Do I have a chance with this Libra?

His sun is Libra, Moon in Capricorn and Venus in Virgo .. I am a Cap sun with moon in Taurus and venus in capricorn.

We met accidentally in a medical conference, and we've spent the whole day in between lectures just chatting and laughing. I was not interested in more than a good chat but the more I came to know him, the more I find myself interested. He stated he just want to be friends, but that was my intention too. At the time he was heart broken too and I had a good amount in lifting him up. He had a break up in July, I had mine in Feb while we met in Dec. I was already moving on and determine to keep this year to me .. work on myself and just enjoy myself [ he had the same goals].

Do I have a chance? can love be found even when we decided it is only friendship?
I am aware of our crazy differences but we always manage to work it out calmly and just easily. He find it a bit harder to accept it as he grow sensitive to me a lot. I can easily upset him with words I say.

Usually he initiate the contact, and he wants more but as a cap, I keep up with my rules. I don't allow him to call outside working time and we text a lot. He sometimes will drop by my work place and pass [well a lot] .. I somehow stopped his "intensity" in visits by saying since we are just friends, I don't find it working for you to drop by my office every time you are here. He is around a lot. And on several occassions I knew he finished his work earlier there and even had to stay waiting an hour or more just to see me and drop the hi. {So is that something?}

At first he would say words to test if I like him or I'd say it like: I am sure you like me .. or I am sure you can't stop talking to me but that's all.
Until now nothing "obvious" or saying it and when I got totally confused, I talked to him once and mentioned how we don't have control on our hearts and he stated clear that if I ever had that, I should tell him and he will drop out of my life as he doesn't want to complicate it.

Still he would be all around me, saying he can't upset me and send me all those love songs and stuff. I figured it must be libra flirty nature? He confused me a lot actually and I know he is not my best match but he does have a lovely addition in my life. I just wanted to ask to see if I can get an insight.

I was waiting for a Scorpio to step in my life! I had one but we lost contact for bigger issues {he was a foreigner and his family left} and ironically we met now, 17 years late

ignore the scorpio part. I just want to know if i have a chance with this man ?
Do I believe his words ? how about his actions?

Is it normal for Libra to do what he does to a friend only?

If you want more than friendship why would you tell him not to come to your work? To me, that is YOU making it clear he doesn't have a chance. You "don't allow him to call outside working time"... So, he ain't supposed to come see you, he isn't allowed to call you... but you want him to chase you!? I'm confused.


In general I'd say, if a guy tells you up front he only wants to be friends, believe him. Don't try to convince him, or yourself, that he'll change his mind. On the off chance that he does change his mind, he will let you know.

Of course that brings us back to him following you around like a puppy. That is expressing clear interest. No doubt, but you told him to stop...

I get the whole "don't shit where you eat concept" and some people would rather keep work and personal lives seperate. No problem there. That's not what was said here though. She said "because they are just friends" he needed to back off. She didn't have a problem with someone coming by her work, she had a problem with her not-boyfriend doing it.

Then you want to know if you have a chance with him? Wha...!?

You both are retarded.

Why do you ask if there could be more when you keep pushing for a more platonic relationship anyway— Cut the BS. Be clear about what you want first before anything else.

As for his acts, don't put too much weight on it. It is still quite vague at this point and his intentions aren't clear. Besides, you're not helping in clarying things either with all the do's and dont's.

i don't know about the other librans but i can't stand rules in a relationship. i just think they are boring and draining and a bad sign of things to come.

i think people should act like adults and respectful of and to each other but ugh god, he is not allowed to call outside of working time? he is not to come by because it doesn't work for you? it sounds like a barrel of laughs.