Help me Porfavor!!! (Page 2)

Posted by tiziani

Posted by pinklibra
Yes, of course you would disappear. I would too if someone I like was showing no interest in me and I've done nothing but show how interested I am in them. BUT, this dude disappeared on HER first. All i'm saying is she needs to set the grounds right now while it's early that it just wont fly. Her life is not a revolving door. How you start a relationship, is how it will be, 95% of the time, with a few minor compromises on both willing partners parts. In this case the relationship or courtship is still too new to tell.

OP, do what you want girl. I'm just letting you know if it were me, Libra man or not, I would treat him just like he treat me. You drop communication with me, then i'll do it right back assuming that's what he wants. Esepecially if find we don't talk unless I text YOU— Um no no. But like I said. It's your show girl. Rock it how you want.

I honestly don't see the difference in keeping score of who did what first.

If a woman - or person, for that matter - is not talking to me then I would respect her decision for what it is.

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Same as if he backs off for whatever reason. Women are merely doing what he's doing - if he's not talking to her, then it's seen as a decision that they aren't important to the guy and they should move on.

You're sort of implying that if she doesn't keep up contact, then it works against her. But if he doesn't, it's because he needs more understanding because he's a Libra that can't get his shit together.

I agree she shouldn't outright ignore him if he contacts though.

For liking independent women, you guys sure as hell do everything not to attract them. :/

How is being lazy and passive in dating going to gain you an independent woman? All it does is attract crazy because crazy thrives off of that attitude.

Tiz, the questions are not directed at you, silly..its general questions lol.

Fair is fair. If he dips then so do I. Simple. I'm a Leeb to the heart. Cant help it, if things aren't balanced it depends on how much I love you, which will determine how much of my time I spend trying to help you help me get the darn thing balanced between us. But you have to put up some effort, and show me it's appreciated. Otherwise I will leave you in the dust. I hate unbalanced relationships UGH!

LOL. What do you mean by success stories? Isn't the fact that he isn't gone yet, a success in its own right? No contact works with a libra in my experience, they start to act right once you ignore them. The libra guy used to initiate contact, but when I initiated he'd act weird by not responding to smses & stuff, so I stopped..I never did it again until this day. I let him do ALL the contacting cause I really hate it when people take my efforts for granted, I wont repeat it. The OP really needs to do what feels right to her because the opinions regarding this issue vary.

Lol @ pinklibra. Preach sister!

LOL. Forgive me...I'm a little emotional this Cancer I like is pushing me to the limit, and we couldn't be more different. and not in a good way like when I was dating the Aries. -_- lol

Ok so I finally texted him back Today after letting a few days pass ... " hey what's up. hope all is well. I've been so busy lately. Well have to catch up
Soon. Have a good week ttyl!"... And he replies bk with pretty much the same ishh like always "mirroring" me !!! Ughh .. " hi, all is good. Hope so with you too. Okay, have a good week too"
I mean wtf!! Lol why does he always have to be busting stuff like that. Why does he always mirror me?! I just wanna know what's with him jeshhhh. Either he likes me and wants to continue getng to know me or he just wants to f $ &ck !?... at least so I can move fwrd or what not. LOL

Like some of u lady's advised me to DO, just be cool keep it light, that's what ima do but what drives me crazy is why when all is going great why back off after sex.like are we in High school or wtf?!... I mean that's what made me go looney. When everything is fine and dandy he busted that. Some of u guys said is because there Libras they need time to weight out things etc. I wish I would have know this!

I've NEVER EVER had a guy back off after sex or be distance after Sex. Everything was going good then the " disappear" act. I Mean I Hate being like this having to "play" the same game he is or what ever u wanna call It. Either I tell him how I feel Which is def. Not happening so he can RUN! or I keep it light and follow his lead. I much rather keep it real with him but unfortunately it's a game in this dating life. Gotta keep them on their feet always wanting more challenging them. It suxs but like I said either being hones and scarring him way or playing by the rules..

I know some of u guys think I should just be me. And I get that but remember he's the one who Backed off and "poof disappeared" a few day after we were intamate. He's the one who was being a bit blahh after I gave him my vA Ja jay ... So if he hadn't done all this b.s I'm sure I wouldn't have to play the pull back "rubber" band on his ass. Meaning he will NOT be rewarded by me being sweet and nice after he pulls that disappearing act. No! things will not be like they were right Before he disappeared. I gotta put my foot down and let it be known I'm not one to bust that ishh to. If he does it again he's gone in my book. I get men need space and What not but disappear when everthang was good? Not on my watch. That's all I'm saying!..

Do you really think men vanish after you become emotional honest? Anybody who you cant be totally yourself/have to censor yourself with is not worth it in my book. I like to be me all day everyday & say and do exactly as I please, so that wont work with me. How old are you again? I feel like you still have stuff to learn, or you're not yet connected with who you really are. There's hope though cause relationships have a way of teaching you valuable lessons about self. You come across as naive. It's not a put down btw, so please dont take it the wrong way.

Posted by WaterCup
LOL. What do you mean by success stories? Isn't the fact that he isn't gone yet, a success in its own right? No contact works with a libra in my experience, they start to act right once you ignore them. The libra guy used to initiate contact, but when I initiated he'd act weird by not responding to smses & stuff, so I stopped..I never did it again until this day. I let him do ALL the contacting cause I really hate it when people take my efforts for granted, I wont repeat it. The OP really needs to do what feels right to her because the opinions regarding this issue vary.

Then on top of that after an disagreement he would totally ignore me and get back to me when he was good and damn ready. Not caring about my feelings and basically leaving me to chase him. But this time with lots of help from David13 I was able to get him to see how selfish and self centered he was. By initiating the NO CONTACT rule. I went from him totally ignoring me, blocking me on facebook to basically begging me to just pick up the phone so he could hear my voice . So yeah no contact is very effective unless he never liked you in the first place!

Posted by MissD312

Posted by WaterCup
LOL. What do you mean by success stories? Isn't the fact that he isn't gone yet, a success in its own right? No contact works with a libra in my experience, they start to act right once you ignore them. The libra guy used to initiate contact, but when I initiated he'd act weird by not responding to smses & stuff, so I stopped..I never did it again until this day. I let him do ALL the contacting cause I really hate it when people take my efforts for granted, I wont repeat it. The OP really needs to do what feels right to her because the opinions regarding this issue vary.

I totally agree with you Watercup! My libra man and I have just started back talking AFTER I initiated the no contact rule! He would do me the exact same way! Not responding back to my messages or calls.

Then on top of that after an disagreement he would totally ignore me and get back to me when he was good and damn ready. Not caring about my feelings and basically leaving me to chase him. But this time with lots of help from David13 I was able to get him to see how selfish and self centered he was. By initiating the NO CONTACT rule. I went from him totally ignoring me, blocking me on facebook to basically begging me to just pick up the phone so he could hear my voice . So yeah no contact is very effective unless he never liked you in the first place!

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+1 especially the very last line, its so true.

I'm 32years old and I've been in many relationships I've live with a guy also before for 3years iI know what it takes to make things work with compromising etc.. It takes two! The other person obviously has to be there to make it work. My issue with the "libra" guy is that why disappear or back off?! grow up. It's like if your with it be with it if not move on. This is my frustration!

Posted by Ayyayai111
I'm 32years old and I've been in many relationships I've live with a guy also before for 3years iI know what it takes to make things work with compromising etc.. It takes two! The other person obviously has to be there to make it work. My issue with the "libra" guy is that why disappear or back off?! grow up. It's like if your with it be with it if not move on. This is my frustration!

So just take this one as a lessoned learned and dont look back! Keep it moving. Because my take on this is if he has you this confused and hurt in the early stages then imagine how you would feel if he did this further on down the line. Im sure you are a beautiful young female and believe it or not it happens to the best of us! So throw ya middle finger up to this loser and say to urself "The only way you looking back is when ur lookin back admiring your fine ass!

I never said that Men Vanish when your being Emotionally honest ? I'm sorry but where u getting this from?!!

Do I think some guys run when u let them know u like them or are falling for them Yes it can be true , some Men do . im sure if it's not a mutual thing or if its too soon too fast definitely!! Even for women!. It goes both ways..

I just hate all the cowardliness. I rather the guy be straight up then beat around the bush. It's frustrating. I'm sorry but in no way shape or form is Vanishing or disappearing from some one thats clearly into u acceptable. I much rather the person communicate with me. This is what puzzles me. But now that I have researched about Libras I'm kinda getting to see how there personality characteristics work, That's all. The truth of the matter is I like the dude! Will I let him know it's not cool to vanish yes of course eventually but not right away. because I know now that Libras like space time to evaluate weigh out things so why not give the guy some Man space.

Meantime I'm doing me!!! dating and Living Life. I never been one to stay at home waiting for a dude to call! No way Jose!..

Do I like this Libra dude Yes, so far. My thing was that I did some research on Libra men and it does imply that they do the "disappear" act frequent and they need balance space etc.. So this was my concern why the he'll?!.. How to be able to read him without being too pushy.. Im a type of person that if i like some one i only date them but obviously this freken dude don't deserve this from me.meantime ima do what's best for me. Thats all.

Missd312 your hilarious! I love it!!!! Lol

I likes!!

Fair enough I def. Will think about it thanx!!😉

You said telling him how you feel wont happen cause you dont want him to flee, thats where i got that from. And telling a guy how you feel IS emotional honesty.

All I'll say to you is, if you're not emotionally strong or cant detach, the libra guy will do your head in. Make sure to master at least one of the two if you want a stress free relationship with them. They're liars too, so beware.

Water cup i hear ya loud and clear. ThaNxs for the heads up!

He's def. A charmer and seems to good to be true. I will def. Need to match his Actions and his words .so they both match up!!

Sometimes they say such beautiful things and treat ya like Royalty!! Ay yayaaayyy lol u can't help but get caught up on the charm ha ha haa

must be strong! 😉

Linda Goodman once said, if you wanna move on from a libra, close both your eyes & ears when they return. Hahaha. And, its true. The one I know have gotten me dizzy a couple of times lol. What I like though is this, their charm is like venom, you get bitten too many times & your body + mind becomes immune to it..it no longer works. You'll get to that point, so don't worry.

Its a fact, EEE 🙂

Keeping up with the Jones', scorpios are your neighbours after all 😛

What do you mean which ones? You all are as venomous as the 8th house dwellers, only on the down low with that fake smile always in place...its painted on lol

By 8th house dwellers i meant scorpios lol, your nextdoor neighbours whose dirty little secrets you watch & emulate only ever so sly..you foxes you

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Posted by WaterCup
By 8th house dwellers i meant scorpios lol, your nextdoor neighbours whose dirty little secrets you watch & emulate only ever so sly..you foxes you

Nooo, I don't do that! You are right though, foxes be foxes, it's those scrib-a-raptors you have to watch out for, unruly things that they be! >🙂

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lol @ foxes be foxes. What are scribarators now lol?

All I'm saying is take it for what it is. If a man wants you he will seek you out. Y??all had fun, good sex, and it was fun where it lasted. Ball is in his court now. Meantime do you, and stop stressing like y??all were together or something. From your post, it doesn't seem like he's mentioned being your man, or told you he was. You're stressing like he's your dude or something. He must??ve really put it down. Lol. It's just good sex, and great fun. Keep it moving. Just put it in your mental rolodex to not let this one get too close if he rears his head around again.
Also I have to add, that if you would??ve listened and let him contact you first you would probably feel much better. Because it would??ve meant he at least thought about YOU enough to seek YOU out, not the other way around. He's the man here, not you. You have to let him do this.

PinkLibra I have let him reached out. He texted Sunday and I waited about 3days to text back. So now I'm letting him lead the way playing it cool calm and collective.lol
Oh btw I'm not one to get sprung on the D*% k. Never been like that. Of course I love a good dddk but not to loose my mind on it.. I think it was his Libra charm that had my ass all sprung and how freken sweet he was. All the attention he Was giving me, the date wasn't even over and already was planning the next one, and kissing me on the forehead..ughhh.. DAMM Libras lol

I get what Sugarfoot said I'm all for letting his ACTIONS prove if he's really interested more than just sex.

WATERCUP I love how u pretty much summed it up " there charm is like Venom"... Ha ha haaa

I know heads up now and def. Will not be making the same mistake. I'm a strong women I know I got this!! Lol

oh shyt, not the forehead kiss!! lol Yeah, he was trying to put it dowwwwn

Posted by Ayyayai111

Ay yayaaayyy lol u can't help but get caught up on the charm ha ha haa

Have you been watching a lot of Power Rangers?

Posted by pinklibra
oh shyt, not the forehead kiss!! lol Yeah, he was trying to put it dowwwwn

My ex did this shortly after we broke up. Confused the fuck out of me, haha.

^^ See there! lol. smh. They are something else. Gotta watch them.

Posted by WaterCup
Its a fact, EEE 🙂

Posted by pinklibra
oh shyt, not the forehead kiss!! lol Yeah, he was trying to put it dowwwwn

Yes!!! It's like omg my panties get wet LMAO! j/-k

"it's your world baby your night we can do what ever u wAnt"!.. Then a kiss on my hand and then lays one on my Forehead! Super sweet them Libra charmers! Arghhhhhhhhhh lol Very Rico suave !!!! 😉!

Honey, the Libra man likes to conquer and you gave it up and then got needy and obsessive. Do not call, text, or even send a pigeon or you will be a fallback girl. The only time a Libra man goes crazy for a girl following sex is when she BLEW HIS MIND and he cant stop thinking about it. Trust me, if that happened you would already know...

Posted by sundymundy
Honey, the Libra man likes to conquer and you gave it up and then got needy and obsessive. Do not call, text, or even send a pigeon or you will be a fallback girl. The only time a Libra man goes crazy for a girl following sex is when she BLEW HIS MIND and he cant stop thinking about it. Trust me, if that happened you would already know...

😛 on the sex part heehee. This statement above has some ring of truth to it & they're not shy to say exactly how good it was either lol (describing it into details like a perv)..so shameful & not for the shy at heart when they say things like that. I like & dont like.

Posted by MissD312

Posted by Ayyayai111
I'm 32years old and I've been in many relationships I've live with a guy also before for 3years iI know what it takes to make things work with compromising etc.. It takes two! The other person obviously has to be there to make it work. My issue with the "libra" guy is that why disappear or back off?! grow up. It's like if your with it be with it if not move on. This is my frustration!

I know its frustrating and even may hurt a little..... Because my take on this is if he has you this confused and hurt in the early stages then imagine how you would feel if he did this further on down the line.

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WOW this response is SO dead-on. I dated (meaning we saw each other several times a week) my Libra guy for 3 months and let me tell you ... boy can he hurt me just by being his own Libra self. Confused about what he felt for me, frustratingly difficult but so very exciting and intriguing to talk to, impossible to hide my feelings from him even though I tried to since I went into this knowing he wasn't ready for another relationship. I mean he said he wasn't ready for another committed relationship but he constantly did things like call me 'his woman' and leave little things that belonged to him in my bedroom saying that 'this way any other guy will know you are mine'. Crazy stuff. Then he does the 'disappearing' thing to me. He can hurt me for sure! But if he does come back ... I would rather have him as just a friend if that is what he wants than not have him at all. Suck it up and just take what time I can get with him.

Posted by pinklibra
oh shyt, not the forehead kiss!! lol Yeah, he was trying to put it dowwwwn

Or the grabbing your hand and interlacing fingers thing ... everywhere you go! I got sucked in by that Libra charm for sure lol.