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He deserves to know.
Posted by Teenanaah ..
He deserves to know.
He ain't goona know he deserves to know if he never knows ..best he never knows think about it
but he is the father. Anyways, in the US, the father has no voice in deciding whether the mother aborts or not. I dont know if it's the same in Ireland.
Posted by LittleFairyI believe so... although he may not have final say. He deserves to know because the living person grown inside a woman is part his. I believe a man should be give a choice to stay with a woman if she chooses to abort his child against his will. If you are not seeing him then it is what it is but if you choose to see him or even keep him in your life he deserves to know.
If you got pregnant and didn't want it ? Would you tell him...or leave it ?
You are a couple.
Is there an obligation to —
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Posted by LittleFairyIt's his baby too. It's too important to be kept hidden. Why are you even a couple if you're not comfortable enough to share things?
He ain't goona know he deserves to know if he never knows ..best he never knows think about it
Why do you not want him to know anyway?
The respectful thing to do would be to tell him IMO.. Even though if you dont tell him, what he doesn't know wont hurt him... you will know he never knew.. that would make you deceitful? ...
good question and I've thought about this in the past too.
good question and I've thought about this in the past too.
I don't think I could stay with a woman that aborted my child. Unless it was for her own physical safety.
Piscesmoon
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Posted by TeenaHe might try and stop me. http://www.independent.ie/irish-news/courts/high-court-adjourns-application-to-stop-woman-travelling-for-abortion-29428235.htmlPosted by LittleFairyIt's his baby too. It's too important to be kept hidden. Why are you even a couple if you're not comfortable enough to share things?
He ain't goona know he deserves to know if he never knows ..best he never knows think about it
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Posted by piscesmoon2It's not your choice though.
I don't think I could stay with a woman that aborted my child. Unless it was for her own physical safety.
Piscesmoon
Posted by LittleFairyWell if you don't plan to stay with him then don't tell him. If you do maybe have it done and tell him after but that may be even worse... I wouldPosted by TeenaHe might try and stop me. http://www.independent.ie/irish-news/courts/high-court-adjourns-application-to-stop-woman-travelling-for-abortion-29428235.htmlPosted by LittleFairyIt's his baby too. It's too important to be kept hidden. Why are you even a couple if you're not comfortable enough to share things?
He ain't goona know he deserves to know if he never knows ..best he never knows think about it
Why do you not want him to know anyway?click to expand
Be pissed to know end about not knowing. These days woman don't need a man to have a baby. They seem to just want to find one that can pay for it and be a good father... they however often go out with guys that they would never want to be the father of there child... yet they sleep with them... refuse to have theee kids. Where or are they really in love... I would think not... lust is more like it. Normally many woman final realize maybe I should actually find a man that could be a good father figure.
I am not personally judging you. This is just my perspective as a guy... I feel that woman have found power and control with birth control
And I'm that way men can feel manipulated... having no choices in the termation of a child 1/2 there DNA made. I hope one day they make it where the baby can live and be removed if the man still wants it but the woman can sign over all responsibility.
Piscesmoon
Posted by firebunnyAbortion is not allowed here not even if you are raped...or are like a little girl. If you have cancer and need Chemo they won't even ..you have to go to the UK.
but he is the father. Anyways, in the US, the father has no voice in deciding whether the mother aborts or not. I dont know if it's the same in Ireland.
They have sectioned young girls seeking one or trying to get to uk in hospitals ...they even force fed a woman refugee who stopped eating as she could get abroad to get one. Then they gave her a c section she spent her entire pregnancy kept in a hospital.
Women have died from medical complications. But the laws are so strict drs are scared to intervene. You get 14 yrs for it.
Most of the girls sectioned would be kids themselves usually because older women get over the to the UK
And the guy can launch a lawsuit (not to stop her having an abortion it's not legal here )but to stop her traveling ...
Posted by LittleFairyYes but it would be my choice to stay with the woman or not based on her actions. I personally just could not look at a woman I was in love with the same after she did that.Posted by piscesmoon2It's not your choice though.
I don't think I could stay with a woman that aborted my child. Unless it was for her own physical safety.
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Posted by LittleFairyLetting the guy know about the pregnancy n deciding to keep the baby are two different things. (However I'm conflicted about the whole keeping the pregnancy thing solely being the girl's choice too to start with)Posted by TeenaHe might try and stop me. http://www.independent.ie/irish-news/courts/high-court-adjourns-application-to-stop-woman-travelling-for-abortion-29428235.htmlPosted by LittleFairyIt's his baby too. It's too important to be kept hidden. Why are you even a couple if you're not comfortable enough to share things?
He ain't goona know he deserves to know if he never knows ..best he never knows think about it
Why do you not want him to know anyway?click to expand
N if we are talking about the article you shared, apparently there's a lot more to the story n you should read these lines below
"leaving the jurisdiction until it can be ascertained if she is acting of her own free will"
"He has also said that he has no desire to restrain her from travelling should that be her freely held wish."
He's doing that only coz he's thinking her parents are forcing it on her.
Women have been refused chemo in the past ...if they have cancer and are pregnant ..or even if the fetus is non viable. Savita Halapannavar was a case where she was going through a miscarriage ...but the re was a faint heart beat ...but they realized the pregnancy was ending ...but they would not abort...even though the fetus was stuck in her cervix ...she requested a termination during the miscarriage ...she was refused as the fetus had a faint heart beat still .........she died
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_of_Savita_Halappanavar
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_of_Savita_Halappanavar
Posted by piscesmoon2Yeah I accept that. That's understandable it's the way you feel 🙂Posted by LittleFairyYes but it would be my choice to stay with the woman or not based on her actions. I personally just could not look at a woman I was in love with the same after she did that.Posted by piscesmoon2It's not your choice though.
I don't think I could stay with a woman that aborted my child. Unless it was for her own physical safety.
Piscesmoon
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I think I would tell him after i did it. If i felt he was going to make it difficult for me to get over there.
But you are right it's best to be honest.
Posted by LittleFairyPosted by TeenaHe might try and stop me. http://www.independent.ie/irish-news/courts/high-court-adjourns-application-to-stop-woman-travelling-for-abortion-29428235.htmlPosted by LittleFairyIt's his baby too. It's too important to be kept hidden. Why are you even a couple if you're not comfortable enough to share things?
He ain't goona know he deserves to know if he never knows ..best he never knows think about it
Why do you not want him to know anyway?click to expand
Thats deceit. you're making a decision to hide this from him because he might try to stop you.
I get that telling him would be really scary given that abortion is illegal and he could stop you traveling but that tells me you dont trust him to make the right choices with you... a relationship without trust is no relationship..
Posted by LittleFairyI see. Ireland is a Catholic country, like the Philippines.Posted by firebunnyAbortion is not allowed here not even if you are raped...or are like a little girl. If you have cancer and need Chemo they won't even ..you have to go to the UK.
but he is the father. Anyways, in the US, the father has no voice in deciding whether the mother aborts or not. I dont know if it's the same in Ireland.
They have sectioned young girls seeking one or trying to get to uk in hospitals ...they even force fed a woman refugee who stopped eating as she could get abroad to get one. Then they gave her a c section she spent her entire pregnancy kept in a hospital.
Women have died from medical complications. But the laws are so strict drs are scared to intervene. You get 14 yrs for it.
Most of the girls sectioned would be kids themselves usually because older women get over the to the UK
And the guy can launch a lawsuit (not to stop her having an abortion it's not legal here )but to stop her traveling ...
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Well, I cant help you legally. But if you aren't Catholic, you should be allowed to abort. It's your body anyway - that's the reasoning of Protestant countries like UK and US - and the father is legally prohibited from stopping you.
I just think that your decision should be based on your moral beliefs.
Littlefary I believe no one should go to jail but both parties need to understand just what happened...
Again if it was my child... i would never rap a woman... I would not also sleep with a woman I did not have real feelings for...
That I could see being a decent mother... although I have slept
With woman in the past for pleasure I realize I am now at an age that woman look for a guy like me... they say hey this one could be a good dad and pay for the kid. Never mind that I was never into his type before and was loose with many men before...
I am not saying you are like this... I am just personally more careful these days because I don't want to have a kid with the wrong woman.
Although I want children one day. So again I personally could not stay with a woman that aborted my child.
Piscesmoon
Again if it was my child... i would never rap a woman... I would not also sleep with a woman I did not have real feelings for...
That I could see being a decent mother... although I have slept
With woman in the past for pleasure I realize I am now at an age that woman look for a guy like me... they say hey this one could be a good dad and pay for the kid. Never mind that I was never into his type before and was loose with many men before...
I am not saying you are like this... I am just personally more careful these days because I don't want to have a kid with the wrong woman.
Although I want children one day. So again I personally could not stay with a woman that aborted my child.
Piscesmoon
Posted by TeenaI am acquainted with the case. It would be virtually impossible for parents to enforce it on her. If you knew the way it was herePosted by LittleFairyLetting the guy know about the pregnancy n deciding to keep the baby are two different things. (However I'm conflicted about the whole keeping the pregnancy thing solely being the girl's choice too to start with)Posted by TeenaHe might try and stop me. http://www.independent.ie/irish-news/courts/high-court-adjourns-application-to-stop-woman-travelling-for-abortion-29428235.htmlPosted by LittleFairyIt's his baby too. It's too important to be kept hidden. Why are you even a couple if you're not comfortable enough to share things?
He ain't goona know he deserves to know if he never knows ..best he never knows think about it
Why do you not want him to know anyway?
N if we are talking about the article you shared, apparently there's a lot more to the story n you should read these lines below
"leaving the jurisdiction until it can be ascertained if she is acting of her own free will"
"He has also said that he has no desire to restrain her from travelling should that be her freely held wish."
He's doing that only coz he's thinking her parents are forcing it on her.
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And he would know he was risking state intervention of them detaining her the state her frequently has done this in the past ..
He lost anyway.
Posted by piscesmoon2
Littlefary I believe no one should go to jail but both parties need to understand just what happened...
Again if it was my child... i would never rap a woman... I would not also sleep with a woman I did not have real feelings for...
That I could see being a decent mother... although I have slept
With woman in the past for pleasure I realize I am now at an age that woman look for a guy like me... they say hey this one could be a good dad and pay for the kid. Never mind that I was never into his type before and was loose with many men before...
I am not saying you are like this... I am just personally more careful these days because I don't want to have a kid with the wrong woman.
Although I want children one day. So again I personally could not stay with a woman that aborted my child.
Piscesmoon
I understand ....🙂
Oh with the exception having health issues and the doctors advising an abortion. I would want to talk about it and options to have kids though. However I would be supportive of the abortion if it was for health issues... if my gf got rapped yea I think she would have every right to get one... as long as it was theirs... not mine but would not know how it would make me feel. I am not saying I would dump her but these are serious issues and a lot would depend on how she delt with it as well.
Piscesmoon
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Posted by firebunnyPosted by LittleFairyI see. Ireland is a Catholic country, like the Philippines.Posted by firebunnyAbortion is not allowed here not even if you are raped...or are like a little girl. If you have cancer and need Chemo they won't even ..you have to go to the UK.
but he is the father. Anyways, in the US, the father has no voice in deciding whether the mother aborts or not. I dont know if it's the same in Ireland.
They have sectioned young girls seeking one or trying to get to uk in hospitals ...they even force fed a woman refugee who stopped eating as she could get abroad to get one. Then they gave her a c section she spent her entire pregnancy kept in a hospital.
Women have died from medical complications. But the laws are so strict drs are scared to intervene. You get 14 yrs for it.
Most of the girls sectioned would be kids themselves usually because older women get over the to the UK
And the guy can launch a lawsuit (not to stop her having an abortion it's not legal here )but to stop her traveling ...
Well, I cant help you legally. But if you aren't Catholic, you should be allowed to abort. It's your body anyway - that's the reasoning of Protestant countries like UK and US - and the father is legally prohibited from stopping you.
I just think that your decision should be based on your moral beliefs.click to expand
After Savita Died there was a huge movement ..there will be a vote next june ..but it will probably just before if the fetus is non viable ..ie if the pregnancy will not ever reach full term etc. (they can medically tell now)
We have been campaigning. I understand it's a sensitive topic.
I hope there will be something more liberal though ...
With brexit coming it will much harder to travel to the UK in an emergency in future. And for some women they can't afford it ..or the state won't let them for girls in foster care.
Posted by piscesmoon2I guess when it happens to you there is no right or wrong way to feel about it 🙂
Oh with the exception having health issues and the doctors advising an abortion. I would want to talk about it and options to have kids though. However I would be supportive of the abortion if it was for health issues... if my gf got rapped yea I think she would have every right to get one... as long as it was theirs... not mine but would not know how it would make me feel. I am not saying I would dump her but these are serious issues and a lot would depend on how she delt with it as well.
Piscesmoon
I half started this thread as a joke ..but it became serious. I would tell him....it's just I wouldn't want him to keep me here if i couldn't.
Posted by Isabeau90I would say most guys would prefer the option to terminate though if it's unplanned.Posted by LittleFairyPosted by TeenaHe might try and stop me. http://www.independent.ie/irish-news/courts/high-court-adjourns-application-to-stop-woman-travelling-for-abortion-29428235.htmlPosted by LittleFairyIt's his baby too. It's too important to be kept hidden. Why are you even a couple if you're not comfortable enough to share things?
He ain't goona know he deserves to know if he never knows ..best he never knows think about it
Why do you not want him to know anyway?
Thats deceit. you're making a decision to hide this from him because he might try to stop you.
I get that telling him would be really scary given that abortion is illegal and he could stop you traveling but that tells me you dont trust him to make the right choices with you... a relationship without trust is no relationship..
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Unless they are weird and controlling or something.
Posted by LittleFairyWell, obviously I dunno how it works there nor do I know anything more than what the link talks about.Posted by TeenaI am acquainted with the case. It would be virtually impossible for parents to enforce it on her. If you knew the way it was herePosted by LittleFairyLetting the guy know about the pregnancy n deciding to keep the baby are two different things. (However I'm conflicted about the whole keeping the pregnancy thing solely being the girl's choice too to start with)Posted by TeenaHe might try and stop me. http://www.independent.ie/irish-news/courts/high-court-adjourns-application-to-stop-woman-travelling-for-abortion-29428235.htmlPosted by LittleFairyIt's his baby too. It's too important to be kept hidden. Why are you even a couple if you're not comfortable enough to share things?
He ain't goona know he deserves to know if he never knows ..best he never knows think about it
Why do you not want him to know anyway?
N if we are talking about the article you shared, apparently there's a lot more to the story n you should read these lines below
"leaving the jurisdiction until it can be ascertained if she is acting of her own free will"
"He has also said that he has no desire to restrain her from travelling should that be her freely held wish."
He's doing that only coz he's thinking her parents are forcing it on her.
And he would know he was risking state intervention of them detaining her the state her frequently has done this in the past ..
He lost anyway.click to expand
Good for her if he lost I guess??
Posted by TeenaHe did lose ..I am not sure what she did though. They rarely release their names. So she could have decided not to I don't know. But he didn't make the choice she did.Posted by LittleFairyWell, obviously I dunno how it works there nor do I know anything more than what the link talks about.Posted by TeenaI am acquainted with the case. It would be virtually impossible for parents to enforce it on her. If you knew the way it was herePosted by LittleFairyLetting the guy know about the pregnancy n deciding to keep the baby are two different things. (However I'm conflicted about the whole keeping the pregnancy thing solely being the girl's choice too to start with)Posted by TeenaHe might try and stop me. http://www.independent.ie/irish-news/courts/high-court-adjourns-application-to-stop-woman-travelling-for-abortion-29428235.htmlPosted by LittleFairyIt's his baby too. It's too important to be kept hidden. Why are you even a couple if you're not comfortable enough to share things?
He ain't goona know he deserves to know if he never knows ..best he never knows think about it
Why do you not want him to know anyway?
N if we are talking about the article you shared, apparently there's a lot more to the story n you should read these lines below
"leaving the jurisdiction until it can be ascertained if she is acting of her own free will"
"He has also said that he has no desire to restrain her from travelling should that be her freely held wish."
He's doing that only coz he's thinking her parents are forcing it on her.
And he would know he was risking state intervention of them detaining her the state her frequently has done this in the past ..
He lost anyway.
Good for her if he lost I guess??click to expand
Posted by LittleFairyPosted by firebunnyAbortion is not allowed here not even if you are raped...or are like a little girl. If you have cancer and need Chemo they won't even ..you have to go to the UK.
but he is the father. Anyways, in the US, the father has no voice in deciding whether the mother aborts or not. I dont know if it's the same in Ireland.
They have sectioned young girls seeking one or trying to get to uk in hospitals ...they even force fed a woman refugee who stopped eating as she could get abroad to get one. Then they gave her a c section she spent her entire pregnancy kept in a hospital.
Women have died from medical complications. But the laws are so strict drs are scared to intervene. You get 14 yrs for it.
Most of the girls sectioned would be kids themselves usually because older women get over the to the UK
And the guy can launch a lawsuit (not to stop her having an abortion it's not legal here )but to stop her traveling ...
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What country is this?
Posted by lightseedPosted by LittleFairyPosted by firebunnyAbortion is not allowed here not even if you are raped...or are like a little girl. If you have cancer and need Chemo they won't even ..you have to go to the UK.
but he is the father. Anyways, in the US, the father has no voice in deciding whether the mother aborts or not. I dont know if it's the same in Ireland.
They have sectioned young girls seeking one or trying to get to uk in hospitals ...they even force fed a woman refugee who stopped eating as she could get abroad to get one. Then they gave her a c section she spent her entire pregnancy kept in a hospital.
Women have died from medical complications. But the laws are so strict drs are scared to intervene. You get 14 yrs for it.
Most of the girls sectioned would be kids themselves usually because older women get over the to the UK
And the guy can launch a lawsuit (not to stop her having an abortion it's not legal here )but to stop her traveling ...
What country is this?
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Republic of Ireland.
Other countries too though. it's not just us.
Posted by LittleFairyYour right a lot of guys would not want you to have the kid. Maybe because they don't want kids in the future because they are not ready... or you are not the woman they want to have kids with... I am not saying this is the case but you will never know if you don't tell him before... maybe he could careless. Many men are happy that a woman will not have the kid and remain in a relationship. I personally again just could not do that. I like to think the relationship is going somewhere and I would like to have kids one day. To make a choice like that with out me would be saying I have no say. Now maybe I say it is there body so they have final say... but no say does not sit well with me... I again personally don't see how I could stay with the woman considering I would take care of the kid even if she did not want to be around.Posted by Isabeau90I would say most guys would prefer the option to terminate though if it's unplanned.Posted by LittleFairyPosted by TeenaHe might try and stop me. http://www.independent.ie/irish-news/courts/high-court-adjourns-application-to-stop-woman-travelling-for-abortion-29428235.htmlPosted by LittleFairyIt's his baby too. It's too important to be kept hidden. Why are you even a couple if you're not comfortable enough to share things?
He ain't goona know he deserves to know if he never knows ..best he never knows think about it
Why do you not want him to know anyway?
Thats deceit. you're making a decision to hide this from him because he might try to stop you.
I get that telling him would be really scary given that abortion is illegal and he could stop you traveling but that tells me you dont trust him to make the right choices with you... a relationship without trust is no relationship..
Unless they are weird and controlling or something.click to expand
Do you mind me asking why you would not consider having the child? I believe if it is your choice but you did not get raped and don't seem to have health condition. Why do you not want the child? I am fine with woman that don't want kids again there choice but maybe he would want a future like that with you.
Piscesmoon
Posted by piscesmoon2I guess it's a fear gut reaction to the theoretical situation of a crisis unplanned pregnancy. I would be afraid and emotionally distraught.Posted by LittleFairyPosted by Isabeau90I would say most guys would prefer the option to terminate though if it's unplanned.Posted by LittleFairyPosted by TeenaHe might try and stop me. http://www.independent.ie/irish-news/courts/high-court-adjourns-application-to-stop-woman-travelling-for-abortion-29428235.htmlPosted by LittleFairyIt's his baby too. It's too important to be kept hidden. Why are you even a couple if you're not comfortable enough to share things?
He ain't goona know he deserves to know if he never knows ..best he never knows think about it
Why do you not want him to know anyway?
Thats deceit. you're making a decision to hide this from him because he might try to stop you.
I get that telling him would be really scary given that abortion is illegal and he could stop you traveling but that tells me you dont trust him to make the right choices with you... a relationship without trust is no relationship..
Unless they are weird and controlling or something.
Do you mind me asking why you would not consider having the child? I believe if it is your choice but you did not get raped and don't seem to have health condition. Why do you not want the child? I am fine with woman that don't want kids again there choice but maybe he would want a future like that with you.
Piscesmoon
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Also I don't think a guy would be likely to stay if it's not planned. They never do ..
Or what if we couldn't afford it etc?
Posted by EvilHareIt's theoretical ..it hasn't happened to anyone.
If you're at the point you're torn as to whether you need to tell him or not, then you're really not a "couple". You're just two people fucking because it's convenient.
And I guess you could be just having a fling...and not in a couple it happens all the time
I had to do a pregnancy test ..i told my BF ..i would not tell him until after if it happened again though ..it was more stressful ..he was not helpful.
......leave it to a Cancer to even ask a question like that.
Posted by LittleFairyOf course he does,,,,,it's his baby tooPosted by Teenanaah ..
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Posted by piscesmoon2If the woman wasn't fit or well enough to look after the baby for any reason, would you be willing to raise her or him as a single parent ?
Oh with the exception having health issues and the doctors advising an abortion. I would want to talk about it and options to have kids though. However I would be supportive of the abortion if it was for health issues... if my gf got rapped yea I think she would have every right to get one... as long as it was theirs... not mine but would not know how it would make me feel. I am not saying I would dump her but these are serious issues and a lot would depend on how she delt with it as well.
Piscesmoon
Posted by LittleFairyNormally it is because they have nothing to give to the child... Then the mother looks for a man willing to take care of them both which can be hard. I am not going to lie again women these days are not attracted to stable men can afford kids or want to have them... it is ok to just say you where having fun and don't want to be a mother but I think many woman use this as an excuse not to look for the the right type of guy. Wasting most of there child baring years. Again for a guy who actually is planning his life I can say it does matter to me if a woman had an abortion because if often means they just went out with a guy that simply would not be a good father. I would ask then why would she be with him so long... I guess in these ways I am old fashion. I get that many woman are liberal about sex these days... but to me I just can't do it with anyone I guess. There is no feeling and emotion... no future... which to me can't be love.
Also I don't think a guy would be likely to stay if it's not planned. They never do ..
I guess what bothers me these days is why do I continue to be like this when I guess I could be much more of a player. What is the purpose of doing things the right way when woman don't want that... They want impractical bad boys that don't want to grow up. It is semi depressing... to have all these types of men that basically can't man up mess up woman pretty much before you met them. The killer is they say they are so in love with them. I would advise you to practice safer sex maybe condoms if you or to whomever is like this... it is a very affective way to avoid having kids and protects against std's
Piscesmoon
Posted by piscesmoon2I am sure you are a nice man. But that is showing you are not mature enough really for a child.Posted by LittleFairy
Also I don't think a guy would be likely to stay if it's not planned. They never do ..
I guess what bothers me these days is why do I continue to be like this when I guess I could be much more of a player. What is the purpose of doing things the right way when woman don't want that... They want impractical bad boys that don't want to grow up. It is semi depressing..
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You expect a reward for doing the right thing. You are just meant to do that.
You don't get to feel bad about not being rewarded or appreciated for doing what you are meant to do.
Maybe I am just meant to tell the guy ..i dunno ...(this was just a fun thread) ...maybe it's the right thing ..i just felt if it was going to upset him...but maybe it's just the right thing to do.
Posted by LittleFairyNo one is perfect though ..so don't stress. 🙂Posted by piscesmoon2I am sure you are a nice man. But that is showing you are not mature enough really for a child.Posted by LittleFairy
Also I don't think a guy would be likely to stay if it's not planned. They never do ..
I guess what bothers me these days is why do I continue to be like this when I guess I could be much more of a player. What is the purpose of doing things the right way when woman don't want that... They want impractical bad boys that don't want to grow up. It is semi depressing..
Piscesmoon
You expect a reward for doing the right thing. You are just meant to do that.
You don't get to feel bad about not being rewarded or appreciated for doing what you are meant to do.
Maybe I am just meant to tell the guy ..i dunno ...(this was just a fun thread) ...maybe it's the right thing ..i just felt if it was going to upset him...but maybe it's just the right thing to do.click to expand
Posted by MyStarsShineI would be willing to raise the kid... I would never sleep with a woman I could not consider for a longer term relationship... Taking care of her would be an interesting concept since so many woman want to be treated as equals yet expect a man to take care of both them an kids... I am not against a stay at home wife but I would expect them to do something. Lets just say the mother would threaten to devorce my father for no reason to make him pay child support. Due to the laws and my father not being poor it would have given her a very easy life. These days laws are not so friendly when it comes to men and there children. They always award to the mother unless serious complication... even if the mom does not have a good job... or can't even take care of themselves. Woman seem to be made out saint and the guy is made out to be evil... and always wrong. Equality needs to loose gender concepts... I believe this has a lot to do with birth rates falling at record speed... Woman are being tough if you have a mans kid your life is over or he controls you. So woman have taken control by not having kids and I guess hooking up with guys that well just don't have it together. We are going to see the larges generation of woman getting older that don't have kids and are not married. They are going to be taking care of themselves or have to unless their family which nornally the father and mother is getting older is going to pay for them for ever. Does not seem right to me...Posted by piscesmoon2If the woman wasn't fit or well enough to look after the baby for any reason, would you be willing to raise her or him as a single parent ?
Oh with the exception having health issues and the doctors advising an abortion. I would want to talk about it and options to have kids though. However I would be supportive of the abortion if it was for health issues... if my gf got rapped yea I think she would have every right to get one... as long as it was theirs... not mine but would not know how it would make me feel. I am not saying I would dump her but these are serious issues and a lot would depend on how she delt with it as well.
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I would tell him. But I would be terrified. I think that's half the reason why....that he would be angry or think I planned it etc .( I would never do that though)
But it would be terrifying to tell him...
But it would be terrifying to tell him...
Posted by LittleFairyI wouldn't fear him leaving me ..if he did he did .
I would tell him. But I would be terrified. I think that's half the reason why....that he would be angry or think I planned it etc .( I would never do that though)
But it would be terrifying to tell him...
But it's his initial blast that would scare me.
Posted by LittleFairyNot really stressing to much alot of this astrologically predicted... 1929 when Saturn was in Sagittarius like it is now... flappers where very much thing. Well once the market crashed and times got hard... That fad died because well... woman started to value men that worked hard and stayed with their families... Many men just walked alway actually being very selfish. I expect political views and ideals to change greatly in the next 3 years as we will slip into a depression most likely. As every time Saturn comes to Sagittarius it brings great big market crashes in the US which normally affects the world.Posted by LittleFairyNo one is perfect though ..so don't stress. 🙂Posted by piscesmoon2I am sure you are a nice man. But that is showing you are not mature enough really for a child.Posted by LittleFairy
Also I don't think a guy would be likely to stay if it's not planned. They never do ..
I guess what bothers me these days is why do I continue to be like this when I guess I could be much more of a player. What is the purpose of doing things the right way when woman don't want that... They want impractical bad boys that don't want to grow up. It is semi depressing..
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You expect a reward for doing the right thing. You are just meant to do that.
You don't get to feel bad about not being rewarded or appreciated for doing what you are meant to do.
Maybe I am just meant to tell the guy ..i dunno ...(this was just a fun thread) ...maybe it's the right thing ..i just felt if it was going to upset him...but maybe it's just the right thing to do.click to expand
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Posted by piscesmoon2Posted by MyStarsShineI would be willing to raise the kid... I would never sleep with a woman I could not consider for a longer term relationship...Posted by piscesmoon2If the woman wasn't fit or well enough to look after the baby for any reason, would you be willing to raise her or him as a single parent ?
Oh with the exception having health issues and the doctors advising an abortion. I would want to talk about it and options to have kids though. However I would be supportive of the abortion if it was for health issues... if my gf got rapped yea I think she would have every right to get one... as long as it was theirs... not mine but would not know how it would make me feel. I am not saying I would dump her but these are serious issues and a lot would depend on how she delt with it as well.
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