So vague...

I feel really silly about this but I'm not quite understanding what he means by this. So here's a quick run down, I've been seeing this Libra man off and on for two months now. He had to go out of town for a couple weeks because of family issues, so I didn't talk to him at all durring this time, since
I knew that the situation was kind of serious and I didn't want to bother him.

Well he's back now and I sent him a text yesterday just seeing if he was back and saying that I missed hanging out, tone was very upbeat and casual. Yet he did not reply. So today I text him again, just nicely asking him an honest question about something that I want to talk to him about (unrelated
to us). Then he finally replies saying that he's sorry for not responding and that a lot happened while he was home. So he is "kind of holding himself up for awhile". Not sure exactly what he means by that, I'm guessing that everything is ok with us and that he just needs time to balance after all of the family drama?

Anyway I told him I understood and it was fine, just to let me know when he can talk, and then wished him a great day.

He cheated on you/met someone new/is no longer interested and doesnt want to upset you

That crossed my mind, yet from my experiences with him thus far, he's been up front and honest with me even
sometimes at the risk of making me mad. And he is definitely a Libra who loves to make people happy and
doesn't like to disappoint. So I don't know, while I worry he might be lying, my gut instinct keeps telling me that
he is being truthful.

Surely all Libra's don't turn into liars in order to avoid confrontation? I hope not.

I would say "truth benders" more then liars. Words such as "I need time to clear my head" = if I avoid you long enough hopefully you will take the hint and move on so I dont feel guilty.
Obviously he may just have a lot going on but no matter what I have going on in my life I find time for people who matter.

Tiziani, No it wasn't as serious as a death, but he also has a good friend there who was just diagnosed with cancer, and issues
going on with his job. So I'm not sure what all unfolded while he was away. Though you do make a very good point about
the priority thing, I guess I kind of overlooked that since we aren't yet a couple.

^^That^^

Especially if I haven't seen you for a while, I'd be eager to back asap.

Libra sun, thanks for your input, I'm just going to lay low and see what he does this
week. If nothing I'm going to ask him what's up one last time, then moving on.

Yeah when he was away over the holidays, he contacted
me the day he returned. So I don't know what's up this time.
Before he left we seemed to be having a great time together.

Sometimes, out of sight out of mind.

I have been through a few good friends dying of cancer, it's HUGE! It's draining and very emotional and exhaust you. He may be feeling just that and not feeling like company. It has a way of sucking you into the sadness around you and making you feel down and depressed.

If he is feeling like this, then leave him to bring himself out. It won't take long. We can't feel this way for too long, our systems just don't like it!

I just read his text again, he said he had "a bunch of stuff
go down while he was home" maybe he's talking about matters here.
I'm confused now, whatever lol.

Sweathearts, that's what I keep thinking because when he first found out about his friend he pretty much disappeared
for a week and a half before I heard from him again. And this was before they found out how bad the cancer even was. Then when the family stuff
and work problems started, He would still contact me but it was clear he was quite stressed out.

I should also mention that he just got back in town over the weekend.

If he has that much on his plate then he can't emotionally deal with anymore at this point until he can process and learn to live with it. i know when I am feeling drained I just lock myself away and I physically don't even want to move or think.

Even the day to day contact with others through their jobs and maintaining normality is hard.

My leeb partner just had a blow of reality...it wasn't anywhere near what yours is going through but it took him a day of despondency to bounce back.

Thanks! Yeah, I always make sure to let him know that I'm there for
him. From what I have experience with him, it just seems like it takes him
a little while to figure out how to deal with things. And right now there is a lot
going on in his life, before he left he kept telling me how stressed and bummed
he was. I could tell he wasn't getting much sleep. One day he wanted me to come
over because he was feeling so bad, but then felt bad about asking me to come
over since he couldn't hang out long. Then would repeatedly thank me for coming
over.

So I feel like he probably needs time alone right now, for sure. I just can't tell
If he's having second thoughts about us or not.

Honestly I don't think he's thinking about us right now, I think he's focused on his family and friend, as he should be. So I'm not going to try to change anything at this point. He knows I care about him and want to see him when the time is right. For now I'm leaving it at that, at least for the rest of the week. If this is anything like the other times that he has disappeared, then I'll probably hear from him before the week is over. We'll see
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