Need advice in dealing with an libra male

Sorry Aquarian

I don't know the answer having never dated a Libran man.

Despite being the sign of marriage and partnership, relationships are very hard for us because we have to bring things into balance and our lessons in this life are have to do with relationships.

We often suffer from the grass is always greener syndrome. If we are in a relationship, we can't decide if we are happy or with the right person or should be doing something else. If we are single, we want to be in a relationship. We have very fickle hearts. We love you like anything one day, the next wonder if we would be happier on our own. It has nothing to do with you just our need to bring balance. We WANT to be in a relationship but fear the traps of it.

I think he needs to make up his mind about this. He needs to weigh the decision and balance it out in his head. You can't make a Libra rush a decision although sometimes, making a decision for us is a huge relief.

I have a funny feeling this isn't helpful to you at all. lol!

A trick might be to argue for what you don't want. If he is true to his sign, he will automatically argue the opposite.

I am very sorry I don't have a concise answer for you. Good Luck.

Hi Aquarianbeautee,

Well...If the combo is the same as a Libra female and Aqua male It is a dream come true. One of my truest loves was an Aquar, we had this connection that was so spiritual, he brought out all of my best qualities. I have never forgotten him and this was many years ago. We still keep in touch every few years. One bit of advice on the online thing. I know as a Libra myself, the only time I am online is when I am going through alot in my real life. It is a great escape and I can forget what is going on in daily life. I myself have never put too much into the online dating thing only because I am a realist and I know it is very difficult to get to know someone totally online. I know I am always on my best behavior and the other person doesnt see the other side. When Im not in the mood Im not online, so it makes it difficult for people to truely know each other. I can send you to a great web site that can do yours and his natal chart and then you can do the relationship chart. Very informative and pretty much on target. the site is astology3d.com Good luck!

Sunshine...

(((Aqua)))

So sorry you are going through this but I don't blame you. Why settle when you don't have to. It will hurt but when the time is right, you will meet the right person. I am certain.

Take Care

Hi AquarianBeautee,

I'm really sorry you are going through this, I know how painful it can be. I totally agree with you he has some nerve. For me a Libra, decisions are not difficult at all for me, especially romantic ones. Im more apt to jump in head first and then want out beacause I didnt think it through. I understand what your saying about him wanting a good woman and when he gets it, doesnt know what to do with it. When I was younger I was the same way. I really wanted the relationship, but when I got it...I was done. Didnt do it intentionally but it was done none the less. I think it goes back to the making quick decisions on the relationship and not taking time to get to know someone better. I wish you the best of luck, you sound level headed, dont let one disfunctional male change your view on relationships. Take care

Sunshine...

I don't blame you one bit Aqua. Sounds like he wants to fantasy not the reality which is completely unfair.

(((Aqua)))

Keep us informed k?

Hi Aquarianbeautee,

I don't know Libra males very well but I know myself and other female Libra's. I know that at times when I was younger, I came across as not being sincere or playing games. Nothing was further from the truth, I would never intentionally put anyones feelings at risk. Libras don't like to hurt people and like things harmonious. I can't say for sure, but if he says he is being sincere he probably is. That doesnt take away from the fact that you have to take care of your own feelings and needs. I just thought I'd throw in my 2 cents. But if you are unhappy, you do whatever it takes to get happy. Don't settle for indecisivness if it is causing you stress. Good luck.

Sunshine...

Hi Aquarianbeautee,

LMAO on the chakra therapy...we Libras have a tendancy to drive people to chakra work. A nice Reiki treatment might be in order as well. Well sweetie, all i can say is it is his loss. Personally, I have never met an Aquarian that hasnt left an impression, they are a very beautiful people. Hope you keep us posted on what is going on, Its nice conversing with you. Take care

Sunshine...

Hi Aquarianbeautee,

"If he's so tight in the ass that he can't see that, then it really is his loss."

Well you have found one of Libra's biggest faults...that is, it is difficult to see our own faults. We have a difficult time seeing where we are wrong, or thinking we could ever be wrong..lol We can justify just about anything, in our own heads. Not all Libras of course but alot of us. Reiki is a new age type massage (for lack of better word). You lay on a table and the therapist works out all of your negitive energy and balances your chakras. I havent really heard much about it in the last few years, but it was all the rage in the early 90's. As far as him picking up the card, that is a Libra ego thing. We need to feel loved and admired and are always curious what others think about us. Im sure he really and truely doesnt understand your anger...denial is a beautiful thing...especially for Libra's. Hope this helps, take care...and have a great day!

Sunshine...

Hey AB,

I'm glad to hear your feeling better and you got some answers. I wish I knew how to read a chart more acturately. I have the natal chart for both of us but dont really understand it. I can only go by the small text the chart says. If you are good at this let me know, I'd love you to take a look at them. Take care..

Sunshine...

Hi, This may be too little too late, but I'm a Libran in every sense of the word and I was married to an aquarian woman for many years. The correct way to handle a libran man is as follows: react to his expression of interest, always take him at face value, make the descision to meet only if you will be able to not reject his sexual advance, or meet in a way that limits your exposure to him. Librans wish to devour what they like, but if rejected feel jilted or angry...If you can accept a libran male as he is and be self sufficient, you will have the love of your life.

Hi Textbook Libra, Little Sparrow, and Sunshine!!

I'm back!! When I logged off this site I had started working full time while attending full time school. I'm still doing both, but I had some time to catch up on some things. Plus my desktop computer crashed so I just got a spiffy new laptop! It's a beauty!

I just had to write y'all and tell you the latest (besides the 30 pounds I've gained on top of the 50 I was trying to lose. Weight Watchers here I come!!!)I even bought this sexy black dress that I will get into buy New Years come hell or high water!! LOL, not to mention my sexy, strappy heels to match! Anyhoo.....

So there I was minding my own business, dating up a storm with no one to write home about. I even had a date with a Leo last night, who turned out to be a dud (felt like I was dating my Business Math instructor....a bit on the conservative, cautious side, and I could of sworn I specifically said in my profile, a man with an ADVENTUROUS STREAK) who bored me to tears with stories of work, and the week before that, a Scorpio man who was pleasant, but had yellow tarter stains on his teeth from coffee an cigarettes, but he could use his mouth for the most awesome......oh my....where was i? That fizzled too because he had WAY TOO MUCH SAMSONITE. Ok, I'm jumping way off track....

So this week I'm minding my own business, gearing up to take my finals, resolve to go back to the gym and shed this 80 pounds when low and behold who should send me an email and grace me with his presence? You guessed it, Mr. Libra. I stared at the screen for what seemed like hours, but was only minutes....

Sorry, didn't mean to post twice...it's late and I'm sleepy...LOL...ok, here's the rest of the story...

Oh yes, Mr. Libra man. Ok, obviously it had an effect on me. At Christmas, he did send a "christmas greeting" to everyone on his address list wishing them well and all that jazz, but I didn't respond.

But in his current email, he says "I just wanted to say hi and see how things were going with you,respond if you want". Well you know what that means to an Aquarian woman....YES, I responded, but with a cold attitude. I simply said, "thank you for the email. I am doing good and I am surprised to receive your email". His response was "I'm full of surprises 🙂, please don't misread my email as having ulterior motives, and that I am happy to hear you are doing well". So I sent him a "thank you, but screw off email" saying, "Thank you for the thoughtful email. It was nice of you to say hello, and I wish you well in you life. Take care".
I can't believe he still has this effect on me!! I'm not going to give him the satisfaction.

So I think he gets the "f*ck off" hint right? OOHH nnoooooo, he's starting to lay on the charm now....saying "I wanted to thank you for the e-card (which I sent 6 months ago) and the "birthday present" I sent him (no I didn't spend a dime on him)and how he's still enjoying it to the day. Then he said how truly beautiful I was".

Where is my shovel?

I know, I know, he didn't have to email me, but WHY NOW? He said he would never speak to me again, blah blah blah...But the magical, mystical, spiritual part is that I prayed to God months ago that if this was from God and blessed by God, that Mr. Libra would came back to me and remove all the barriers that kept us apart. I have mixed feelings now that go from anger, hurt, pain, hope of building a stronger connection. But this was quite unexpected. It's finals next week, so he can kiss my arse..DAMMIT, it's been SIX MONTHS??

So I came back to the board to not only give you all an update, but to get an objective point of view. Yes, we are human and susceptible to mistakes, but truth be told, it's all or nothing from this point out.

Thank you all for you allowing me to vent.....it's 12:45 am and he has me wound up!! SH*T! LOL

Ok, my sleeping pill is kicking it, but before I go, I just read my horoscope and whoa, this is getting scary!!

Aquarius (Jan. 20 - Feb. 18) -
The planets might tell a story this weekend about how to accept the loyalty of others. Trust is indeed a difficult concept to give away, but until we do, we are living a half-life.


Did I mention that my trusted psychic/tarot reader told me that I would have true love this upcoming April? This was early January she told me.....

Goodnight all :-)

Beautee:

Keep posting, keep us up to date because it's nice to hear from you 😉

We need people in our forum. Check out the Aqua forum as well if you haven't done so already. There are a lot of regulars that are very nice people.

Hi LiBrat,
I will check out the other forum definetly! Thanks for the invite :-)

In my experience, men usually reappear at the 6 to 8 month mark. It may mean something or nothing. Usually 6 to 8 months is when they realize how great they had it with you.

You are best to make sure you don't fall back into the same pattern with Libraman. He needs to know he has to bring the fantasy into reality or you aren't going to stick around.

Good Luck!

And good to hear from you again.

Hi Little Sparrow,

It's so nice to hear from you. Thank you so much for the advice :-). It just caught me off guard after what he's said. I think he does realize that he had it good with me. Now I will make him suffer, LOL.

You are absolutely right..I'm determined in not making the same mistake twice. If he doesn't know now, he will realize that he is the one who created this problem and if he's not for real in taking this offline, then he better keep it pushing! Lose my email.

And you know I'm gonna need all the luck in the world in dealing with this one! LOL.

I was beginning to think twice about the whole astrology/chinese horoscope thing. I'll definetly keep you posted. I have a feeling this isn't over, lol.

Well Mr. Libra and I chatted today. It was real, yet friendly. Conversation #1 Here is what he said:

Mr. Libra told me he broke up with a woman (UM DUUUUUHHHHH) whom he started conversing with after me. The reason why it ended between us was because I called hm a liar and accused him of having a girlfriend (I had explained that to him already and I apologized). I also told him that it stung that he got into a relationship with a woman because I was true blue and he didnt give me a chance. He said I pushed him (A LIBRA MALE TRAIT). ANyways, lol, Mr. Libra had a bad breakup with this woman who wanted his money and he said he wants a wife (strange because that is what I want to become)

Mr Libra said he was very interested in friendship with me, and that when he looks at my pictures, he gets horny. HE says he still LUSTS for me. I told him that he could of had the real thing because it's so much better. Mr Libra was also quite inquisitive about my current relationship. I told him my new guy isn't afraid of dating me and he actually calls (ZINGER) He just lol. Now Mr. Libra says, well I don't want to harp on the past (meaning how things ended) Mr. Libra also mentioned that he didn't want to be pushed back then. He then got curious about my relationship and I only told him that he and I have similar goals and interests.

When Mr. Libra told me thnt he was in a relationship with her, I told him that stung because he wouldn't know a good woman (me) if she came and sat on his face (which a part of me still does) He says he's stil serious about getting married someday. Funny thing is, so am I. He told me his ex-girlfriend was more interested in what he had than what he could offer. He also told me that when he looks at my pics it's pure lust, passion which was the reason why he contacted me. Also to see how I was doing.


I'm afraid to say that the connection is still there between us. I can't believe after all these months we are still attracted to each other. I think if things go well for the next couple of months, I think it's going to happen between Mr. Libra and I.

Today: conversation #2 same day.

Mr. Libra reminded me of how much we have in common (which is true) especially my love for sci-fi and I had no idea how much he's one too. So he and I had a pleasant conversation about it. Damm it, yes folks, I hate admit it, but he got me. I can't believe how much of an effect he has on me. It's been 6 damm months!

But Mr. Libra also knows that I want to take it offline. He begged me to be patience, asked me for patience and assured me that it would happen, he's just not ready. So I'm not going to ask him. Yes, I admit my feelings are pretty intense. Mr. Libra says that we would still be together if I hadn't "pressured".

Mr. Libra/Rabbit and AquarianBeautee/Pig part 2....the saga continues.....

OK, Beautee,

The balls in your court.

Please, please please, DO NOT make yourself seem too available. Stay AWAY from the chatting for 2 or 3 days. Cut your hands off, do what you have to do, just DO NOT log on.

Let him see that you have other things/people on your plate. OK? TRUST me on this one.

Do a vintage Aqua disappearing act. Treat the situation as if you can live without it. Take some risks. Believe me, he will fly after you.

Right now, he's assessing the situation. I strongly beleive that he may still have feelings for the recent ex. He may be going to you to have his ego stroked a little. In doing so, he's put you back in the picture front and center. So now's YOUR time to strategize.

Trust me, stay AWAY from the chatting for a few days even if it KILLS you. Use your will-power.

Let him IM YOU to find out what you've been up to. Beleive me, he will. Then, take a while (couple of hours) before you reply back.

Listen, dealing with a Libra male is so "Textbook."

Do:

Keep him guessing
Keep yourself really busy to take your mind off of the situation
Make yourself as interesting as possible
Act like you have other suitors
Vanish for a few days
Look as HOT as possible or maintain an air of total self confidence
Have a good sense of humor
Be updated on current events and frivolous (spelling) trivia

Do NOT:

Chase him
Make yourself too available
Answer his phone calls/texts right away
Act depressed

Yes, it IS gameplay to a certain extent. Once you are sure of his feelings then you can loosen up. But, throughout the relationship you will have to keep things interesting. If the males are anything like the girls, they get bored easily.

Hear Heat!

EXCELLENT Post lil'b!!!

I would give you a gold star if I could. As I like to say, "If you don't think love is a game, you aren't playing it right." Nor are you going to win.

In the early stages, love is a dance. They move forward, you move forward. They move back, you move back. They reach for you, and you step together again. Let him lead you.

Let him win you over.

Whatever you chase, runs away from you. Let him chase you.

All you do is show up at the appointed times, look fabulous, and be your fabulous self.

Make him worry about why you aren't contact him.

Make your life as full as possible. Hang out with your friends and make yourself happy.

YOU GUYS ARE AWESOME!! I am printing off your great advice and keeping it close so I can keep them in mind! YOU ARE So RIGHT!! Thanks LiBrat and

I don't know what it is about him, but I'm willing to play this game. No, I didn't IM or email him and I will not until I hear from him. I will do everything on the list. I can't make this easy for him. Honestly, I will make sure that he chases me.

I want to thank you all for letting me vent and share this saga. I will definely keep y'all posted....and I will follow the list to the "T". Thanks so much for giving me more insight into this. I'm a bit rusty in my approach to dating again, but you gave me food for thought, and I'm hungry. LOL

****Brat and Sparrow charge eachother for a quick "High Five!"*****

Go Beautee Go!
Go Beautee Go!

Bling:

*smacks (Li)Brat and littlespadge on the arse, while raising eyebrow in a Roger Moore style (who was the best James Bond, as he wasn't too cool for school, and a bit smutty )...Double your Pleeeasssuuuurreeee!!! *


Sorry baby but I don't share 😉 And I'm sure the Sparrow doesn't either... Soooo you'll have to bring another gentleman along with you. A piece of Pierce (Brosnan) will suit me just fine.

***snaps garter and walks out of room***

click click click (the sound of my Christian LaCroix stilettos on the marble floors)

I just bought a pair 2 days ago, Sparrow you should see them, they're so HOT. Very, very LIBRA!

LOL @ "double your pleasure"!!

Roger Moore was my Bond era! Love him...so sexy! Connery, HOT....Brosnan, cute, but he wasn't "manly' enough. Too bad he wasn't able to do Bond back in the 80s after Roger Moore. Dalton, sexy, but wrong.....and the new guy...I'll give him a chance to prove himself.

>>>>***snaps garter and walks out of room***

click click click (the sound of my Christian LaCroix stilettos on the marble floors)'

If you're wearing stillettos, you bum is probably wiggling like a little duckling....mwahahaha

Not to take the topic away from you Beautee..

Bling: You thought you were Libra? When's your B-Day? Mine's 10-22. 4 hours more and I would have been a Scorp. I also have Scorp in Mercury, like you.

Do you dissect people? Do you over-analyze? And when you fall for someone, do they consume all your thoughts?

I want to see a photo of these shooooz of which you speak!

Men LOVE to be chased, but they don't like it. 😉

When I've fallen HARD, I get consumed. I almost obsess. But I get that way with business ideas too.

I eat, think, sleep, and dream them. I become totally focused on what i want. It's not healthy because I burn HUGE amounts of brain cells. Like I said, it happened in love situations and those of business as well. So it's not just a romance-thing.

I'll go online and do TONS of research on something. Neglect everything else in my life until I've dissected whatever it is in to little teeny pieces. I've gotten to where I've forgotten to EAT.

It's awful. Really because it causes me to burn out as well. I find it emberassing too. Because I just can't help myself. It's like my mind is nagging to me find out every little detail.

And also I have this issue with people constantly telling me their secrets. I guess my conversations with people can turn in to "interviews."

This is the personality trait I would like most to change.

And ANOTHER thing, whenever I talk to people I try to imagine them naked. It just HAPPENS and then I realize what I'm doing and force myself to stop or else I start laughing. I've been in business meetings with clients and these images pop in to my mind and I'm forced to keep a straight face. I think that's the Scorp side. 😉

Either that or I just have a damn filthy-a $ $ ed mind.

Damn, my last post ended up on the bloody top of the page. UGH


Sparrow:
>>>>I want to see a photo of these shooooz of which you speak!

Men LOVE to be chased, but they don't like it.

Ahhhhh! I finally got a picture to load!!!! Now I know how, Thanks Aquaaqi!

Sparrow: I bought mine in Fuchsia, I needed something crazy to wear for a wedding I have to go to in a few days.

Bling:
How often to guys really do that? Seriously, do you imagine ALL the women you run in to naked? I can imagine those whom you've dated, but like the Bank Teller? Waitress? Librarian?

Librat! I LOVE the shoes.

(Hey don't knock us Librarians! lol)

ummmm .... I don't think of people naked. Not even the ones I have seen naked.

>>>>amyl nitrate= poppers
When I was a kid ,around 15 yrs old,a craze for sniffing poppers spread like wildfire through the school i was at.

liBrat...:-)Those black stilletos are so HOT!! I want a pair!! I will need to learn how to walk in them, but those are a KEEPER!

I want them.....I want them now, LOL.

Ok folks, I've signed up for Chakra treatment.....I may begin on Friday. Has anyone ever tried it? Does anyone even believe in it. I don't know that much except it helps bring balance in your life.

I know that for the next few months, i will need it and I'm banking on the chakra will be beneficial.

Has anyone tried Chakra treatment? thanks folks

Sorry, no idea.

WEll, what's up with the Libra guy?

BTW, I've had at least 2 dates in the last week *giggling* and I am loving it :-)

And that's all folks!!! i just had to come back the board to say thank you so much for allowing me to vent. I really appreciate it. I've been lurking mostly for the past week. I just have to say that I'm done with Mr. Libra for good. It's over. I've ended it. He took TWO WEEKS to contact me, then told me he changed email addresses (RED FLAG). Plus, "he's so busy on client sites that he is so tired at the end of the night. I didnt ask why because I'm really tired of him. So in the last month we've corresponded via email, while I was dating other people, I've been given more cell phone and home numbers from other men that it got me thinking......then I cried because I was foolish in thinking I was special enough for a good man.

But he's always on a business trip and he hasn't had time to respond (WTF..I know) So I went hog wild and contacted a psychic, who told me he was "scared" of his strong connection to me (HA!!) I contacted 4 other psychics (at kasamaba) and they told me to keep the faith and that he and I are meant to be. But it's all lies.

I joined a dating site last year and started to pursue get more hits on my profile. i even have guys telling me that they want to come an visit me and they FREELY give out their number. You know what's funny? In the last couple of days, I've gotten 3 numbers from 3 different guys, both of whom I spoke to a total of 5 hours last night (both my cell and my home phone batteries went dead). And the kicker is that both guys want to meet and talk wiht me again. The third, I'm not really feeling him, but I'll talk to him because he's a nice man.

The moral of this story is, Mr. Libra is a fraud, and I this is a lesson learned. Plus the best way to get over a guy is with another guy. No psychic needs to tell me that (and yes, Im getting my money back from them). Mr. Libra can shove it up his arse! He is vague, hasn't taken it offline, and made no plans or mentions of meeting me, so that's it for me. I know, I know, "will Aquarianbeautee come back online in another 3 months and say it's love with Mr. Libra"? Not unless he performs a major miracle and improve on major areas of communication. Also, I've lost much faith in psychics and astrologers in general, that i will not even entertain the thought again. A few years back a few said I would be married by now....HA!! now I contact different ones, and they tell me it will be a couple more years!! It dawned on me.....they're reading from a script. ALL LIES! I'm disillusioned and jaded. I'm going to trust my gut instinct from here on out.

I haven't sent Mr. Libra a goodbye email...oh no, I'm waiting for him to email me, then simply ask us to exchange numbers and talk that evening at his home(this is a trap) if he doesn't, I will promptly lower the smackdown!! Yes, he got to me again, but two can play at this game. I'm lowering the BOOM! One thing I do not like is to be lead on because I don't like to lead men on. BUt yes folks, his ass is grass.

Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. Fool me a third time, I may catch a case behind your arse.

But it really hurts though...such a timewaster! UGH!

Hi Beautee,

Good to hear of your popularity! Wonderful for you!

Look, I know a lot of "Rational" people who just get to the end of their ropes and turn to psychics for answers. Been there, done that.

You are RIGHT when you say you will just follow your gut. It gives you the best advice. You just have to practice what to "Listen" to and learn to weed out all the fluff that your brain throws in to confuse you!

You seem like a wonderful lady, really. Very open with your posts. Good things will surely come your way.

Big Hug and don't be a stranger.

Thanks so much Librat and Aquaagi! :-) Can't forget litle Sparrow. I truly appreciate your wonderful advice and being with me on this journey for the past 7 months. You ladies have been so funny and wonderful!! Your words of wisdom and encouragement really gave me a better perspective.

Yes, I'm disapointed, but boy did I get over it fast, lol. If I didn't go thru this, I wouldn't of appreciated or be open to lessons learned (look at me being all philosophical, lol).

I prayed deeply and really believe in God. He renews my hope. The sun is bright and shining today, even if it were raining, I still get up with a purpose. I am really thankful for the great things I have in my life (good health, loving family and friends, not to mention my wondeful qualities :-)

The psychics,that was a painful and very expensive lesson, lol. Don't get me wrong, some were really nice and said some things insightful things in hindsight, I just need to really trust that gut instinct and not analyze it away. 😉 Ladies and gentlement, I think I've reached enlightenement.

Ok, now for the juicy stuff with the new guys *giggling* I dating, and I've got great nicknames for 'em....Monty Leo: NIce and funny. Great conversationalist and tall, but he's agnostic, so that will not work out. The second one is Rochestor Cappy: very nice, but his look is circa 80s....lol. Third one is St Louie Leo: I think he's a pilot and he loves kids. Very nice thus far, and last but certainly not least and in all honesty, I want NY Libra. He and I have talked on the phone for the past couple of days now for over 7 hours!! He's got this sexy accent---and he's just called me now...he is so sweet!!He's so sexy!!

Aquabeauty

Don't you want a guy who lives around you that you can spend time with?

BTW I have started dating a leo. It is VERY new. We will have to compare notes at a later date. 🙂

oh wait! are all those places close to you?

nevermind then! Carry on!

I live in Washington State, but willing and able to travel. My NY Libra is amazing...we talked on the phone today for over 2 hours! He was telling me all about his creative talents and he showed me on the web cam! He's quite artistic and amazing. We plan on meeting in May a few weeks away. I know it's fast, but we just clicked, plus he's showing me how much he likes me by opening up to me. OK, I'm in definete "like" with him.

BTW, Mr. Libra just IM'd and emailed me....blah. i asked him to call me and he said he was 30,000 in the air. Mind you, I'm only testing him, but he was like, oh I just got online to say hi. So, I told him to call me. He said "he needs more time". DEJA VU Folks.....he said he needed to rethink it and that he was sorry I'm frustrated, then he logged off. I told him not to bother contacting me anymore and that he hurt me for the last time. Also I told him to lose my email and any hope of getting with me.

NY libra told me that he is looking forward to meeting me and he's gonna call me tonight while I'm at work...lol. He was so sweet today....we love the same music! He's gorgeous too! Ah yes....I'll be starting a new thread on my new sweetie...NY LIBRA...

AquaB

You seem like a very nice, trusting woman so I hope you take this with the kindness in which it is meant.

Why do you want to meet with someone who lives across the country? Are you moving to NY anytime soon? There are tons of wonderful men right outside your door and in your own state. Don't you want someone you can share your life with, see, and touch on a daily basis?

I would be very wary of meeting with men who live so far away. You will never really know what they are up to on a constant basis. They may have someone there which is why they want to meet with someone so far away.

Plus, at this point you don't know him. You don't know if he really gives up his seat on the subway to pregnant woman or helps little old ladies cross the street. You only know what he has told you about himself.

Please keep your heart dettached until you meet him.

I would really love to see you happily settled with a wonderful man. I suspect there is one closer to home for you.

I mean ... he may be a very wonderful man, but just keep one foot out the door. It is best to only give your heart to those you know well enough to trust with it.

Hi,

Yeah, I have to agree with Sparrow. Keep a little detached for now. And when you meet him.......Ummmm, try not to get too physical this soon in the game. I know I'm always going around preaching about the sex thing, but really, just wait.

Have the two of you exchanged photos yet?

I was thinking about you yesterday.

Libra guy has something up he isn't telling you about for sure. There's more to him not wanting to take it off line than what he says.

Just be happy YOU were the one who blew him off. You're going to get over him real quick. Just watch.