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I matched with a Libra guy online a few weeks ago. We talked via text for about a week before we were finally able to meet (at 7:30 AM on a Saturday for a hike). I thought our date went extremely well, but we are both pretty busy right now (he's a lawyer, I'm in law school and next week is finals). He said he wants to meet again. However, I have noticed I seem to be the one to initiate and follow up.

I know we both super busy, so should I keep trying or just ghost a few days and see what happens?

I also know Libras are polite and don't want to ruffle feathers. He is a shy guy, I'm not.
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Posted by borednbeautiful

You can initiate once. Something playful. Then stand back and see if he reciprocates.

You guys hiked at 7:30 am? Wow, I would be so grumpy that early 😏 especially if I hadn’t had my coffee yet ☕️


Yeah, it was nice. I had coffee before. He gets up super early like 5, so sometimes we will talk early morning and I will reach back out around 2:30- 3:00. I don't want to be overbearing though. I'm an Aries Sun/Libra Moon and can be even if I intend not to lol.
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You can initiate once. Something playful. Then stand back and see if he reciprocates.

You guys hiked at 7:30 am? Wow, I would be so grumpy that early 😏 especially if I hadn’t had my coffee yet ☕️

Yeah, it was nice. I had coffee before. He gets up super early like 5, so sometimes we will talk early morning and I will reach back out around 2:30- 3:00. I don't want to be overbearing though. I'm an Aries Sun/Libra Moon and can be even if I intend not to lol.
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Yeah, don’t be overbearing. You guys matched and met and now it’s up to both of you how to continue. How did you separate (any plans or just casual kiss or see you around or what?)

Whatever it is, it must be mutual. I personally don’t want someone who isn’t enthusiastic about me.

But like you said, he is busy. He might be dating around too.
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Libra - scales - decision

He hasn’t decided

So what should I do if he hasn't decided?

Life!

If you were a definite he’d be all over you. Take a breather and let him decide. You don’t have to cut contract just don’t be all up in his a*** with too much expectation after a couple weeks.
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True, but I want to show my interest, too.
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Hiking is the new Netflix n chill or Starbucks date

Hiking and gym going - I see you, men. The guy doesn’t have to invest anything in the date 🤑 and if it goes poorly, there’s not much talking going on
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We talked non-stopped and there was a great flow. We discussed law, politics, classic literature, our city, and family/background.
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@nanobotz

Hiking is the new Netflix n chill or Starbucks date

Hiking and gym going - I see you, men. The guy doesn’t have to invest anything in the date 🤑 and if it goes poorly, there’s not much talking going on

We talked non-stopped and there was a great flow. We discussed law, politics, classic literature, our city, and family/background.
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Sounds like a dream date to me. How did it end? With any plans or what?
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@nanobotz

Hiking is the new Netflix n chill or Starbucks date

Hiking and gym going - I see you, men. The guy doesn’t have to invest anything in the date 🤑 and if it goes poorly, there’s not much talking going on

We talked non-stopped and there was a great flow. We discussed law, politics, classic literature, our city, and family/background.

Sounds like a dream date to me. How did it end? With any plans or what?
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I thought so. Yes, we planned to meet again but he is in the middle of trial prep and I'm in finals mode then going to visit my parents for a week or two.
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Posted by newtothis

I matched with a Libra guy online a few weeks ago. We talked via text for about a week before we were finally able to meet (at 7:30 AM on a Saturday for a hike). I thought our date went extremely well, but we are both pretty busy right now (he's a lawyer, I'm in law school and next week is finals). He said he wants to meet again. However, I have noticed I seem to be the one to initiate and follow up.

I know we both super busy, so should I keep trying or just ghost a few days and see what happens?

I also know Libras are polite and don't want to ruffle feathers. He is a shy guy, I'm not.

If I were you, I would give a fuck about my exams and nothing else.
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@nanobotz

Hiking is the new Netflix n chill or Starbucks date

Hiking and gym going - I see you, men. The guy doesn’t have to invest anything in the date 🤑 and if it goes poorly, there’s not much talking going on

We talked non-stopped and there was a great flow. We discussed law, politics, classic literature, our city, and family/background.

Sounds like a dream date to me. How did it end? With any plans or what?

I thought so. Yes, we planned to meet again but he is in the middle of trial prep and I'm in finals mode then going to visit my parents for a week or two.
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It depends on his priorities. Trials require focus and a lot of hard work. You should focus on your finals and go visit your folks. If he doesn’t contact by then, you have 0 connection.

You can also playfully ask how trial preparation is going? But please pace yourself. I have a feeling you want to contact him tonight!
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I matched with a Libra guy online a few weeks ago. We talked via text for about a week before we were finally able to meet (at 7:30 AM on a Saturday for a hike). I thought our date went extremely well, but we are both pretty busy right now (he's a lawyer, I'm in law school and next week is finals). He said he wants to meet again. However, I have noticed I seem to be the one to initiate and follow up.

I know we both super busy, so should I keep trying or just ghost a few days and see what happens?

I also know Libras are polite and don't want to ruffle feathers. He is a shy guy, I'm not.

If I were you, I would give a fuck about my exams and nothing else.
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Finally something smart from you too. And here I thought you are just a ho…
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I matched with a Libra guy online a few weeks ago. We talked via text for about a week before we were finally able to meet (at 7:30 AM on a Saturday for a hike). I thought our date went extremely well, but we are both pretty busy right now (he's a lawyer, I'm in law school and next week is finals). He said he wants to meet again. However, I have noticed I seem to be the one to initiate and follow up.

I know we both super busy, so should I keep trying or just ghost a few days and see what happens?

I also know Libras are polite and don't want to ruffle feathers. He is a shy guy, I'm not.

If I were you, I would give a fuck about my exams and nothing else.
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Yeah, I know. Trust me, I am.
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@nanobotz

Hiking is the new Netflix n chill or Starbucks date

Hiking and gym going - I see you, men. The guy doesn’t have to invest anything in the date 🤑 and if it goes poorly, there’s not much talking going on

We talked non-stopped and there was a great flow. We discussed law, politics, classic literature, our city, and family/background.

Sounds like a dream date to me. How did it end? With any plans or what?

I thought so. Yes, we planned to meet again but he is in the middle of trial prep and I'm in finals mode then going to visit my parents for a week or two.

It depends on his priorities. Trials require focus and a lot of hard work. You should focus on your finals and go visit your folks. If he doesn’t contact by then, you have 0 connection.

You can also playfully ask how trial preparation is going? But please pace yourself. I have a feeling you want to contact him tonight!
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What should I do then?
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I matched with a Libra guy online a few weeks ago. We talked via text for about a week before we were finally able to meet (at 7:30 AM on a Saturday for a hike). I thought our date went extremely well, but we are both pretty busy right now (he's a lawyer, I'm in law school and next week is finals). He said he wants to meet again. However, I have noticed I seem to be the one to initiate and follow up.

I know we both super busy, so should I keep trying or just ghost a few days and see what happens?

I also know Libras are polite and don't want to ruffle feathers. He is a shy guy, I'm not.

If I were you, I would give a fuck about my exams and nothing else.

This. I genuinely refused a threesome because I had an exam.
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A threesome, huh? And here I thought you were genuinely nice and innocent 😇
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@nanobotz

Hiking is the new Netflix n chill or Starbucks date

Hiking and gym going - I see you, men. The guy doesn’t have to invest anything in the date 🤑 and if it goes poorly, there’s not much talking going on

We talked non-stopped and there was a great flow. We discussed law, politics, classic literature, our city, and family/background.

Sounds like a dream date to me. How did it end? With any plans or what?

I thought so. Yes, we planned to meet again but he is in the middle of trial prep and I'm in finals mode then going to visit my parents for a week or two.

It depends on his priorities. Trials require focus and a lot of hard work. You should focus on your finals and go visit your folks. If he doesn’t contact by then, you have 0 connection.

You can also playfully ask how trial preparation is going? But please pace yourself. I have a feeling you want to contact him tonight!

What should I do then?
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If you don’t have the patience (and it sounds like you don’t) go ahead and contact. What’s the worst that can happen? I don’t believe in your turn and my turn and games.

But have some style when you do. Ask about the trial and not when you can see him next. If he sounds lukewarm, drop it. If he seems excited to hear from you, show up in trench coat with nothing but underwear and a bottle of wine. You are welcome.
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You’re on the scale and being weighed up..

Stop initiating and you’ll get your answer!

As a libra I agree with this. You already put a lot of effort by always being the one initiating. Stop doing that and see if he reaches out. If he doesn't then there's your answer.

No reply = an actual reply
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Exactly. 👍
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I matched with a Libra guy online a few weeks ago. We talked via text for about a week before we were finally able to meet (at 7:30 AM on a Saturday for a hike). I thought our date went extremely well, but we are both pretty busy right now (he's a lawyer, I'm in law school and next week is finals). He said he wants to meet again. However, I have noticed I seem to be the one to initiate and follow up.

I know we both super busy, so should I keep trying or just ghost a few days and see what happens?

I also know Libras are polite and don't want to ruffle feathers. He is a shy guy, I'm not.

If I were you, I would give a fuck about my exams and nothing else.

Finally something smart from you too. And here I thought you are just a ho…
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Aspiring ho at best. Lets not give undue credit
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My advice to you as a Libra of you want to impress this guy, get busy with your life, enjoy it and then tell him about it, that's what I mostly like about fire sign people they're always up to sth, you probably need to sit back for a while and let him reach you for once, if he doesn't you can share whatever fun activities you get yourself busy with on social media to him to see, maybe that'll catch his attention or you can simply move on with your life, there's always plenty fish in the sea.


That's good advice. I have a lot on my plate already.
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Hiking is the new Netflix n chill or Starbucks date

Hiking and gym going - I see you, men. The guy doesn’t have to invest anything in the date 🤑 and if it goes poorly, there’s not much talking going on

If it goes poorly, they'll never find the body.
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https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/death-woman-found-after-hiking-date-phoenix-officer-ruled-accident-n1278150
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@nanobotz

Hiking is the new Netflix n chill or Starbucks date

Hiking and gym going - I see you, men. The guy doesn’t have to invest anything in the date 🤑 and if it goes poorly, there’s not much talking going on

If it goes poorly, they'll never find the body.

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/death-woman-found-after-hiking-date-phoenix-officer-ruled-accident-n1278150

Maybe I’m just too cynical or paranoid, but I would never ever go to a remote area with a man I didn’t know very well lol
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It wasn't a hike per se, but a long walk at the abortorium in my city. He is on the board there.
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@nanobotz

Hiking is the new Netflix n chill or Starbucks date

Hiking and gym going - I see you, men. The guy doesn’t have to invest anything in the date 🤑 and if it goes poorly, there’s not much talking going on

If it goes poorly, they'll never find the body.

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/death-woman-found-after-hiking-date-phoenix-officer-ruled-accident-n1278150

Maybe I’m just too cynical or paranoid, but I would never ever go to a remote area with a man I didn’t know very well lol
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It wasn't a hike per se, but a long walk at the abortorium in my city. He is on the board there.
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Hiking is the new Netflix n chill or Starbucks date

Hiking and gym going - I see you, men. The guy doesn’t have to invest anything in the date 🤑 and if it goes poorly, there’s not much talking going on

If it goes poorly, they'll never find the body.

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/death-woman-found-after-hiking-date-phoenix-officer-ruled-accident-n1278150

Maybe I’m just too cynical or paranoid, but I would never ever go to a remote area with a man I didn’t know very well lol
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Of course. But the sad reality is we are rarely safe around the ones we know well too.
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@nanobotz

Hiking is the new Netflix n chill or Starbucks date

Hiking and gym going - I see you, men. The guy doesn’t have to invest anything in the date 🤑 and if it goes poorly, there’s not much talking going on

We talked non-stopped and there was a great flow. We discussed law, politics, classic literature, our city, and family/background.

Sounds like a dream date to me. How did it end? With any plans or what?

I thought so. Yes, we planned to meet again but he is in the middle of trial prep and I'm in finals mode then going to visit my parents for a week or two.

It depends on his priorities. Trials require focus and a lot of hard work. You should focus on your finals and go visit your folks. If he doesn’t contact by then, you have 0 connection.

You can also playfully ask how trial preparation is going? But please pace yourself. I have a feeling you want to contact him tonight!

What should I do then?
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Are you sure you have what it takes to be a lawyer?
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I matched with a Libra guy online a few weeks ago. We talked via text for about a week before we were finally able to meet (at 7:30 AM on a Saturday for a hike). I thought our date went extremely well, but we are both pretty busy right now (he's a lawyer, I'm in law school and next week is finals). He said he wants to meet again. However, I have noticed I seem to be the one to initiate and follow up.

I know we both super busy, so should I keep trying or just ghost a few days and see what happens?

I also know Libras are polite and don't want to ruffle feathers. He is a shy guy, I'm not.

If I were you, I would give a fuck about my exams and nothing else.

This. I genuinely refused a threesome because I had an exam.

A threesome, huh? And here I thought you were genuinely nice and innocent 😇
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He refused! Typical Aries self control and integrity!🧘‍♂️
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@nanobotz

Hiking is the new Netflix n chill or Starbucks date

Hiking and gym going - I see you, men. The guy doesn’t have to invest anything in the date 🤑 and if it goes poorly, there’s not much talking going on

If it goes poorly, they'll never find the body.

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/death-woman-found-after-hiking-date-phoenix-officer-ruled-accident-n1278150

Maybe I’m just too cynical or paranoid, but I would never ever go to a remote area with a man I didn’t know very well lol

Of course. But the sad reality is we are rarely safe around the ones we know well too.
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Really?

I feel very safe around the people i know well

Don’t you?
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I still haven't heard back

Sorry, hun. Maybe your date wasn’t as great. Or he met another guy in the meantime. Or got busy.

Just don’t text anymore, please. If he reaches out, ok.

Yeah. He also told me this weekend was way overbooked. I have a lot going on myself. Final is Monday night.
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Good luck on your final! 📚 ✍🏻
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I still haven't heard back

Sorry, hun. Maybe your date wasn’t as great. Or he met another guy in the meantime. Or got busy.

Just don’t text anymore, please. If he reaches out, ok.

Met another guy. That could be an insight. 👨‍❤️‍💋‍👨
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I believe op is an Aries guy and Libra is a guy too.

I can see the push-pull dynamics.
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I still haven't heard back

Sorry, hun. Maybe your date wasn’t as great. Or he met another guy in the meantime. Or got busy.

Just don’t text anymore, please. If he reaches out, ok.

Met another guy. That could be an insight. 👨‍❤️‍💋‍👨

I believe op is an Aries guy and Libra is a guy too.

I can see the push-pull dynamics.

Spoke to newtothis before, but about a cancer man. Libras are big flirts, but not sure about cheating.
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I really don’t know. It does suck when someone doesn’t reply. It’s rude.

But I mean…I’ve done it to people and had it done to me as well.
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So, should I try to initiate today or just let it go?

There is also a different Cancer guy who is a little overbearing in my inbox. We only went on one day and he messages me everyday. It's a little annoying. I did tell him I was also dating around and just got out of a relationship, so I want some time.

I'm a cat. I only want to be texted when I want to be, but I get upset if someone doesn't do what I want them to lol
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So, should I try to initiate today or just let it go?

There is also a different Cancer guy who is a little overbearing in my inbox. We only went on one day and he messages me everyday. It's a little annoying. I did tell him I was also dating around and just got out of a relationship, so I want some time.

I'm a cat. I only want to be texted when I want to be, but I get upset if someone doesn't do what I want them to lol

You've proven there's other people willing to date you if it doesn't work out. So don't get hung up on it.
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I'm not hung up on it, just curious about the Libra man. Another Libra guy I talked to was super shy and never reached out. It didn't work out because he never shared his opinions about something, even if I disagreed.
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