Libra Male

Know ur Boy Friend Libran man who can be active or passive, will be laid-back, indecisive and fluctuate between love and sex in his head, easy-going, well mannered and everybody's friend. Someone with wit and humour, who curves through life rather than angles through it. He is essentially a relaxed man who is fair and lovely about the world and naturally charming with every female he meets.

He needs harmony, beauty and idealistic truth in his life. For him, life has to fulfill dreams of romance, particularly when love and sex are involved. But this is where he gets confused. Not because he's a soppy sentimentalist, far from it, but because he thinks sex is love and love is sex. You just can't have one without the other, it wouldn't be fair. This sociable man needs and demands a lot of friends of both sexes.

If you get involved with a Libra be prepared to tolerate all the other female friends he spoils. Some of them may be ex-lovers that he hasn't quite decided whether to see again or not. But there are times when a Libran won't be forced into making a decision at all and, when it comes to any conflict, emotional or physical, he would rather walk out than fight. The eternal problem for Librans is not making a decision. What bugs him is why he has to make a choice about commitment in his relationship, because essentially he hates to reject anything, and that mostly includes his freedom. He can fall instantly in love, but he falls in love with the essence of the affair, rather than the girl. The face value of the romance is all that matters to him initially.

He is attracted to the appearance of life, not any underlying spiritual meaning. He loves the romance of sex, the caresses, the body language, the first meetings. Sexually his head rules his body. This sexual egalitarian is wonderful lover and romantic, but remember, he can fall out of love as easily as he fell into it.

If there is anything this man loves, it is romance. He thrives on it actually. Normally he is extroverted, but even if he is more introverted, his eyes give away his romantic nature. Second to his love of romance, he is concerned with principles and has some very strong opinions as to how a relationship should or should not be. The ritual of courtship is something he understands completely. In fact, it is in the midst of courtship that he seems to shine the most. It's when it moves into the stages of intimacy that he sometimes has a problem. This is because he is more idealistic than realistic and has a problem working on a relationship if it shows signs of conflict and disharmony.

He needs a person in his life who knows how to create a relationship rooted in harmony and equality. Never comfortable making all of the decisions, he is drawn to a mate who is decisive. His emotional extremes can be apparent at times, but he would much rather discuss them than be by himself. As a mate he is exceptionally good at listening to logic, but overly emotional displays are sure to unglue him. A good start is to be gracious, friendly, light-hearted, lovely and delightful. He desires a relationship that honors his need for perfect harmony, balance and equality in a relationship. Being beautifully groomed and feminine in appearance is always a plus, as he has a keen eye for aesthetics and enjoys all that is invested in the female image. One thing he is definitely not crazy about is abrasive, loud or overly aggressive types. So if you are doing the asking, do it in a very soft way.

He is a romantic and loves a companion who indulges him. Social events are always a pleasant arena, but so are candle light dinners for two. Ambiance counts. He wants to show you what a perfect gentleman he is, so let him. Libra men don't like vulgarity in any form. Dress tastefully, and do use your flower scented perfume. He loves women who dress up, wear jewelry, use makeup, and are happy being feminine. He is fascinated with fantasy, including sexual fantasy. Don't discuss your recent love life. Don't be argumentative, Libra males hate conflict. You can discuss your latest painting, the last book you read, or what your plans are for interior decorating. Libra males love cozy fires, and sensuous females near it. Fore play is a big high for Libra males.

Your Sexual side Librans are blessed with enormous charm and sexual charisma. Libra is a sensual and generous lover who has deep desire to satisfy and please their lover in bed. They are flirtatious by nature and masters in lovemaking. The Libran sexuality is the pursuit of pleasure.

For Librans everything surrounding sex must be beautiful and harmonious. Sights, sounds, smells, a romantic movie, candlelight dinner, music by the fireplace, exhibitionism, erotica, mirrored ceilings, massage oils, perfumes, colognes, sadomasochism etc. all arouse Libran senses as they make the creative pursuit of the pleasurable life an art form. They like to be spoiled with gifts and other sexual/romantic rituals. Their desirable partners must be agile, alert, aggressive, have a vivid fantasy life, be creative and imaginative, have a gift of gab and be sexually exciting.

Libras are often very attractive and equally sophisticated. They hate upsetting anyone and will be the first to back down in an argument. They can be exhibitionists but loveable all the same. Libras are extremely romantic and have a lot of love to give. You need to drown your intended in love and affection - they want nothing more than your undying love. Libras see physical contact as the ultimate sign of attraction, so smooth that imaginary eyelash from their cheek, touch their arm as you talk and soon they'll be all yours, to have and to hold. Be kind and understanding, always let them know that you need their advice about something as that flatters their egos, show that you are interested in the arts, make sure you share a calm, relaxed life and pamper your Libran lover in every way possible. The more a Libra shares their innermost thoughts, the happier he or she is. As they begin to return your compliments and confess their secrets, you'll realise just how hooked your Libra lover is. Libras love to cuddle. They are happiest when they're snuggled up to that special someone. Cook them a candlelit meal and then sink into the sofa to watch their favourite film. Some people born under this sign tend to be rather insincere. So eager are they to achieve harmony in all relationships that they will even go so far as to lie. Many of them are escapists. They find facing the truth an ordeal and prefer living in a world of make-believe.

uh huh

***For him, life has to fulfill dreams of romance, particularly when love and sex are involved. But this is where he gets confused. Not because he's a soppy sentimentalist, far from it, but because he thinks sex is love and love is sex. You just can't have one without the other, it wouldn't be fair. This sociable man needs and demands a lot of friends of both sexes.***

Okay, I beg to differ. I know quite a few who can separate sex from love. However, depending on who they are dealing with it can confuse them, but they are very capable of knowing the difference.

The rest is pretty much true.

Well, after a good week with new Mr.Libra (and the first) he hasnt been in touch with me all over the weekend. I dont know what do, i mean to leave him to his silence or just ask in a lighthearted fashion if he?s ok? I sms him on Saturday afternoon to ask whether he wanted to meet anytime soon, but i never heard back from him. Is this a major "im-no-longer-interested" sign. Personally, its not a libra tactic i ever use, to just leave someone out cold, but alas, i always fail to see the bad stuff, damn!! 😢

Sola, sounds familiar. Just a few days gone by is probably no big deal, when it gets to five, you can wonder. But, as you probably know from reading Chatz posts, mine and others, these critters can disappear for days at a time then get back to you like nothing happened---they lose track of time, sometimes not even know what day or hour it is. TOO SOON in my opinion to know if he's no longer interested. Actually even too soon for MOST signs---even as an Aries, after having an exciting week with you, I'd probably have to catch up with other things in my life and get back to you mid week or so.

exactly! Do your own things and temporarily forget him , it 's hard for you but try anyway! Besides , I m sure there s so much more to do , to learn than waiting for a man --my own viewpoint 🙂

Does it ever occur to any of you that we want you to get in touch with us?

We are not that sure of ourselves also. We cannot rock the boat, take that risk and potentially lose you. We'd rather take the hint that you no longer want us because you're not getting in touch with us.

I know Libra but the girl has already contacted him a few times/ week and they are new so a step back wont hurt . Let him do a little work in the beginning and share the contact 50/50 will make him feel safe and appreciate you more. Later , when the connection is deeper , then calling him a bit more will make him feel loved and cared for but at her stage , it 's still early I think 🙂
Actually , I think most of us are afraid alot during courtship , not just Libras , we think we might look too eager and needy but I usually just go with how I feel till I met him , I learnt a few new things 🙂

"Does it ever occur to any of you that we want you to get in touch with us?" Hello NO!!!! We'd NEVER know!!! jeeeeeeeeeeeze LOL (actually I have to say that may be true as I always, when I feel I may be contacting too often, say "I will leave it to you when we hook up next, I feel like Im being a nuisance"...he will come back and say "but you're not being a nuisance, its always nice to hear from you")...Grrrrrrrrr why wait until we feel like we are being one before you put our fears to rest— talk about hard work!!!!

I have to say yet again, and this must be the 100th time I've gone through this....let him come to you....if you have made the last contact and he didn't reply YET— keep busy...if he's into you, he WILL communicate!! time doesnt seem to have much meaning to these guys - sorry guys, but its true!!!

Just for the record....I totally avoided mine over the past 6-7 days...no communication, no msn, no email, no phonecall, no text.....he's not used to my quietness, normally I make some sort of contact....HE has,over the past couple of days made ALL of the effort and Im loving it!!! Its soothing, its relaxing and its not worrying LOL....OMG is all I can say...is it all it took? being even more elusive and aloof than him— wholly shamolly!! Its only taken me 7 freaking months to realise this guy is into me but he wants me to stop chasing so he can!!! LMAO...oh and Im seeing him tomorrow - wooohooo!!!

Sola...chill out...let him do the work, seriously 😛

That's right! We WANT to grovel and do all the hard work. Then we feel alive and there is a sense of accomplishement.

Excellent!

Oh and he'd also feel like a nuisance if he got in touch too often. This is where you have to find a balance that works for you two. The dynamics will be different for every two people. And you have to understand these dynamics and then work with them. Until it becomes effortless and 'hard work' no longer exists e.g. you're in tune with each other.

yeah I can see that LIbra....it has taken so much time to understand his ways!! 2 days in a row he made such an effort after hardly any contact for a week...today Im avoiding again as I know I will see him tomorrow night...he will no doubt text me some time tomorrow for the nitty gritty of our meet up 🙂 Everything is slowly falling into place and Im gradually finding peace in knowing he's not going anywhere, that he needs time apart, he really does need to miss me and then he comes searching again.....finally it all makes sense!!! Its certainly not perfect in my eyes but again, Im at peace with it...I think 😛

See, a happy Libra is not like that (a happy one is pretty full on) so there are issues that your Libra might be working through, desperately trying to find his happy place again. To give you his best, of course...

What I find myself do a lot is seek solitude to assess how I feel by listening to my body & mind. And that does not mean that I sit & think non-stop but it is a time thing. It is like the surface water of the ocean I await what feelings come floating on top after a certain amount of time e.g. which feeling stays down at the bottom and which one comes back up to the surface - it is not forced or at least I cannot force it. We cannot sit on a chair and 'feel' and then know that that is how we feel. We have to wait until time tells us and our body feels accordingly. That's what I have.

And maybe when he has been deeply hurt before meeting you, the hurting has to fade away. And he keeps seeking solitude for a couple of days - perhaps after seeing you and you making him happy - to see what comes up to the surface e.g. happy or sad, after a period of time.

Another interesting insight point , dear Libra . So you mean if a Libra is very happy with you , he will contact you every day and tell you his feeling all the time ? 🙂

could be...hopefully its happy feelings but like I said...at the moment he's putting in more effort than I am and Im going to keep it that way. He's really staying off his singles sites too (omg shock, horror) and starting to emerge out of his lonely existance again...nice to see. He continually seeks confirmation that I find him sexy, etc...dunno what's in that apart from his insecurity re: his past relationship...yes from what I can gather, a lot of pain but perhaps he had a lot to do with it too - who knows...but she didn't like him touching her in the last couple of years they were together (something Im sure he would have found very difficult as he is very touchy/feely/cuddly) so he's always looking for assurance that its a wanted thing and I ALWAYS have to break the ice with that..but then he's ok, trust me LOL. Over the past month especially I have seen dramatic changes in him...he's coming out of his shell more...its been almost 2 years since his last r/ship ended...maybe he's realising or maybe its my imagination but Im liking the new him....maybe its that re-inventing thing happening.

Dunno but hopefully he will be "full on" in the future. Im not going to delude myself in the meantime though....we all know from all the posts I've placed on this board, that he's not at all in his "happy place" yet...*thinks positive*

A happy Libra who has an object of affection cannot stay away. And I think we go with the other person's flow as to how often we communicate and meet because we want to get it right. So that we don't risk losing you.

We don't talk about our feelings. Not verbally anyway, only when the stakes are high will we say "...but I love you" otherwise we don't feel the need. Then the state of happy bunny is what you need to look for and will be hard to miss.

Chatz - keep being more aloof than he is. But then when you ARE together be the loveliest, most affectionate, highly interested girl you can be. Then go away again until he initiates again.

Thanks Libra, I will do that 🙂 For now I am going to go and get some beauty sleep so that I can be the "loveliest, most affectionate, highly interested girl" hehehehe....oh and I already have loads of plans for the rest of the week and weekend which will most definitely make me the most aloof girl around too. Its a balancing act!!! always did want to run away to the circus LOL.

Hmmm still sometimes I do wonder why he keeps coming back...I really wonder....but *yawns*...its time for me to stop wondering and get some zzzzzzz's. Have yourselves a lovely Tuesday...its Wednesday for me in less than 2 hours - weird this!!!

Well, i couldnt stay away being Libra and all...i just said "how are my friend?!" and he responded within the minute..heehee 🙂 Well, i didnt suggest we should meet or whatever, but he did, so that made me happy. I guess i want it all too soon, instead of enjoying the initial "courting ritual" that we Libras love?? I know better than to rush into things, i just cant help it when i like someone. Anyway, i?ll `probably be a bit of a regular around here for the next few weeks..up and down like yo-yo!!

"Your Sexual side Librans are blessed with enormous charm and sexual charisma. Libra is a sensual and generous lover who has deep desire to satisfy and please their lover in bed. They are flirtatious by nature and masters in lovemaking. The Libran sexuality is the pursuit of pleasure."

Nothing to comment really. I just love this paragraph...😉

LOL LP!!!

Yes baby, you are a true Libra 🙂

Heehee, i cant wait to see him, but i dont know when that will be..sooner than later i hope!! 🙂I hope he stays over, not for dirty stuff, just because we can be together for longer...ahhhhhh!!

What should we do...there?s not much to do here, but i think we should go and see the new Mr Bean film, at least that will make us laugh and then we can just go with the flow afterwards...god, can you even imagine the indecisiveness between the two of us?!!!

""Your Sexual side Librans are blessed with enormous charm and sexual charisma. Libra is a sensual and generous lover who has deep desire to satisfy and please their lover in bed. They are flirtatious by nature and masters in lovemaking. The Libran sexuality is the pursuit of pleasure."

Oh so true!

Sola:What do you want to do?
Libra:I dunno. What do you want do?
Sola:Um, I dunno. Have any suggestions?
Libra:Hmm...I'll do whatever you want to do. What do you want to do?
Sola:I dunno, what do you want to do.....

Lol

Then we end up going shopping!

Sola:What do you want to do?
Libra:I dunno. What do you want do?
Sola:Um, I dunno. Have any suggestions?
Libra:Hmm...I'll do whatever you want to do. What do you want to do?
Sola:I dunno, what do you want to do.....

Lol, I have learned from experience that after two reciprocating "whetever you want to do's" to just be decisive on one of the options and just go with it.

me: "We could do this or that, which would you prefer?"
Alcheme "I don't don't mind baby, what do you want to do more?"
Me "Both......long pause....ok, well do this because that closes at this time then we'll go get food and go do that."
Alcheme "ok"

And solved. lol. Then we fool around, go get food and only have time left to do the first thing. Then we do the other thing next time and life is good.

There is a silver lining in the Libras tactic of off and on. Our lives need to be balanced. I am realizing with myself as my ambitions get more solidified that not only do I need to put equal effort and energy into the areas important to me, but there is a personal aspect that I am sure other Librans share. We will call it "equal effort".

Say I spend a very exclusive several romantic days. I am attentive, motivated, passionate and above all else focused on the other person. Well, afterwards I get this feeling reactionary inner voice of responsibility like "ok, if you can put that much into this, you can put that much effort into that."

Equaling work, chores and other responsibilities, personal affiliations and the like. It's not really all that reasonable of a feeling, but it is a pretty strong feeling. The opposite is also true though, and it seems like some of your libras are neglecting it and that is; If I put some serious hard focus into work and the like, then I feel a personal responsibility to balance it out by redirecting that same level of effort and duty into my personal love relationship as well. It works both ways. It is also progressive, the harder and more sincerely I try and do, the harder I want to. This underlying feeling that I am never doing as much as I could be, even though those around me can see that I am doing everything I reasonably and literally can.

Damn that Mars and Libra in Virgo......always trying to "Maximize" everything. I also get a strong sense of apathy when I have necessary or unavoidable down time. Like when I have completed "ab and c" and have to just wait for "xy and z" with nothing I can really do any further in the mean time

Irishlibra, that really sucks and i know you?ll be hurt as hell. But, you might as well deal with it now, instead of it hanging like a weight round your neck for another 10 years. Sometimes, these are blessings in disguise.

Everyone else...heehee: as long as we?re together, I dont care what we do!! He has 2 dogs and there is a gorgeous park with a lake not too far from here...im going to suggest we go there with the dogs for a picnic...is that too romantic already? Mybe he?ll get scared?!!! 🙂

Sola Libras have no fear of romance. If anything were afraid of commitment and loss of personal freedom. I don't think a romantic picknick in the park counts towards either of those two.

I have no fear of committment Nic, but I do have a severe problem being faithful. I hate it, but i just cant help myself. But once i meet someone i really like though...like this one🙂, then i settle down. I only hope he?s the same, but i know he?s just out of an intense relationship, so i have be careful with him, or i could ruin it all already. Yeah, a picnic seems like the best thing in the afternoon, and then maybe the cinema another day. Besides, we cant talk in the cinema so thats for a later date!!!!

Romantic gestures can freak me out if I am not ready for that yet.

Nah, i like it...i just wont take it seriously!

I?ll be back soon...i think im about to set the oven on fire...ooops!!!!!!

Sola:What do you want to do?
Libra:I dunno. What do you want do?
Sola:Um, I dunno. Have any suggestions?
Libra:Hmm...I'll do whatever you want to do. What do you want to do?
Sola:I dunno, what do you want to do.....

reminds me of me and my libra friend... worst was when she was driving.
"Which way to turn at the junction."
"up to you... am ok whichever way you turn"
"i can turn this which ever way you want"
"ok then left.. no right right.."
"shit we missed it(already spend few seconds turing left and then right and back in the middle of road)"
"ok lets take the next u turn and come back again..."
" if this world was packed with only librans, do u realize there wouldnt hv been and damn junctions to confuse us??"

With aries its far cool..
"we have to go to left you know..."
"you shut up. i will take you where i want to go.."
"ooops"

lol@making decisions....mine actually surprised me yesterday with texting me re: details of us getting together and he made a decision "I think bubbles tonight", meaning champagne...normally he asks what I'd like to drink...wooohoooo breakthrough!!! And shock/horror, he bought me a packet of M&M's!!! That's the first time he's done something like that - sad eh?? LOL

Oh and he keeps leaving something behind everytime (his chain which he feels naked without if its not on) and then has to come back the next day or 2 to collect it. I haven't figured out whether its intentional or purely accidentally but its a regular occurrence now LOL. He'll come around for 1/2 hour, talk, smooch, hug, collect chain and be on his merry way....hmmm maybe just forgetful. Who knows.

All good though, I did what you said Libra...I was affectionate, interested in what he had to say, yada yada...had a nice evening and if it wasn't for the fact he left his chain behind, I'd have not contacted him - wasn't expecting that LOL. Now I see him tomorrow night for a short time....then I have to become invisible for a while - not what we planned *laffs*

aha.. so things back on track for you huh... I remember you telling me you are going to disappear... Chatz u notty 😛

I did thelibran, I did....he has been doing all the work and its the way things are going to have to stay...he seems to like the fact I have stopped chasing so he can now..Im gonna let him hehehehe...*shrugs*...might make sense but it might not. Who am I to keep questioning it? LOL

Keeping busy is the only thing I can do to keep me sane....as Libra suggested, I will just be wonderful when Im around him and then disappear when not...he knows where I am 🙂

Nic: ***Sola Libras have no fear of romance. If anything were afraid of commitment and loss of personal freedom. I don't think a romantic picknick in the park counts towards either of those two.***

True, only until a Libran meet the right person (or the right scorpio) do they through the fear of commitment and loss of personal freedom out the window!!! 🙂 Then, most of their free time become time with you.

***I have no fear of committment Nic, but I do have a severe problem being faithful. I hate it, but i just cant help myself. But once i meet someone i really like though...like this one, then i settle down.***

Most Libras get very serious period about a person they really like and no one else is noticed. 🙂 However, if you aren't seriously with someone, then how is it being unfaithful—


***Sola:What do you want to do?
Libra:I dunno. What do you want do?
Sola:Um, I dunno. Have any suggestions?
Libra:Hmm...I'll do whatever you want to do. What do you want to do?
Sola:I dunno, what do you want to do.....***

LOL!!! Love the indecisiveness of the Libran combination!!!


***Nic:"We could do this or that, which would you prefer?"
Alcheme "I don't don't mind baby, what do you want to do more?"
Me "Both......long pause....ok, well do this because that closes at this time then we'll go get food and go do that."
Alcheme "ok"***

Now see there is a Libra/Scorp balance. There is nothing we can't accomplish together. Hehehe!!!


Okay I am done that is my 2 dollars, a nickle and a quarter. Ok, LP must be rubbing off on me in more ways than one... 🙂

Yay Chatz!!!

Ok, so things were ok on Monday (ie, he says cant meet during this week because he?s working until late), but thats ok because so am I, but its typical for me to say the occasional "hi, how are you?" in between times. Apparently this isnt so for this Libra chap. I have been out with friends tonight, and have another friends birthday dinner/party tomorrow night, i just know where this new man is supposed to fit in. I have initiated all contact up until Monday, i dont intend to make any 1st moves again. Am i being too harsh? I dont think so, but im sure!!!

Sola, from my experience (and that is so similar to the LIbra I have been seeing over the past 7 months)....time means nothing to them....they come back in a week or 2 as if you've seen eachother everyday!! Apparently they don't need to communicate everyday coz they keep you in their heads and/or hearts as if you are there with them.....Im not sure as to how true that is but over the past month I'd hardly heard from mine (3 or 4 times maybe and saw him once in that time), yet this week, its been every day since Sunday and he is making all the contact and effort and I've seen him twice in 3 days, until now its been me texting with a "reason" to say hi or to remind him Im still around. The less I give the more he does now....which of course makes that even more confusing than it was before coz now I wonder whether I should start make moves again. I am seeing him tonight just for 1/2 hour *sigh* but in that time I want to leave a lasting impression.....how?? God knows LOL.

Sola, my suggestion— go out, have fun...whatever you do, don't sit at home waiting for him....I did way too much of that and it almost drove me insane thinking my guy was out doing all sorts of things but he's always come through and done the right thing....don't stress out, enjoy your free time until you see him again 🙂

My 7 months worth (hahahaha...got no money left so time is all I have to give the board LOL)

Chatz - looks like a shift from unhappy to happy - in his head. As if there is room for other people now. As you know, we get quite caught up in our misery. You'll perhaps also find that he is contacting friends again in general. That's a bit of a test actually, checking to see if he's gone out with his guy friends e.g. picking up his old life style again.

We can really be extremely sulky when we're not happy. Self-imposed exile is really how we operate.

Thanks Chatz...i know in my head im being too hard on him, especially since he has just ended a long-term relationship.Im going to give the guy a break. Of course, i never sit around waiting for guys, i have too much going on in my own life most of the time, thank God because i have a waaaaay overactive imagination!!

When he?s ready i guess i?ll hear from him, and if not, well thats how it was meant to be...