In Love with my Libra Best-Friend (Page 2)

grrr...i hate missing people. the libra's away this week for business and i miss him. that's so NOT me.

haha, let the withdrawl begin HP. I did the same,weird.

🙂 atleast I hope not LS. Aqua men are always "woe is me" IMO...they are babies for the most part in relationships gone bad (brood and pine shamelessly). But they arent that difficult IMO, atleast I know how to handle them 😉

awwww...i just got a phone call from him. it made my day.

at least until 4 pm - that's when i go to the dr. for a biopsy. 😢

biopsy?

Oh no! Are you okay HP?

My sister got hers done on Friday, it went well...she was out the same day and hardly any pain.

this will be my 2nd biopsy. the first one was scary, about 4 months ago. This biopsy is to make sure the treatment I've been on is working...little bit of pain, but not too too bad.

abt the statement for gemini. Gemini plays with everyone and does the same with libra without knowing how much they stimulate a libran brain. There is more intellectual attraction than a physical attraction btween gemini and libra. Gemini withdraws soon when libra is all lost in that vibration. and then libra chases gemini all around and bring them back. Gemini plays again as usual after sometime. They keep playing until they lose. But libra wont stop that play and let the gemini skip away. They make the gemini feel terribly guilty for all the playful nature. Finally gemini will give up and surrender.

i wonder what it says about libra.taurus

(((HP)))

I wish you the best of health. I am sorry to hear of your troubles.

awww, thanks, LP. It wasn't fun, but needs to be done. 🙂

WOW all that about the Aquarius and Libra is deep. There is a lot there, I see why I am so attracted to him. It sounds like we would make a good couple if we could get it together. It is so true about being mature. I think that is one of my problems. When you are being a mature adult you are forced to make hard decisions and live with them, and I am not sure I am ready to do all that yet. Another issue I have is with intimacy. I don't think I have every been intimate with anyone but my libra and we are just friends. He knows everything about me and I know everything about him but he is the only person who I have been able to open up to like that. I guess because our signs are so strong together, we get each other.

Libran. I do like him a lot, but I was playing the game and I should not have. I felt bad afterward and called him the next day. We talked just about all day and the next day also. He was really probing into my past relationships. In some respects what we have is so precious to me I don't want things to change because it is safer being friends. No one gets hurt, we don't argue and it is simple. He stopped seeing the other girl that he liked b/c she had a crazy ex that kept harrassing them. He said it was too much drama involved.

Well I am still supposed to go see him again the end of this month and I guess we will see how this works out.

Lady M
...My Libra refuses to tell me how he feels, BUT wants compliments about him doled out all the time...

I have a hard time giving compliments also. I know it is an aqua thing, but I think it may also be a way of protecting ourselves in a relationship. Maybe we don't feel secure or confident enough in the relationship to make ourselves this vulnerable. If Libra's like compliments, and we like Libra's, how do we get around this insecurity?

When I spoke to my Libra last, I tried to remember to tell him how attracted I was to him, but in the process of formulating my sentences in my mind I started panicking?. so I did not say anything... What is that?? Why is this so hard?

Hp74
I am sorry to hear about your health issues. I hope everything goes well with your biopsy.

?and I am glad you got to talk to your Libra. Isn't it crazy the way these guys make us crazy??

My Libra just called to and my day is good now, too.

Well Mr Libra asked me flat out today if I was physically attracted to him...since he already knew I like him for his humor, so I just said a flat out "YES"...and moved on.

He got the picture that I would avoid his inuendos, I think he needed the reassurance.

I always used to tell my friend who start wondering about being with a libran - "You will never see him beyond what he intends to show you unless you get married to him". Other than Air signs and Aries, please dont try this and then blame me. Close your eyes and go for a marriage just like that and then you will know what I mean by this. 😉

"I love the idea of telling him things that attract me to him, from Nicodemus.
All your ideas have been great and insightful. I am just trying to understand the Libra male, because although I know a few, I have never been able to figure them out and what works with them. As an Aquarius that bothers me. I like knowing all the answers and I feel if I analyze the situation enough I can figure it out. But this one is not going as smoothly as I see it being played out in my mind."

Don't over analyze it. From what I am gathering, with the statement he thought you were going to try something is just him seducing you. He just threw it out there to get your initial reaction, more importantly than what your actual response was, the energy you gave off. This is how we work, he is trying to get in your head "in a good way" and he is trying to get you to think you are the aggressor. This works on girls so that they start to think about it themselves, and the thinking turns to curiosity turns to hornyness and well it always seems to be the girl that made the move.

That is likely reading to far into it. Basically, he was just flirting with you. Unfortunately this is hard with Libra-Aquarius. Libras are really sly and use a lot of hidden/double meaning and Aquas are a little more up front so they don't always get it.

thelibran: youve got to give more detail than that!

nicodemus: My libra aint that slick...we get it...we just want to you to work a little harder than that, thats what makes libra-aqua difficult.

@ Libran. That was great and exactly what I needed. I understand in my own way what you are trying to say. The thing that makes it difficult and easy for us is that we have so much distance between us. So if we want to see each other it requires a lot of work, planning, travel, time etc. If he were here he would be mine. Actually at one point many years ago he was going to move here for a job, interviewed and all, but it fell through😢

@ Nicodemus....he is trying to get in your head "in a good way" and he is trying to get you to think you are the aggressor.

This is true. He always brags on the fact that he does not have to do much to get a woman to make the first move etc.. So I know this may be true but I have found myself at another dilemma. There is another woman and she is VERY AGGRESSIVE.

My Libra has been calling more lately b/c he had stopped talking to the other woman b/c of her crazy ex. Well she is back and playing mad mind game with him. Calling, leaving messages, crying saying how much she misses him and having her mother call him saying how depressed she is. So he is buying into all this like butter. So I try to probe and ask him how he feels about her. He says he likes her and has a lot of fun but it is too much drama. So I say that he seems to care deeply for her and he says he cares deeply for all his friends and will make up some example of how he cares about me. He kept doing that all last night whenever I was trying to get to the core of what is happening with this chic or what he is going to do. I am getting frustrated. I hate feeling like I am competing for a man's attention b/c I always seem to lose after exhausting myself over him. I am back at wanting to pull back, but I was planning to take Libran's advise and dive all in, like "what's up", but after our convo last night I am not sure.

I know that tension leads to attraction and obviously this chic does too. I think I may just have to take the back seat and let this one ride out until he gets tired again and he will come crying to me after this chic has broken his heart. He has done this 2x now in 6 years. I told him he picks the wrong girls and he IS still doing it!!

hmmm....my libra says he doesnt have to do much either, and by the time the girl knows it she's the one jumping him...

I told him that wouldnt work on me...he said he was up for the change, and maybe he just always winds up with sluts. LOL

Lady M

Yup.. That sounds just like a convo we had in the past...
I like to play the game for a little bit anyway. I will eventually get tired and give in but not within the first 6-months. Some girls are easier to conquer, I wonder if they like the chase or a woman who let's them know upfront she is easy to get. I guess there is some honesty in that and Libra men like honesty, supposedly.

Well my plans got cancelled to see my Libra this week bc of some issues on my end. Oah well. Maybe it's best. If it is meant to be it will all work out. Lately, he has been kind of distant anyway....

Anyway... where is everybody?? No one has been logging on to the Libra board lately. What is going on with everyone, DepressedAngel, Littlesparrow, Houstonpeach74, Nicodemus, TheLibran?

i've been reading this post and hae just realized my libra is using this same tricks on me, injecting the thoughts in my head and making me do the move...I am planning on giving him a hard time on this one, he tinks hes slick? I want him to work hard to ge me..lol

but how do i keep him interested though—

we're both still at a bay, since we both tend to analyze too much before we allow ourselves to fall completey. He said that too that he let few people in.

i love this website, people are too intelligent and have really good analytica skills, you people are almost like psychologist!

libra does that "injecting thought" and "making them think" to every single person he know. Not just in romance matters. We dont carry the idea of giving advice. Instead we prefer them to think on their own and we give suggestions and opinions. Sometimes we even manipulate an individuals normal thinking routine and make them think on our ways. 😉

am very much alive aquabrat. Thanks... 🙂 lazy and was hiding under pillow for a while and once in a while coming out and watching old hitchcock and kurasawa movies. Scouting new job and wondering which country to go next. Indecisive .... pure indecisive... hahaahaha... for couple of weeks i didnt heard from anyone in this board...neither from my libran friends... seems like many went through yet another phase.

silly censoring of words... cant even type hitchc_ock ...lol..

how do i keep him interested though—

Be clever.

Okay, so I went to see my Libra. Things worked out in the 9th hour and I went. WOW! We had a really really good time. We hung out with one of his friends and I had the BEST time. Of course, like always, he told me he loved me in the car and this time I said why... he spouted off things about my hair, laugh, years we have known each other, things we have been through together... that was not exactly what I wanted to hear but it was okay. He flirted with me the whole time, and then as he was leading me to the highway so I could leave he calls my cell and tells me I am going to be mad at him.. I said for what and after while of me having to play Sherlock Holmes he says he wanted to kiss me.... WHY NOW? We had been together all day and he did not say anything. He did that to me the last time I was there. Started talking seriously at the end of the day. But anyway. He is having relations with this other chic, but swears they are not serious. I just got off the phone with him and it is the first time we spoke since I got home Wednesday night. At first he was kind of distant and as the conversation went on I asked him about the "kiss" thing, he said he had thought about it a lot of times throughout the day but he was a wimp. Then he quickly changed the subject. I have never met a man like him before. He and his friend I met are exactly the same. Down to earth, humble, sweet, respectful and fun. I was amazed. I am not sure what to do next. I want to talk about us, but when we just spoke I did not feel like he wanted to open up to me, he was on his way to DJ an event and was a little distant. At least now, we have opened up the conversation for more. It was not there before. Any advice.

sweetest_gemini
i love this website, people are too intelligent and have really good analytical skills, you people are almost like psychologist!

I feel exactly the same way. This is what was missing from my life! People who actually know what they are talking about.

How do you guys get those smiley faces to come up??

thelibran
You sound kinda down. How can you hope to maintain a relationship traveling so much?

(((thelibran
You sound kinda down.))) hahahaha... on the contarary am in good spirits for last few days. i was down. guess the shadow is still falling on my words..
am single for past 18 months. Unable to start a relationship due to my travelling. Its going to be my 4th job/country/city in 2 years span. Recently my pisces friend adviced me to settle down somewhere and then think about a girl. I have to stop this moving around business or find some girl who can travel with me in this speed. Thinking about it depresses me way too much. I just cant help. 😢

:+) gives smile...
;+) gives wink
:+( sad

just like any IM short cuts.

Thank you. This is my first experience with IM or message boards:+)

No worries man, things will work out. 18 months IS a long time though...

🙂 OOPS!

It looks like I opened a can of worms with letting everyone in on the little suggestive mind control secret. Someone commented earlier that maybe were just with easy girls. Sometimes that is the case, but usually we make reserved girls easy, it's the whole I'm making you think about it without you knowing thing that brings out their aggressive side.

aqua, as always the librans can give the best advice about the Libras... I agree with the stroking the ego thing. I know that is a necessity. As I am a scorp. I enjoy stoking a man's ego that I care about and since most of my past relationships has been with a Libra male. I have become a professional. Even the smallest compliments are noticeable to them.

Libra men are very physical initailly, so aqua they are attracted to physical beauty definitely. The intelligence is what keep them going after the newness of the beauty might die down or another beauty comes along. You must keep him stimulated intellectually and he loves to talk about himself. He loves to give advice and most times has excellent advice - could be another ego booster...

Queen is right about the need for ego stroking. It is so veign but so true. My last relationship was with a Virgo girl and she knew this and was very adamant about not stroking my ego. Last week we were having a conversation about this and she was telling me how proud of herself she was about not stroking my ego because she thinks this need I have for it is silly, maybe even weak. The conversation went like this.

Her: "Doesn't this girl you are interrested in realize that not stroking your ego is the best thing for you?"
Me: "I hope not 🙂"
Her: "Yeah well at least you never got that from me."
Me: "You stroked my ego more than any girl I have ever been with (devilish smile)"
Her: "How is that? (look of anger)"
Me: I just started reciting with perfect accuracy all of the stuff that has come out of her mouth in the bedroom.
Her: Oh my god! (she was pissed but gave me that nieve childish smile and laugh that makes Virgos drive me nuts)

If we need an ego stroking, we'll find a way to get it.

lol that is bad!!!

She didn't know what she was in for. She was extremely well requlated in day to day life and in that area she was right, she was perfect about it in a way only a virgo could be. She never realized that behind the bedroom door, once under my spell the appreciation just shot from her mouth. I never said anything about it knowing that it was all the ego stroking I was gonna get and I wasn't going to jeopardize it. The irony in all of this is that when a compliment comes from a virgo, since they are so candid and exact in their vocabulary it is worth like 10 compliments from anyone else.

sneaky!! I like it.....did you compliment her though? I find that with my LIbran friend I can compliment as much as he can take - and believe me, he can take it but he doesnt give many back - I am a Leo damnit!!! I need it too LOL

Okay.. no ya'll didn't take it back to my original message... What is up with that??

we may have gotten sidetracked somehow *blushes*

I am a whole lot drunk.. 2 long islands and I am finished.. plus my libra called while I was out and I just called him back and told him to bring his butt where I am so I can put a hurting on him.. he started flirting with me first.. so I finished it for him. I am in complete control over him.. he was heading into a party and said he would call me later.. not sure if he will.. but it was fun while it lasted.. the flirtin'.. he was drunk too.. vodka and cranberry...

Let me see Chatz.. I need to read though this and see what is going on.. are ya'll taken by nicodemus or what?? He has brought out a whole new side to you ladies..

yes he's brought the badness out hehehehe....aqua he WILL call 🙂...I had the same experience just over a week ago and knowing you want him will drive him insane tonight....he will do his best to call and/or get his butt over 🙂 you go girl~!!!

Us? bad? what about you— a few drinks and see what naughty situations you get into—? sheesh!!!

Nicodemus.."I just started reciting with perfect accuracy all of the stuff that has come out of her mouth in the bedroom"

Okay see.. where did you come from and can we clone you?? Cuz that is some creative sh** that I need in my life.. give me some stimulation in a bland world.. Yes, I am a bit tipsy so take everything I say with a grain of salt.. or whatever that means... not literally.. you're probably married or something.. but anyway.. great work.. I Love it!

Intelligence is everything.. being smart is okay too, but applying it is the key!

He is too far, but don't I wish... that is my sweety!

oooooh I do like this side of the Brat - hehehehe

I already know.. a few drinks and it gets bad over here.. that is why I am glad we live so far away from each other.. even though his boy was in the car saying.. Yeah, lets go.. hey, I could find his boy someone interesting too.. but it may be a " til' the cops come knockin'" for us so he may not want to go there... it may be a long time til he see's daylight.

awwwwww get him to get his butt into a supersonic plane and get there or else!!!

Sorry Chatz and all you fine libra's and libra lovers.. I am usually very normal and conservative.. it's just been a long year!

oh but I do like the tipsy Brat indeed.....don't you dare be sorry!!! Not one little bit...welcome to my normal world *laffs*