Financial leechers

I don't understand how some people can financially continuously overgive to their relatives who literally don't give a single shit back. They're so ungrateful yet some people don't bat and eye and keep financially providing for them! It makes no sense to me... I'm not talking parents, I'm talking uncles, aunts, married siblings aged 40+ and it's not like they can't make their own money, they do which just makes everything seem much more worse. It feels like I'm the only one who sees this is so fucking wrong? The only time I'd consider financially helping anyone is in the event of emergencies with them having actual financial issues. These people don't have emergencies, they just constantly fucking need money or something.

I don't give shit to my parents and I plan on keeping it that way. And when they reach old age I'll just drop them at the nearest, worst rated nursing home.

Posted by ATGR

Feels like you’re speaking from personal experience.

Yup, I know close family and family of my close friends do this

Posted by WarAngel

Unless you have something extra to give from the heart (no strings attached), keep your money - emergencies or otherwise.

I believe in this too. Why can't people leave others alone. They must have clingy sad cancer placements or something

Posted by Dastard2020

I don't give shit to my parents and I plan on keeping it that way. And when they reach old age I'll just drop them at the nearest, worst rated nursing home.

I'm totally okay with giving to parents if they gave you a lot growing up and all. Have your parents not provided well for you growing up?

Posted by Wizardz

What's it got to do with you how someone spends their money?

It's my father and husband in my life who partake in such things so yeah it kind of affects me a lot y'kno. Sure it's their money but um what happens when you aren't able to continue to provide for them and are the ones who need help? I fucking sure know all those takers won't lend a hand. Their current level of gratitude reflects it.

Posted by Krabss

Yeah i don't get that either. Maybe washing themselves from something you don't know about.

Hm idk or maybe it's some kind of weird people pleasing thing, being liked or feeling needed kind of thing...

I feel obligated to be leeched on by blood relations tbh.

My Taurus grandmother used to overgive to her younger siblings all the time. Not one of them stepped forward to help when she got hit by a massive stroke and could no longer do most things for herself. One of them even treated her as if she was the one borrowing money from him when she called him up to ask for payment.

One of my younger granduncles admitted to my mum that my grandmother was the only financially reliable member of their family. Unfortunately he passed away before he could clear his debt with her.

I never understood why she did it - maybe she felt that being the eldest she still had some responsibility towards her siblings.

Hi 🙋‍♀️ yes I feel your pain.

My stance is to never ‘loan’ money to family. Because it’ll never get paid back and my time is too valuable to go chasing after said person for repayments over infinite years. Hell no.

My policy, and it’s worked well for me, is to gift an amount I feel comfortable with. I feel good for helping within my means, but am free to move on from the situation. Giving a loan would tie me to the fuckery.

Posted by Wizardz

Posted by Ram416

My Taurus grandmother used to overgive to her younger siblings all the time. Not one of them stepped forward to help when she got hit by a massive stroke and could no longer do most things for herself. One of them even treated her as if she was the one borrowing money from him when she called him up to ask for payment.

One of my younger granduncles admitted to my mum that my grandmother was the only financially reliable member of their family. Unfortunately he passed away before he could clear his debt with her.

I never understood why she did it - maybe she felt that being the eldest she still had some responsibility towards her siblings.

because money isn't everything. Maybe she got some emotional or psychological need fulfilled by giving. Co dependency is everywhere especially within families

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She was their 'surrogate' mother. Started taking care of them when she was 7 years old, because my great-grandparents worked full-time jobs. They even pulled her out of school at age 9 to take care of her younger siblings.