Disappearing and Reappearing then Disappearing Again?!

Okay so I'm back with a update. So my libra is still on and off disappearing. He finally told me last week all the stuff he has been mad at me for over the past few months and how he has kept it in til now. I'm giving him his space but I still can't tell where this is going. This morning he sent me a good morning text first after disappearing for 3 days. My questions are (1) why does he keep disappearing and reappearing and then disappearing again? (2) if he is done, will he just tell me or will his actions tell me? (3) how long will this silent treatment last? (4) how can I get him to stop disappearing?

Mirror his behavior exact.

@cocokat that's what I was doing these past 3 days except I contacted him the other day because his family is goin through a tough time right now with an illness

then you didn't mirror him exact.

Right now it's kind of hard to completely mirror his actions because someone close to him in his family is in the hospital. Last week I tried to ignore him since he ignored me and he gave me hell because I didn't answer the phone or text him back saying I'm never there when he needs me but yet I didn't know he was calling about his family member, I thought he was just randomly calling

I'm in a situation somewhat like this. I been dealing with a libra man off and now for a year. few months we started talking we talked everyday now he did his silent treatment last year before Father's Day. We started talking again then around his birthday in October stop talking til around New Years. Then started talking now he's on that disappearing act. But he told me it's because he lost his grandma going thru rough times with family and his girl friend drama so I don't know if it's you but it could be them period. I know I haven't done nothing so I just let it be he'll come back around if he truly cares.

Beaten wife syndrome for lyfe yo.

Posted by Capricorn2015
Okay so I'm back with a update. So my libra is still on and off disappearing. He finally told me last week all the stuff he has been mad at me for over the past few months and how he has kept it in til now. I'm giving him his space but I still can't tell where this is going. This morning he sent me a good morning text first after disappearing for 3 days. My questions are (1) why does he keep disappearing and reappearing and then disappearing again? (2) if he is done, will he just tell me or will his actions tell me? (3) how long will this silent treatment last? (4) how can I get him to stop disappearing?

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships/to-the-ladies-who-come-here-about-their-dude-woes-6419178/

@rockyroadicecream if he is a narc, how do I beat him at his own game?

Posted by Capricorn2015
@rockyroadicecream if he is a narc, how do I beat him at his own game?

*facepalm*

Question: If a Libra woman contacts you after a 1 1/2 year hiatus (seeing other people) and begins seeing you again (go on dates) but takes a very long time to reply her texts, what is going through her head? But every time she does reply, she asks questions as to continue the conversation...

Posted by Capricorn2015
Right now it's kind of hard to completely mirror his actions because someone close to him in his family is in the hospital. Last week I tried to ignore him since he ignored me and he gave me hell because I didn't answer the phone or text him back saying I'm never there when he needs me but yet I didn't know he was calling about his family member, I thought he was just randomly calling

yes wtf is that about libra - if he can't reach me when he needs to talk to me I'm the one doing wrong but if I can send him many texts before he takes the time to answer me - when I need him then I'm wrong again ... can't win and it's frustrating

and what is that deal with Libra dredging up all sorts of things from the past like they been keeping a list or something - this should probably be a new thread ... they never forget anything and when you think something is over, it is NEVER over with Libra ... they seem to use this to fuel their anger whether it is appropriately or inappropriately directed at you - then you get barraged with this pile of whatever stuff they have dreamed up from the past - like people, ask and communicate when things happen - why store shit and your interpretation of that shit for decades and then throw it in my face like I don't know what the fuck sort of crazy shit just hit me ... stupid to me and I have and will again walk away from this sort of inappropriate tirade ...

Posted by Capricorn2015
Okay so I'm back with a update. So my libra is still on and off disappearing. He finally told me last week all the stuff he has been mad at me for over the past few months and how he has kept it in til now. I'm giving him his space but I still can't tell where this is going. This morning he sent me a good morning text first after disappearing for 3 days. My questions are (1) why does he keep disappearing and reappearing and then disappearing again? (2) if he is done, will he just tell me or will his actions tell me? (3) how long will this silent treatment last? (4) how can I get him to stop disappearing?

He could be balancing his thoughts wants space to think clearly what he wants. If he comes back around then you didn't lose him. But give it time they don't rush into anything they are patient when it comes to things.

Posted by MidasDelima
Question: If a Libra woman contacts you after a 1 1/2 year hiatus (seeing other people) and begins seeing you again (go on dates) but takes a very long time to reply her texts, what is going through her head? But every time she does reply, she asks questions as to continue the conversation...

Start your own thread. It's rude as fuck to ask for your own advice in someone else's thread.

Posted by tcta
and what is that deal with Libra dredging up all sorts of things from the past like they been keeping a list or something - this should probably be a new thread ... they never forget anything and when you think something is over, it is NEVER over with Libra ... they seem to use this to fuel their anger whether it is appropriately or inappropriately directed at you - then you get barraged with this pile of whatever stuff they have dreamed up from the past - like people, ask and communicate when things happen - why store shit and your interpretation of that shit for decades and then throw it in my face like I don't know what the fuck sort of crazy shit just hit me ... stupid to me and I have and will again walk away from this sort of inappropriate tirade ...

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Because they bottle shit up. Being the "peacekeepers" that they are, they don't say shit for the sake of avoiding confrontation and just sit and smile through it even though they're pissed off inside.

So it all builds up until that bottle is full and then they just blow up at you over every perceived slight and unjust thing and you're left wondering what the fuck is going on. Because they're passive weenies who wouldn't speak up when it was a problem.

That's how they roll, unfortunately. It's how all passive aggressive and people pleasing roll. It's why I personally don't rely or trust them much, big picture. They aren't honest or very genuine overall, tbh.

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Posted by Capricorn2015
Okay so I'm back with a update. So my libra is still on and off disappearing. He finally told me last week all the stuff he has been mad at me for over the past few months and how he has kept it in til now. I'm giving him his space but I still can't tell where this is going. This morning he sent me a good morning text first after disappearing for 3 days. My questions are (1) why does he keep disappearing and reappearing and then disappearing again? (2) if he is done, will he just tell me or will his actions tell me? (3) how long will this silent treatment last? (4) how can I get him to stop disappearing?

He could be balancing his thoughts wants space to think clearly what he wants. If he comes back around then you didn't lose him. But give it time they don't rush into anything they are patient when it comes to things.

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Please don't encourage the beaten wife to stay in a beaten wife situation, kthx.

Here, honey. Do you some learnin'.

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships/to-the-ladies-who-come-here-about-their-dude-woes-6419178/

thanks - you got that right - I dealt with a childhood girlfriend for 40 years until I got sick of that shit - totally - when she got into my husband and my business and didn't support me and I did nothing but support her for all those years. I divorced her and my husband since they just couldn't stop talking negatively about me behind my back when I asked them not to do that and then give me hell when I find out - saying I was invading their privacy lol - whatever and good bye!

now I have a Libra man and he's pulling the very same shit - and I proved that he misinterpreted completely what I said and others I've spoke to since say he was totally misconstruing - he even said he thinks he is just looking for something to be angry about cause he's got ptsd about women in general from his previous bad 2 marriages - he touts the fact that he is normal but now I'm not so sure. I have stepped back to think about this and whether I wish to continue to have this type of thing in my life - he is so indirect so I say nothing to that - if he is direct which I understand so much better, then I answer/respond to him.

Posted by tcta
thanks - you got that right - I dealt with a childhood girlfriend for 40 years until I got sick of that shit - totally - when she got into my husband and my business and didn't support me and I did nothing but support her for all those years. I divorced her and my husband since they just couldn't stop talking negatively about me behind my back when I asked them not to do that and then give me hell when I find out - saying I was invading their privacy lol - whatever and good bye!

now I have a Libra man and he's pulling the very same shit - and I proved that he misinterpreted completely what I said and others I've spoke to since say he was totally misconstruing - he even said he thinks he is just looking for something to be angry about cause he's got ptsd about women in general from his previous bad 2 marriages - he touts the fact that he is normal but now I'm not so sure. I have stepped back to think about this and whether I wish to continue to have this type of thing in my life - he is so indirect so I say nothing to that - if he is direct which I understand so much better, then I answer/respond to him.

You need to leave immediately. This isn't just a red flag, it's a red flag on fire. You are there for a relationship, not to be his therapist. He has NO business dating.

In regard to your previous story, I'm not surprised. You either get chill as fuck Libras or sociopaths. Yours was of the sociopath variety. It's sad how so many tend to be, but I blame that on society breeding waves and waves of insecure narcissists.

you are right again - and he has no business dating - he told me several stories of woman who fell all over him and he had to just walk away cause they were too needy - no it's him being so not needy is the problem - he goes for quite a while then he wants you to be there when he needs attention ... so we dated a year with no arguments and it was great I thought - I guess now I 'm paying for that cause he's pretty much turned inside out and doing the disappearing and dredging like I did something and I fucking haven't changed and I told him that

I realize we were dating but we both monogamous cause that is how we both are but still - you just can't play with people's feelings like that - now I look at him like what a total fucking waste of time that shit was even if it was good ...

Posted by tcta
you are right again - and he has no business dating - he told me several stories of woman who fell all over him and he had to just walk away cause they were too needy - no it's him being so not needy is the problem - he goes for quite a while then he wants you to be there when he needs attention ... so we dated a year with no arguments and it was great I thought - I guess now I 'm paying for that cause he's pretty much turned inside out and doing the disappearing and dredging like I did something and I fucking haven't changed and I told him that

I realize we were dating but we both monogamous cause that is how we both are but still - you just can't play with people's feelings like that - now I look at him like what a total fucking waste of time that shit was even if it was good ...

That's the problem with dating emotionally unstable Libras. Your feelings are always at the mercy of their whims.

They're essentially Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde until they get their shit together.

This one sounds like he needs to be tossed back. I mean really, he's looking for a reason to be angry because he essentially hates women due to past experiences? Run, run run.