Take advantage of ppl

I love you libras....but of course there is always a bad apple. Do some libras take advantage of others like want them to buy everything and have high expectation of ppl? This has nothing to do with me. I have a friend who is now foing through something similiar i been through. Now let me just say ive dated some sweet sincere libras who will give u the shirt off their back. Then ive also seen some that seem like gold diggers. Or that they treat the ones who would be good for them wrong but praise the abuser or the bad person for them. What is up give me some insight here.

It's not a sign specific thing...doesn't sound like any Libra I know. Sounds like just a shitty, opportunistic person in general

I have seen a Libran friend move from her absolute best to the opposite in a matter of four years. Times change, people change, she did.

What's worse, she went on a finish friendships spree and started bad mouthing about me to my friends. Thankfully, all saw through her lies.

Not generalizing at all. I love Librans. This was a bad example unfortunately.

Posted by TheLibraMudra
And I've known other Libras like this lol

I've known a shit ton like this.

Again, this is why I'm wary of people who are blatant people pleasers. They let their insecurities rule their logic and they will do all sorts of stupid and fucked up shit in the process.

Insecurity creates a poisonous personality, basically. Some evolve and some don't. For the ones who don't everyone around them ultimately suffers in the long run.

Posted by TheLibraMudra
When I was a teenager, I was such a spoiled little bitch. I wanted everything. And expected all of it. From everyone. It took some good years of life lesson ass kickings to straighten me out.

Im happy u changed. It hurts me to see that from any sign. It could hurt ppl

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Posted by TheLibraMudra
When I was a teenager, I was such a spoiled little bitch. I wanted everything. And expected all of it. From everyone. It took some good years of life lesson ass kickings to straighten me out.

Respect because at least you have the balls to admit it.

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I love honesty i respect it

Some water signs try and manipulate a love interest by "buying" them. The water signs assumes if the Libra "accepts' the gifts then some mutual understanding is reached. But I am straight-forward person - once someone tells me their truth - if I chose to give them a gift or money, it is a demonstration of my benevolent nature, not a tool to deceive or manipulate. So I can't speak for all Libras, but we assume that others are coming from that same heart-felt genuine place.

Posted by librawomen7
Some water signs try and manipulate a love interest by "buying" them. The water signs assumes if the Libra "accepts' the gifts then some mutual understanding is reached. But I am straight-forward person - once someone tells me their truth - if I chose to give them a gift or money, it is a demonstration of my benevolent nature, not a tool to deceive or manipulate. So I can't speak for all Libras, but we assume that others are coming from that same heart-felt genuine place.

Some water signs can do this yes. This is reference to my friend who is a Capricorn. Maybe she dont understand the dynamic of giving without expectations but also wouldn't the receiver draw the line and so no thank u too?

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Some water signs try and manipulate a love interest by "buying" them. The water signs assumes if the Libra "accepts' the gifts then some mutual understanding is reached. But I am straight-forward person - once someone tells me their truth - if I chose to give them a gift or money, it is a demonstration of my benevolent nature, not a tool to deceive or manipulate. So I can't speak for all Libras, but we assume that others are coming from that same heart-felt genuine place.

Like when do ppl draw the line for example if lets say im ur friend im helping u for xyz reasons and u just go over board like i help u with 100 for food now u tell me u need lobster and salmon ur hair done nails done a new bed...its like im trying help u then u take a mile. Of course water signs gullible some earth signs r nice too when do libras draw the line and say look u help me enough. Its like we genuinely do want to help but once u help someone takers have no limits and givers need to set limits. I personally dont give to expect anything in return but dont keep calling me asking for help when I help u alot already. My wasnt like this at all she was a giver etc but i notice some libras not all will juice u dry if u dont set boundaries.

In the case of your friend, did the Libra put a gun to her head and force her to purchase things? More than likely financial gifts were offered with the stipulation to manipulate affections. She made her own adult decision using her own free will to attempt to manipulate the Libra into loving her and the plans didn't work. Now she' blaming the Libra for decisions she made as a grown woman. That's childish!

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Some water signs try and manipulate a love interest by "buying" them. The water signs assumes if the Libra "accepts' the gifts then some mutual understanding is reached. But I am straight-forward person - once someone tells me their truth - if I chose to give them a gift or money, it is a demonstration of my benevolent nature, not a tool to deceive or manipulate. So I can't speak for all Libras, but we assume that others are coming from that same heart-felt genuine place.

Like when do ppl draw the line for example if lets say im ur friend im helping u for xyz reasons and u just go over board like i help u with 100 for food now u tell me u need lobster and salmon ur hair done nails done a new bed...its like im trying help u then u take a mile. Of course water signs gullible some earth signs r nice too when do libras draw the line and say look u help me enough. Its like we genuinely do want to help but once u help someone takers have no limits and givers need to set limits. I personally dont give to expect anything in return but dont keep calling me asking for help when I help u alot already. My wasnt like this at all she was a giver etc but i notice some libras not all will juice u dry if u dont set boundaries.

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This is not a libra issue, it's a people issue.

Posted by librawomen7
In the case of your friend, did the Libra put a gun to her head and force her to purchase things? More than likely financial gifts were offered with the stipulation to manipulate affections. She made her own adult decision using her own free will to attempt to manipulate the Libra into loving her and the plans didn't work. Now she' blaming the Libra for decisions she made as a grown woman. That's childish!

Yea it is childish. Shouldnt both b accountable though? She childish for assuming expecting something and the other person is too for allowing someone to keep buying u stuff right? Isnt that considered taking advantage of someone though too? Both r wrong

Posted by LuckyLibra979
Hell yea especially Venus in Libra they perfected it and I'm dead serious.I seen some fake it to make it

Atleast u keeping it 100 ayy

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In the case of your friend, did the Libra put a gun to her head and force her to purchase things? More than likely financial gifts were offered with the stipulation to manipulate affections. She made her own adult decision using her own free will to attempt to manipulate the Libra into loving her and the plans didn't work. Now she' blaming the Libra for decisions she made as a grown woman. That's childish!

Yea it is childish. Shouldnt both b accountable though? She childish for assuming expecting something and the other person is too for allowing someone to keep buying u stuff right? Isnt that considered taking advantage of someone though too? Both r wrong

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Okay Lovely, everyone is entitled to their opinion right? My thing is this, If someone has been straight up with me, and I continue to give and do for them, and they accept it, that's on me. Example I had a cancer friend. I was really good to the cancer friend I gave a lot, let them stay at my house, etc, and I never felt taken advantage of, because I made an adult decision to give. I gave because I loved the cancer. I don't think I am understanding how it's the cancer's fault for receiving if I chose to give?

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In the case of your friend, did the Libra put a gun to her head and force her to purchase things? More than likely financial gifts were offered with the stipulation to manipulate affections. She made her own adult decision using her own free will to attempt to manipulate the Libra into loving her and the plans didn't work. Now she' blaming the Libra for decisions she made as a grown woman. That's childish!

Yea it is childish. Shouldnt both b accountable though? She childish for assuming expecting something and the other person is too for allowing someone to keep buying u stuff right? Isnt that considered taking advantage of someone though too? Both r wrong

Okay Lovely, everyone is entitled to their opinion right? My thing is this, If someone has been straight up with me, and I continue to give and do for them, and they accept it, that's on me. Example I had a cancer friend. I was really good to the cancer friend I gave a lot, let them stay at my house, etc, and I never felt taken advantage of, because I made an adult decision to give. I gave because I loved the cancer. I don't think I am understanding how it's the cancer's fault for receiving if I chose to give?

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I hear u on that.

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In the case of your friend, did the Libra put a gun to her head and force her to purchase things? More than likely financial gifts were offered with the stipulation to manipulate affections. She made her own adult decision using her own free will to attempt to manipulate the Libra into loving her and the plans didn't work. Now she' blaming the Libra for decisions she made as a grown woman. That's childish!

Yea it is childish. Shouldnt both b accountable though? She childish for assuming expecting something and the other person is too for allowing someone to keep buying u stuff right? Isnt that considered taking advantage of someone though too? Both r wrong

Okay Lovely, everyone is entitled to their opinion right? My thing is this, If someone has been straight up with me, and I continue to give and do for them, and they accept it, that's on me. Example I had a cancer friend. I was really good to the cancer friend I gave a lot, let them stay at my house, etc, and I never felt taken advantage of, because I made an adult decision to give. I gave because I loved the cancer. I don't think I am understanding how it's the cancer's fault for receiving if I chose to give?

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Do u ever feel taking advantage of in general off topic from my post?

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In the case of your friend, did the Libra put a gun to her head and force her to purchase things? More than likely financial gifts were offered with the stipulation to manipulate affections. She made her own adult decision using her own free will to attempt to manipulate the Libra into loving her and the plans didn't work. Now she' blaming the Libra for decisions she made as a grown woman. That's childish!

Yea it is childish. Shouldnt both b accountable though? She childish for assuming expecting something and the other person is too for allowing someone to keep buying u stuff right? Isnt that considered taking advantage of someone though too? Both r wrong

Okay Lovely, everyone is entitled to their opinion right? My thing is this, If someone has been straight up with me, and I continue to give and do for them, and they accept it, that's on me. Example I had a cancer friend. I was really good to the cancer friend I gave a lot, let them stay at my house, etc, and I never felt taken advantage of, because I made an adult decision to give. I gave because I loved the cancer. I don't think I am understanding how it's the cancer's fault for receiving if I chose to give?

Do u ever feel taking advantage of in general off topic from my post?

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With all due respect Ms. Lovely, Cancers are more into the victim, self pity, " I am being taking advantage of" poor me roles than Libras. My mom is a Gemini- cancer and she can't get enough of blaming others for her inability to set limits on her own behavior. I have really good boundaries and self-control so I don't give to the point where I would feel taken advantage of.

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In the case of your friend, did the Libra put a gun to her head and force her to purchase things? More than likely financial gifts were offered with the stipulation to manipulate affections. She made her own adult decision using her own free will to attempt to manipulate the Libra into loving her and the plans didn't work. Now she' blaming the Libra for decisions she made as a grown woman. That's childish!

Yea it is childish. Shouldnt both b accountable though? She childish for assuming expecting something and the other person is too for allowing someone to keep buying u stuff right? Isnt that considered taking advantage of someone though too? Both r wrong

Okay Lovely, everyone is entitled to their opinion right? My thing is this, If someone has been straight up with me, and I continue to give and do for them, and they accept it, that's on me. Example I had a cancer friend. I was really good to the cancer friend I gave a lot, let them stay at my house, etc, and I never felt taken advantage of, because I made an adult decision to give. I gave because I loved the cancer. I don't think I am understanding how it's the cancer's fault for receiving if I chose to give?

Do u ever feel taking advantage of in general off topic from my post?

With all due respect Ms. Lovely, Cancers are more into the victim, self pity, " I am being taking advantage of" poor me roles than Libras. My mom is a Gemini- cancer and she can't get enough of blaming others for her inability to set limits on her own behavior. I have really good boundaries and self-control so I don't give to the point where I would feel taken advantage of.

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I hear u on that. I dont drown myself in self pity or stress others about what i do or done. I just ask u in general have u felt taking advantage of. Can me and u have a conversation without u throwing in cancers do this and they do that. I was trying focus on u and ur thought in general. I hear u on the whole taking advantage part i see alot other signs do that too this post wasnt even about me but my friend who is an earth sign who is going through what i kind of went through. My best advice to her was if it makes u feel bad dont do it if its not coming from a genuine place etc. As i mentioned not all libras r this way but i noticed some will take without saying no thank u thats enough while other signs not just cancers give to

Me personally im learning to set limits in general im good at working on self i know where my issues lie and i dont blame others for what i do those r my choices and decisions etc

Posted by lovely77
Me personally im learning to set limits in general im good at working on self i know where my issues lie and i dont blame others for what i do those r my choices and decisions etc

Okay maybe the Cancer comments were unnecessary; in regards to Libras..... I am a huge giver! I have given things away in order to be a blessing, so when someone gives back to me I interpret it as God blessing me. But no, I don't say no, or stop because I assume that like me people give from their hearts. It never occurs to me to monitor the behavior of another grown-ass adult.

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Me personally im learning to set limits in general im good at working on self i know where my issues lie and i dont blame others for what i do those r my choices and decisions etc

Okay maybe the Cancer comments were unnecessary; in regards to Libras..... I am a huge giver! I have given things away in order to be a blessing, so when someone gives back to me I interpret it as God blessing me. But no, I don't say no, or stop because I assume that like me people give from their hearts. It never occurs to me to monitor the behavior of another grown-ass adult.

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Yea i agree on that

Posted by ElTigre25
Eww my Libra sister takes advantage of people, but she gets taken advantage of by men in her relationships because she's a pushover when in love. I truly am so disappointed in a lot of her ways. Myself, I'm a loner and always been. I want MY OWN. I'm probably not a good example since I don't care for people or relationships lol.

But I'm ready to whoop ass when someone does this to a close friend or someone I see as truly kind. That's why I asked you if you wanted me to beat their ass, but I later found it was a female.

Its all good. I see ppl side. Its like no one tells u fo anything but u have to help fam and even soemtimes family can take advantage too. I saw this quote it said givers need to set limits because takers dont have any. I genuinely feel ppl do want to help with no expectations but when do ppl learn to aay hey u help enough thats all im trying figure out

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Eww my Libra sister takes advantage of people, but she gets taken advantage of by men in her relationships because she's a pushover when in love. I truly am so disappointed in a lot of her ways. Myself, I'm a loner and always been. I want MY OWN. I'm probably not a good example since I don't care for people or relationships lol.

But I'm ready to whoop ass when someone does this to a close friend or someone I see as truly kind. That's why I asked you if you wanted me to beat their ass, but I later found it was a female.

Its all good. I see ppl side. Its like no one tells u fo anything but u have to help fam and even soemtimes family can take advantage too. I saw this quote it said givers need to set limits because takers dont have any. I genuinely feel ppl do want to help with no expectations but when do ppl learn to aay hey u help enough thats all im trying figure out

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I usually don't associate with people who give to the degree that someone else has to tell them to stop - I am not trying to disrespect - but I don't get it. I really just don't get it. Like if i met someone who couldn't self-control I wouldn't have another meeting with me, because I am too overwhelmed with trying to deal with my own crazies then trying to control someone else's.

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Me personally im learning to set limits in general im good at working on self i know where my issues lie and i dont blame others for what i do those r my choices and decisions etc

Okay maybe the Cancer comments were unnecessary; in regards to Libras..... I am a huge giver! I have given things away in order to be a blessing, so when someone gives back to me I interpret it as God blessing me. But no, I don't say no, or stop because I assume that like me people give from their hearts. It never occurs to me to monitor the behavior of another grown-ass adult.

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I cant see ur post

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Posted by ElTigre25
Eww my Libra sister takes advantage of people, but she gets taken advantage of by men in her relationships because she's a pushover when in love. I truly am so disappointed in a lot of her ways. Myself, I'm a loner and always been. I want MY OWN. I'm probably not a good example since I don't care for people or relationships lol.

But I'm ready to whoop ass when someone does this to a close friend or someone I see as truly kind. That's why I asked you if you wanted me to beat their ass, but I later found it was a female.

Its all good. I see ppl side. Its like no one tells u fo anything but u have to help fam and even soemtimes family can take advantage too. I saw this quote it said givers need to set limits because takers dont have any. I genuinely feel ppl do want to help with no expectations but when do ppl learn to aay hey u help enough thats all im trying figure out

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What's up with you and your Libra?

I used to have a libra bestfriend, we were like sisters. I did SO much for her and i never kept tallies. I worked and she did not so i wouldn't mind buying her stuff if we went to the movies or just anywhere i would always offer to pay for her she was my sister. Fast forward, i find out through her other friends that she is talking bad about me for no reason. This is when i started to distance myself, i just didnt understand what i had done to her. Turns out she has been making up lies to her other friends to make me look bad when i was nothing but good to her. She is unappreciative and selfish and she would do anything to make herself feel as though shes on top of everyone. You can already guess i stopped being friends with her and my life feels so much lighter without her scattered selfish brain. I have found some libras to be like this while other libras seem sweet, but i wouldn't put anything past them

I don't think I take advantage of people but I can use my charm to get what I want. I can usually convince people to do things they don't want to. A lot of my friends hate going out but somehow I end up convincing them to :p

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Posted by ElTigre25
Eww my Libra sister takes advantage of people, but she gets taken advantage of by men in her relationships because she's a pushover when in love. I truly am so disappointed in a lot of her ways. Myself, I'm a loner and always been. I want MY OWN. I'm probably not a good example since I don't care for people or relationships lol.

But I'm ready to whoop ass when someone does this to a close friend or someone I see as truly kind. That's why I asked you if you wanted me to beat their ass, but I later found it was a female.

Its all good. I see ppl side. Its like no one tells u fo anything but u have to help fam and even soemtimes family can take advantage too. I saw this quote it said givers need to set limits because takers dont have any. I genuinely feel ppl do want to help with no expectations but when do ppl learn to aay hey u help enough thats all im trying figure out

What's up with you and your Libra?

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I took step back evaluated myself on a few things. On where i went wrong. We r still in eachother lives as friends only. Everything has been peaceful since then.

Posted by libralotus
I don't think I take advantage of people but I can use my charm to get what I want. I can usually convince people to do things they don't want to. A lot of my friends hate going out but somehow I end up convincing them to :p

Well atleast ur honest. So when do u say hey let me not charm them today balance it out and give bck? I think women have a charm anyway to get what they want but when do ppl balance this to say no thank u let me not lol

Posted by MoonshineLeo
I used to have a libra bestfriend, we were like sisters. I did SO much for her and i never kept tallies. I worked and she did not so i wouldn't mind buying her stuff if we went to the movies or just anywhere i would always offer to pay for her she was my sister. Fast forward, i find out through her other friends that she is talking bad about me for no reason. This is when i started to distance myself, i just didnt understand what i had done to her. Turns out she has been making up lies to her other friends to make me look bad when i was nothing but good to her. She is unappreciative and selfish and she would do anything to make herself feel as though shes on top of everyone. You can already guess i stopped being friends with her and my life feels so much lighter without her scattered selfish brain. I have found some libras to be like this while other libras seem sweet, but i wouldn't put anything past them

Awww that was sweet caring of u. Im sure u did that because u loved her like a sister. I help my friends too without expecting anything. Thats wrong 4 her to do that

I don't think the receiver is being selfish unless there is ill intent with them. For example like someone posted that she took from the person only to go behind her back and talk crap about her. That is wrong and of course that person isn't going to tell them to stop giving because they're enjoying taking advantage of them.

So if you're constantly giving and the person isn't making any attempt to balance things and give you in return, then you need to question that that person intentions really are with you. Because at some point a genuine person will say hey let me treat you to lunch today, or we're going out and drinks on me tonight.

I have people give to me all the time but I wouldn't ever sit back and just "receive" and not give anything back. It's not about keeping score, tit for tat, etc. it's about respect and common courtesy that you should want to show to another person. However givers do need to learn to set boundaries because most people are going to willingly take what you're giving and it's your fault if you become resentful and start feeling used because most are not going to assume their receiving comes with expectations.

As there shouldn't be any expectations when giving, just like that saying "don't lend money unless you're okay with not getting it back"

Posted by Cancer Lady
I don't think the receiver is being selfish unless there is ill intent with them. For example like someone posted that she took from the person only to go behind her back and talk crap about her. That is wrong and of course that person isn't going to tell them to stop giving because they're enjoying taking advantage of them.

So if you're constantly giving and the person isn't making any attempt to balance things and give you in return, then you need to question that that person intentions really are with you. Because at some point a genuine person will say hey let me treat you to lunch today, or we're going out and drinks on me tonight.

I have people give to me all the time but I wouldn't ever sit back and just "receive" and not give anything back. It's not about keeping score, tit for tat, etc. it's about respect and common courtesy that you should want to show to another person. However givers do need to learn to set boundaries because most people are going to willingly take what you're giving and it's your fault if you become resentful and start feeling used because most are not going to assume their receiving comes with expectations.

As there shouldn't be any expectations when giving, just like that saying "don't lend money unless you're okay with not getting it back"

I agree on this 100 percent.

To be very honest as a Libran I have had numerous opportunities to manipulate people. I know I can. I even thought about it. But my conscience doesn't let me. After a fellow Libran took advantage of me in every manner I decided I won't ever go that path.

Posted by Shadowsong110
To be very honest as a Libran I have had numerous opportunities to manipulate people. I know I can. I even thought about it. But my conscience doesn't let me. After a fellow Libran took advantage of me in every manner I decided I won't ever go that path.

Im happy u noticed it and didnt.

Posted by Naturally
One took fullll advantage of me, she lost our friendship, seemed to be an opportunist the whole time but in a harmless way, specially since im the type to always help, i get a spirtual vibe that shes sorry but she's never discussed the situation, I feel like she sends an energy ball saying "I've lost one of the best friend's ill ever get, this was a hard lesson to learn" im not mean or callous towards her but I have taken my friendship

Another one borrowed money and played alot of games when it was time to give it back, the money wasn't the issue, it was the way she handled it

I still have a glimpse of hope in libras though

You allowed this. Take responsibility for yourself.

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Posted by Naturally
One took fullll advantage of me, she lost our friendship, seemed to be an opportunist the whole time but in a harmless way, specially since im the type to always help, i get a spirtual vibe that shes sorry but she's never discussed the situation, I feel like she sends an energy ball saying "I've lost one of the best friend's ill ever get, this was a hard lesson to learn" im not mean or callous towards her but I have taken my friendship

Another one borrowed money and played alot of games when it was time to give it back, the money wasn't the issue, it was the way she handled it

I still have a glimpse of hope in libras though

You allowed this. Take responsibility for yourself.

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Yes we all have take responsibility but when does the other person no their limit too...we can say no all day but ppl know they getting over on ppl when do u have a conscious and say no thank u? As a friend or family member u dont expect this u just give to help but when do ppl draw the line? I guess they dont until the giver says no

OP I guess no one is really answering from the perspective of the other person because we can not control the behavioral responses of another, but does the other person have some responsibility? If I knew the person who was giving is "off" I would refuse gifts, and money. But otherwise I feel like cancerlady and Librawoman7

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OP I guess no one is really answering from the perspective of the other person because we can not control the behavioral responses of another, but does the other person have some responsibility? If I knew the person who was giving is "off" I would refuse gifts, and money. But otherwise I feel like cancerlady and Librawoman7

I wasnt coming from the mindset of expectation, when do ppl say no its sad that givers have to even set limits. A person shouldnt have to be off for someone to say no. Ppl know they are being mischievous. U cant control grown ppl but if givers r genuine they dont know they r being taking for granted until they find out. If ur helping a friend ur heloing them only to find out from someone else they were being cruel and didnt even need help? What then. ...

My ex libra gave to everyone but she also put ppl in their place if she felt they were taking advantage of ppl or her. She had a conscious i have a conscious

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OP I guess no one is really answering from the perspective of the other person because we can not control the behavioral responses of another, but does the other person have some responsibility? If I knew the person who was giving is "off" I would refuse gifts, and money. But otherwise I feel like cancerlady and Librawoman7

I wasnt coming from the mindset of expectation, when do ppl say no its sad that givers have to even set limits. A person shouldnt have to be off for someone to say no. Ppl know they are being mischievous. U cant control grown ppl but if givers r genuine they dont know they r being taking for granted until they find out. If ur helping a friend ur heloing them only to find out from someone else they were being cruel and didnt even need help? What then. ...

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It's cool we see things differently chica. Is this is reference to the lady you gave $ 1000 to for Valentine's day? Do you think she shouldn't have accepted it if she wasn't in for the long haul?

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OP I guess no one is really answering from the perspective of the other person because we can not control the behavioral responses of another, but does the other person have some responsibility? If I knew the person who was giving is "off" I would refuse gifts, and money. But otherwise I feel like cancerlady and Librawoman7

I wasnt coming from the mindset of expectation, when do ppl say no its sad that givers have to even set limits. A person shouldnt have to be off for someone to say no. Ppl know they are being mischievous. U cant control grown ppl but if givers r genuine they dont know they r being taking for granted until they find out. If ur helping a friend ur heloing them only to find out from someone else they were being cruel and didnt even need help? What then. ...

It's cool we see things differently chica. Is this is reference to the lady you gave $ 1000 to for Valentine's day? Do you think she shouldn't have accepted it if she wasn't in for the long haul?

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Not at all. As i said to librawomen 7 this is totally not even about me. Its about my friend who too is dating a libra shes a Capricorn she's been talking to her for 3 yrs now as frienda getting to know her and she grew to like her as more.

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OP I guess no one is really answering from the perspective of the other person because we can not control the behavioral responses of another, but does the other person have some responsibility? If I knew the person who was giving is "off" I would refuse gifts, and money. But otherwise I feel like cancerlady and Librawoman7

I wasnt coming from the mindset of expectation, when do ppl say no its sad that givers have to even set limits. A person shouldnt have to be off for someone to say no. Ppl know they are being mischievous. U cant control grown ppl but if givers r genuine they dont know they r being taking for granted until they find out. If ur helping a friend ur heloing them only to find out from someone else they were being cruel and didnt even need help? What then. ...

It's cool we see things differently chica. Is this is reference to the lady you gave $ 1000 to for Valentine's day? Do you think she shouldn't have accepted it if she wasn't in for the long haul?

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As to my libra i feel she should do as she please but for anyone family too if i help u dont smack me in the face. Dont bite the hand that feeds u but thats how i look at life id feel bad. we r on good terms right now so far.

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OP I guess no one is really answering from the perspective of the other person because we can not control the behavioral responses of another, but does the other person have some responsibility? If I knew the person who was giving is "off" I would refuse gifts, and money. But otherwise I feel like cancerlady and Librawoman7

I wasnt coming from the mindset of expectation, when do ppl say no its sad that givers have to even set limits. A person shouldnt have to be off for someone to say no. Ppl know they are being mischievous. U cant control grown ppl but if givers r genuine they dont know they r being taking for granted until they find out. If ur helping a friend ur heloing them only to find out from someone else they were being cruel and didnt even need help? What then. ...

It's cool we see things differently chica. Is this is reference to the lady you gave $ 1000 to for Valentine's day? Do you think she shouldn't have accepted it if she wasn't in for the long haul?

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My friend help her by letting her stay there for a few days then she started saying she need her hair done need a diff blow up bed to sleep on she need this type food and im like wow...someone helps u then u need all this type of stuff wasnt good enough. I told my friend its ok to help but dont think what u do for her will give u browny points do it genuinely and help her. Now for this girl if someone is helping u when is ur limit to be greatful that she gave u a place to stay for a few days? that kind hurt my friend and it would rub me the wrong way too so in this scenario isnt that like taking advantage of someone? Or my friend shouldn't allowed her to stay i dont think she expected her to act that way i feel she genuinely was just helping this girl and she turned into a brat

But OP Your friend set it up like that. I don't think the Libra just came out of nowhere demanding.

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But OP Your friend set it up like that. I don't think the Libra just came out of nowhere demanding.

Come on... lmaoo noooo we gone put this all on the giver . There is 3 sides to everything. So your saying the taker isnt wrong at all the giver shouldn't have started helping and its ok for this person to ask for too much after u already done what u can? I understand i personally couldn't and wouldnt even fix my mouth to do that i know my limit but i guess others dont and in my eyes thats reaching and taking advantage of ppl in a way

Is the Capricorn a stud?

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My leeb ex was like this. She wanted everything, wanted to go everywhere, eat out everywhere, like if it was unto her we'd dine out everyday and she'd get gifts every second lol I was a fool too so its not all her fault.

I hear u its eveyrone fault to be honest. We cant just put this on one person because your a giver. Stop giving ao mich and takers are selfish and bratty they should compromise too it goes both ways not just one sided

The libras I know don't "take advantage" for the sake of doing so. They just like they get to enjoy something someone else has to offer. At times they get giddy about if (like they're doing something wrong -probably because they are accustomed to doing for others) and laugh about an opportunity just because.

Leebs are way sweet.

Not opertunistic.

Not malicious.

It's about letting the good times roll.

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Is the Capricorn a stud?

Shes feminine but tomboyish but studs need love to they still women. My libra is in between androgynous im very feminine and i still feel like as a lesbian couple it should go both ways i see where u going with this. Her friend is feminine. I dont think that way i just do and spoil my girl rather she is feminine or dominant we both women