Leo woman needing help on my Libra situation!

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leogirlxoxo
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13 Years

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Libra & I (Leo) were dating for ten months. First eight months were great. We both fell so hard for each other at the same time, our humor matches perfectly the same. Him and I used to never need to go out to enjoy each other's company. We both had loves before, but ours felt true. Mostly great.
And then he started to get all weird. Him and his parents started to fight more, him and I got to see each other less and less. It was hard on us. And then I became clingy as he was going through this "funk." But I stayed with him. As much as he didn't smile as much or attempt to hang out as much. I'll admit, I was pretty clingy due to my fear. But his anger got worse. But he never took it out on me. He would tell me that he was unsure about if he loved me one night, and then he told me he still did the next. Although he was still acting funny. Those last two months were the worst. Then I broke it off when he ignored me for a week. All I did in the last conversation we had before he ignored me was I was trying to make him laugh. So it was rough.
A month after the breakup, I tried talking to him. Convo was short, and he ended it in the middle. He didn't seem to be doing much better.
Then two more months pass by, and he texts me. To check up on me. Convo was great. He even told me that i was never the reason why he was depressed, but he is back to his old self now because all he needed was to understand how to go about his anger. But we were making jokes like we always did. I missed him. And then i got turned off when he started bringing up the "friend" thing. So, although he said that him & I should hang out, I ignored it. I stopped talking to him so much.
A couple weeks pass by (to now), and he texts me asking to get some lunch. And that conversation was great as well. A few days after, we go to lunch. It was scary at first, but we talked and joked around the entire time until we HAD to go. Was so nice.
When I left, he texted me right away. A joke that him & i know would only appreciate. Then he asked to hang out again two days later. Him and I texted the rest of that day and all day the next. My nerves from how the the relationship ended is getting to me. I'm paranoid the whole way through, but our conversation still flows and we still learn new things about each other. Then the day we're supposed to hang out (today) but issues arose. Him and I have texted all day, but it is less consistent.
Idk what to do. Because I want things to work out again. Help?
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rockyroadicecream
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Just go with it and keep an eye out for telltale signs. I don't blame you for being paranoid. I was the same way with my ex when we were on speaking terms briefly.

Anyway, the only thing that pops up to me is that Libra guys, when broken up WITH, come back around because they don't think things are finished. They want to give it another go to see if things have truly run their course. That said, I'd only be wary of that because you could see repeat behavior and/or him deciding to cut it off. It's kinda like if they don't call it quits, then it's not finalized in their minds and they want to decide if the relationship will work or not. Not you.

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celticlioness
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Just go with it and keep an eye out for telltale signs. I don't blame you for being paranoid. I was the same way with my ex when we were on speaking terms briefly.

Anyway, the only thing that pops up to me is that Libra guys, when broken up WITH, come back around because they don't think things are finished. They want to give it another go to see if things have truly run their course. That said, I'd only be wary of that because you could see repeat behavior and/or him deciding to cut it off. It's kinda like if they don't call it quits, then it's not finalized in their minds and they want to decide if the relationship will work or not. Not you.



I agree with this. He is coming back around to check how things may pan out for him but also to keep with the friendship thing that he does want if he decides he doesn't want a romantic relationship, he wants to decide what way your relationship will be. You are of course giving him the friendship thing now with the constant texting, stop it, don't carry on all day long texting, if he texts, you answer, and then cut the convo short if it looks like turning into an all day banter session, he is trying to rebalance himself - Libra does this, my ex one did, he didn't get very far in re-tipping those scales.