke up this morning and she sent a text asking me if i woke up late and to try and stay awake.


Also, last night, she kept asking me why i wanted her to listen to crush...i mean she knows why but she wanted to hear it...so i told her....i told her it was indicative and everything that is said in that song is exact...and she just keep prying "you can tell me, you can tell me...indicative of what?" So i told her it was indicative of how i feel about her...and shes like "see, was that so hard"...

It's possible she knows how much he likes her and thinks he's so generous well 'maybe he'll get the tickets'. You have to put your foot down. If I were you I would 'disappear' for a bit. sometimes too much is a turn off. I'm in my late 20's and yes we do move faster than those at 23...25. I'm curious has she said anything to you in terms of how she feels like what kind of vibe are you getting?

im getting a very good vibe...shes usually the first one to text me and is the initiating the convo....last night we went back and forth all night and eventually wound up on the phone from 1:30am - 4:45am....to me, thats a good thing. And then she texted me when she woke up. Lately, i have not been the one doing the initiating..ive just been doing the responding.

And yes i agree, too much availability is a turn off...but im trying not to put too much thought into all those games...im just taking it day by day. Last night was great, great convo...i absolutely love talking to her...i think she feels the same, i hope. I cant imagine anybody staying on the phone for 3 and 1/2 hours in the wee hours of the night for somebody they didnt like or felt nothing toward. So, thats what i think. Even when her phone was dying, she plugged it in instead of hanging up. I guess she didn't want to hang up because she could have if she wanted to.

* ok....so the big long talks is good...

Yes.

* and now she knows how you feel....

* not sure i get the "was that so hard comment"...any libras care to explain?

Nope. No idea.

I DO know if I wasn't interested in a guy, I would NOT be getting him to confess his feelings. In fact, I would be steering him away from the topic in every conceivable fashion. "Pretty bird? Oh look!"

I can think of fewer things more uncomfortable than having an unwanted suitor confess his feelings for me. So I definetly wouldn't be pulling it out of him.

The only explaination I can conceive is she wanted to know for sure. I am thinking back to my own experience a few years ago where I really liked this man and thought he liked me but wasn't 100% sure, plus he was dating someone else. (I think Libras can be quite obtuse when our hearts are on the line. This was one of those situations where we were best of friends but both of us dating other people. I was newly single.) Anyway, I got him drunk and got him to confess. Of course, he still ran off and moved in with someone else across the country and I became his obsession for several years but that is another story. REGARDLESS, that is a situation where I would drag it out of someone. I am interested, I think they are interested, but am a little worried I am wrong. Then I probably would flippantly say, "Was that so hard?" I could see me doing it. Meanwhile I would be very happy and reassessing the situation.

* It's possible she knows how much he likes her and thinks he's so generous well 'maybe he'll get the tickets'. You have to put your foot down.

I don't think this is what she is doing. Maybe a "friend" is looking into getting tickets? Maybe it is a male friend and she doesn't want Denny to think the wrong thing. Maybe she is hoping to win them. Maybe a friend knows someone who might be able to get them. Regardless of the how, it sounds like she is persuing the tickets in some fashion.

* If I were you I would 'disappear' for a bit. sometimes too much is a turn off. I

I disagree. Everything is going tickety-boo. Why fix something that isn't wrong?

im getting a very good vibe...shes usually the first one to text me and is the initiating the convo....last night we went back and forth all night and eventually wound up on the phone from 1:30am - 4:45am....to me, thats a good thing.


hehehehe, I love it when I say something will work and it does. Whoooo Hoooo!!! Last time I checked you were ready to give up and now look at this 🙂

Denny - let me know if you got my PM as I responded on my blackberry and it doesn't show me if it's sent or not. Have an awesome day and GET SOME REST!!!

The more I think about it, the more it makes sense.

If I was interested in leaving one situation for another, I would want to know that the guy I was interested in leaving the other person for was a sure thing.

I think there may be a bad situation in which she was/is involved that she is thinking of leaving. Perhaps the relationship has already ended but she hasn't really moved on. Before she can make the decision to really follow this new thing, she had to be sure it was real.

I think there may be a bad situation in which she was/is involved that she is thinking of leaving. Perhaps the relationship has already ended but she hasn't really moved on. Before she can make the decision to really follow this new thing, she had to be sure it was real.

Oh yeah, I figured that too -- especially in the beginning. I'd do the same thing. I've done the same thing.

I'm kinda doing that now too lol

Just an assumption on my part based on what she said and my own reflections on why I would say something like that.

I don't think it is anything to worry about.

Astrologically speaking the lesson of libra is to choose between two. Two jobs? Two thoughts? Two lovers?

(note the very nice taking it back to astrology move there. 😛)

little_sparrow.. what if you anger one. Do you wait till they come to you or you go to them.

Hey Denny.. sounds like things are moving along well.

Here are my thoughts on all this.

Talking into the morning hours is really a good sign.

Getting behind in your school work -- shows how much effort you are putting toward this relationship building.

I would not put so much into V-DAY at this point. Let her find her own tix..

I also say she should make the next date with you. Libra women can make plans just as well as a Libra male. She needs to come forward toward you a little bit more.

Good point THairis. I think unless you guys are bf and gf not just trying to get there don't make any plans ro she will hav eyou wrapped around her finger! LEt her make a move so then you will know she wants you. You chased her, let her chase you a little.

i have to say...i think she is chasing me to an extent...like i said...she has initiated the conversation lately and ive just been responding....everytime i say to myself, "ok, il leave her be for a little and give her her space", she comes at me with a text out of nowhere.

The ex bf thing is not what you guys think. She gave him chances, and she doesnt want him..she told me last night. You guys can summize what you will...but hes telling her that nobody will love her like he does...and i told her straight out "thats bullshit"..hes just saying that shit to F with her head...so sub-concously, no matter who she meets, she thinks about what he said...well last night i told her exactly that, that hes just messign with her head.

last night she told me about 2 ex boyfriends that broke her heart....shes just making sure that I'm not going to hurt her. Remember, we went out on 3 dates...were not life long friends. So shes still feeling me out.

she doesnt have a choice to make...its not between me and her ex...she just wants to make sure that shes not going to invest all this time into me and get her hopes up and then im goign to cheat on her or break her heart. I mean i know that will NEVER happen, and im sure you all know that too...i would NEVER do anythign to hurt this girl. So i think that next time im with her, i may have to clear that part up. But i want to look in her eyes when i tell her this.


At tiems i feel like she thinks this could be too good to be true...i get that impression, like she thinks there has to be something wrong with me because this is too good. She was joking around last night about me being with women..and i asked her "do you think im a player'...because i get that a lot..and i want to make sure she doesnt think that...she said she didnt think it...so thats good...but i want her to know that I'm not a player...

pr why don't you just start your own thread with your question. You'll get more responses.

Denny

As I said, it is nothing to worry about. She is just looking before she leaps.

How many times has she accussed or joked about you being with other women? That does concern me as it suggests a part of her hasn't healed.

I wrote you back D.

USC i got it thanks...im goign to reply....but it may snow here, so i invited her to my house to sleep because her job is 10 min away, and she said if it snowed she woudl stay here...so im praying for a nor easter...

anyway, im on my way to the bakery to get her the cupcakes she lieks in case she does stay over....i told her i had another cucumber tom salad, sausage peppers onions, furit and cupcakes if she was hungry. She was very appreciative of the offer....she said "aww thats so sweeet of you, thank u so mcuh" So we'll see if hse doesn. Honestly, the snow isnt supposed to start until real late...so by the itme she gets out of work, it may not even start to snow yet. But just in case she does come, im getting her her cupcakes

guys who came on too strong, and too fast, scared the crap at out me at 15, 18, 21 and 23. it is not a matter of a woman's age. i keep reading this thread wondering when he is going to pop the question. lol. honestly, i would feel overwhelmed if a man were to court me in this fashion in such a short period of time. the v-day plan would have been perfect way to celebrate an anniversary.

makes me wonder if you are always going to be this romantic if a relationship were to happen between you guys...

"she said if it snowed she woudl stay here...so im praying for a nor easter..."

LOL, see, you are a hot blooded male 😉.
No worries, get back to me whenever -- I'd prefer you get some sleep and do some HOMEWORK anyway!

"makes me wonder if you are always going to be this romantic if a relationship were to happen between you guys..."

Well, I know a guy who is extremely romantic. He courted his woman, (now wife) something fierce. He's one of the few guys I know who doesn't cheat on his wife. On there 2nd or 3rd year anniversary, he surprised her with a weekend trip to Paris. Some thought it was over the top, but his wife loved it, and appreciated him all the more for it. Obviously they were married, so he wasn't just flying some chick around the world, lol.

Whoa a sleep over yeah... Cupcakes and tomato salad.... Geez I hope for a Nor Easter too Den!!!

You guys are getting together I knowwwwwww...🙂 Remember work and School tomorrow!!!

I'm lighting a candle for you guys... This is great.

i just looked at the forecast...its not going to start snowing until like 1am...she gets out of work at midnight...meaning she will be able to drive home.....thats ok

when am i going to pop the question? what questions is that? Will you be my woman?

I first need to go out with her again. Im so tired right now, i dotn even know how i have enough energy to sit here and type. I talked iwth her til 5am last night....was up at 6am...and had classess form 8am-5pm. haha...i have to be in the psych unit tommorrow at 7am too. And if she told me right now she was coming over, i go somehwer to get her a red rose and in the card id write something like "let hope this one never dies"....MAN WHY CANT IT SNOW EARLIER!

eagwstinggirl

to answer your questions...i woudl absolutley be like this 1 year down the road, 5 years down the road, 10 years etc etc etc

Thats my woman right there...she deserves the best....thats y i cooked for her and told her i wish i could do it every night for her...because i would...I would work 12 hour shifts in the hospital and still cook for her every night....some may call me a sucker for it...but i just LOOOOOVE THAT GIRLLL.....true love never dies....it just gets stronger

Wait, when is date # 4—?

im hoping this saturday...we havent made any plans yet...but Im goign to ask her tommororw or thursday about going out saturday...maybe dinner at a place by her and a movie

leokitten,

you are right...im not superman...actually, last night, she called me superman...haha...because we were taling about something like this..about me not sleeping and working all day and still being there for my wife and kids.. and she said "your superman, you just need to find wonder woman"..joking around..im like "no, you mean Lois Lane"......hahahaha

"she should start pampering you too" Yeah sounds kinda one sided.

^^I agree. If their is all that giving and only words and no action from her side. I guess I'd wonder a bit.

* and he snores a hell of a lot louder

LeoKitten

Try getting him a pillow that lifts his head up more like a water pillow or something. This should get rid of the problem. Something I happily discovered on my journey through life.

* i would feel overwhelmed if a man were to court me in this fashion in such a short period of time.

I kind of agree. Although, she is recipicating by initating contact. If she had vanished I would be telling him to back off.

Again sweet Denny, I agree with Leokitten. No movie date. Seriously. Libra girls aren't really domestic. When relationships get too domestic, home every night, I feel stifled and bored. Seriously go out and do something.

I also agree if she doesn't do something after the fourth date, we'll need to talk. As Leokitten said, it doesn't have to be something big just something thoughtful.

she said that she does not really go out a lot in the winter because of the cold...so thats why i figured the movie woudl be good. Its not like its our first date and we havent spoken. Its our 4th time hanging out..and we've been talking a lot lately...i mean idk...what else coudl I do with her. I cant take her to NY or anything because its too cold. So what else?

I dont think she needs to get me a gift. She has been initiating convo big time lately so thats enough for me. We talked until 5am last night. Those are all good signs. Im not goign to base her feeling toward me on whether she gets me a gift or not.

so what about this 4th date

You aren't in bed honey? You must be exhausted.

I really think going to see live music is the way to go. That is always an awesome date in my eyes.

Other than that can you find a Columbian or South American restaurant you can take her to?

hahaha..im on fumes right now

yea live music sounds good, Its just a lot of those place are in NYC...and agian, the cold

Columbian restaurant...she knows a couple by her, I can ask her if she wants to go to one of the places she knows

Ok, so since everyone feels a movie date is out, I'm gonna throw out some suggestions - that's all JUST suggestions to get you thinking. Since you know her and have talked to her, then you'll be able to gauge what she may like to do.
Maybe go to a jazz/live band type of place. There are a lot of types of jazz that are low key or way out there, just depending on your taste. If you know a specific type of music she likes, maybe there are some live bands that perform that play that type of music, so you can take her there.
A spoken word cafe. Some people are into it, and some aren't. I've been to cool ones in Chicago, and I heard they have nice ones in NY too. An art gallery showing. Again, you'd need to know her taste and if she would even be interested in that type of thing. I'm just trying to think of different places that inside and are different. I don't know if either of you drink, but wine/martini bars are cool. We have a lot here in AZ and some have live music, some just have background music, etc. I don't know if she or you like sports, I do, so I LOVE going to most sporting events. I'll think of some more stuff.

Fuck. I LOVE spoken word. yummmmm.

Words used well totally turn me on. So does the ballet for some reason. *shrug*

I'm going to bed. I'll sleep for both of us Denny. ha ha ha!

(I hope she has to "work late". 😉)

usc i appreciate it

all those places sound good...especially the jazz band...but I really dont think shes into going out a lot in the winter because of the cold...I will talk with her. I will ask her about goign to a Columbian restaurant this saturday and see what else is up.

thank you sparrow... 🙂🙂

Hey, I'm all about NOT being in the cold. I'm definitely with her. I hate schlepping around in the cold, and I'm from Colorado originally. BUT, I'd go out for a night if we go to dinner, then go to a spoken word cafe and/or jazz bar and then somewhere for a night cap or coffee. As long as I don't have to be outside for too long.
Get some rest cause I'm with Sparrow, I'm tired too 🙂. I didn't get much sleep either.

hey I don't think the movie date's out! I think any chance to spend time with her right now!
even if it's building snowmen!

it's cold where I am too and going out is a major headache --- you spend time with this and that and put a big wool coat or hat over all the effort, then makeup freezes, or snow/rain ruins it 😢

I would get to know her anyhow cozily possible and try for all that romantic stuff as we go along...

@ Zen, yeah, I agree with you too that the movies isn't a bad date. All my girlfriends love going to the movies. Maybe not on the first couple of dates, but definitely a few dates in. Anyway, I felt bad for Denny because a lot of people were saying it's a bad idea, so I wanted to offer up some other ideas too. He's just a young man falling in love. I think it's sweet!

it is very sweet!!! he's given many ladies faith in men again I hope 😉 cos some of us are secretly thinking all guys go through this when we're doing the push/pull with them... not that women ever play games or anything *whistling*

oh his head's gonna get big 😛

yea I think optimum exposure is gonna be the first thing first... get under this ladies skin... movie, bungee jumping, whatever...

hahaha,

i for one dont see anything wrong with a Columbian restaurant and a movie. So I think tahts what im going to go for. Like i said, its not our first or second date...its our 4th tiem going out. I should call her today...i dotn have the hospital today because it snowed pretty bad here. So im studying now...but i should call her. I think im goign to call her.