is it normal for libra to remain friends with their ex? (Page 2)

I’m Libra, and yes I’m cool with a lot of my ex’s not because I want them in a romantic way, but simply because they are cool people in general just not for me romantically.

HOWEVER, if I’m in a new relationship I don’t text or call any of my ex’s out of respect for the new man in my life. If I see an ex out while I’m with my man, I’ll speak. I wont hug him or anything but I wont act like he doesn’t exsist either. Just a friendly “hello”, and that’s it.
Now when I’m not in a relationship, my ex’s may text me on some casual stuff, nothing sexual or romantic because they know I’m not having it.

Posted by Arielle83
Maybe op is against it cuz she would still wanna bone her exes. Projection?

I'm really good friends with an ex from when I was 17. We still talk and he wears a ring that I gave him when we were kids. He never takes it off cuz we were so close. That was 16 years ago.

He's dumped every chick that's demanded he take it off. The only chick he's stayed with is the one who hasn't cared about it. She's 7 years older and they've been together for years now. So I'm guessing with age comes wisdom and respect.

You can't demand shit of ppl. You'll look crazy.

you don't have to assume anything, i'm here, you can ask my all the questions that you please, i will answer them. i don't want to "bone" any of my exes. in all honesty, not trying to be rude or sarcastic, i dont think about them at all, honestly, i really dont. i dont care about how they are doing, im sure they are doing fine. they are exes for a reason, we didnt work, we didnt get along, i cant tolerate negative people in my life who do not make me better.

this post was aimed directly towards libras. i know they cant stand conflict, i get that, i was just wondering their logic in keeping someone around who they didnt work out with, the past is the past for a reason. i have lost many friendships, and thats okay, its healthy, its normal. you learn, you grow. but libras tend to always aim towards remaining friends, but for life. a couple libra "exes" of mine still text or message me, years later. i dont answer, im sorry. theres no point in "catching up". years have gone by, you know how much catching up that is? i just dont want to be in their life anymore. its over. get over it.

im sorry that my logic may have offended you? it seems that way apparently.
good luck to your ex, you, and your next relationship.

@arielle83, i would not use the "term" demanding, it sounds like you are making me out to be a controlling monster, its not like that at all, i can assure you. however, if i was in a relationship with someone who was still communicating with an ex, of course i have the right to state my opinion and feelings towards this situation. however he handles it, is his choice, i would never force him to stop talking to someone or give him an ultimatum. if someone ever bothered me that much that i couldnt tolerate it, i would leave and find someone who i am more compatible with and who is on the same page with me.

i dont have time to linger in the past. its actually very simple. there are 7 billion people in the world, i will find someone who i am most happily compatible with. thanks for your input and effort into trying to change my logic, but its alright, really, on to the next.

if something ever bothered *

@arielle83 you still don't understand why is bothers me? I tried to make it clear, you can ask me specific questions and i will try to answer them clearer so that you can understand.

Posted by Arielle83
Maybe op is against it cuz she would still wanna bone her exes. Projection?

I'm really good friends with an ex from when I was 17. We still talk and he wears a ring that I gave him when we were kids. He never takes it off cuz we were so close. That was 16 years ago.

He's dumped every chick that's demanded he take it off. The only chick he's stayed with is the one who hasn't cared about it. She's 7 years older and they've been together for years now. So I'm guessing with age comes wisdom and respect.

You can't demand shit of ppl. You'll look crazy.

i would agree age does come into play. I know younger posters are going to be offended by that statement, but hopefully they will see that life is not so black and white.

Women change somewhere around 25/26 then again mid 30's. They won't see stuff the same as they did when they where 25 or 32-35. Wait and see, life has such amazing things in store.

side note- I have a band from an old friend of mine, i have known him since i was 15. Never had a romantic thing with this friend, he helped me through a very rough time in my life when i first got sober and it has a ton of meaning behind it. i will never get rid of it. i have been asked by a few guys i dated about it and they didn't really comment one way or the other when they found out about it. I'm also an Aqua.

I'm not a libra but I feel like I am a libra moon and honestly I TRY to be on good terms with my ex's. I don't talk to ex's that I later realized I had nothing in common with, but I also wouldn't ignore them if they wanted to talk. Basically I have no feelings left for them in a romantic sense but there will always be things that attract me to them in general, I did date them for a reason. Maybe If I just went around dating people without thinking about compatibility whatsoever then I may not care to keep in touch after a breakup. Not saying that is what you do. Personally I put my heart and soul into a relationship and to do that for any amount of time only to completely cut ties with someone is just a waste. I think if you break up on bad terms its important to clear the air eventually if not try to be there for one another genuinely if they ever need you. Like I said I don't have lunch or even talk with many people ive dated but from time to time I'll think of them and im happy that we didn't end on bad terms and i know that if I ever wanted to contact them for whatever reason, my message would be welcomed. I didn't read through this whole thread because it was really long so I'm not sure if you are typically breaking up over something negative and maybe that's what makes you not want to continue any contact. To me, every relationship is a learning opportunity, I learn about myself, about how others perceive me or my thoughts and emotions at least, it gives me a lot of helpful information for finding an even better match. So for that I am grateful and even if my exes don't hold the lessons of our relationship in as high esteem, it doesn't change my appreciation for them having been in my life and sharing experiences with me.

Sorry
**I AM a Libra moon, typo on the first sentence.

Posted by mysteriousTaurus
i have the right to state my opinion and feelings towards this situation. however he handles it, is his choice, i would never force him to stop talking to someone or give him an ultimatum.

Posted by mysteriousTaurus

Is it wrong to demand exes shall be cut off while pursuing a committed relationship?

You are totally backpedaling and contradicting yourself now. Do you realize how utterly crazy you're sounding in this entire thread? I'm sorry things aren't working out to YOUR expectations and demands with your Libra, but you need to calm your fucking tits already. You sound like a raving lunatic.

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Posted by MiZLeo
Yeah, I'm still friends with my Libra ex, and I know I'm not the only ex of his that he still talks to.

That's fucking retarded

Posted by mysteriousTaurus
I hope all you understand you will never meet and settle down with a loyal and mature partner. If your partner is okay with you talking to your ex then she/he is doing the same thing as well. Enjoy your 4some!

Posted by mysteriousTaurus
Do anyone of flirt with them though

Posted by mysteriousTaurus
It is disrespectful, and everyone here thinks I'm crazy for thinking it's wrong to talk to your ex while with someone else....

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The only disrespectful one here is you. You're arguing with everyone who isn't telling you it's okay to be some insecure crazy ho. You demand that they respect YOUR feelings, but you have zero respect for their life and the people that they keep. If it doesn't match up to your personal standards, they have to change.

How about your silly, narrow minded self learn to grow up and work on those pathetic insecurities, huh?

I'll not even reading that lol ^

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by mysteriousTaurus
@arielle83 you still don't understand why is bothers me? I tried to make it clear, you can ask me specific questions and i will try to answer them clearer so that you can understand.

Dude get a grip. You don't see my point. You just see yours. So you made this thread to tell people you're right and they're wrong.

This whole thread is you asking a question and people telling you adult relationships have variance and it's circumstantial and you're claiming it's black and white. An ex is an ex for a reason. You come across as if it's your way or the highway.

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Get a grip? ..