a question to ladies

Does a guy turn you off when he says that he is into looks or pretty women?

I am dating 3 women these days and all had a similar reaction and were not as sweet to me as before. I figured, there must be something that I did wrong and all I could think of is this. I wasnt really thinking this could turn them off because they are all pretty but it seems that it just did. @_@

Well the first one I just told her I am on the cusp of beauty so that wasnt spelled out so badly but she still doesnt seem to like it. I thought she would like it coz she is pretty but then... i think she really got turned off. @_@

I dont understand it coz women invest a lot on beauty products but when a man tells them he likes pretty women, they'll get turned off? Maybe ut makes them a lil more conscious about themselves, no?

*it

Posted by firebunny
Does a guy turn you off when he says that he is into looks or pretty women?

It would send up a red flag that they are shallow and a player. It sends out an alert not to take you seriously because it warns that you are superficial and lack depth of character.

Not saying you are firebunny, just sayin' it sends out a red flag.

Blame it on my libra venus. #couldntdecide

Thanks guys but lol I dont know what to do next... I just have a different perspective on beauty... i view beauty the same way artists view art. I dont think it is superficial. I just appreciate beauty more than anything else...

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Posted by firebunny
Does a guy turn you off when he says that he is into looks or pretty women?

Only the limousine liberals bro. Something out there for everyone!

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i thought pretty chicks wont get offended! What the eff! They are all PRETTY anyway so what's the fuss—

Posted by LadyOfRebirth
Firebunny I don't think it's bad to be into looks, women judge men on looks too.

It's just a bit odd (and unnecessary) to state.

I'm assuming you think they look good enough to talk to them, right? If so, why do you find it necessary to state it?

It would make anyone feel self conscious.

Yeah maybe they did feel conscious... maybe it's in the way i told them. @_@

But is there a chance I could seduce them by telling them they are beautiful? I mean, I like being told I am handsome, how come they don't? @_@

Firebunny -

They are women.

You are damned if you do, and damned if you don't.

The end.

I mean, most of my dates from the past were spent on some library flirting with other nerds like me. All intellectual stuff... and then I heard from my grandma their love story and I was like, I want that too with me!

Posted by firebunny
My grandfather was able to marry my grandmother just by touching her boobs lol. That was their love story. I want that kind of love story with me too...

That right there is enough to define the worth of firebunny.

Not only are you disrespectful toward women, you are also disrespectful toward your grandparents.

That's utter BS!

NEXT!

I really dont know what tickles women nowadays. They spend a lot of time beautifying themselves but when a guy they're dating tells them they're beautiful, they are turned off and be wanted for something else instead. I guess personality is the key, no?

You are judgemental, MrFirebird. Lol.

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Posted by firebunny
My grandfather was able to marry my grandmother just by touching her boobs lol. That was their love story. I want that kind of love story with me too...

That right there is enough to define the worth of firebunny.

Not only are you disrespectful toward women, you are also disrespectful toward your grandparents.

That's utter BS!

NEXT!

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Agreed

It may be that he's funny in here and people like his personality ... but, the reality is = that's fake.

Because the truth is = he's shallow.

He hides it in humor, and most women aren't smart enough to realize it, because their too busy soaking up compliments.

* they're

I get it, Elle. I guess I said it quite awkwardly. There is indeed a difference in presentation...

Lol I guess I am shallow... I'd have to learn from you p-angel coz you're older than me. I guess I really am shallow... but I dont know maybe I am just young and as I said, I appreciate beauty in the same way artists appreciate art. I think I can't be more honest than that coz it's true.

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Posted by firebunny
I get it, Elle. I guess I said it quite awkwardly. There is indeed a difference in presentation...

I don't think a woman who is attracted to you would have any problem with you calling them beautiful.

I do think a woman, whether she's attracted to you or not, would be offended if they were told by you that you were very much into "looks" or "beauty".

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It went this way...

Aries Chick # 1

I told her I was on the cusp of beauty... and me being one, appearance matters to me so much that sometimes I get fooled by what looks to me...

...she immediately construed it with me saying that I like beautiful women and then she said, "thank God I am pretty" or something to that effect. Not exact words but lol i dont know how to translate it in english...

She said it while I was saying something so I was not yet done with what I was saying yet so I didnt get the chance to agree with what she said...

And I still couldnt find a chance to say that she's beautiful. I am also scared that she might expect that I already want her as a gf but I am not yet sure. I dont want to give her high hopes coz she is very fast. I mean, she called me "sweetheart" three times over. I know that if I call her "honey" back, that will seal it in.

I wanted to call her "honey" back I swear but I am just not sure yet. Lol.

She was really sweet but ever since then, she hasnt been as sweet anymore. I feel bad. But nevertheless, I havent decided who among them. Meanwhile, I still dont know much about the Scorpio gal I was talking about. I am reserving everything for her. I think she's my real love. @_@

Yeah but I still like her though. Sometimes, I feel like I dont have a chance with the Scorpio gal anymore coz her sister has a crush on me... so if I am going practical, I should really pick her instead of the other two. Simple? But no. It's really complicated. I couldnt even believe I am dating 3 women now and 2 of them are sisters! @_@

It is either I go practical and pick her or go martyr and pick the Scopio chick. The latter decision means that I also have to date her sister, which is happening now. @_@

It was really awkward when the two arieses talked to each other awhile ago. I dont know if they already know somethings brewing already... but maybe... but I could always use my lawyer skills perhaps. I dont know.

Martyr means I have to do everything for the Scorpio chick. Martyrs do everything for their true love. Lots of sacrifices.

Posted by GG
I give compliments all the time. That's just me, i call things how i see it...Venus in Aries.

Most women are naturally insecure and the reasons vary with each chick...society puts a lot of demands and expectations on them...while some chicks don't trust men because of upbringing or they haven't healed from past hurts.

Be careful with that, though. Too many complements have a tendency to ring false, at least to an earth sign anyway.

It's like a tradition here in the Philippines. If you really love someone, you have to go for her, even if it means going through many upheavals and challenges.

I am not yet up to the challenge of martyrdom because I am also busy in law school. That means, if I have to go with the Scorpio, I still have to go through a lot of twists and turns. Her sister likes me.

Yeah... maybe. I should forego both of them first. And deal with this Aries in the meantime. But it seens that I have already made up my mind too. I mean, it is a bit weird to have that kind of plan.

The Aries sister is also sneaky. She just went to my table awhile ago and said so many things. I didnt realize that she's already trying to win me over. @_@

Posted by firebunny
Does a guy turn you off when he says that he is into looks or pretty women?

This depends on the delivery and context of the conversation.
Many women are VERY insecure about their looks so yes you telling a woman that will be an awkward moment for some.
Maybe not so much for the confident pretty women. 😉

When a guy asks me what type of guy I like, handsome, tall and athletic is usually apart of the description among other attributes.

Shallow, next.

Why does it turn you off when a guy honestly tells you that he is into beautiful women?

It's kind of weird knowing that you spend lots of money and efforts to look good but you still end up saying "I don't like men like that; I want men who are not into pretty women but are looking for women with good attitude."

Bump

We want you to like one beautiful woman... not all

It feels shallow and way too predictable

Surprise me

...i met two guys who did surprise me

one said

*you are very talented* 😛

the other

*i love the way you wear your heart on your sleeve*

Posted by pinkbird03
We want you to like one beautiful woman... not all

I like beautiful women but I will have only one girl friend.

Posted by MyStarsShine
It feels shallow and way too predictable

Surprise me

It's not a pick-up line

Posted by firebunny

Posted by MyStarsShine
It feels shallow and way too predictable

Surprise me

It's not a pick-up line

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Neither were they

I was with the guys...

Posted by YasmineMin
I want to look beautiful for myself, cause it gives me confidence to look pretty. I dont do it for mere attraction.

But how would you know you're beautiful if no guy appreciates your beauty?

Posted by Koniuchaa
It's sort of a duh statement. Like, who doesn't like beautiful women?

Yeah. That's what I don't get with some women. They want you to tell them they're stunning but when you date them and tell them they're beautiful, they back off.

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I want to look beautiful for myself, cause it gives me confidence to look pretty. I dont do it for mere attraction.

But how would you know you're beautiful if no guy appreciates your beauty?

I dont need anyone tell me that. I can feel confident on my own. If I need a man to tell me Im beautiful to feel beautiful, that's just insecurity. If Im happy with how I look that's all that matters. I dont need no reassurance.

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What if no guy tells you you're beautiful, will that be alright for you?

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Posted by Koniuchaa
It's sort of a duh statement. Like, who doesn't like beautiful women?

Yeah. That's what I don't get with some women. They want you to tell them they're stunning but when you date them and tell them they're beautiful, they back off.

Hmm for some reason I thought you meant telling her about other beautiful women. Telling her she is beautiful is fine, obviously

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I told her I want to have a pretty girlfriend.

Posted by starwars

Posted by MyStarsShine
...i met two guys who did surprise me

one said

*you are very talented* 😛

the other

*i love the way you wear your heart on your sleeve*

sounds like try hards

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Gorgeous guys 😛

Didn't need to try, they were already hard

Lol

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Posted by YasmineMin
I want to look beautiful for myself, cause it gives me confidence to look pretty. I dont do it for mere attraction.

But how would you know you're beautiful if no guy appreciates your beauty?

I dont need anyone tell me that. I can feel confident on my own. If I need a man to tell me Im beautiful to feel beautiful, that's just insecurity. If Im happy with how I look that's all that matters. I dont need no reassurance.

What if no guy tells you you're beautiful, will that be alright for you?

No guy has told me that. Im fine.

But how pathetic and needy do you think I am that need assurance from a man to make me feel beautiful? Or any person for that matter? Please dont mistaken me for a weak girl

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Oh ok.

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Posted by Koniuchaa
It's sort of a duh statement. Like, who doesn't like beautiful women?

Yeah. That's what I don't get with some women. They want you to tell them they're stunning but when you date them and tell them they're beautiful, they back off.

I never said that they cant admire my "beauty". But I dont want that to be the only reason he likes me. Like for instance when a guy tries to pick up on me at some random place, he's only going after me because my physical appearance. That's shallow. I dont want a guy like that. I like a guy who's deep and appreciate me for what's on the inside. He could tell me Im beautiful. If course, why wouldnt I like that if it comes from the man I love and he means it sincerely.

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But the big question remains, why is this a turn-off?

Posted by starwars
kinda like "you're different than other girls"

bitch please

So true??