@LillyPetal
10 Years5,000+ Posts
Borderline Personality Disorder
Yes.
I don't have it, but was interested in someone who did.
No .I don't have it. .Yes I know someone who has it. Or I knew her well for two years. It was a difficult friendship.
She was a vampire.
It got to the point with her ex where he was spoon feeding her literally in bed when she was fully able. He cooked for her.
She would be sexually inappropriate with teen guys. She was older than me. In her late thirties.
She came from a terrible back ground.
I had to tell her I didn't want anymore. She came back from a mutual friend's house i got a call from the friend saying that she did not want her in her house anymore she had been sexually inappropriate with a teen neighbor.
I confronted her ...to give her a chance ..she went into how she had fancied young guys etc ..
I told her i couldn't have anything to do with her.
She left voice messages of screaming on my phone. ..Just screaming.
That is not to say all people with BPD are like this.
It's not simply jumping from one mood to another. Most self injure ...cutting ..etc...she did too.
She was not self diagnosed but diagnosed by three psychiatrists.
Posted by Shadowcat
I know 2 people that have it.
What I they like ?
I feel like i have only experienced the extreme with people with this.
I probably might actually somewhat have it just a little. Jk I don't have it one single itty bitty bit. Im perfect. Kill yourself.
Posted by LittleFairy
I feel like i have only experienced the extreme with people with this.
I am feeling like I know one too...?
Posted by LittleFairy
No .I don't have it. .Yes I know someone who has it. Or I knew her well for two years. It was a difficult friendship.She was a vampire.
It got to the point with her ex where he was spoon feeding her literally in bed when she was fully able. He cooked for her.
She would be sexually inappropriate with teen guys. She was older than me. In her late thirties.
She came from a terrible back ground.
I had to tell her I didn't want anymore. She came back from a mutual friend's house i got a call from the friend saying that she did not want her in her house anymore she had been sexually inappropriate with a teen neighbor.
I confronted her ...to give her a chance ..she went into how she had fancied young guys etc ..
I told her i couldn't have anything to do with her.
She left voice messages of screaming on my phone. ..Just screaming.
That is not to say all people with BPD are like this.
It's not simply jumping from one mood to another. Most self injure ...cutting ..etc...she did too.
She was not self diagnosed but diagnosed by three psychiatrists.
It was really weird ..i don't know why but I felt I had to save her. Bought her groceries ...tickets...helped her move ...the mutual friend did too ..we were bringing her coal and fuel...she would do nothing for herself.
My friends husband hated her from the begining. My friend is a cancer too ....and like me is CONSTANTLY trying to save people.
Posted by Scorpio84
My mother might have it.
What makes you suspect she has it?
Posted by Shadowcat
Posted by LittleFairy
Posted by Shadowcat
I know 2 people that have it.
What I they like ?
I'm not very close to the first one that i know with it. She's very open about it. Wants to get better.
The second one is pretty cool. I'm very fond of her. She ran most of the clubs that I'm part of, and imo she was a pretty nice person to be around.
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She i knew it! That example i gave ..she would always use the BPD to excuse hurting people. I am possibly giving one side of the story though. She had very dark thoughts though. And zero respect for my boundaries.
Posted by Ram416
Yes.I don't have it, but was interested in someone who did.
What was the person like? And is that what changed your mind?
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by LittleFairy
I feel like i have only experienced the extreme with people with this.
I am feeling like I know one too...?
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🙂 Aren't all cancers? No just me ? Umkay.
Posted by Shadowcat
I know 2 people that have it.
Did they confide in you that they have it? What are they like?
If you are looking for signs. Risky sexual behavior. Self harm. Chronic feelings of emptiness. Very clingy. pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, self-image and emotions.
They experience it in the way they feel.You will see it in the way they live.
Moving a lot. Having deep links to one person ..to the point of smothering.
Obv the up and down emotions.
Posted by LittleFairy
No .I don't have it. .Yes I know someone who has it. Or I knew her well for two years. It was a difficult friendship.She was a vampire.
It got to the point with her ex where he was spoon feeding her literally in bed when she was fully able. He cooked for her.
She would be sexually inappropriate with teen guys. She was older than me. In her late thirties.
She came from a terrible back ground.
I had to tell her I didn't want anymore. She came back from a mutual friend's house i got a call from the friend saying that she did not want her in her house anymore she had been sexually inappropriate with a teen neighbor.
I confronted her ...to give her a chance ..she went into how she had fancied young guys etc ..
I told her i couldn't have anything to do with her.
She left voice messages of screaming on my phone. ..Just screaming.
That is not to say all people with BPD are like this.
It's not simply jumping from one mood to another. Most self injure ...cutting ..etc...she did too.
She was not self diagnosed but diagnosed by three psychiatrists.
Was she always like that? Or did she just spiral out of control? Was she not getting therapy?
Posted by LillyPetal
Posted by Ram416
Yes.I don't have it, but was interested in someone who did.
What was the person like? And is that what changed your mind?
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We're still friends. And yes I changed my mind after reading up more on BPD. I have chronic depression so dating someone with BPD can be considered high risk.
Apparently she was misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder for many years before the final diagnosis for BPD. We had a lot of fun hanging out together though. Even travelled together with other friends. She was, however, prone to odd moments of dramatics, but I guess regular counselling and medication helped her keep her moods in check most of the time.
I read somewhere that with counselling + medication, a person with BPD can get better as he/she gets older. This seems to be the case for my friend.
Posted by LittleFairy
If you are looking for signs. Risky sexual behavior. Self harm. Chronic feelings of emptiness. Very clingy. pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, self-image and emotions.They experience it in the way they feel.You will see it in the way they live.
Moving a lot. Having deep links to one person ..to the point of smothering.
Btw that friend of mine has your sun and moon 😛
Posted by LillyPetal
Posted by LittleFairy
No .I don't have it. .Yes I know someone who has it. Or I knew her well for two years. It was a difficult friendship.She was a vampire.
It got to the point with her ex where he was spoon feeding her literally in bed when she was fully able. He cooked for her.
She would be sexually inappropriate with teen guys. She was older than me. In her late thirties.
She came from a terrible back ground.
I had to tell her I didn't want anymore. She came back from a mutual friend's house i got a call from the friend saying that she did not want her in her house anymore she had been sexually inappropriate with a teen neighbor.
I confronted her ...to give her a chance ..she went into how she had fancied young guys etc ..
I told her i couldn't have anything to do with her.
She left voice messages of screaming on my phone. ..Just screaming.
That is not to say all people with BPD are like this.
It's not simply jumping from one mood to another. Most self injure ...cutting ..etc...she did too.
She was not self diagnosed but diagnosed by three psychiatrists.
Was she always like that? Or did she just spiral out of control? Was she not getting therapy?
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She started exhibiting risky behavior at a young age according to her self but she was diagnosed in her 20's. So yes. ...damaging stuff to herself and others.
She was getting therapy. And on medication.
She was in her early teens. Dropped out of school ...left home all in her early teens.
Posted by Ram416
Posted by LittleFairy
If you are looking for signs. Risky sexual behavior. Self harm. Chronic feelings of emptiness. Very clingy. pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, self-image and emotions.They experience it in the way they feel.You will see it in the way they live.
Moving a lot. Having deep links to one person ..to the point of smothering.
Btw that friend of mine has your sun and moon 😛
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How do cope?
Posted by LittleFairy
Posted by LillyPetal
Posted by LittleFairy
No .I don't have it. .Yes I know someone who has it. Or I knew her well for two years. It was a difficult friendship.She was a vampire.
It got to the point with her ex where he was spoon feeding her literally in bed when she was fully able. He cooked for her.
She would be sexually inappropriate with teen guys. She was older than me. In her late thirties.
She came from a terrible back ground.
I had to tell her I didn't want anymore. She came back from a mutual friend's house i got a call from the friend saying that she did not want her in her house anymore she had been sexually inappropriate with a teen neighbor.
I confronted her ...to give her a chance ..she went into how she had fancied young guys etc ..
I told her i couldn't have anything to do with her.
She left voice messages of screaming on my phone. ..Just screaming.
That is not to say all people with BPD are like this.
It's not simply jumping from one mood to another. Most self injure ...cutting ..etc...she did too.
She was not self diagnosed but diagnosed by three psychiatrists.
Was she always like that? Or did she just spiral out of control? Was she not getting therapy?
She started exhibiting risky behavior at a young age according to her self but she was diagnosed in her 20's. So yes. ...damaging stuff to herself and others.
She was getting therapy. And on medication.
She was in her early teens. Dropped out of school ...left home all in her early teens.
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I founded out when she was 19 she had dated a 13 yr old....this woman worked as a nanny at one point. She thought this was perfectly fine ...they were safe with her.
She taught video editing at school and had obsessive romantic thoughts about one of her students.
If she had been a guy they would have thrown the book at her.
Posted by Scorpio84
Posted by LillyPetal
Posted by Scorpio84
My mother might have it.
What makes you suspect she has it?
Once she drinks on her free days to escape her depression she becomes a completly different person
with paranoia feelings, she can be driven by anger to a high level too.
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Could that not just be a drinking problem?
Posted by Scorpio84
Posted by LittleFairy
Posted by Scorpio84
Posted by LillyPetal
Posted by Scorpio84
My mother might have it.
What makes you suspect she has it?
Once she drinks on her free days to escape her depression she becomes a completly different person
with paranoia feelings, she can be driven by anger to a high level too.
Could that not just be a drinking problem?
Not from what i have seen.
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I am sorry.
Posted by LittleFairy
Posted by LittleFairy
No .I don't have it. .Yes I know someone who has it. Or I knew her well for two years. It was a difficult friendship.She was a vampire.
It got to the point with her ex where he was spoon feeding her literally in bed when she was fully able. He cooked for her.
She would be sexually inappropriate with teen guys. She was older than me. In her late thirties.
She came from a terrible back ground.
I had to tell her I didn't want anymore. She came back from a mutual friend's house i got a call from the friend saying that she did not want her in her house anymore she had been sexually inappropriate with a teen neighbor.
I confronted her ...to give her a chance ..she went into how she had fancied young guys etc ..
I told her i couldn't have anything to do with her.
She left voice messages of screaming on my phone. ..Just screaming.
That is not to say all people with BPD are like this.
It's not simply jumping from one mood to another. Most self injure ...cutting ..etc...she did too.
She was not self diagnosed but diagnosed by three psychiatrists.
It was really weird ..i don't know why but I felt I had to save her. Bought her groceries ...tickets...helped her move ...the mutual friend did too ..we were bringing her coal and fuel...she would do nothing for herself.
My friends husband hated her from the begining. My friend is a cancer too ....and like me is CONSTANTLY trying to save people.
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Have you asked people if they want to be saved, Lady Jesus?
Posted by LittleFairy
Posted by Ram416
Posted by LittleFairy
If you are looking for signs. Risky sexual behavior. Self harm. Chronic feelings of emptiness. Very clingy. pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, self-image and emotions.They experience it in the way they feel.You will see it in the way they live.
Moving a lot. Having deep links to one person ..to the point of smothering.
Btw that friend of mine has your sun and moon 😛
How do cope?
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Creative self-expression. She works in the medical industry but designs her own clothes and cosplay costumes during her free time.
Posted by LittleFairy
Posted by LittleFairy
No .I don't have it. .Yes I know someone who has it. Or I knew her well for two years. It was a difficult friendship.She was a vampire.
It got to the point with her ex where he was spoon feeding her literally in bed when she was fully able. He cooked for her.
She would be sexually inappropriate with teen guys. She was older than me. In her late thirties.
She came from a terrible back ground.
I had to tell her I didn't want anymore. She came back from a mutual friend's house i got a call from the friend saying that she did not want her in her house anymore she had been sexually inappropriate with a teen neighbor.
I confronted her ...to give her a chance ..she went into how she had fancied young guys etc ..
I told her i couldn't have anything to do with her.
She left voice messages of screaming on my phone. ..Just screaming.
That is not to say all people with BPD are like this.
It's not simply jumping from one mood to another. Most self injure ...cutting ..etc...she did too.
She was not self diagnosed but diagnosed by three psychiatrists.
It was really weird ..i don't know why but I felt I had to save her. Bought her groceries ...tickets...helped her move ...the mutual friend did too ..we were bringing her coal and fuel...she would do nothing for herself.
My friends husband hated her from the begining. My friend is a cancer too ....and like me is CONSTANTLY trying to save people.
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Yeah this is one no-no when dealing with people who have BPD.
Posted by Scorpio84
Posted by LillyPetal
Posted by Scorpio84
My mother might have it.
What makes you suspect she has it?
Once she drinks on her free days to escape her depression she becomes a completly different person
with paranoia feelings, she can be driven by anger to a high level too.
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Probably explains why you're always so depressed and suicidal.
People with BPD who are not seeking professional help and/or on medication can become very toxic and malignant to loved ones.
A friend's gf who was diagnosed with BPD killed herself while my friend was at work one day.
The entire relationship, which last 1.5 years, drove my friend nearly insane. The suicide was the final straw that broke her sanity.
Posted by Scorpio84
Posted by Ram416
Posted by Scorpio84
Posted by LillyPetal
Posted by Scorpio84
My mother might have it.
What makes you suspect she has it?
Once she drinks on her free days to escape her depression she becomes a completly different person
with paranoia feelings, she can be driven by anger to a high level too.
Probably explains why you're always so depressed and suicidal.
People with BPD who are not seeking professional help and/or on medication can become very toxic and malignant to loved ones.
Im still trying to forget an african cancer woman too while my cancer mother was at that state
then my cancer father that i no longer acknowledge.
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You probably need to dig deeper. Seems like your issues are much deeper than you believe.
Posted by blackphase
Posted by Aznnation
They lie like crazy about everything
Yes, that is a large part of the illness. Mostly they do not want to appear to have flaws, (as they are afraid to face them) so they will hide them and embellish their lives in the eyes of others.
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Yes. Which is why, if you are unaware, it's very easy to get dragged into difficult situations with them.
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Anyone have it or know anyone who has it?