Wanting attention (Page 3)

Yeah. I have a feeling the only thing I can do is make other plans. I will get over him, get happy again, then he will call me ... I will believe him because I always think the best of people and the cycle will start again.

I just don't get why he doesn't leave me alone.

*sigh*

Good advice, I will start listening during dates instead of staring hypnotically at their cleavage. Would bringing a tape recorder cross the line?

For Leo, tell him "If you want to date an adult you need to act like one". If he wants to make plans with you in the future, he will need to snail mail you an invitation. And then don't answer his calls.

*** I will start listening during dates instead of staring hypnotically at their cleavage

I know it is hard. Especially when the cleavage is staring back at you.

So true,

must...master...concentration...

If I wanted to see cleavage, I would just look down.

🙂

lucky you, I'm truly jealous...

😉

You should be. You should be.

🙂

Speaking of which ... what happened to keeping it clean, Sailor? Does this mean I get to pat your ass again? lol

LOL ....This has to be the most insightful coversation I have ever read on any board.

But SoftCookie is right.... Libran diplomacy is really something which brings my blood to boil.

You may be smug that you didnt hurt any feelings but you did much worse.

Huh?

What/Who are you talking about/to?

This Sailor is ready to hit the town tonight to find a First Mate (and a second, and a third)... =)

Speaking of which, what do you think of my new personal ad?

And here I thought you were a boob man.

I appreciate the female form in all shapes and sizes, especially this one...

she must be a Libra 😉

'...People can't read each other's minds (unless you have some sort of special psychic or telekinetic powers), and in order for a relationship to work, people need to be honest and communicate things, otherwise what's the point??..'

aprilbaby i totally agree with u.. communication is the only way u can ever keep ur relationship strong and going... and u have to say wat u feel and not just ' assume' or 'expect' ur guy to understand u without ur expressing ur feelings or talking about them...

i mean if im pissed off at something i would let my BF know and we talk about it... thatz the only way u can make it work...and if hes the kind who doesnt want to 'talk' thingz over... FINE..... leave him... 🙂

hey aqua4libra..

im really happy for ya 🙂.. glad u didnt let the mere attraction thing get ya 🙂

i wish u a gr8 happy life wid ur aqua hubbie 🙂

'..The other way to look at it is, you can't change anyone. People can't fundamentally change who they are because you communicate your dislike for them/their actions. Complaining and nagging only leaves the other person feeling unloved and alienated. Communicating your dissatisfaction only gets you so far...'



YES u CANT change a person......i dont ever want to change a person coz no one is happy when u nag them all the time BUT communicating with ur man doesnt mean u have to NAG him all the time and magnify his weaknesses and ask him to change himself....becoz thatz WRONG!! When i say communication is the key to a happy marraige i mean u shud talk about thingz that matter to your relationship and ofcourse there will alwayz be comprimise and sacrifice on both partz coz u both have to understand and be willing to make it work...( OK thatz wat i meant by Communication 😛... comprimising 😛 )

people who expect a 100% from their partner will be dissaponited... i had this awesome high school teacher who once told me ' to never EXPECT alot from my man when i get married and i will never be dissappointed ' ....and well im not married yet but i have seen that with my BF... when u take him as he is and dont expect alot from him U'll be happy at the end of the day....

Message posted by: Aprilbaby on 6/9/2006 12:48:36 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.254
We are on the Libra board, and I saw a lot of Librans making rationalizations for their behavior instead of taking responsibility for their actions.

Mmmm this is a difficult comment to make really unless you are fully sure you can justify that it is not something that we all do, including you, as I would say it is potentially an element of human behaviour.

I also wouldn't necessarily call withholding information or not sharing concerns, thinking of the other person...I just call it not being honest and copping out.

I would be inclined to say, that it would depend on what the information that you withold concern, in the case of the original post, My personal view is that it would not have been necessary, at that stage, to advise the partner about her feelings.

I would also be inclined to comment on the aspect on whether the girls actions could be equated to 'mental cheating' by saying that I would be very surprised and difficult to convince, whether anyone, including yourself, can say with the greatest conviction, that they have not at sometime, found others outwith their relationship desirable, I would say it is part of al our natures. Would it indeed be unreasonable to expect that it didn't happen.I think so. I know for a fact that my husband flirts with and finds other women attractive, I don't get hung up about it, if I did it would likely drive me mad, I accept that it happens, it does not mean that he does not love or find me attractive.......

Regards

Message posted by: Aprilbaby on 6/9/2006 11:31:12 PM

i mean if im pissed off at something i would let my BF know and we talk about it... thatz the only way u can make it work...and if hes the kind who doesnt want to 'talk' thingz over... FINE..... leave him...

I don't really feel that the original post was relating to non communication in general, merely about a specific situation and the emotions that went with it. It is certainly pleasing when a realionship works on all levels and I agree that communication is a vital part of it's success. But again I feel that relationships are not cut and dried and situations do arise, as i am sure you will find out as your relationship progresses. We all deal withthings differently, sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. Personally I am a Libra woman who has been married for 14 yrs so it would be nice if people acknowledged that Librians often do have long successful relationships

Finally someone who said something that made sense

I think we all eac and everyone of us feel that what we say makes sense or else we wouldn't be on this site I would imagine......

Aprilbaby - I wasn't disagreeing that honesty and communication is important in a relationship. How I read your original quote was that you were saying that Libras in general don't communicate with their partners and don't share feelings with them and they hide things, hence my reply, as I feel in general that Librans do communicate very well, share things and are very honest!

*** I was talking about how the Libras in here were justifying their behavior about not sharing with their partners their needs and desires, and how I noticed when a particular person mentioned his wife being a Libra and how he had difficulty with her, and suddenly here came a bunch of justifications and rationalizations for her. I just felt no one was taking time to understand his side.

Because knowning her side might make him understand her side better and why she was acting the way she was ... which is usually why people post on these boards ... in an effort to get understanding into someone elses behavior.

If you had read all the posts around this time, I state why a Libra may be indecisive about things. Libras will twist into someone else to please their partner because thier partners come first.

Cookie wasn't married. It was just a relationship that he never wanted to be in ...

There was a lot of crap posted on this thread about Libras cheating, yadda, yadda. If you posted that on any board you will get the same result.

hehehe - mentally cheating? I have never heard this expression before! That's funny. I'd have to agree with Loudlibra on this.

So if we find ppl attractive other than our partners, are we mentally cheating? In that case I am mentally cheating with Brad Pitt, Ben Athlic, Robbie Williams ..............(the lists goes on!!!!) When you've got a partner are you suddenly to become dull, unattractive, or ever find anyone attractive ever again or even talk to the opposite sex in case you find you might both find eachother attractive or in case this may be seen as cheating? I have some very attractive male friends, is that okay, or if we talk or mildly flirt is that seen as "mentally cheating" even though its totally platonic and nothing would physically happen?

I'm sure everyone "mentally cheats" if that is, indeed a definition. Its only healthy to find others attractive. I am disturbed by the fact that some people even think it may somehow be classed as being unfaithful!

Pretty much Aqua.

I guarantee the men on this thread look at porn, go to strip clubs, look at other women when they are out, yet you are in the wrong for admitting you have an attraction, asking advice, thinking it over, and deciding you are happy where you are.

Stupidity.

little_sparrow

I don't think the issue was with her fantasizing about someone else, it was that she let that fantasy spill over into real life by dressing provocatively and actively attempting to pique the guy's interest. And the issue definitely wasn't her mulling over whether or not to throw away her marriage for a fling with the new meathead at work.

You're right, the men on this thread probably do look at porn (do partake) and go to strip clubs (don't partake), but that is completely off-topic. Most men who go to strip clubs realize that the girl sitting on their lap wouldn't give them the time of day if they didn't have a wallet full of $ 100s, it's just easier than developing a personality. The rest are just dumb...

i I don't think the issue was with her fantasizing about someone else, it was that she let that fantasy spill over into real life by dressing provocatively and actively attempting to pique the guy's interest. And the issue definitely wasn't her mulling over whether or not to throw away her marriage for a fling with the new meathead at work.

This topic got pulled into a thousand different areas.

If you want to address why, it is because Libras are use to attention and use to being desired. I think when it is missing, we wonder what is wrong with us. Just musing. I am not even sure it is true.

Again Cookie, the porn thing was more in reference to a few things Prime said.

Regardless, how was your weekend?

LS
Libras are used to attention and used to being desired. I think when it is missing, we wonder what is wrong with us.
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Hopefully most Libran women will mature out of that mindset, the rest will be visiting Dr. 90210 and answering the door for the pizza boy while wearing lingerie.

The weekend was good, had a good friend and his wife visit from out of town. He's a Gemini and she a Sagitarius, match made in heaven. But too much party 😢 How about you? Did you ever settle the epic issue of "Do we have a date on Sunday?" with your Leo?

The King was kind enough to grant an audience via telephone on Sunday to say he couldn't make it. We ended up fighting again ... I asked him to leave me alone ... I think he hears the words but just chooses to believe and do what he wants as he said he wants to get together next week when I get back from my parents. I said no. The situation is too stressful and is causing me too much happiness. He still wants me to call him and to give him another chance. At this point, I think he needs to earn it. At this point, I have no intention of doing either.

I did go hiking which was really fun and went to a friend's engagement party.

Luckily, this week is pretty much full so I won't have too much time to feel bad about the Leo.

*** Hopefully most Libran women will mature out of that mindset, the rest will be visiting Dr. 90210 and answering the door for the pizza boy while wearing lingerie.

Libra is a late blooming sign. We don't begin to blossom until 29. I think I started becoming Libra around 27, but I have read the magic number is 29. We get more attractive with age not less because we come into our own power.

Forget the Leo, he sounds immature. Sounds like you're busy enough that you don't need his flakiness in your life.

I think you're right, I have read that most Libran women grow up feeling like an ugly duckling until they mature into a beautiful swan. Unfortunately, by that time most of the good guys their age are taken and they move into the arena of older men. Which is probably for the best, the older men usually have the means to provide and the Libras are great arm candy to make their friends jealous. Then the Libra can lounge by the pool all day and flirt like mad with the pool boy while their hubby is out getting new dentures 😉

Believe it or not, I have actually been offer trophy wife status. I turned it down. I don't believe it is right to marry someone you do not love.

Good, just say no... 😉

I get crazy when people say women only want men for money. I know lots of men who have tens of millions of dollars behind them and are lonely cause they can't find a woman to date.

The women that want them ... want their money. The women they want aren't attracted to them.

Sad really.

Fantasy will set you free !!!

There's nothing wrong with lust, we all experience that. If you didn't feel lust for someone, then you'd be dead.

LS
I get crazy when people say women only want men for money. I know lots of men who have tens of millions of dollars behind them and are lonely cause they can't find a woman to date.

The women that want them ... want their money. The women they want aren't attracted to them.

Sad really.
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Very true, that's why I buried my million $ in a coffee can in the back yard 😉

I would rather be rich in love than in love with riches...