Feeling Passed Over

Lately I've been feeling down because I keep getting passed over for promotions and raises and other things.

I want certain doors to open for me but they're remaining shut.

I would really like to prosper and expand but I feel so stifled.

Ugh. So frustrating. Hurt. Taking things personally.

Just venting.

Fuck everyone. Time to start your own business and be your own boss.

Posted by SassyKiwi

Fuck everyone. Time to start your own business and be your own boss.

Agreed.

Hang in there. Keep on working at it, make changes if needed to get there.

My ego has been taking alot of hits lately.

What the fawk is this?

I feel like everything I do is wrong and not being valued.

Each day, my ego takes another hit.

I'm tired and frustrated.

The people around me lie to my face.

It makes me very distrustful and angry.

Use your experience to sell yourself elsewhere. If that doesn't work then you're not as good as you think. Value yourself!!

Posted by besarlalluvia

Use your experience to sell yourself elsewhere. If that doesn't work then you're not as good as you think. Value yourself!!

Maybe that's what I need to come to grips with.

I'm not as good as I think.

My old boss told me that and I hesitated to believe her.

Shyt, maybe she was right.

I need a new profession.

Posted by DMV

Posted by besarlalluvia

Use your experience to sell yourself elsewhere. If that doesn't work then you're not as good as you think. Value yourself!!

Maybe that's what I need to come to grips with.

I'm not as good as I think.

My old boss told me that and I hesitated to believe her.

Shyt, maybe she was right.

I need a new profession.

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Or just improve yourself?

I had an old boss who used to criticise a lot, so I left and found another similar job where i learned even more and got a qualification

Posted by besarlalluvia

Posted by DMV

Posted by besarlalluvia

Use your experience to sell yourself elsewhere. If that doesn't work then you're not as good as you think. Value yourself!!

Maybe that's what I need to come to grips with.

I'm not as good as I think.

My old boss told me that and I hesitated to believe her.

Shyt, maybe she was right.

I need a new profession.

Or just improve yourself?

I had an old boss who used to criticise a lot, so I left and found another similar job where i learned even more and got a qualification

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I'm just confused.

I hate it here.

Posted by DMV

Lately I've been feeling down because I keep getting passed over for promotions and raises and other things.

I want certain doors to open for me but they're remaining shut.

I would really like to prosper and expand but I feel so stifled.

Ugh. So frustrating. Hurt. Taking things personally.

Just venting.

I never got promoted by the agency I was currently working for. I had to seek those titles, pay increases, management, and director positions outside.

I have an employee who got "passed over" for the current position I have and she barely speaks and took a temporary detail out of my team. I was hired from outside. But, after the detail, she will be my employee again. I don't know how long it will take her to get over it. But, I'm giving her space.

My 2nd attempt to get promoted from within (and my last) , I got "passed over" for three positions open at once, lol. Soon as they told me I didn't get it, I put in my notice because I had gotten the promotion with another agency. In doing so, I was saying, "game recognize game." It felt really good to be so strategic and matter of fact about it all. No emotions, bye-bye.

I saw the writing on the wall. They were gonna put a guy I trained in charge of me, LOL. I'm no fool. Got good instincts.

I have been looking for another job for 2 years now.

I've been trying to take control of my own life.

The journey is hard, tough, and full of tears.

I'm not on the right path

me having a job is an everyday wonder for me

simply coz i've done zero to deserve one

and i mean that in 2 ways

After reflecting, I decided that people get what they deserve. Period. I cant control what comes in my life and when. I cant control other people or management. People are going to people.

No journey is the same.

I cant find happy at work, so I went and found it elsewhere.

Posted by GODZ

I had my first zero at the age of nine,

I've been punished four hour because i run in the stairs,

I had been fired of my school because I went in short, lol that one literally broke me mentally for two years.

I had a top grade but school decided to erase it and put me in retake for no particular reason.

I understood like meritocracy is a legend because you can be the best if someone don't like you they can just put you down.

If you are in a system when an other human has to choose you, you'll have chance to be destroyed for no particular reason.

There is some rare field with military discipline where ppl has respect and don't destroy you.

But imo you shouldn't focus that much on your work, invest in renting an apartment because at the end it's only money who count.

Idk your situation but you and your husband can try to by one, then two it will probably took like 10 years but you'll get happy to have that safety and never receive order or get judging ever.

Plus the happiness that you'll have when you finished to redesign those house and see that first pay on your account gonna make you forget those useless promotion

This is a great outlook. I agree 100%

When its comes to my creativity, no closed doors, no rejection, I hit the mark every time. When it's a one woman show, I have success.

When it comes to teamwork and putting my fate in others hands, nothing but stress and disappointment and rejection.

Agreed, I've been turned down by the last 3 jobs for a promotion and hoping that the next job would see my worth. Never happens. People gonna people. Bias or whatever. All of it is out of my control

Posted by MrsElleCappysnatch

This usually means you've outgrown the current situation and you have to challenge yourself for bigger and better things.

I've been there.

Some people are comfortable with exactly where you are and end up stunting your growth.

Keep doing you, this is just part of this process.

Interesting. I benefit from the laziness of others.

Posted by MrsElleCappysnatch

Posted by DMV

Posted by besarlalluvia

Use your experience to sell yourself elsewhere. If that doesn't work then you're not as good as you think. Value yourself!!

Maybe that's what I need to come to grips with.

I'm not as good as I think.

My old boss told me that and I hesitated to believe her.

Shyt, maybe she was right.

I need a new profession.

Wrong. You are even better than you think. That is why they don't want you to move on. Mediocre management love people like you because you make their job easier.

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Yeah I've felt alot of that over the past 10 years.

I get used with no reciprocity.

Im used to no reciprocity in my personal relationships but I have to get used to it in my workplace. I denied it for awhile. Thinking things would get better. Someone would finally see my worth.

Maybe that's what I need to come to grips with.

I'm not as good as I think.

My old boss told me that and I hesitated to believe her.

Shyt, maybe she was right.

I need a new profession.

Or just improve yourself?

I had an old boss who used to criticise a lot, so I left and found another similar job where i learned even more and got a qualification

I'm just confused.

I hate it here.

I've been there....if you hate it, trust me, it will come thru in your interactions with people. They will know it, and it will only get worse. If you feel you're being ignored or undervalued, it's time to start looking for something new and get a fresh start.

It's your only option. Once things start going badly on a job, it's usually very hard to reverse, unless you work for a very big company and can transfer to diff departments.

Posted by DMV

Posted by GODZ

I had my first zero at the age of nine,

I've been punished four hour because i run in the stairs,

I had been fired of my school because I went in short, lol that one literally broke me mentally for two years.

I had a top grade but school decided to erase it and put me in retake for no particular reason.

I understood like meritocracy is a legend because you can be the best if someone don't like you they can just put you down.

If you are in a system when an other human has to choose you, you'll have chance to be destroyed for no particular reason.

There is some rare field with military discipline where ppl has respect and don't destroy you.

But imo you shouldn't focus that much on your work, invest in renting an apartment because at the end it's only money who count.

Idk your situation but you and your husband can try to by one, then two it will probably took like 10 years but you'll get happy to have that safety and never receive order or get judging ever.

Plus the happiness that you'll have when you finished to redesign those house and see that first pay on your account gonna make you forget those useless promotion

This is a great outlook. I agree 100%

When its comes to my creativity, no closed doors, no rejection, I hit the mark every time. When it's a one woman show, I have success.

When it comes to teamwork and putting my fate in others hands, nothing but stress and disappointment and rejection.

Agreed, I've been turned down by the last 3 jobs for a promotion and hoping that the next job would see my worth. Never happens. People gonna people. Bias or whatever. All of it is out of my control

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So you thrive when you are alone but if you are in an organisation you suffer? Regardless of what you are doing wrong or

who is against you, how about trying to get freelance jobs in your sparetime until you dont need the job anymore?

You need to get out of there, believe me it has become habitual to dismiss you.

And I am going thru same thing but different circumstances, I fail regardless of what I do, I guess the eye cannot the eye.

Sometimes you fuvk up but you cant tell when and how you sabotage yourself.

Posted by DMV

Lately I've been feeling down because I keep getting passed over for promotions and raises and other things.

I want certain doors to open for me but they're remaining shut.

I would really like to prosper and expand but I feel so stifled.

Ugh. So frustrating. Hurt. Taking things personally.

Just venting.

How you feeling today babe? Hopefully a little better.