Contraversial issue Would you tell him? (Page 2)

Posted by LittleFairy
I would tell him. But I would be terrified. I think that's half the reason why....that he would be angry or think I planned it etc .( I would never do that though)

But it would be terrifying to tell him...

It is an Aquarius Full moon you have a great amount of that energy... Virgo is the 7th house from this sign which is the house of relationships. Perhaps this is what was to happen...

Well I don't see how he could be so angry it is not like he did not help in making it... If it was a short relationship he still made the choice to have unprotected sex. If he could take care of the kid... and make a decent father... are you running from it? I know you are an emotional person so maybe you are just fearful of his reaction? If he would be so angry having made the choice to do what he did... what would that say about him? Is he really the type of guy you want to see that gets angry at you because you both had sex and you are with child... again if this is you—

Piscesmoon

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Posted by piscesmoon2
Oh with the exception having health issues and the doctors advising an abortion. I would want to talk about it and options to have kids though. However I would be supportive of the abortion if it was for health issues... if my gf got rapped yea I think she would have every right to get one... as long as it was theirs... not mine but would not know how it would make me feel. I am not saying I would dump her but these are serious issues and a lot would depend on how she delt with it as well.

Piscesmoon

If the woman wasn't fit or well enough to look after the baby for any reason, would you be willing to raise her or him as a single parent ?

I would be willing to raise the kid... I would never sleep with a woman I could not consider for a longer term relationship...

Piscesmoon

You might never sleep with a woman you are not in love with. But Life is more complicated.

Which is why it's better to plan.

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I have slept with 2 woman I loved already... neither had abortion. I either did have a child I would have wanted it no matter if the relationship worked or not... In all reality both really came back and wanted to marry me... I did not well because in all honesty I think they both wanted to see what was out there with men and where extremely disappoint. Although I know when slept with quite a few more men she said she was never happy or loved them... though she need to experience more then one man... I was not so into her considering it took her a year and 4 men to figure out how mush she cared. One being a good friend... I told her to kick rocks...

A real man has his life together. In all honesty yes I could make it work if it happened to me... no that did not happen by partying every night and spending money on every pretty face. I had fun and will have fun but does not mean I need to be a male slut. I find it very miss leading to tell a woman what she wants to hear just to sleep with her not mean it. I normally get to know woman I date so this does not happen... Most woman don't even consider a man they date a friend... If I know someone as a friend... then they have to be real with me... Consider the fact if this is you... you are willing to tell people who don't know you... more then him a man you slept with... do you consider this guy a friend in this situation because people these days just don't see it I guess the way I do...

Piscesmoon

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Posted by LittleFairy
I would tell him. But I would be terrified. I think that's half the reason why....that he would be angry or think I planned it etc .( I would never do that though)

But it would be terrifying to tell him...

I know you are an emotional person so maybe you are just fearful of his reaction? If he would be so angry having made the choice to do what he did... what would that say about him? Is he really the type of guy you want to see that gets angry at you because you both had sex and you are with child... again if this is you—

Piscesmoon

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Yeah it would partly be my nerves I am emotional..so there is that.

But most men react angrily to things like that. But also ...hmmm their voices ..bodies ..are more emotionally hard to be. I just imagine this blast of anger.

And all men have emotional reactions in the moment they regret. It might not mean you don't get on long term

It's not me I am just theorizing. Obv it would be more ideal if he did not have this reaction. But what guy does not have a reaction to that kind of unplanned news? It's only human he would.

I dunno ....I have never had to tell a guy i was pregnant ..so it's all supposition.

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by piscesmoon2
Oh with the exception having health issues and the doctors advising an abortion. I would want to talk about it and options to have kids though. However I would be supportive of the abortion if it was for health issues... if my gf got rapped yea I think she would have every right to get one... as long as it was theirs... not mine but would not know how it would make me feel. I am not saying I would dump her but these are serious issues and a lot would depend on how she delt with it as well.

Piscesmoon

If the woman wasn't fit or well enough to look after the baby for any reason, would you be willing to raise her or him as a single parent ?

I would be willing to raise the kid... I would never sleep with a woman I could not consider for a longer term relationship... Taking care of her would be an interesting concept since so many woman want to be treated as equals yet expect a man to take care of both them an kids... I am not against a stay at home wife but I would expect them to do something. Lets just say the mother would threaten to devorce my father for no reason to make him pay child support. Due to the laws and my father not being poor it would have given her a very easy life. These days laws are not so friendly when it comes to men and there children. They always award to the mother unless serious complication... even if the mom does not have a good job... or can't even take care of themselves. Woman seem to be made out saint and the guy is made out to be evil... and always wrong. Equality needs to loose gender concepts... I believe this has a lot to do with birth rates falling at record speed... Woman are being tough if you have a mans kid your life is over or he controls you. So woman have taken control by not having kids and I guess hooking up with guys that well just don't have it together. We are going to see the larges generation of woman getting older that don't have kids and are not married. They are going to be taking care of themselves or have to unless their family which nornally the father and mother is getting older is going to pay for them for ever. Does not seem right to me...

Piscesmoon

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Yes, things are changing for sure......not always for the good, although it is a good thing women now have the option whether to get pregnant or not. Of course the ideal situation would be a child being raised by both mum and dad equally. It worked very well for our son.....a good balance

I admire your choice not to buy into the throwaway sex scene....it seems sad and vacuous, albeit that it makes it harder to find someone suitable

I have chosen to be celibate for that very reason

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you should keep the baby, fairy. In this age of low sperm count you don't know when/if it will happen again.

Good luck

pisces moon looks so much like Rob McElhenney, this is killing me —