To be, or Not to be (Page 2)

Wanderlust


It's obvious your thinking only of yourself like everybody is stating

In the end u know these woman want something more, and I believe your doing more than what ur saying, u may mean that u don't want to get serious but yet your call it a relationship, it doesn't get more serious than that, otherwise why call it a relationship then?

Posted by tiziani
I was referring to general commitments really. Not necessarily just love life.

From what i have read i don't think he was talking about his general life. If you have already done the same song and dance routine yourself, then you shouldn't indulge him in his. You should have rather advised him to avoid this. Anyhoo wanderlust101, dude you shouldn't think so much about this situation, just go with the flow and see where it takes you. You hold the reins of your own life, so go on make your own decisions and enjoy.

The part that is crystal clear is you voice one thing but your actions are the complete opposite...and as we have all learnt here, actions speak louder than words!

Like I said, not everyone is selfish in a relationship. I never said I'm not, because I am. There wasn't projection from me. The reason I said that is because I know 3 ladies and one being my mom who sacrificed her life catering to men like my father, and then this other dude who she loved, but botj of them never reciprocated. She did it purely out of care and empathy for them. That is who she is. I have met selfless women who give and give without a return in a relationship. For you to say everyone is selfish in a relationship, I don't know where you live, but that's quite unfortunate that you have never met people like that. Stop generalizing! All you described in the OP is typical behaviour expected from a man who is "going with the flow". He isn't looking for anything serious and that is perfectly fine for a man your age, since not many men think of marriage and kids at your age, not to mention that they haven't achieved their goals in life thag they want to achieve before settling down. So I suppose there is nothing wrong with you. The only problem is that you don't seem bright when it comes to assessing the person you are getting romantic with. You seem to be getting involved with women who are looking for long term meaningful relationship. BTW, don't get involved with women older than you because as women get older, they naturally think of marriage and kids. Stick to dating young women who don't know what they want, and even if they
want marriage and kids eventually, these women know it's later on in life that by the time they reach that age, both of you would've either broken up for one reason or another or you have truly fallen in love.