@rabidtalker
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I know I said astrology aside but i have saturn in the 11th and a 12th house sun so it's one of the things I deal with often. Thanks
If they know that they are your enemy and friend them anyway...well I've had this happen and it can be an eye opener. Loyalty is a must with me. I give it ten fold and expect the same. Sure I like to come to my own conclusions but I won't go out of my way to be friends with any of my friend's enemies. Enemies tend to talk shit and spread gossip about you...do you really want a friend of yours to be their friend? Your should be able to trust your friends and not have to worry about what they could be telling your enemy.
I see it as a betrayal and at the very least suspect. I mean if they know that person hates you and their your friend...why are they trying to be close with them? It's shady af and if I were you I would call them out on it.
I'm torn on this. Normally I'd say my friend can live their own life and befriend whoever they want, but also to be considered my enemy you'd likely have to be incredibly immature, dramatic, overall negative traits. If my friend enjoyed the company of such a person, then I would feel the need to reevaluate how much they mean to me and if I want them in my life. Rather than betrayal, this decision would be due to not liking to keep drama around me. And, I likely would not be able to look at my friend the same...being around someone whom I see mainly negative traits with would lead me to seeing more negative traits in my friend. It would be all downhill from there.
I've had this issue with a Gemini friend before.
She's the type to have conflict with certain people and me being the "ready for anything" friend, you have a problem with my friends, you have a problem with me. So if she don't like her, I don't like her either.
Then later down the line, she'll tell me about how the same person she dogged or was into it with went out to lunch or they'll be in pictures on FB together.
Like they would be into it, ready to fight into it.
She befriended a chick she knew I didn't fuck with. I drew the line there. I can't rock with that. You want us all to be your loyal ally when you're in conflict with someone but you don't give the same loyalty. Cancelled that bitch like Nino.
Yeah I mean everyone is their own person. I think I will distance, I've had another close friend ask if I've been hanging out with those people lately so I think there's more under the surface. I'd hate to lose these friends but sometimes you have to realize they were never yours to begin with.
Most likely the type of 'friend' who secretly enjoys seeing you fail, is often in competition with you (openly or covertly). Fuck their "friendship", they're only loyal to themselves.
Posted by Kemetisinme
Most likely the type of 'friend' who secretly enjoys seeing you down, is often in competition with you (openly or covertly). Fuck their "friendship", they're only loyal to themselves.
This!
Can someone explain to meh what their definition of an enemy is first tho...
I'm imagining a lot of people sitting in large black leather revolving chairs, stroking temperamental cats.
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Posted by rabidtalker
Astrology aside, how do you feel about this?Friends who become acquaintances I can understand but what about friends who start hanging out with them and stuff. Is this betrayal? Do you require your friends to not befriend your enemies? Is it OK so long as they are still hanging with you?
Seriously?
If we're talking about close friends (for years and been through some hell, etc), and
I assume you are-- you're either part of the Montgomery & __________ Alliance,
or you're not.
I'm in... that's a given, because I don't tend to like people that treat my friends like
garbage-- that's sufficient reason for no association (etc).
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I think of it as friends hanging with ghosts cuz all my enemies are dead to me. 😉
Seriously, no, once I write someone off, I could care less who talks to them or hangs with them, they will find out on their own and I'll hear about it. Like clock work...
Ain't loyal!
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Astrology aside, how do you feel about this?
Friends who become acquaintances I can understand but what about friends who start hanging out with them and stuff. Is this betrayal? Do you require your friends to not befriend your enemies? Is it OK so long as they are still hanging with you?