Date DXP

Would you date someone that you met on DXP?

Why or why not?

I highly doubt I'd ever meet anyone here, but supposing I ever did and we hit it off and were reasonably close to eachother, sure, why not?

I would totally meet Bling, though 🙂 When I visit England someday, I'm gonna snatch him up!

hmm...MsP I was thinking in terms of an e-dating dynamic. Guess I need to pose a couple scenarios...

1. The member is fairly close geographically, you have good rapport on the site, would you invite them to dinner or would you accept a dinner invitation?

2. You have good rapport on the forums, you casually PM one another, discover that you have lots in common, would you meet?

I doubt it.

I'm gonna need more than mere good rapport to meet someone off here. It would have to be like...fireworks.

You?

MsP are you anti online dating period or online dating with respect to DXP?

if i were single, i don't think i would. just because i'm not into online dating. i need physical presence to really connect ot people. for instance i hate talking on the phone, even with my closest of friends just because i have no attention span for it and it means nothing to me.

I'm not anti online dating. I think its great if you happen to find love online, I just haven't ever given it a shot.

With respect to DXP, I think it'd be kinda weird. It would change the whole feeling of the place for me, especially if both of us continued to post here while we're dating. Meeting a guy I happen to like a bit isn't worth losing DXP over, b/c it got too 'weird' lol I'd rather keep DXP and stick to meeting men in person.

Besides, love is the last thing I'm thinking about when I come here, which makes it very unlikely that I'd ever really like someone enough to want to meet them in the first place.

hmm...well i guess it would suck if you broke up. where would you go to vent? and what if you had issues with their sign? where would you go to obtain information?

MsP, i think you just don't find any guys on DXP date worthy period. not enough e-hotties?

and i feel ya cancergem. i'm not opposed to it but it's one thing when you set out to date someone by going to match.com or something, it's another when you're just shooting the shit online.

with that said, if there was a guy that had depth and stuff, yeah, i would BUT! my God, given how vindictive people are, imagine the shit someone would expose if it didn't work out!!?!

(hid my other post for blatant errors)

it's just my personal preference when it comes to getting to know people. i'm the absolute worse person to get to know/talk to on the phone (super awkward and i can't pay attention for the life of me). if i can't see them physically, i can't read them. if i can't read them, then they technically aren't there to me. a bit hard to describe but i think you get the gist of what i'm saying. i think the interesting part of internet connections is, people tend to reveal "interesting" facets of their personalities because of the anonymity.

"'interesting' facets?"

i think it really depends on the person. when i venture into the online dating realm, most of the guys i talk to are duds. occasionally there's a sparkle and rarely there's a fire. in most cases i haven't even got to the point of meeting the dude because at some point it's pretty apparent that it wouldn't work in real life anyway.

when i say that, i don't necessarily mean "good" facets of their personalities, just certain parts, whether good or bad. at least parts of them that they wouldn't normally portray in a day to day sort of way. i'm sure i could be wrong just because i haven't ventured in that arena much, but i feel there's a freedom in anonymity.

eh, i always saw that as an upside. most men don't talk like women and yet, e-dating forces them to be more open and chatty.

well, i really don't have much experience with online dating so, seeing the benefits of it would fly over my head. how would you compare it to physically dating someone? besides the pressure of having sex and all that. do you feel theres an age group where it it's more beneficial? or does that not matter whatsoever?

wait, i think i'm asking the wrong questions. what i really want to know is, do you feel that you get to know the person more than you would if it weren't an online thing?

i think it depends on how long you get to know the person online. if it's local, chances are there will be a quicker turnaround and in that case, it feels more like a blind date situation. you may have a general idea of who the person is but how it proceeds from that point is just like dating normally.

if it's long distance, you're probably going to speak (generally). the longer you speak to someone, the more you get to know them...or what they choose to show you. i think people who get deceived just rushed into a situation or missed cues.

in terms of the up/downside, i agree with you, physical contact is important but no-sex can be a good thing in the short-term. i definitely think dating in the real world results in a quicker path to the bedroom and that's fine if it results in a relationship or if you're just down for nookie. if not, then what's the point? some stranger gets a piece of you and is eventually on their way. gross.

and not sure about the age range thing.

and i meant if it's long distance, the longer you'll speak to the person before meeting...generally.

nice, i don't think that's what they mean when they say "if you could have one person to dinner dead or alive..."

the more i thought about it the age thing really doesn't matter whatsoever. everything else you touched upon answered a question i was interested in.

i think all in all it really all comes down to how you communicate; which i guess should be obvious. i think there are things that are easier to reveal in a non-physical sense than there is in a physical sense. not including sex at all. too many factors in general.

also, i can't wait till your avatar goes back to teletubies. i is scared...

lmao 🙂 i thought only kids had clown phobias.

oh no, i gots em...

it's not bad enough to make me freak out, but at the same time i see it and i'm like, "don't stare at it!!!!"

i think you should adopt a nice, unicorn friendly, avatar like mine lol

lol. if you watched the movie it wouldn't be so creepy. love the killer klowns

No there was a show on clown phobics and you'd be surprised on how many people are actually freaked by them and not even scary faces like that...Ronald MacDonald was one!

As per your OP, I dont see any reason why I wouldn't get to know someone on here if they were local to me...some of the ladies here I'd definitely get in touch with for a cuppa, as we share similar lives and think we have things in common...

OMG i did!!! the night i watched it i had to sleep in my cousin's bedroom and her wallpaper had clowns all over it!!!! when i've seen clowns up front, i never have been bothered, but i feel like clowns walk a thin line.

i dont really have phobias and I found it really amuxing to see people scared of clowns and anything that flies or flaps like birds, moths etc and even cats!!!

Sorry TC...off the topic here...

most of the women on here are creepy.

and i envision most of the men being under 5'10

oh sweets, i have a fear of cats. they are creepy!!!! why do they walk like they're up to something? i HATE cats.

i don't have a phobia of clowns but i don't liek them. i do have a phobia of heights though... to the point where i can't even see my friends near the edge of high points.

all of my nightmares involve heights 😢 there's a dream interpretation there but yeah, heights are creepy. when i was younger, i used to have dreams about drowning.

ugh i swear you guys post way faster than i can lol

i always have this dream of going up in an elevator and it goes higher and higher and the elevator is too old and going way too high and feels like it's going to fall apart... up over 100 stories!!

Not liking them and screaming because they are around thats a phobia!!! Seen a whole family go hysterical because while showing them a house they saw a cat and started screaming and had to get outside!!!

Cats do that becasue they are stalkers...always stalking there prey!

Funny that, cos I liken cats to woman and dogs to men!! Cats are serious and like to be loved touch pampered blah blah blah and dogs just want to be played with patted fed and looked after!! haha

Why do you think they are creepy?? I get with the ones more my age that are going at it or looking anywho 2nd time round and cautious... You do get some over inflated egos but you get that anywhere..

The guys I find funny!

wait, sweets, who are you referring to—

lol...ok cats aren't THAT creepy but yeah, they tend to his at me. one of my exes had a cat and he said that the reason i didn't like the cat was because of our competing feminine energies.

i refuse to even pet a cat. they make me cringe.

it's funny, i feel like people who are uncomfortable with cats, also disguise this as contempt for cats (in the kitties pov), get swarmed by cats. i think it's mostly the idea of independence. if you don't seem dependent on their happiness the more they like you... which echos... a lot of relationships...

some of that might not of made sense. i've been drinking... sorry guys... drunken dxp... rock bottom—

i dunno if i agree with that but i can say that it took everything in my power to not poison the strays in my neighborhood.

i feel bad that i laughed but... i laughed... oh kitties...

all i picture in my head is that fucked up clown killing kitties...oi!

lmao!

wtf, are you saying people on DXP with profile pics are most likely ugly in person?

soooooooo, it's reverse world.

all ugly people are hot and all hot people are ugly. interesting.

you're peculiar. and i've been "learning" french since i was 14 😛

To answer your question tubby. Yes. If I got to know them well. Why not?

no i'm just saying your avy is fugly lol. i don't mean you! considering i've never seen you anyway...

one possible why not is that unlike a stranger, someone from DXP knows all your secrets and short-comings. not sure if i want to be exposed in that sense.

and cancer, that clown resembles me in real life so you were talking about me 😢

Nahh, there are some aspects of ourselves we push out on a message board, but that does no encompass everything someone is. Hence, the get to know someone bit. But absolutely there are qualities that mesh with others. Meeting of minds on certain topics, a frisson. So, why not take a chance? Anything is worth a shot. And wouldn't it be better if the quirks and foibles were out on the open and someone still grooved on you anyways? It all comes out sooner or later anyways.

^^^^yes!!

and tubby... i like your insides. all those squishy bits 🙂


...not to be creep lol