A mix of questions to ask for research purposes 🤷

1. If your child graduated from college with a masters and was several years into his/her profession, would you continue to assist in paying the student loan/debt?

If so, up to what age?



2. As a woman in a long term relationship with a man (OUTSIDE of marriage), are there any SPECIFIC bills your man has CHOSEN to pay (or bills you've REQUESTED he pay) whether he lives with you or not?



3. If your gf/bf (not spouse) asked you to give them space (because you're more productive with to-do's when they're not around all 7 days a week) would you become offended, adjust, or both/other?

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1. If your child graduated from college with a masters and was several years into his/her profession, would you continue to assist in paying the student loan/debt?

If so, up to what age?



2. As a woman in a long term relationship with a man (OUTSIDE of marriage), are there any SPECIFIC bills your man has CHOSEN to pay (or bills you've REQUESTED he pay) whether he lives with you or not?



3. If your gf/bf (not spouse) asked you to give them space (because you're more productive with to-do's when they're not around all 7 days a week) would you become offended, adjust, or both/other?

1. I would not pay repay the debt at all that’s their responsibility

2. If he lives with me, each person pays half of any utility or household bills. Ideally rent would be the same, but you could also negotiate it based on percent of income.

3. Not offended at all

#1. nope. A masters is way past a degree. They should be in their career already while simultaneously pursuing it. If the debt is from their bachelors, then yes I would still help out.

#2. Of we are living together, everything gets split down the middle. Married or not. It’s a joint household so there will be joint bills.

#3. Yes. I would give them space, they asked for a reason. I wouldn’t want them to be annoyed by me for not letting them have their private time. But I like space as well. I never am so polite as to ask. I just take it. So if a partner has to ask, he/she must really feel overwhelmed or smothered.

Posted by sweetpea2977

1. If your child graduated from college with a masters and was several years into his/her profession, would you continue to assist in paying the student loan/debt?

If so, up to what age?

Would probably depend on my own finances as well as their pay and situation. My mom took out a loan to help me finish school and made some of the payments as well when I was struggling month to month. This was shortly after the crash of 2007/8 so while I was working within my career path is was an entry level low paying commission based job. I'm so grateful for her help during that time. And now that my career has taken off I was thrilled to be able be in a position to step in and pay for her surgery this past year.

2. As a woman in a long term relationship with a man (OUTSIDE of marriage), are there any SPECIFIC bills your man has CHOSEN to pay (or bills you've REQUESTED he pay) whether he lives with you or not

Nope. A few years ago he paid for new tires for me, I didn't ask him too. But when I tried to give him the money he refused.

We are looking at homes together and everything will be 50/50. Everything will be paid through the joint bank account including mortgage, repairs, insurance, utilities, groceries, etc. Its important to me that we have control of our own money but contribute equally to the joint account to pay for the household together.

3. If your gf/bf (not spouse) asked you to give them space (because you're more productive with to-do's when they're not around all 7 days a week) would you become offended, adjust, or both/other?

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We are both very protective of our me time. So no, I wouldn't be offended.

Atm with the quarantine we are a bit on top of each other, but at least he still goes to work everyday. And luckily I have my home office to escape to for late night design sesh when he wants to chill or crash out early.

Part of the reason we've waited so long to move in together, and even now with our house hunt. We need enough space to each have our own man cave each so to speak.

Posted by sweetpea2977

1. If your child graduated from college with a masters and was several years into his/her profession, would you continue to assist in paying the student loan/debt?

If so, up to what age?



2. As a woman in a long term relationship with a man (OUTSIDE of marriage), are there any SPECIFIC bills your man has CHOSEN to pay (or bills you've REQUESTED he pay) whether he lives with you or not?



3. If your gf/bf (not spouse) asked you to give them space (because you're more productive with to-do's when they're not around all 7 days a week) would you become offended, adjust, or both/other?

1. Would be based on their financial situation rather than age, though probably past 25 if i had to pick

2. wtf I'd dump someone who expected me to pay for stuff if we arent living together. huge red flag.

3. no problem, i'd understand 100%