@tsar322
12 YearsAquarius
Ever been in a fist fight—
I ached for a minute, wiped my hands on my jeans (write off), and then chased for about a second when I thought "all I need is to go round a corner tonight and find him and four friends with knifes". So I didn't.
I got inside, saw the in-house doctor, and then it hit me. I COULD have been stabbed. I could have been killed. He could of beat ME to death. I could have killed HIM. And worst of all, dude was probably a hobo, druggie. I had open wounds on his open wounds. Jesus I was scared until I went to the doctor to get everything checked out.
The most interesting part of the night though was that during this whole skirmish, not ONE car or ONE person passed us. Not one. Which would never happen again in a lifetime in a place like Chicago, on a saturday night at 12? Crazy.
So what about you? Tell 'em!
Posted by tsar322
that Howard Street and Rogers Ave is a major intersection in Chicago
LOL..dude, i grew up over there..thats "the jungle"..i can relay plenty of fights,shooting, & murders that happened in that area from back in the 90's - early 2000's..they cleaned it up a lot since then, but these kind of situations still occur from time to time...small world
Posted by tsar322
that Howard Street and Rogers Ave is a major intersection in ChicagoLOL..dude, i grew up over there..thats "the jungle"..i can relay plenty of fights,shooting, & murders that happened in that area from back in the 90's - early 2000's..they cleaned it up a lot since then, but these kind of situations still occur from time to time...small world
I spent 7 of my 24 years in that area, from 2004 to 2011 an moved back to Dallas in 2012 and I gotta say its like a regular neighborhood where cousins and friends holler at eachother from the street to their windows an the elderly are respected. Its not as bad as people say but still you gotta keep ya head up n know where to step cuz there IS drug business, gangbangin an you can hear gunshots all through the night. Cops are everywhere. Yet, there ARE normal citizens livin there doin their legal 9-5s, walkin their dogs and playin basketball.
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Posted by scorchedearth
if you've been in a fist fight as an adult you have a lot of issues with anger and should probably go talk to someone to work through it.in junior high that shit is unavoidable. but as a grown ass man/woman you should have matured past that. it's not cool to fight. it doesn't make you a bad ass. it makes you a fucking dumbass who can't control your temper.
Fightin in self-defense aint bout "coolness" or badassness." Its about havin respect for yourself and your belongings, which in case was a laptop, $ 300 worth of textbooks, and gym shoes.
Posted by cheekyfaerie
Punched my ex in the faceNot proud, but apparently you only hafta tell me that about 6 times before i just fuckin do it. Not exactly a fight, but the only time i've punched someone since i got old enough to know better.
Sometimes you just gotta come out ya shell n show em you aint the one to be messed with.
Posted by StillWater
I want to take Muay Thai so when I kick someone's ass it looks a lot cooler: knee to the face or elbow strike.
obviously you have a HUGE advantage with muay thai...faster, stronger, smarter. You can take out bigger fools with leg kicks, and smash faces with punches and elbows...you don't even need the clinch to do so. But then assault and battery charges are no fun.
Posted by tsar322
Have you ever been in a fist fight with someone before?
Unfortunately yes. My anecdotes are neither amusing nor enlightening though.
Posted by scorchedearth
if you've been in a fist fight as an adult you have a lot of issues with anger and should probably go talk to someone to work through it.in junior high that shit is unavoidable. but as a grown ass man/woman you should have matured past that. it's not cool to fight. it doesn't make you a bad ass. it makes you a fucking dumbass who can't control your temper.
Fightin in self-defense aint bout "coolness" or badassness." Its about havin respect for yourself and your belongings, which in case was a laptop, $ 300 worth of textbooks, and gym shoes.
there is never a reason to lay hands on someone. better to just lose the shit. you can always buy more. if you're the type that thinks it's okay to be physical with another person over something as petty as a laptop i don't know what to tell you. though it really makes me wonder if you're so quick to violence with strangers if you'd be just as quick with someone that you care about. somebody that has a violent personality it usually isn't isolated into one area of their lives.
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It must be real nice to be a walking ATM machine, comin home to fridges n mattresses loaded with Benjamins, and havin another million saved up in Europe somewhere.
Been in plenty of fist fights.
None have good tales to tell.
Last real fist fight convinced me to avoid them at all costs (I wasn't the loser).
Its not worth it, unless you have no other options.
Posted by cheekyfaerie
Punched my ex in the faceNot proud, but apparently you only hafta tell me that about 6 times before i just fuckin do it. Not exactly a fight, but the only time i've punched someone since i got old enough to know better.
Sometimes you just gotta come out ya shell n show em you aint the one to be messed with.
There was something oddly cathartic about it for both of us. Strange to say, but i think it started our healing process. Save a few minor bumps, we're very friendly now. Go figure.
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Reminds me of school. Everyone that fought were best friends after when I was younger lol.
Id much rather people fight then think they have to pull out a gun and shoot or kill someone.
My last physical fight was in 7th grade...with my Leo cousin, who STILL wants to get his revenge smh lol.
Posted by scorchedearth
if you've been in a fist fight as an adult you have a lot of issues with anger and should probably go talk to someone to work through it.in junior high that shit is unavoidable. but as a grown ass man/woman you should have matured past that. it's not cool to fight. it doesn't make you a bad ass. it makes you a fucking dumbass who can't control your temper.
Fightin in self-defense aint bout "coolness" or badassness." Its about havin respect for yourself and your belongings, which in case was a laptop, $ 300 worth of textbooks, and gym shoes.
there is never a reason to lay hands on someone. better to just lose the shit. you can always buy more. if you're the type that thinks it's okay to be physical with another person over something as petty as a laptop i don't know what to tell you. though it really makes me wonder if you're so quick to violence with strangers if you'd be just as quick with someone that you care about. somebody that has a violent personality it usually isn't isolated into one area of their lives.
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if i was a big burly dude rather than a 97 pound Asian girl, I wouldn't hesitate to make a thief taste the pavement. Maybe not everyone has the money to wave it off and go, "ah well! Time to go shopping! 🙂"
Plus if I lost my laptop, that's my livelihood (need it for work), and I have a lot of sensitive information on there.
If only it were legal to conceal and carry...a pistol is the great equalizer when it comes to being tiny.
Posted by scorchedearth
i misread you phv. i'm sorry. this thread is just pissing me off though because guys that are quick to violence are quick to violence even with their partners. and someone on this thread has already stated that they've hit a partner. it's just no good to glorify violence this way.
You know damn well that's apples to oranges.
lol @the comments.
i'd rather be the damsel in distress.
although, if some woman starts hitting on my man. It's ON.
I find it interesting that some are equating a passive way of life with having money. Quite a leap.
Posted by TMV
I find it interesting that some are equating a passive way of life with having money. Quite a leap.
All I'm saying is that if you have more to lose by being passive, you're gonna be less inclined to be passive.
Posted by tsar322
that Howard Street and Rogers Ave is a major intersection in ChicagoLOL..dude, i grew up over there..thats "the jungle"..i can relay plenty of fights,shooting, & murders that happened in that area from back in the 90's - early 2000's..they cleaned it up a lot since then, but these kind of situations still occur from time to time...small world
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Do you guys still live in Chicago? I live in southern illinois. My best friend lives in Chicago. I was just out there last weekend.
Posted by scorchedearth
if you've been in a fist fight as an adult you have a lot of issues with anger and should probably go talk to someone to work through it.in junior high that shit is unavoidable. but as a grown ass man/woman you should have matured past that. it's not cool to fight. it doesn't make you a bad ass. it makes you a fucking dumbass who can't control your temper.
By no means do I condone fighting. In fact, I have never been in a fight. Lol. However, I do think that certain environments and living circumstances might involve violence as a means for survival. You are fortunate that you do not have to take that as a consideration.
Posted by tsar322
that Howard Street and Rogers Ave is a major intersection in ChicagoLOL..dude, i grew up over there..thats "the jungle"..i can relay plenty of fights,shooting, & murders that happened in that area from back in the 90's - early 2000's..they cleaned it up a lot since then, but these kind of situations still occur from time to time...small world
Do you guys still live in Chicago? I live in southern illinois. My best friend lives in Chicago. I was just out there last weekend.
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Chicago is like a second home to me. Lookin forward to it in the summer. Hahaha...Summertime Chi
... the memories don't end.
I used to love Chicago. But now I'm over the midwest. Lol. I cant take this weather.
Again, although I do not condone violence at all, I think some of the perspectives shared indicate a certain level of privilege.
1. Having the privilege of being a woman and possibly not challenged with the same level of aggression as men do from other men.
2. Having the privilege of possibly not living in a community where one must protect themselves physically.
Posted by thebiggcarlos12345678910
^^but what if another woman prevoke you? like say actually physically put their hands on you. cuz you got some crazy people in this world (men and women) thst got some screws loose in their heads that WILL actually do that.
Then of course I am going to do what I have to in order to protect myself. Instinctually, I would not want to fight (it's not my style , lol), but I have to protect myself.
Lol. You two are silly.
I think ideally we all wish we could live in a world where we do not have to fight or struggle in order to survive. But I would like to see how some of the perspectives shared on this thread would fair for a 21 year old Black male living on the south side of Chicago. I am not sure how realistic it would be for him to never have to protect himself. It's all based on context and circumstance.
most recently some big dude wanted to test me bc Im light skinned starting an argument for a BS reason, and I had to go to the park. And I slept dude. It was cold as hell out and he was drunk.
The most I've done is shove 2 different guys. Both were boyfriends who had been cheating and were rubbing that fact in my face until I thought I would literally go crazy.
Posted by natural25
I used to love Chicago. But now I'm over the midwest. Lol. I cant take this weather.
Shovelling the snow is all good, if I can go warm up at Baris with a meatball sub and a beer after.
Posted by natural25
I used to love Chicago. But now I'm over the midwest. Lol. I cant take this weather.Shovelling the snow is all good, if I can go warm up at Baris with a meatball sub and a beer after.
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I am tired of the cold. I am tired of the ice storms. I am tired of the snow. I am tired of not being able to wear heels in the winter. I am tired of not having sunlight. I am so over it! Lol. As SOON as I am done with this degree **DUECES**
Posted by TURNDOWNFORWHAT
most recently some big dude wanted to test me bc Im light skinned starting an argument for a BS reason, and I had to go to the park. And I slept dude. It was cold as hell out and he was drunk.DEAD________________________________________________________
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He is so extra.... LOL. No one cares what complexion he is. Smh. LMAO.
Posted by natural25
I used to love Chicago. But now I'm over the midwest. Lol. I cant take this weather.Shovelling the snow is all good, if I can go warm up at Baris with a meatball sub and a beer after.
I am tired of the cold. I am tired of the ice storms. I am tired of the snow. I am tired of not being able to wear heels in the winter. I am tired of not having sunlight. I am so over it! Lol. As SOON as I am done with this degree **DUECES**
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LMAO. You aint the only one.
Posted by natural25
I used to love Chicago. But now I'm over the midwest. Lol. I cant take this weather.Shovelling the snow is all good, if I can go warm up at Baris with a meatball sub and a beer after.
I am tired of the cold. I am tired of the ice storms. I am tired of the snow. I am tired of not being able to wear heels in the winter. I am tired of not having sunlight. I am so over it! Lol. As SOON as I am done with this degree **DUECES**
LMAO. You aint the only one.
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Its gotten ridiculous. The city is preparing for a severe ice/snow storm scheduled to hit tomorrow as we speak. If they close down the gym and I can't run and take my "butts and guts" class on Monday morning because of tomorrow's storm, there will be hell to pay! Im so sincere!!
Posted by lisabethur8
lol @the comments.
i'd rather be the damsel in distress.
although, if some woman starts hitting on my man. It's ON.
physical or verbal fight over a man? eeww. that's tacky.
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(shrug) it is who i am.
Posted by scorchedearth
if you've been in a fist fight as an adult you have a lot of issues with anger and should probably go talk to someone to work through it.in junior high that shit is unavoidable. but as a grown ass man/woman you should have matured past that. it's not cool to fight. it doesn't make you a bad ass. it makes you a fucking dumbass who can't control your temper.
Female logic. "Because I'm a woman I don't understand why men react with physical violence", but as a man I'm suppose to understand your pissy non-violent passive-aggressive ways and accept them as the only right way?
And you put too much faith in grown-ups! I mean you're supposely a grown up yet I'm on your block list simply because you can't stand my face, in a figure of speech. How grown-up of you. Ever witnessed an argument between two adults whose kids have gotten into a fight on the school-yard? Let me know when you have and we'll talk about "grown-ups". When I was a kid and got into a fight, I didn't fear the other kid or my teachers or any other adult... I feared my parents! That's the way it should be. Parents these days will bring an axe to an argument with the other kid's parents (that particular scenario has actually happened) which basically teaches their kid that as long as someone's got your back you can do whatever the fuck you want to and get away with it.
Anyway I don't think we're discussing jumping someone in philosophy class over a disagreement, we're discussing violence among certain uninhibited types that you cannot always avoid. Many so-called grown-ups never get pass the physical stage of "child-language", so you gotta speak to them the only way they'll understand-- which is by physically bringing them down a notch before they do you. It's unavoidable in certain situations... and it feels so good too!
Posted by enfant_terrible
Female logic.
Posted by natural25
I used to love Chicago. But now I'm over the midwest. Lol. I cant take this weather.Shovelling the snow is all good, if I can go warm up at Baris with a meatball sub and a beer after.
I am tired of the cold. I am tired of the ice storms. I am tired of the snow. I am tired of not being able to wear heels in the winter. I am tired of not having sunlight. I am so over it! Lol. As SOON as I am done with this degree **DUECES**
LMAO. You aint the only one.
Its gotten ridiculous. The city is preparing for a severe ice/snow storm scheduled to hit tomorrow as we speak. If they close down the gym and I can't run and take my "butts and guts" class on Monday morning because of tomorrow's storm, there will be hell to pay! Im so sincere
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Now you know why they say "South gonna hold ya down, haha. It holds us down with sizzlin summer condition ALLLLLLLLL 365 days a year. 22 degrees today here in Dallas, Texas with no sign of snow but neighbors slappin ribs to the grill n sippin beers on the beach.
Posted by enfant_terrible
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I love y'all, nontheless 😛
Enoch - I am a Cali girl. Im not made for this kind of weather. 😢
I lived in the northwest Chicago suburbs for 4 years. Downtown can get crazy.
I have never been in a fist fight, but I own a gun. You better believe I am going to protect myself and my family.
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Have you ever been in a fist fight with someone before? Do tell! Everyone likes a good fight story. Here is mine:
Although I do have a handful, the one Im talkin about came as one of the biggest flukes of all time. It was about 12 a.m. and I was just getting off the subway at Howard Station in Chicago. Now, you have to understand that Howard Street and Rogers Ave is a major intersection in Chicago (i'd say) and is constantly busy. But when I got off the subway no one got off with me (never happened before). I went upstairs no one was in the station but the booth worker (never happened before) and as I climbed the stairs there was no one with me, or waiting for a bus (never happened before).
I lived, literally, next to the station. The building was attached to the station on the North-West side exit. My walk home from the station consisted of opening the door, turning right, walking ten steps, turning right again, walking thirty steps, and I'm home. So when I walked out of the station into the rain, I didn't bother to stop and open my umbrella, which, knowing me, would of taken a minute (I'm clumsy). I turned right and was adjusting my messenger bag when I heard this loud slapping. Like someone running in sneakers. I turned to see what it was and it happened:
A hand grabbed my bag and pulled. At the same time the other hand came at my face and, funnily enough, missed because he had pulled me to the side so hard. As he was mid-follow through I, without thinking, punched him as hard as I could in the ribs, which he had all of that momentum and his weight leaning in to it. He went down like a sack o'potatoes. And then came my smoothest moment alive, something I'm entirely proud of: I looked at him on the ground, in total shock, and said in a shaky voice "You... fuckin "junkie trash." Charming.
I started to walk away (dumb) and I felt a hand on the back of my coat (a much weaker hand). I shook him off, threw him onto a park bench, and began to pummel him mercilessly. I hit him until my hands started to bleed. He hit me a couple of times too; once in the jaw, which fucking hurt, and once in the ribs, which cracked a rib. I kept hitting him until he said "stop, stop, stop."
ME: Are YOU going to stop?
HIM: I just wanted yo' stuff man.
ME: [Perplexed] Well you can't have it!?
HIM: [rolling off the bench and stumbling away] sorry, sorry - etc
I ached for a minute, wiped my hands on my jeans (write off), and then chased for about a secon