Hurting others

How do Libs deal knowing they may have hurt someone emotionally? Do they hide until they have courage to confront?
Do they just ignore hoping it will blow over.

Um yes I would say Libra is generally a sign of fairness so if we hurt someone we are usually the first to know. Quite honestly we like to treat others the way we like to be treated. Getting up the courage to face the confrontation is more accurate than ignoring you in hopes that it will blow over. Unless we were screwed first and we don't want any drama... We'll for me anyway.

Posted by Theultra79
If I know I hurt someone and I feel like they didn't deserve it, I will come back and apologize. Depending on the situation, it could take a short time or a long time.

I wouldn't ignore the person/situation unless I thought it was best for us to just part ways.

This.

If I was in the wrong I own up and apologize or make it right.

If they deserve it I can go cold and ignore with the best of them.

Still waiting to hear from my Libra guy. It's getting frustrating and I'm starting to make myself sick over it.

Last weekend I did not hear from him. He claimed his phone was having troubles after a few days when I finally heard from him. He said he knew he had some explaining to do. —?because he did not contact me all weekend or because something else is going on—?

He DID seem to have this trouble couple weeks before. (Not able to send texts). I'm starting to feel like this is bullshit.
Never heard from him. Then a couple days later he said he got his phone fixed and he wanted to come over to talk to me after I got home from work Friday evening. I said fine..I will be home. Sooo...on Friday evening I was waiting for him to stop by. He texted me asking me if I was home..I said yes, then he texted me asking if I got his texts from all day. He said he forgot it was his weekend with his daughter. Had been trying to text me all day. I'm not an idiot!! Why only get the texts he sends saying he is trying to text me rather than any other ones through the day. I tried calling him..because of course that would be logical right?? Instead of texting. No answer. He said he would call me when his daughter went to bed. I heard nothing. I texted him to tell him I am starting to feel like I'm being fucked with and to let me know when he is ready to talk to me.

Now all weekend I have been upset thinking he is dumping me. Maybe another woman? Things have been amazing with us (maybe mostly from my own eyes) and I am starting to really get worried I did something wrong although I know I haven't. Maybe he is just scared of a relationship with me, Im not right for him, met someone else, etc. All those crazy thoughts in my head.

I want to be patient as I know Libras need time but this is getting to me more than it should..or are my Scorpio instincts right?

To go from texting and talking EVERYDAY to nothing is really upsetting.

If I messed up..someone tell me please

Posted by Aramei
Never heard from him. Then a couple days later he said he got his phone fixed and he wanted to come over to talk to me after I got home from work Friday evening. I said fine..I will be home. Sooo...on Friday evening I was waiting for him to stop by. He texted me asking me if I was home..I said yes, then he texted me asking if I got his texts from all day. He said he forgot it was his weekend with his daughter. Had been trying to text me all day. I'm not an idiot!! Why only get the texts he sends saying he is trying to text me rather than any other ones through the day. I tried calling him..because of course that would be logical right?? Instead of texting. No answer. He said he would call me when his daughter went to bed. I heard nothing. I texted him to tell him I am starting to feel like I'm being fucked with and to let me know when he is ready to talk to me.

Now all weekend I have been upset thinking he is dumping me. Maybe another woman? Things have been amazing with us (maybe mostly from my own eyes) and I am starting to really get worried I did something wrong although I know I haven't. Maybe he is just scared of a relationship with me, Im not right for him, met someone else, etc. All those crazy thoughts in my head.

I want to be patient as I know Libras need time but this is getting to me more than it should..or are my Scorpio instincts right?

Man chica, I went through the same bs with my ex when the relationship started going down the tubes. This guy could very well be losing interest and could be contemplating what you're concerned about. Not getting texts and claiming the phone is acting up is probably now one of the most used excuses/lies. I don't blame you for wondering wtf is going on. I call bullshit, too.

But for now, just back off, do you and let him come to you. Worst case, brace yourself. You're seeing some pretty convincing signs. If you pay attention well enough, any woman can tell what's about to happen with a guy. I saw it a mile away from the ex when he started acting like this and I just gave him his space. Didn't prevent the break up, and I definitely wasn't about to claim that it came out of left field. :/

Oh, and in regard to the "hurting" bit, ironically, all this bs behavior started when I got pissed at him about him being a dick toward me about something. He came off kinda hypersensitive and distant after that.

I'm thinking he's done with you as well , not sure how much of an investment you have put into him but maybe it's better that things end now than later. And yes , by all means do not pursue him . If he is really into you , he will come chasing hard and when he does show him who's the boss . Otherwise , keep your dating options open and maybe you will find a better guy.

Thanks. I know that is probably the reality of it, just trying to hope for a different outcome. Been trying to prepare myself for the worst which I know is upsetting me about all of this.

Anyone know where I can buy some patience pills— :-)

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Posted by Theultra79
If I know I hurt someone and I feel like they didn't deserve it, I will come back and apologize. Depending on the situation, it could take a short time or a long time.

I wouldn't ignore the person/situation unless I thought it was best for us to just part ways.

This.

If I was in the wrong I own up and apologize or make it right.

If they deserve it I can go cold and ignore with the best of them.

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Thats exactly what I do if i did hurt someone they get a very sincere apology and I,ll do whatever it takes to make things right but if I spoke the truth and they ignore me then I can play that game very well also.. Some people get hurt easily by the truth but hey someone has to tell it to them especially when everyone else is beating around the bush

Posted by Aramei
Thanks. I know that is probably the reality of it, just trying to hope for a different outcome. Been trying to prepare myself for the worst which I know is upsetting me about all of this.

Anyone know where I can buy some patience pills— :-)

Wow. It's uncanny how it seems that most Libra men are so much alike. My Libra does that. I would agree that its nothing that you have done. Just fall back and get back to you. I am finding when I go back to being me and doing me then, I dnt know how to explain it except to say that somehow he senses it and all of a sudden he pops up again. When he does pop up, u have to decide weather you want to continue to deal with this type of behavior. I am still deciding myself. Good luck.

Wow. It's uncanny how it seems that most Libra men are so much alike. My Libra does that. I would agree that its nothing that you have done. Just fall back and get back to you. I am finding when I go back to being me and doing me then, I dnt know how to explain it except to say that somehow he senses it and all of a sudden he pops up again. When he does pop up, u have to decide weather you want to continue to deal with this type of behavior. I am still deciding myself. Good luck.

Posted by Aramei
How do Libs deal knowing they may have hurt someone emotionally? Do they hide until they have courage to confront?
Do they just ignore hoping it will blow over.

I suppose we deal with it like any other sign If you go out of your way to hurt others then I hope Miss Karma pays you a visit but ,I know very few people who actually do that and to be honest they;re pricks and deserve what life throws at them For people who don't do it intentionally hopefully they clue in to what they did and apologise and make things right. If they don't have a clue then they need to be clued in by someone .

I know I sound like some silly lovestruck teenage girl... in a way I am..it's a Libra man after all :-)

Sooo...yesterday he texts me after I said I felt like an idiot going off on him Friday night..had no reason to. Just upset that I didn't know what was going on. He texts me back saying no he was the idiot, I have every right to be upset with him. He is supposed to come over tonight to explain. I am SCARED, SCARED, SCARED!!! I am prepared for the worst but really don't want that to happen. I admire that he is wanting to do this face to face. I am just totally afraid of the big dump. Although probably inevitable. Being as there have been no other signs of communication from him to mend things.

Send me good thoughts..unless you Libras know something I don't know 😄

It's so weird how much this sounded like what happened between my ex and I. Hopefully it doesn't appear to be what it is. :/ Fingers crossed.

He was a no show again! I really don't know what to think about what is going on. I can only assume that he either doesn't want to see me anymore or there is someone else in his life now. Yet, he is sending me mixed messages about wanting to explain to me yet doesn't do it. I called him last night and no answer, this morning I texted him to tell him he was not being fair and that now he DOES owe me an explanation. I am not going to assume anything, I need to hear it from him.

I know Libras take time to figure things out..but this is strange to me. 😢

Rocky...what happened? Did you ever get an answer?
I am already prepared for the answer I am guessing it is, just want him to give it to me. He owes me that courtesy I would think.

I'm not going to bother him anymore, even though I do want an answer to his weird behavior. It hurts but I need to move on. Damn charming Libra men!! :-)

This is called the "Fade out"-we do it because we hate confrontation. I've been digging on a guy and my phone dies..I go to a payphone and call him or FB/Twitter.I have used the excuse (that my phone was dead)to not answer a call from someone I'm distancing myself from
I was surprised when you said he was coming over-b/c I wouldn't do that unless I was going to have the "Determine the Relationship" talk-whereas it's a good thing. I don't do face to face break ups unless it's with a fire sign and we're agrueing
There's more libras in the sea-cut him loose 😢

My last long relationship was with a Libra who did some messed up ish.. and we broke it off. She apologied many time for hurting me. I respected that. With that I was able to still be friends with her, because of her being an adult about what she did.

Posted by Aramei
Rocky...what happened? Did you ever get an answer?
I am already prepared for the answer I am guessing it is, just want him to give it to me. He owes me that courtesy I would think.

Nope. He just gave me the canned responses that are given during a break up ("I like you, but just as a friend." "Work is going to pick up and I won't have time, blah blah blah"). I really didn't get anything specific which was shitty because I'd like to know what happened so I can learn from my mistakes, you know? I could give him props for breaking up face to face, but the fact he couldn't get the balls to be honest about what was really going on made me lose a bit of respect for him.

Also, if this dick is indeed doing the classic, cowardly Libran move of running away without giving you answers, do your best to drop his ass and don't entertain any more notions of his. From the last update, the guy sounds like a pos. He can't even respect you or your feelings to give you an answer outright. All he does is leave you hanging and when he decides to sprout a pair, it's all talk and returns to no action.

I know the lack of answers will drive you nuts, but it helps to keep reminding yourself that he clearly doesn't respect you and WHY would you want someone like that around? Unreliable, disrespectful, and lack of common courtesy. You have better things to worry about.

Update!! I have some good news :-) Last week I finally got through to him that I needed to know what was going on. It was driving me crazy not knowing as the last time we had talked/saw each other in person things were well. He texted me saying he knew he had treated me shitty, just didn't want to drag me into his crap he was going through. I told him I was still his friend and if he wanted someone to talk to I was here to listen and also that whatever our relationship status was it should be MY decision on whether I wanted to deal with his crap.

He invited me over to talk, we had a good talk. Seems he was having so many issues he just retreated into his shell. I still don't feel it was right to ignore me but I can now understand his side. We had a great talk and I think it helped US. After our talk, he even asked me to be his girlfriend..a bit silly but a cute gesture.

Still taking things slow...I am trying to be patient and let him do what he needs to do, take the lead so to speak.

So far things are going well, I just have to get used to his airy nature.

Good luck. 🙂

Posted by JLwhittaker
Ew. Is there someone faker than libras? I wonder if they have a heart...

I can safely assume you are not a Libra.. lol

Posted by Theultra79

Posted by JLwhittaker
Ew. Is there someone faker than libras? I wonder if they have a heart...

Oh gawd. Lol.

I wish I didn't. How much easier would life be??

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Her comment didn't affect me. I thought it was funny. Maybe I don't have a heart! Lol

Hey Aramiei , good luck with this guy ...but really the dissapearing, then the 'No Show' and then asking you to be his boyfriend is really bad stuff. I would never do that to a girl I care for. You're a Scorp and you should easily be able to sense if this guy true and if he likes you , be careful

Posted by leoliza
Err, Libras don't run away without giving answers I'll have you know!

ummmmm yes they do, if u let them get away with it.

^ this

And she didn't let him get away with it 🙂 Bravo!

I'm being careful...really I am. I appreciate everyone's concern. I truthfully can say I sense some type of kindness in him. Whether it is genuine or not is yet to be seen. Yes, the disappearing and ignoring was a bit overboard and he DID confess to treating me shitty, he KNOWS he did.

I AM being careful, doing my own thing and letting HIM come to me if he wants to make this relationship work.

Not sure what else I can do *shrugs*. I really do like him and am just trying to give him another chance. Being a Scorpio we don't give up easily on things we want :-) If it doesn't work out then I can walk away saying I tried my best....how I do things anyway.

Posted by libragemmale
Hey Aramiei , good luck with this guy ...but really the dissapearing, then the 'No Show' and then asking you to be his boyfriend is really bad stuff. I would never do that to a girl I care for. You're a Scorp and you should easily be able to sense if this guy true and if he likes you , be careful

This. I'd be really turned off. Glad she got "good" news, but I'd be really wary and wonder how long THAT would last. Hence "good luck."

Unfortunately, Scorps seem to be obsessed with being in relationships. She's a tad too happy that he's saying what she wants to hear. I'd keep my distance a bit until he proves with actions that he's going to do what he says he'll do.

GREAT advice everyone. I am trying to step back and let him show me he is worth my time. :-)

Good thinking ! never forget you're a badass sexy Scorp gurl , he should be honored to even be in you're presence. There are probably a zillion other men that would love to date you .Make him work for it ! good luck