mirroring?? trouble in paradise

You know I am always here reading your posts, but I am quiet coz I am not as good or experienced in psychoanalizing people and this LIBRA I like confuses me

He likes mirroring, always reflecting things back on me. Just with whatever I do!
Now I am confused if what I see in him is me as he is mirroring me? (which to think could be positive to, because I learn something about me. I see myself and how others would feel if I act that way) or HIM, which means, we are so alike! same reaction to things, same everything—

But I wanted to know him, if he is just mirroring me then I will never know who he really is. Does libra just melt with their surroundings and become one with them..not having their own style ..lol
(I am certain at some point that upon perceiving something, his mirror neuron fires back at me)

Another question, when one mirrors someone, is that pure subconcious..sort of defence mechanism or does it go with emotion also? Could it be he likes me that is why he is mirroring me, or that's just how he reacts to things.

When you guys mirror someone, is it because they affect you big time? or just a reaction?

thanks 😉

Libra mirrors everyone who comes close to him. Thats part of our nature. You wont find our own character easily when we mirror you. Never done deliberately to stay mysterious. Just to make other feel comfortable till we get to know the person. 😉

I agree with both responses but I'll add my own experience gemfox...

Both lol! Were chameleons. We are typically gifted in the area of picking up on things really fast, weather it be concepts, new job training or people....we have the ability to melt into quickly and convincingly to those around us. When it comes to possible partners, it is more sub concious than anything else and the responses above are correct, we mirror our surroundings so that we can have a better understanding of them, becoming one with the people, place, idea, etc allows us to better understand it and get a deeper feel for weather or not it is going to work out. walk a mile in their shoes and all that.

This is why us Libra guys, and sometimes the girls have history for short but very intense relaitonships. In mirroring the person we are with we are better able to quickly and intensly understand the person we are with. The crappy part, is we will rarely make it known the intensity in which we do understand the person, and this is for several reasons surrounding the need to protect ourselves.

This mirror phase is initial and if things are going well, our real character and nature will start to seep through. It is through this mirroring that we learn how to best handle situations that come up with the place or person. This can be used for the other persons bennifit or demise, depending on how the relationship goes. Through the mirroring, our deeper understanding allows us to bring things up in the way that we know/feel will be recieved best by the other person, and can be used to aleiviate tension in a relationship before it even surfaces, without the other person knowing it. The dark side of it is, two fold. We can usually see trouble comming way before it gets there, and we may dissapear or break things off before it is even apparent to the other person. Also, if the other person decides to get mean/nasty/unfair....we know your strengths and weaknesses. We will of course by nature use those first to try and mediate any possible agressive or unwanted behavior; however if the other person isn't really interrested in a 50/50 settlement or decides to try and dominate/conquer us we can simply use it to effectivly defend our true character in whatever means necessary.

Usually it is a sign of comfort though, and with Gemini/Libra it probably really isn't as much mirroring as you think, it is a lot of being on the same page. Things flow naturally and your just simply similar.

I have to completely agree with Nic...
I don't think libras put much or any effort in to mirroring and that it's purely sub concious---it ties into the Charm---conciousness breaks the spell, and like Nic said its just the beginning phase and then our character starts to seep out and blend in, in which case you may find yourself mirroring and becoming more like us...

thanks guys that's something. 🙂

I kind of connected the dots..which means that since he is still mirroring me, he is still trying to figure me out (can't blame him, I am kind of hard to figure out 😉, and I've been enjoying to challenge his psychoanalytical skills-- what i like most about him 🙂 we've been friends for quite some time now, but seriously playing games for about 6 months now...he's taking some time figuring this chick out hahahaha. Maybe because I change a lot like the weather...lol

another thing, he once told me about me, which was bulls eye of course but I never admitted he was right...lol..He sometimes isntead of mirroring me though, tells me of my motivation behind my action and tells me, I know you are this and that...which sometimes makes me/scares me think he knows me more than I know myself.

But at some point I was sooooo convinced he was sooooo like me! and I still couldn't figure out if that was him or I. GOD! 🙂

Another stupid question, I didn't get a crystal clear answer as to weather he likes me or feeling me? when it involves emotions, I get a little blind and I don't want to conclude things..well...I think I get it...he's interested then?

Anyway, as to becoming more like libra...I have long been that way...lol

and mirroring is the initial...what am I in for..more sweet lies? lol..can't wait

and nic, i'm way better than gemfox...lol

cheers gemfox!

lol, I either have a slow perception or low focus

gotcha! hahaha

He likes you. But he is not sure about his own feelings. So trying to balance it well and read himself again.

And a libra will figure out a gemini within sometime(And no one else can do it so well.) Same like how an aqua will figure out a libra. It wont happen the other way around. And the more you tell him he was wrong whenever he finds out something about you, he is gonna get upset about this later and wont try to understand why you did it no matter whatever way you try to defend yourself. So confess before its late. Tats safe if you want to go further. And you dont have to get scared bcoz he figure you out. He dont mean any harm. We just love solving an enigma and solving a gem girl is like getting a doctorate.

..lol but after you get the doctorate you throw the diploma and take another course...


not gonna happen 😉

what's the next best step? I am the one who dissapeared..

a) act like as though nothing had happened
b.) tell him, i've been busy but I missed him
c.) w/o a word, make love to him ...lol
d.) ___________________________________

"what's the next best step? I am the one who dissapeared.."

What are you trying to accomplish, do you want to be involved with him or no?

what's the next best step? I am the one who dissapeared..

a) act like as though nothing had happened
b.) tell him, i've been busy but I missed him
c.) w/o a word, make love to him ...lol
d.) ___________________________________


Answer: b. and 2nd half of C.

yes sex cures all 😉

"yes sex cures all "

Wow! I think that we have actually found common ground between the signs!! Sweet!

So, if sex cures all, how do you cure a lack of sex?!?

by having more sex—

"So, if sex cures all, how do you cure a lack of sex?!?"

*dusts off old "escalation of force" manual*

😉

"*dusts off old "escalation of force" manual*"

Who are you escalating force with?!? Ummm, I'm willing to give it a whirl, but I am not quite sure I am that kind of girl...

Of course it's not ideal but were researching cures for lack of good sex remember.

In the name of science, you will submit.

For the children and all that.

"In the name of science, you will submit. "

Okay... But, I won't enjoy it!?! ** shifty eyes **



(You believed that, right?) 🙂

"For the children and all that."

For the children!! SPOON!!

You two are cracking me up!!!

for the lack of sex—!!! duh! make it!! make it happen!! need I say more?

Nic, what am I trying to acheive? I don't know, do you?

Ok, I was joking. I want to be involved with him, but that I am not very sure, but I do like him, but yes I do. But first I'd like to play games, while also he's making his decision... there are stages first we are kids, we play games, then we grow up, we try sex, then we get more serious, we throw things at each other, then we realize we are wrong, we become even more serious, we learn to really love each other.

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Ok, joke again.

I dissapeared because I was trying to figure him out, and to give him time to understand. I like him.

(that's the most serious answer i've given in years)

"I dissapeared because I was trying to figure him out, and to give him time to understand. I like him."

Thats what you should tell him right there.

Damn I'm good 😛

in truth I don't need to tell him anything..because though he is missing me to death right now, he will act like as though nohting had happened when I see him. 😉

as they do 😛

It's weird though, cause he is balanced most of the time and it is when he gets a bit cranky that I know he's so into moi..

God i am so sure about this tonight, I'll doubt it later again.

chatz you lost your sheesh!

sheesh

*God i am so sure about this tonight, I'll doubt it later again* You're beginning to sound like a LIbran!!!!

Sheesh!!!! Better?? LOL 😛

lol sheesh, yes LOL 😉

super air influence, same with him...LOL
he has his moon in gemini arg...

Mind you, you should have seen me 3 weeks ago....should I text, shouldn't I text, will it seem stupid to him? nah, course not, but then again it might....oh lordy!!!!

I sent it and 30 seconds later I had a response LOL....obviously it wasn't stupid to him

Sheesh what they do to us, oops, what he did to me - yes QS, I am leaving him be - promise!!! I havent made any attempt since he lured me into chat on Saturday night - its late Wednesday afternoon now - you should be proud *giggles*

Sheesh!!!! Just for you Gem!!

ha, I've read about it, your doing good! sheesh.. We should have red light, green light ..

sheesh! thanks

LOL...I think I've annoyed people enough about mine....its high time to give up on mine....he's made his position clear but we will remain great friends...can't ask for more than that given the circumstances 🙂 Maybe in the future...anything is possible, especially when we keep in touch.

Sheesh LOL

That's the spirit Chatz... I know it is murder!!! We love the Libran lads so, the reward is getting one who can love you back and Gaaaawwwwddd what a reward that is!!! Alcheme, ya hear me a REWARD girl!!!

He isn't ready and no one can make him. It isn't his fault per se, that is just where he is in his life right now. Timing suuuuxxxx sometimes. IT ISN'T AT ALL ABOUT U. Remember that. Better to get "Mr. Right" and not wait for "Mr. not right now"... 🙂

"Alcheme, ya hear me a REWARD girl!!!"

I definitely hear you.

Hmmm... I like rewards. I've been a good girl, mostly... 🙂

Chatz,

I think what is needed here is perhaps some perspective. Line you up a couple of dates, good dates. After you take a step out of the situation, and see perhaps other situations, you might be a little clearer in knowing what you want to do.

Maybe?!? I dunno, you got me.

Damn, I have been hanging out with Libras too long. Ack! I have contracted the "I dunno" contagion... Is there a cure?!?!?

Yes chatz, it is abou time to walk away... It might not be forever, but definitely for now.

Ok, so this question is related to mirroring, but have you found Libras (or have you Libras ever done this) to just stare at you?

I have caught the current Libra just staring at me, so intently that it has made me feel a little uncomfortable.

Last night during dinner, he looked across the table and just stared. At first I thought he was looking over my shoulder, so I turned around to see what caught his attention, but when I turned back around, he was still staring. I blushed a little and said "What?" He said "Nothing. I'm just staring at you. Can I do that?"

HP, yup, even with the Libra friend that wasn't ready for a relationship. My response was different. More like, "Haven't your parents taught you it was inpolite to stare?" Then he would do the blushing. My ex did it all the time - just stared at me and smiled, or a littl love pat. Love their stares it can be intense.

this guy is super affectionate, too. hugs all the time. it's nice.

but the staring...man, the staring.

He adores you and that is just one of the ways he expresses it. Like scorps libras can read through people as well. Can become challenging between our two signs. We just know what eachother is thinking even if we try to hide it. If we are in their presence that is.

Libras are super affectionate, especialy when they really like someone. I love the touchy feely stuff. Except for Cancers, too touch feely they become annoying to me at times.

When they are really into you they also tell you how beautiful you are and specify the parts of your face/body that are most attrative to them.

Houston,

LOL I do that. Sometimes girls get nervous and ask "what?" I tell them I'm just looking.


"Damn, I have been hanging out with Libras too long. Ack! I have contracted the "I dunno" contagion... Is there a cure?!?!?"

Yeah theres a cure. Your gonna need to take off your pants though.

I haven't gotten the "you're beautiful" yet, but he does compliment me on what I wear, how I smell, etc. He's told me a few times "You looked pretty tonight..."

As far as body parts, let's just say he hasn't neglected one square inch of mine! 😛

Nic, that's exactly what he told me last night "I'm just looking/staring. Can I do that?" And he's staring with this small grin on his face - I just wish I was a mindreader.

Whatever you're guessing he is thinking HP is probably correct... They have naughty little minds. Also they loooovvvveee giving compliments. He did say he loved your hair. There you go.

oh that can't be good, QS since I have a dirty little mind myself!

That or were reading your mind. We do that sometimes.

Not your thoughts into words perse but we can just pick up on exactly what your wanting sometimes.

Nic: "Yeah theres a cure. Your gonna need to take off your pants though."

QS: "They have naughty little minds."

ROFLMAO! No, you are lying! I don't believe you...

What, I'm as innocent as it gets I swear.

Really.

Ok I'm lying.