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Just for you Chatz: (letter to your Libran):

Dear Nimrod,

Get off the singles sites. You are taking time away from being with a wonderful woman you probably didn't deserve in the first place. You are NOT going to find anyone even close to her league in your trolling--you're bored with them already anyway! You seem like an otherwise great guy and Chatz "gets" you---when other women probably haven't figured you out. Are you willing to throw your relationship away because of a foolish habit?

Sincerely,

One Looking Out For Your Best Interests

LOL thanks Atom 🙂.....its very confusing yes and normally I wouldn't put up with any of this...what is wrong with me— Nah, don't answer that LOL. Nobody else would ever get away with this but again, I guess I can't call ours a relationship as such *shrugs*....one week he's saying "my girl", two weeks later he's still on chat sites...weird stuff. Sometimes I wonder if its just a test as he was "controlled" by his ex with so much jealousy - apparently he wasn't allowed to keep female friendships so perhaps this is his way of ensuring that just won't happen again....who knows. Im really trying to see every angle even though it eats at me.

Ummmmm not on your life would I ever go for another LIbra (no offence guys - you know you're gorgeous but well you create us being headcases!!!!).

Im not sitting around waiting for him anymore...I've established this but its nice having him around and yeah, the precious nights spent online could be with me but he wants to keep that distance (I do get that part - I really do)....he's always checking himself that he's gotten too close - I know there's something there, he can't hide everything but he's got more discipline than me - perhaps as he's older and wiser eh?? LOL. I've been doing this for 4 months but I am getting stronger during the inbetween times (not that he's given me that opportunity this time - wonder how I'll go now though, unless he continues to make contact like he has been over the past week).

Guess anything is possible.....He knows Im free on Saturday night, so is he.....we'll see 😉

Apart from the chat site, Im very content with this guy - he's doing really nice things for and with me...no complaints...its just that one red flag *sigh*

Awwww Atom you are a sweetheart - thank you and I love the name Nimrod!!!!

thank you 🙂

Yup looking at the women on there— I say nothing!! There are a couple of nice looking women but yeah....again, I say nothing 😉

chatz you are where Id like to be right now with my Libra friend. congrats. I read somewwhere Libras are allowed to flirt but you are not. The internet thing might just be cause he is bored at night. If I were in your shoes, I wouldnt mess things up by being J.

er I should say showing you are J. LOL

Okay. Okay, Chatz. I know where your heart is.

Atom...

I may need a NIMROD letter too, to my libra. He has too many female friends that he is not letting go of. HATE IT!!!!!

***QS how long did you know the one you describe above before you married? Did you go through this long road too?***

I no doubt went through some of this but, not long a month or two... However I laid the law down strong at a certain point as described in previous posts.. I didn't lay it down with my libra friend. Don't want to lose the friendship as well, if this other thing doesn't work. However, I will.

My ex wasn't DAMAGED, no relationship, ex-wife issues either, makes a difference, we were younger 27 so I kind of guided him to where I wanted him...

LOL Benice, I wouldnt' dream of showing him I was J...not on his life!!! Wouldn't give him the satisfaction LOL. Back to basics and just go out and have fun with my friends and get on with my life, if he somehow doesn't fit in the puzzle anymore, that's his fault...not mine coz I have waited and waited and hoped but I can't spend another 4 months doing that for nothing *shrugs*....the other night he said something that really annoyed me about a woman on telly and I just said "sometimes you have a huge case of foot in mouth don't you?"...he got very quiet on me but Im sick of being miss niceness all the time and what he said just isn't necessary in front of me and he should keep it for when he's out with the boys!! It didn't cause any argument, etc but I think it made him think just a tad....in fact, I think he really wants to see me angry - he does push this but I don't show him....maybe its time I did 😉 Problem is I am a Leo and an angry Leo isn't good LOL

Anyway its all good but I want more - he obviously just can't/won't give me that....but Im not going to sit around and die over it....seeing him so much lately and now me becoming invisible for a while might just give him that kick, if not? I'll see him soon LOL

Benice, you are being too nice. We don't have to tip toe around these guys just present our feelings differently than we present them with others. Chatz, he has no clue this is bothering you so much. Lightly tell him in a round about way.

Same to you bratz, invite him and the girl along with other friends out on evening and make your assumption there.

My Libra friend mentioned to me once. "People kill me when they say relationships just hhappen, it is the amount of time you spend with a person, that makes them happen, if you spend more and more time eventually something will begin, if you aren't willing to have a relationship at the time, don't spend as much time. Then he goes, so when are we gonna spend some more time together... I still took that as a hint. Funny, how he tried to cover it up with the last comment about spending time. sigh...

yes always the humour in what they say!! Again, hard to read between the lines but yes your Libra friends little story about how relationships happen is good..its true and I guess we all try to read a little too much into everything they say and do (well I do now...gawd aren't they the ones who are meant to analyze so much?? LOL). Personally I think I should just get over it and enjoy when he wants to catch up and not question too much about it....its all going well and its regular - that can only mean he likes being around me and if it doesnt? he's insane hanging around me if he doesnt care for me LOL. I know his routine and he sticks to it - why question it...and the online stuff? yep I know I need to say something but how to word it is the problem - I'll get there eventually 🙂

QS you're amazing with your stories.....not sure as to what to think of your man though.....they all seem to be "damaged" or "not ready"...arghhh!!!!

Thanks Chatz, he definitely keeps me thinking... Funny, but my interest is really starting to fade this is driving me nuts. Funny, we haven't really hung out in awhile. So yeah when he had plans Sunday, that kind of shot any future invitations to him.

You are one strong woman!!! Im sure when you least expect it, expect the unexpected 😉

Chatz, it will probably be too late. Once I lose interest, I normally don't regain it. Haven't happened yet.

Queen, I'm starting to lose interest in Libra Girl. And I'm like you---once that happens, I'm done. 'Just move on.

So why do I feel like that right now? First, I usually don't hear from her for 3-4 days at a time. Second, as a lot of you know, I had a fun piano concert tonight. Yes, I invited her several times and reminded her to come. She was a no show. Meanwhile, girls I barely know came to see me play and hung around for awhile afterward. I just can't believe Libra Girl doesn't get it.

So, I have an interesting problem! Libra Girl and I have a lunch date tomorrow---and right now I want to cancel it. Just tired of playing games and always being the one working hard to get together. Sure she's charming and we've made come headway, butit WOULD be nice to have someone that can make up their own mind once in awhile and participate in things I'm interested in---nope, not being selfish---would do the same for my buds and CERTAINLY for someone I really cared about. Yuck.

Looks like everybody is feeling a little jaded about their current love interests and no Atom, you're definitely not being selfish but them making up their minds? you have to actually do it for them and they seem to be happy to oblige.

"So, I have an interesting problem! Libra Girl and I have a lunch date tomorrow---and right now I want to cancel it"....I know how you feel and you wouldn't believe how many draft emails I have but haven't been able to send them (thank goodness as everytime I was about to send one things would miraculously get back on track and I'd have missed out on so many of our great get togethers).

Atom, I'd still have the lunch date, you KNOW you'll be on that cloud 9 for another day or so and then the cycle continues and that's where you have to do your own disappearing act again. I know this seems really awful, but we all seem to be in the same boat so it doesnt appear that we're not an interest to our Libran, its just the way they are and only we can decide whether we want to hang around and/or know if there is anything there worth waiting for.

Trust me, I've had many disappointments to date with mine and I've only known him since his birthday (funny day to have met him too huh? LOL)....so only 4 months and I've left invitations out to things and he's mentioned them (as he is quite inquisitive as to what I do with my time, etc) but not actively shown any interest to go with me, and I end up going alone or don't go at all. I am going to pluck up the courage and ask him to my boss' birthday party at the end of March...by then we will have been seeing one another for 5&1/2 months.

Atom, have you been "out" with her, as in public? or is always at home/her house, etc? I have to admit, Im getting a bit tired of just staying home and would really love it if we went OUT together!!

I guess that is a very good question though, what would a Libran think if a date were cancelled? *shrugs* dunno Atom but hang in there - it just seems to be a very confusing time at the moment and us Leos for instance, are going through stuff - dunno why but we are 😢

Hope you make the right choice for you

Damaged goods is what we have. I went through something similar with my ex for a very short time but, I really don't like this.

Atom, they seem to come off as thinking they are God's gift and don't realize that is how they are coming off.

I dunno. I am getting a very bitter taste in my mouth toward my Libra friend. Don't like this at all. Starting to piss me off now.

something interesting:

To keep on an even keel a libran's emotions tend to fluctuate, so at times they feel they need to have time to themselves and seem abit down then they're perk up and want to do everything and go everywhere. So if you're partner to a libran it would be advisable to ride the wave, but try to compensate (when they seem abit down try to enliven your own mood) it's a natural process for a libran.

Thank you, lovely ladies. Yes, I've been out publicly with Libra Girl several times. I spoil her rotten---lunches out, dinners out. And, yeah, I understand about the scales things and mostly spend time with her when she's up. I just get frustrated that it goes on and on like this.

Chatz, you have never been out with your Libra friend in public!!! That is a problem. My friend and I have quite a bit in groups a few times just the two of us... But to never go out. That would totally piss me off. I haven't been out with him though since the last time he broke up with the Girlfriend, which has been a little over a month now.
It seems the distance has become more intense since I told him how I felt. I am free next weekend - no baby. I am going to definitely have a talk with him face-to-face.

Yeah Atom it is frustrating... The minute you walk away they act like you are killing them... It sucks so bad...

Well----hate saying this----I may have to walk away just for that reason. YUCK!!!

Chatz, that is only true until you get their hearts. See Libra actually perfer to be partnered. They are definitely more balanced then. They are these crazy people and unbalanced when they are alone... Remember that. However they don't make the right choices to get coupled and may miss out on the best thing to happen to them. Luv you guys I am tired of talking about them. I shall get my beauty sleep.

Atom, I am up for lunches and dinners. I am a girl that will and can appreciate it... 🙂

I can't do this right now. Queen, you've got the right idea. I'm calling it a night. I hope you know how much I appreciate all of you.

I really dont think they are intentionally being mean - it's just the way they are - like Leos, Scorps, Caps, certain things about them and their personality. That is why they get along well with other Air signs, because they are the same way. I think once you get them,and QS you should know, you have them for good unless of course according to, again what I have read, you BORE them in your relationship or are jealous and do not give them their down time. They do not seem to be emotional people. I think they are so motivated to make the RIGHT decision, they keep their distance so as not to hurt you if they decide otherwise.

In my opinion, I will lay low til I just do not care if I lose him or not and will turn it on strong, make some demands. Tell him we cannot be friends because my feeling for him are stronger.

I know one time I wanted to talk to my Lfriend about us to see what was going on between us, he said we needed to talk and he would call. It became a week or so,no call so i text him to meet me at his favorite bar at a certain time the NEXT day. I sat at the bar, he didnt show. I called on his cell phone and said "Im sitting here waiting for you and you are not here". He said he was on his way home from a BD party and I told him to stop here. Hey, he did it on a demand. It's like you have to push them. Funny he never answered my text that he would meet me there, and I know he got the text.

Ive had to do this to him several times. Before Xmas I was going out of town and wanted to have a xmas drink with him. Again he never called back like he said he would from earlier in the week. I called him that Friday night and said I wanted to have a drink TONIGHT, he had just gotten off work but we met that night on my request, and I was late, heehee. He had to CALL ME and ask where I was cause he was sitting at the bar waiting. Being treated this way you would think he would not answer my calls, texts, but he always does. STRANGE creatures.

Good luck benice, Im sure you are right - I just picked one that was too damaged and too emotionally unavailable.

For me its probably 99.9% well and truly over after the email I just sent to him.....I guess knowing that everybody else goes out in "public" and not us means I was pretty much just his distraction and/or unpaid, well never mind....Im hurting a bit here so I best go but wish you all the best.