Libras?

Is this a Libra thing to be jealous/control freaks??

Nope. I try to set my exs up with other people because I believe them to be great people worthy of love. I am not there with my Virgo/Virgo ex but will be soon. Hell, the Virgo I lived with I helped set up with his now live in gf.

Where are his mars and venus? His moon?

So he should be more like me. Let me look this up.

sexual affairs, parents divorced, much younger partner, not sensual, detached, talks about sex without feelings, always talks about sex, fear of emotions and feelings, very flirtatious, explosive temper, activist

writer, into the occult fields, stressful or hazardous work, many job changes, into the fields of food and beverage, private

Oops. I thought you said Mars in Libra.

Virgo will make a difference. The second part still stands.

That sounds more like a Virgo.

Here is what his personality should be:

social, loves intellectual women, flatterer, travel for work, robust personality

Maybe you guys just push each other's buttons.

Libras usually get in trouble because we DON'T complain. I think you guys are just incompatible and you set him off.

Brianafay

I recknognise all of this in a Libra person that I was with for a very long time (planets located differently though). It's incredibly hard work and not sustainable in the long run. There was also physical violence.

Unless you can find a way to 'manage' him - which as a Libra I could not - you may want to reconsider. Don't mean to tell you what to do but please be careful.

Ahh, just saw that you are no longer together. Wise...

My theory is he sees you as his life partner and can't let go. If a Libra sees you as your life partner, we don't give you up easy. He is obsessed. I am not sure what you can do to make it better for both of you.

I think you need to stop taking his calls at all. No random reinforcement of taking his calls sometimes. That drives people nuts.

Little Sparrow

Just to check with you...

If someone said to you 'I don't love you and I never will' OR 'I am in love with someone' would that be enough for you to stop trying?

That's what would make me stop pursuing. What do you think?

Depends.

With my Virgo-Virgo ex, he kept saying I love you it just isn't working. Took me forever to get over because I kept holding onto the hope.

It really depends on how much I have invested. Virgo-Virgo and I were looking at houses and planning our wedding. It completely wrecked me. So any bit of hope he gave, I clung too.

Most people I don't care that deeply about so it would be fine. I can move into friendship mode with them. I think THIS guy is more like me and Virgo-Virgo. When Virgo-Virgo said I will never marry you, I finally heard.

It wasn't until I figured out what happened that I was able to switch off.

I didn't answer the question did I? lol!

You did. The 'I will never marry you' is an equivalent line. I was just thinking for Brianafay and what she could say to make this Libra stop.

Brianafay - you've got to relay something of that calibre.

I always think that if someone said 'I don't love you' or 'there is someone else' even though he was the love of my life, I would walk away. Libra would not fight over someone (I wouldn't anyway) so maybe that's a way out.

quote LS "It really depends on how much I have invested."

Funny me too always use the word Investment and keeps talking about investment in a relationship and few people hv questioned me asking if i see it as business... lol...

Being a libra, i hv turn physically and verbally abusive in an old relationship. She lied and cheated and defended herself and I lost my control. I dont regret anyway since i let go off my anger which i was holding on for months unbalancing me bigtime. after that things were smooth. 😉

Brianafay

He was my first love too and it leaves a benchmark for it, but not necessarily a good one e.g. odd standards are instilled as a result.

"for several hours/relentlessly" - same here. It would get triggered through trivial things e.g. misplaced stamps, but then everything else, big of small, would be brought up conveniently and I was ALWAYS the one with the problem because I would go so quiet (not to trigger further). Then after things calm down you're so grateful to have things back to normal that for a while you think he is normal. But it isn't normal.

You need to be verbally clearer if you want it to stop e.g. close off the friendship. Given his telephone sentences I would say he is still not convinced that you don't want him back and hopeful. Sorry. But they're the Jekyll & Hydes of this world. They're great until they're not, and you never see it coming.

Perhaps we use the term investment because we see emotional attachment as a liability?

Briana

I think you need to let go of the dream of being his friend. Can you change your number and not give it to him? I worry about your safety.

My first love was similar. He was an aqua. Everyone I know who has dated an aqua man comes back with similar tales. Perhaps air in men is not a good placement.