Libras from friends with benes to platonic friend

OK guys, it is me again. I decided to start another thread, since my situation has changed. Check out other threads for those of you who don't know the background.

In short, I had a Libra friend w/ benefits who is now my platonic friend, because it got pretty emotional and niether of us could handle a relationship right now, he recently (within months) just got out of a relationship... I am divorced a year from, guess who... A libra...

Anyway, Libran men seem to find me wherever and I have been unable to resist them so far...

OK, since our new platonic relationship, things have been really cool. He tried a couple times to hint around getting together again, but I just change the subject (as I am weak for him in that way, the sex was awesome!!!)We actually talk more and he has invited me to a couple of functions, I have invited him to a holiday party (he never responded too) with some of my friends at my house... Things have been looking good until.....

Last night he was supposed to help me with a deadline I was working on that was in his field at my home and he said he would come over right after an evening work function and that he would call when he was on his way. Never called, never came.

Me being a scorp... I am very reliable and dependable to my friends and family. I did get a little upset, not because he didn't come, because he didn't call to say he wasn't coming, changed his mind, was tired. Hell, I could have gotten someone else if I knew.

LS,thelibran, HP, Libra - I left a message telling him i thought he was being inconsiderate and a couple of disappointing words... As a reactionary I knew he would respond. He left me a voicemail message at 1:33am as follows:

"Unfortunately you were wrong... I am not being inconsiderate.. I went to the function drank (yes libras tend to drink too much when they do drink) came home laid down and fell asleep. You owe me an apology, I will talk to you tomorrow"

Livid, I dind't respond... Who the hell does he think he is and what part of being inconsiderate in this scenario doesn't he understand. And I owe him an apology. Please make some sense out of his reasoning, because I am starting to think he isn't wrapped too tight!!!

Yes, he was inconsiderate. You don't owe him apology. He broke two promises - 1)he would come over to help you finish up a deadline and 2)he would call to say he's on his way.

Let's just say that he did have too much to drink to help you, he could have still had the courtesy to call you and tell you he woulnd't be much help with the booze in his system. At least you'd be disappointed that you have to finish the project on your own but not as upset for him leaving you wondering if he's ok/hurt/etc.

Exactly my point HP, I think we are the sane ones, but you know if a libra responds to this there may be a different answer, just curious... I am really thinking this friendship might need a serious break, too much drama for me... Plus he is hinting around the shagging again, all though I have been strong. It is getting anoying that he would constantly do that.

My guess was he drank too much and got distracted. (I tend to become completely useless if I drink especially white wine. White wine is my nemissis yet I love it so.)

Lets see ... fun at party with friends, drinks, fun ... do work.

As much as I like the person, I would have a VERY hard time being torn away from a party to do work. I would have picked party. (I may, however, have drunk dialed and invited you to party.)

Depends on your tone and what your disappointing words said.

I want to add that we would possibly do this when we are comfortable enough that the other person will forgive us...

Comfortable enough to think for the both of you and that this would not be judged too harshly...

This is meant kindly, but I don't think there is any drama in this at all except your expectations.

Logically, anyone who knows me, knows if there is a party ... they are dragging me out of there. It sounds like it was his work Christmas party.

That being said, my expectation is that if someone has social plans that it isn't a good night for me to ask for their help.

To be honest, it seems too wifey. Go out. Have fun. Come home to me dear.

Maybe he shouldn't have agreed to help you but I think he was really wanting to help you out ... because we like doing that ... but the timing was bad. If he felt, what I would have regarding the wifey thing, he would have unconsciously rebelled. Because we can be quite rebellious. Especially if we sense a trap, regardless of whether it is really there or not.

1. You own him an apology for accusing him.
2. There is a reason(which is not him) for that party or him getting drunk.

Yea our drinking habits are quite weird. Sometimes we drink systematically - 1 or 2 everynight. Then we get fed up of following a routine and decide to break it. so one night we may get drunk like anything or stop it alltogether. Then if we get drunk so much, then we think we need to slow down and goes back to routine in a random way. But if we stop, we stop for couple of weeks and then we get bored of that decide to break it. so it keeps going in cycles.

Libra

I know what you are saying. I really don't think any of my friends would have expected me to show because they know me and know I am a sucker for a good time. That is why they like me.

Sparrow, if you're ever in Europe, do give a call. We'll go for a drink...and talk all things Libra!

Ohh! That would be fun!

🙂

If I am ever in Europe, your on! If you are ever in Toronto, .... look me up!

So let it be done...(seriously)

I operate on the basis that if I love you you cannot really mess up. Your Libra will be like this, too. We don't take firm stands.

And we hope you are the same...

Queen, you don't owe him an apology.

I am trying to get to N. Ireland next year to see my grandda ... so you never know. 😉

BTW, I am serious too.

*** Queen, you don't owe him an apology.

I dunno. Depends on what she said and how she said it.

And we will fight when things are unfair...

When he says 'you owe me an apology' he does not mean it. It is only to bring you back to the 50/50 line...

I happen to be on that continent although not in that particular country.

This could work...

Queenie, just let it go. Hopefully you finished your deadline without him. Don't push the apology from him and he won't badger you for one in return.

A promise is a promise. I've said that a few times on the Libra board, so I fully understand your disappointment.

OMG!!!

🙂

This will be so cool! I am trying for the spring. Depends on money. I will let you know when things get closer.

YAYAYAYA!!!!

I am sooo excited. Whoo hooo!

Just let me know as soon as you have your dates booked. Then i can do the same...

LS, no one asked he asked what I was doing and offered... That is what makes it so bad...

Libra, I don't think there is any love involved (romantically anyway)

You both may or may not be in love, that's not for me to decide, but you love each other, even if you don't realise (in his case) or want to admit it...

LS, regardless how I said whatever I said. I said he was inconsiderate for not letting me know he was tired or drank too much after he offered. I could have gotten someone else... No wiffy thing involved. We are so not on that page.

HP, I know, I have let it go. I haven't responded to that apology thing. I am not asking him for one, but I am no longer just letting things slide either. If he is my friend, I should feel OK about expressing when he has offended me. I am good at excepting and apologizing to someone I care about if they was offended by something I had done. I just knew I wasn't crazy...

Libra, it is done. I am over that. That was this morning's episode, just was interested in what you Libras would say. I kinda thought HP would be on the same page as I...

Moving on, so, LS, what is really up with the Leo—

ah...ok...you just wanted the Libra's POV.

HP, not that I don't value your good advise, just knew we would feel the same. The rare but strange Libra species always have another opinion, was just curious to see their responses that's all.

Sorry, I was addressed in the original post....I'll lurk elsewhere.

Rikely ... it is because to me it makes sense what they are doing. (shrugs)

I just kind of get where they are coming from, what they are doing, where they are going. It just makes sense. I can see the logic and if I put myself in their position trying on different senerios of why, would react similarily. (shrugs)

Everyone wants to know why ... so I am trying to explain why.

Queenie

Ahhhh the Leo .... the damn, damn Leo.

We are very, very, very much a like.

He suddenly has an interest in earning more money, buying art that I like (which is from where I am from because he loves that area and "wants to wake up every morning and look at something that reminds him of that place"), we are so much a like and have everything in common, (including same heritage, lived in the some of the same places, interested in the same things, same intellectual curiousity, are now pursuing careers in the same field). We are so much alike and have so much in common, I refer to his as my evil twin. He is my equal. We could have a wonderful, creative partnership.

Rikely, as a scorp honesty is the best policy always... Good or Bad... I hate being left hanging... I like to know whether it is a disappointment or not. I could respect and appreciate a person more who can let me know what is really going on... However, it doesn't matter. I am now over that... Moving on to the next thing. Whatever that may be.

LS, in your Libra and Leo thread, you mentioned that he is dragging his feet, however you have turned his invites down a couple times. If you like him like that STOP BEING AN ANALYZING LIBRA hehe and just go for it... Nothing to think about jump in there and find adventure... Sorry the Sag. that I just found out is my moon is jumping out!!!

Hey Queenie

I responded on my Leo/Libra thread.

He probably just knows you too well. He knows that dependability is a big deal with Scorps so instead of taking the honorable way and apologizing for being an ass and risking you letting go more, he turned it around on you. Now he knows he you two have a reason to see/talk to each other again.

Messed up, but it might be what he is doing.