Guys, Do you always upgrade

from your ex ?

I know that it can be considered as an offensive question but I have to ask. Is your girlfriend hotter than your ex ? and is your ex hotter than the one before ?

Was having a conversation with a friend of mine and he was surprised that I think guys must always upgrade, or go even further beyond their own league. He thinks that's rare and most guys just plateau on a given level of hotness for most of their life.

So, what say you ?

Not talking about weight, per se.

Just general hotness.

I'd say not. I see a lot of men with a lower level of hotness in a lot of instances. Some at the level of 'Why are you with them? They're nasty." Not all about looks either, it's personality.

I dont think u go out looking for hotness when u meeting a new person. My exes werent hot, but some thought they were and ull get comments like- aww, come on, him!? Lol. As if they looked any better! My husband is hotter than my exes thou and the current one is less hotter than my husband but hotter than the other ones (the mr i-think-im-hot, but really not at all)- he is of medium seasoning.

but doesn't that reaffirm the idea. In both VB and WC's case, the guys they were dating were dating ladies who are out of their league.

I'm not a guy but this makes me wanna re-hash my exes and what I've observed. If I think about it hard, all of my exes have "downgraded" in the looks department. My most recent ex can actually attract some beautiful women, as he is pretty dashing himself, but the one he settled with in the end is very average in looks. More average than me anyway AND (this really gets my goat) she dresses with a quirky sense of fashion like I do which is something he loathed about me. Basically, I think he was looking for my replacement. Gross.

My current bf totally upgraded though 😛 I think my looks were the major deciding factor in winning him over. I mean, our personalities mesh well, but I've seen some of the girls he's been with. The girl he was seeing prior to me was not even remotely attractive in my eyes. Even his ex-wife has nothing on me. Aw yeah, the Leo is coming out!

BK- No, u missed my point, my exes were the ones out of league, they were ugly to be blunt but i didnt consciously told myself that i want something better, i just happened to find it and now ive taken a step back but still an octave higher than the delusional idiots who thought they were hot. 1 ex of mine that i still see around has a really strange looking woman as a girlfriend now, i was the only thing that ever came close to hotness in his life- he is doing a moon walk in that department.

And he was majorly jealous of my husband bcoz he finally saw that he was nothing at all, now he might breathe a sigh of relief even thou the current one is still hotter than him- that one needs a face transplant or at least a reality check. Damn, the ego!

Not judging, but just need to clarify something

did you just say your boyfriend is jealous of your husband ?

Posted by BommyKnocker
Not judging, but just need to clarify something

did you just say your boyfriend is jealous of your husband ?

looks like it to me I dont ever consider upgrading or downgrading Its all about comnpatability if they look better great if not no worries as long as the same issue doesnt crop again or then I,m just stuck in a rut picking the same womens personalitys and in that case that just sucks

BK- the ex before my husband was jealous when i got with my husband. So i dont need to clarify any further, the husband is about to become an ex too (going throu divorce) so now im with Mr Medium (the one i mentioned).

My ex hasn't been in another relationship since we split, but I do know of at least one hook up of his and she was .... yeah. And you can't boil it all down to looks- personality could have a lot to do with it too. That said, I was kinda baffled and she didn't really have looks nor a personality. I think it was the boobs. :p

Another guy ended up in a relationship with a type that he swore up and down he disliked- blonde. Said he never cared for blondes. Yet he went chasing after one shortly after our thing ended.

...people are strange. I think at times, especially when younger, they just have no idea what they want.

But like I said, I only see it as really strange if the person has no looks nor personality. Looks are only surface. If the personality rocks and you two are highly compatible, I don't see it as downgrading. I know it can be a little baffling when one does chase after someone who's a total dog, but if you find that their personalities are compatible, then meh. Not as strange.

But when they look like ass and have the personality of a piece of paper.... wtf?

Haha, you know it's true.

Speaking as an observer I've watched a lot of family members and friends kind of do the plateau thing that someone mentioned. They have kind of picked a level of attractiveness that they like/find comfortable and go with that. No one that I know has ever jumped from someone average to someone insanely hot just like that, or downgraded from someone insanely hot to someone at or below average. But I'd like to think that personally if I was looking for a new guy I would be able to upgrade pretty successfully, but that's just me. Delving outside of looks I would say like personality wise and stuff, if people learn from their mistakes (which they should) then ideally they will upgrade to someone who they are more compatible with.

lol, RockyRoad's Posts are pretty genius in nature lets be honest.

And i think most men are in a lower league. Because simply women look than men. We hairy arses and don't wipe properly. FACT.

Plus, my body has alcohol in it. Which means i'm speaking truthfully here.

*women look BETTER than men. And men HAVE hairy arses.

Yeah, my cap ex is a 7 and my current Sag gf is a 10 😄

lets be honest Shaks. There's a notepad in your bedside table draws containing all of your exes scores out of ten. AND IT'S LAMINATED!!!

Since you still have alcohol in you..I approve of your message!

Claro, lmao @ warm vibe. In contrary, the arse heat is one of my pet peeves, i cant stand it- id rather fan the seat down before seating. I go nuts at work if i happen to go to the loo and end up on some arse heated toilet seat. I wish i could pee standing up. Urg

Posted by WaterCup
Claro, lmao @ warm vibe. In contrary, the arse heat is one of my pet peeves, i cant stand it- id rather fan the seat down before seating. I go nuts at work if i happen to go to the loo and end up on some arse heated toilet seat. I wish i could pee standing up. Urg

...you HAVE to have OCD. You come off as finicky about EVERYTHING. It's all I've read in the last few posts I've seen from you.

Rocky, not EVERYTHING, just steaming hot seats. U r correct about 1 thing thou, i am kind of ocd(ish) about anything that has to do with bodily contacts and that includes handshakes, unless i REALLY know you (but that icky feeling is always there no matter what).

And how ocd of u to remember all i wrote in my +last few posts+. I dont remember any of your posts and im the one with ocd. See, ur also ocd in a way- u dont forget ANYTHING. Obsessive memory/thinking? Add ppl with obsessive thinkers to my finicky list, will you?

how about nicer i will take nice over hot anyday

Posted by james tate
how about nicer i will take nice over hot anyday

Don't know why I found that mind blowing. Just never gave nice any credit.

If you go to my site and click on the ave's you will see a woman in a hot house. not as hot as most but the nicest woman who ever lived.

Capgirl, lmao @ your replacement. Beer gut, hahahahaha

Posted by WaterCup
And how ocd of u to remember all i wrote in my +last few posts+. I dont remember any of your posts and im the one with ocd. See, ur also ocd in a way- u dont forget ANYTHING. Obsessive memory/thinking? Add ppl with obsessive thinkers to my finicky list, will you?

You're a retard.

Anyone would think you're OCD after reading the thread in which you gave example after example of how you need help in regard to sex. That doesn't make me OCD. Just that I can remember when someone is that strange about sex and needs help. Anyone would remember that.

Nice try with turning the tables though. All you did was flip it over and make a huge mess. 🙂

capgril was she nicer or was he just off his mind or something? Maybe the head with no teeth?

you don't bite do you?

Well, I upgraded from my ex husband in all areas: he's more handsome, nicer, makes more money, is more considerate, better in private time, has a hotter truck (like THAT matters, haha!), etc.

My ex husband is with a girl who is prettier and younger than me, however, mentally she is a crazy drama queen, has no job, no income, has a bad reputation around town and stirs up crap all the time and everywhere.


We both have the exact opposite. Perhaps THAT should be the question - Is your new bf/gf totally opposite from your ex?

Rocky, retard?, what a common derogatory word, words like that are usually used by people who lack intelligence themselves, so thanks for showing your IQ. And calling people names is usually a sign of somebody who has a mind of a simpleton and cant think of a more intelligent thing to say so instead they use mindless tatics like swearing because its easier and requires little brain work- shame, poor u! I dont speak to people like that and i dont give a fuck what you think. Whatever problems i have, they are mine and since i dont fuck with you, i couldnt careless that u think i need help. Now, got get a brain implant and some originality! Retard, really, is that all that your little brain could come up with? Lmao

I thought men just took what they could get. 😛

ROCKY WHY DID YOU CALL WATERBOY A RETARD HE'S THE VILLAGE IDOIT, A MORON CAN'T YOU GET ANYTHING RIGHT?

SORRY WATERBOY I HAD TO PUT HIM IN HIS PLACE.

Lol @ idoit. No worries, tate, i been called a lot worse, usually by no-wits with IQ points a few digits higher than zero.

I.Q.'S ONE POINT BELOW A BLADE OF GRASS,
YOU MUST GET IT RIGHT NOW REPEAT AFTER ME
IF YOUR I .Q. WAS ONE POINT LESS YOU WOULD BE GROWING SOMEWHERE.

Lol, whatever, tate.

Lol @ the females commenting...like anyone would admit they thought their ex upgraded after them....

I don't really pay enough attention to my exes to say...but the last one dated a girl a few months after we broke up who was VERY different from me. I mean as opposite as they come. I'm blonde and fair, totally sassy....she was dark and latin, quiet and sweet. (I knew her from high school.)

The other one I know of now dates a woman who is nearly old enough to be his mother...she's also a Sag, we have the same birthday I think. I guess you could consider it an upgrade....... in age? 🙂

Posted by WaterCup
Rocky, retard?, what a common derogatory word, words like that are usually used by people who lack intelligence themselves, so thanks for showing your IQ. And calling people names is usually a sign of somebody who has a mind of a simpleton and cant think of a more intelligent thing to say so instead they use mindless tatics like swearing because its easier and requires little brain work- shame, poor u! I dont speak to people like that and i dont give a fuck what you think. Whatever problems i have, they are mine and since i dont fuck with you, i couldnt careless that u think i need help. Now, got get a brain implant and some originality! Retard, really, is that all that your little brain could come up with? Lmao

Sweetcheeks, if you really don't give a fuck, you wouldn't answer nor would you be offended enough to respond. Speaking of which, your response is pretty pathetic and reminds me that of a 5 year old, hence "retard." It describes you perfectly, honey.

Go find some hand sanitizer.

Posted by brianafay
Lol @ the females commenting...like anyone would admit they thought their ex upgraded after them....

My ex thinks he upgraded...younger, prettier...but he's not seeing the whole picture! lol! And no, I'm not bitter, I'm happier!! I hope they make it - he gave up everything for her.

Yehhh well. When your daughters bf points out that he remembers the new squeeze from the party circuit and 'nasty ass whore' is uttered. Those things tend to stick out. Peace be unto you ex, enjoy.

Rocky, oh, no, get it straight-i didnt answer bcoz i cared, it was bcoz i could, just felt like it. Im pathetic and acting like a 5 yr old? I thought people (grown ups) who go around calling others names were the pathetic and immature ones and in this case thats you. U can raise a point, pass a message without uttering a single swear word (u know?), but it takes skill and brain muscle work out- impossible task for u. U really are intellectually challenged. Example, u called me a retard BEFORE (my so calledpathetic response) and then u turn around and say the response i gave AFTER was the reason why you called me a retard- does that even make sense to u? Im sure it does, hence this conversation is stopping right now, my brain is about to go to a coma talking to u. Yeah, i need a sanitizer after being so low.

Posted by james tate
ROCKY WHY DID YOU CALL WATERBOY A RETARD HE'S THE VILLAGE IDOIT, A MORON CAN'T YOU GET ANYTHING RIGHT?

lol "waterboy."

KEEPING COUNT
WATERBOY 5
ROCKY 3
ROUND 9 COMING UP.

YOU NEED A KNOCKOUT ROCK

I was wondering what does waterboy have to do with any of this.

Tate, im not a fighter but a lover, so if u dont stop instigating fights right now, i may have to knock u out with a LOVE TKO. Im so over the argument thing with rocky, fix yourself another match, DON KING. Ur adorable thou, toodooloo!

I dont mind being called waterboy at all, aquarius is the only real man of the zodiac after all. THE MAN. Yeah, boi!