Guys posing at women on dating sites

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It's total lolz.

Last night I was bored and was talking with a friend on skype about her experiences with online dating. I was joking with her that "girls have it easy on dating sites" etc. etc. I had never really done anything in the online dating world but I had set up a real profile a few years back and didn't use it much aside from getting a few nice messages and decided it wasn't really for me. But, as I said, I was bored, so I decided that I would set up a fake profile. Set it up as a gender-swapped version of me essentially see what would happen. So I did the username, and I was up. Before I could even fill out my profile at all, I already had a message in my inbox from a guy. It wasn't a mean message, but I found it odd that I would get a message already. So I sent him a friendly hello back and kind of joked that I hadn't even finished my profile, how could he be interested, but I felt good because I thought I was right that "girls have it easy" (cont. in link).


https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1uqym6/as_a_guy_i_wanted_to_know_what_it_was_like_to_be/



Then there's this. The responses just make you wonder, "why?" haha. Not a guy posing, but someone seriously trolling and the guys' dicks are too hard to care, apparently.

http://www.cracked.com/blog/4-things-i-learned-from-worst-online-dating-profile-ever_p2/

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You get what you get trying to internet "date". I guess people want to sit around at home and not get up and meet someone. I look at it as getting up and leaving the house and putting some thought in to appearance (on all sides, you and the other people), and brain power, and natural selection, and learning social skills, etc. is just how it goes. I never have and have no interest in trying some internet dating site. There are countless women outside and it is not that hard at all. So people who put themselves through that get what they get. I am not talking about the people who for whatever reason that is their way to meet others because the conventional ways arent really readily there. But if your a regular person take a shower, put some clothes on and go somewhere. Try to work on your shyness and awkwardness its calld growth and learning.
Tangent city, yo.
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You get what you get trying to internet "date". I guess people want to sit around at home and not get up and meet someone. I look at it as getting up and leaving the house and putting some thought in to appearance (on all sides, you and the other people), and brain power, and natural selection, and learning social skills, etc. is just how it goes. I never have and have no interest in trying some internet dating site. There are countless women outside and it is not that hard at all. So people who put themselves through that get what they get. I am not talking about the people who for whatever reason that is their way to meet others because the conventional ways arent really readily there. But if your a regular person take a shower, put some clothes on and go somewhere. Try to work on your shyness and awkwardness its calld growth and learning.
Thats exactly how I feel about it too. Plus, its more fun to get out there and get involved in something (other than just a bar). The ideal situation is doing something you enjoy doing, and meeting someone else doing the same thing.
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You get what you get trying to internet "date". I guess people want to sit around at home and not get up and meet someone. I look at it as getting up and leaving the house and putting some thought in to appearance (on all sides, you and the other people), and brain power, and natural selection, and learning social skills, etc. is just how it goes. I never have and have no interest in trying some internet dating site. There are countless women outside and it is not that hard at all. So people who put themselves through that get what they get. I am not talking about the people who for whatever reason that is their way to meet others because the conventional ways arent really readily there. But if your a regular person take a shower, put some clothes on and go somewhere. Try to work on your shyness and awkwardness its calld growth and learning.
I was on POF because I was taking showers, wearing all my finest threads from Nasty Gal, & combing my hair & I wasn't getting the type of guys I wanted out here in these streets. I even washed my face & slapped a lil makeup on. Twas not working ³
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I originally found the guy posing as a girl bit in an article on Jezebel.com. There, it was more of the same- women just so fed up with dating generally.

RedBull falls into the category of the guy who did the gender swap- thinking it's easier than it really is. He has NO idea what its like being a woman in the dating scene. "It's so easy- just take showers and don't be shy."

Bitch please. If anything, guys could learn some freaking social graces, online and irl, including not harassing/stalking women or seeing them as an object to be won.

Hell, currently, I'm having to deal with my pervy neighbor who STILL won't take no for an answer. He's almost twice my age and has known me and my family since I was in my early 20s. He tried asking me out during his divorce and he got a really negative response from me, my mom, and my brother. He just started trying again recently and it's really pissing me off. AND he's in a relationship.

I'm not even TRYING and I have some creep ass bugging me.
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You get what you get trying to internet "date". I guess people want to sit around at home and not get up and meet someone. I look at it as getting up and leaving the house and putting some thought in to appearance (on all sides, you and the other people), and brain power, and natural selection, and learning social skills, etc. is just how it goes. I never have and have no interest in trying some internet dating site. There are countless women outside and it is not that hard at all. So people who put themselves through that get what they get. I am not talking about the people who for whatever reason that is their way to meet others because the conventional ways arent really readily there. But if your a regular person take a shower, put some clothes on and go somewhere. Try to work on your shyness and awkwardness its calld growth and learning.
Thats exactly how I feel about it too. Plus, its more fun to get out there and get involved in something (other than just a bar). The ideal situation is doing something you enjoy doing, and meeting someone else doing the same thing.
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Cool story bro, but that's not what this thread is about.

It's pointing out all the shit that women have to deal with, how guys have no idea (just like you two have shown), and when they're put in our shoes to deal with these problems, its only then do they realize how fucked it can be.

This shit isn't isolated to just online dating. Guys just don't whip out their dicks in public because it's all sorts of illegal and would get more backlash. But they sure as fuck will send unsolicited dick pics via text (the stories I've heard from friends...) after a date or two.

Personally, I'm not a fan of online dating either and I think it's desperate and pathetic, but the point still stands- this is AMONG the crazy shit that women have to weed through when dating. I just thought the dude's response was amusing because it was a total revelation for him.
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You get what you get trying to internet "date". I guess people want to sit around at home and not get up and meet someone. I look at it as getting up and leaving the house and putting some thought in to appearance (on all sides, you and the other people), and brain power, and natural selection, and learning social skills, etc. is just how it goes. I never have and have no interest in trying some internet dating site. There are countless women outside and it is not that hard at all. So people who put themselves through that get what they get. I am not talking about the people who for whatever reason that is their way to meet others because the conventional ways arent really readily there. But if your a regular person take a shower, put some clothes on and go somewhere. Try to work on your shyness and awkwardness its calld growth and learning.
Thats exactly how I feel about it too. Plus, its more fun to get out there and get involved in something (other than just a bar). The ideal situation is doing something you enjoy doing, and meeting someone else doing the same thing.
Cool story bro, but that's not what this thread is about.

It's pointing out all the shit that women have to deal with, how guys have no idea (just like you two have shown), and when they're put in our shoes to deal with these problems, its only then do they realize how fucked it can be.

This shit isn't isolated to just online dating. Guys just don't whip out their dicks in public because it's all sorts of illegal and would get more backlash. But they sure as fuck will send unsolicited dick pics via text (the stories I've heard from friends...) after a date or two.

Personally, I'm not a fan of online dating either and I think it's desperate and pathetic, but the point still stands- this is AMONG the crazy shit that women have to weed through when dating. I just thought the dude's response was amusing because it was a total revelation for him.
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What about the shit that guys have to deal with?
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Rocky I feel you! I get the creeps & the pervs! I eventually took my pic down after my ex found me (‚ but really ���') & just had some generic pic of one of my necklaces. I got so many nasty messages from men just because I'm a Scorpio! I was like WTF!
...they messaged you because you were a Scorp?

I've never bothered with dating profiles, but I have had experience with Yahoo chat back in the day with all the pervy Indian dudes "asl" every few minutes. My friends and I even made it a joke to dare people to go into Indian chat and state that we were female. Cue 5893589304 messages in 3 seconds haha. Same thing with the guy's example in the article- conversations went from 0 to sexual in 3 seconds (a majority without provocation. They just started in on the perv talk before anything was said).

I also follow the byefelipe account on Instagram and some of the garbage these women are experiencing... Across the board, you can't help but wonder what the hell they're thinking? Sex talk within seconds and slinging dick pics around like nothing? Then they get upset when rejected? Why do guys think this shit works? No wonder they're online haha. I can only imagine what freaks they are irl, tbh.

"Women have it so much easier."

Both sides have their difficulties, but you cannot say that we have it "easier." We're trying to find someone who's not a violent, sexist perv and guys' biggest woes are either not finding women to get laid with or avoiding crazy because they're so fixated on finding ways to get laid and will take anything that throws her vag at them.
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Maybe something got lost in translation? I have no problem with you I was just pointing out how the guys put themselves in that position by even going on there in the first place. You are open to all kinds of trickery (like not even knowing its not a woman) and such...Its not always a picnic for men either. Thats why I dont press or force anything (no online dating for me) I meet who I organically meet in the times when it happens. But women can be unneccessarily sneaky, fast, backwards in their selections, etc. There is plenty of nonsense for men to deal with too. Its just kind of on me how I navigate and deal with and approach thing
*sigh*
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Maybe something got lost in translation? I have no problem with you I was just pointing out how the guys put themselves in that position by even going on there in the first place. You are open to all kinds of trickery (like not even knowing its not a woman) and such...Its not always a picnic for men either. Thats why I dont press or force anything (no online dating for me) I meet who I organically meet in the times when it happens. But women can be unneccessarily sneaky, fast, backwards in their selections, etc. There is plenty of nonsense for men to deal with too. Its just kind of on me how I navigate and deal with and approach thing
*sigh*
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The hell's the sigh for? Anyone can get tricked. Even the guy on the dating website who happens to the see profile and it gets intense and then you find out the girl you are talking to is a dude. That's about as much disappointment and deception and bullshit as we can put up with. Even worse if they sent a dick pick.
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Two weeks ago my bff, her husband, our mutual friend, and I were having an awesome time downtown Philly, and stopped at this Lebanese food place for dinner. I forgot what the conversation was initially about, but it turned out that all four of us initially met on VK (Russian FB version). Mind you, Leo is as close to me as flesh and blood, and her Leeb husband and herself have been going better at it fo the last month. I say, they probably will make it throigh their first anniversary and then some. As many differences and obstacles as they have together, they genuinely love one another.


So, to each their own I guess? Dating is dating. No matter where and how you meet.
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Two weeks ago my bff, her husband, our mutual friend, and I were having an awesome time downtown Philly, and stopped at this Lebanese food place for dinner. I forgot what the conversation was initially about, but it turned out that all four of us initially met on VK (Russian FB version). Mind you, Leo is as close to me as flesh and blood, and her Leeb husband and herself have been going better at it fo the last month. I say, they probably will make it throigh their first anniversary and then some. As many differences and obstacles as they have together, they genuinely love one another.


So, to each their own I guess? Dating is dating. No matter where and how you meet.
You also, are missing the point.


This thread isn't about the pros and cons of online dating. Please read again.
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Two weeks ago my bff, her husband, our mutual friend, and I were having an awesome time downtown Philly, and stopped at this Lebanese food place for dinner. I forgot what the conversation was initially about, but it turned out that all four of us initially met on VK (Russian FB version). Mind you, Leo is as close to me as flesh and blood, and her Leeb husband and herself have been going better at it fo the last month. I say, they probably will make it throigh their first anniversary and then some. As many differences and obstacles as they have together, they genuinely love one another.


So, to each their own I guess? Dating is dating. No matter where and how you meet.
You also, are missing the point.


This thread isn't about the pros and cons of online dating. Please read again.
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I just replied in a separate message.
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Have I ever met guys posing as women online though? Nope. Not on social media, not on the gaming world, and not on dating apps. Haven't heard of any guy friends complain of this either.
...did you read the article at all?
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Yeah, but his experiment would have to be more extensive to prove the point that "girls jave it easy". I have used dating apps and have had friends use them, and just setting up a gorl profile does not "guarantee you a message from a dude within first 5 minutes".


Also, if I am trying to have a side conversation as a spin-off from your original point/article, you could at least engage in it, instead of scolding everybody who presimably "didn't read". That's how most conversations flow, doe.
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But the sad thing is that this obviously works or they wouldn't do it.

My pisces friend trolls tindr. He couldn't ever get a woman to sleep with him in the states but he met a woman in Peru who would meet up with him and sleep with him within a day or 2 of speaking. They ended up meeting up again in different countries. Im not saying they're in love but they've formed somewhat of a lasting relationship...albeit sexual bf she claims she's in love (of course)

That's honestly how I think men want relationships to go. You meet some hot chick whos down to fuck you and she falls madly in love with your huge cock and amazing sexual prowess and he becomes a legend among men with this gorgeous bitch who only wants to please him in any way. And they run off into the sunset...after they fuck under it of course. And live happily ever after
You're talking about two entirely different societies/cultures though.
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Rocky I feel you! I get the creeps & the pervs! I eventually took my pic down after my ex found me (‚ but really ���') & just had some generic pic of one of my necklaces. I got so many nasty messages from men just because I'm a Scorpio! I was like WTF!
...they messaged you because you were a Scorp?

I've never bothered with dating profiles, but I have had experience with Yahoo chat back in the day with all the pervy Indian dudes "asl" every few minutes. My friends and I even made it a joke to dare people to go into Indian chat and state that we were female. Cue 5893589304 messages in 3 seconds haha. Same thing with the guy's example in the article- conversations went from 0 to sexual in 3 seconds (a majority without provocation. They just started in on the perv talk before anything was said).

I also follow the byefelipe account on Instagram and some of the garbage these women are experiencing... Across the board, you can't help but wonder what the hell they're thinking? Sex talk within seconds and slinging dick pics around like nothing? Then they get upset when rejected? Why do guys think this shit works? No wonder they're online haha. I can only imagine what freaks they are irl, tbh.

"Women have it so much easier."

Both sides have their difficulties, but you cannot say that we have it "easier." We're trying to find someone who's not a violent, sexist perv and guys' biggest woes are either not finding women to get laid with or avoiding crazy because they're so fixated on finding ways to get laid and will take anything that throws her vag at them.
Yup they'd send a msg because I'm a scorp & assume I'm the biggest freak & jump straight to sex!!

I think guys biggest problem is avoiding trannies & crazy chicks from what they tell me.
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Dating sites-
"Women's biggest fear is that he's not a psycho rapist/murderer.
Guys' biggest fear is that she's fat/doesn't look like her pic."

Says a lot about our culture.
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Have I ever met guys posing as women online though? Nope. Not on social media, not on the gaming world, and not on dating apps. Haven't heard of any guy friends complain of this either.
...did you read the article at all?
Yeah, but his experiment would have to be more extensive to prove the point that "girls jave it easy". I have used dating apps and have had friends use them, and just setting up a gorl profile does not "guarantee you a message from a dude within first 5 minutes".


Also, if I am trying to have a side conversation as a spin-off from your original point/article, you could at least engage in it, instead of scolding everybody who presimably "didn't read". That's how most conversations flow, doe.
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Nah, it's not a side conversation, it's completely ignoring the point of this post and choosing to discuss what you want, which wasn't really related to the point of the articles.

That's rude as fuck.

"I didn't get the point but I'm going to talk about something else that I want to talk about."

Oh okay. Hope you have better social graces irl than you do on a discussion forum.
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Have I ever met guys posing as women online though? Nope. Not on social media, not on the gaming world, and not on dating apps. Haven't heard of any guy friends complain of this either.
...did you read the article at all?
Yeah, but his experiment would have to be more extensive to prove the point that "girls jave it easy". I have used dating apps and have had friends use them, and just setting up a gorl profile does not "guarantee you a message from a dude within first 5 minutes".


Also, if I am trying to have a side conversation as a spin-off from your original point/article, you could at least engage in it, instead of scolding everybody who presimably "didn't read". That's how most conversations flow, doe.
Nah, it's not a side conversation, it's completely ignoring the point of this post and choosing to discuss what you want, which wasn't really related to the point of the articles.

That's rude as fuck.

"I didn't get the point but I'm going to talk about something else that I want to talk about."

Oh okay. Hope you have better social graces irl than you do on a discussion forum.
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Have I ever met guys posing as women online though? Nope. Not on social media, not on the gaming world, and not on dating apps. Haven't heard of any guy friends complain of this either.
...did you read the article at all?
Yeah, but his experiment would have to be more extensive to prove the point that "girls jave it easy". I have used dating apps and have had friends use them, and just setting up a gorl profile does not "guarantee you a message from a dude within first 5 minutes".


Also, if I am trying to have a side conversation as a spin-off from your original point/article, you could at least engage in it, instead of scolding everybody who presimably "didn't read". That's how most conversations flow, doe.
Nah, it's not a side conversation, it's completely ignoring the point of this post and choosing to discuss what you want, which wasn't really related to the point of the articles.

That's rude as fuck.

"I didn't get the point but I'm going to talk about something else that I want to talk about."

Oh okay. Hope you have better social graces irl than you do on a discussion forum.
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Lol 😆
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Posted by Redbull
I think a lot of people go on there to take advantage of and victimize someone for financial/material gain. They are like "let me catch one of these clowns" sitting around thinking of a scheme. Otherwise its a waste of time. Its not that hard to meet people you can actually see for the vast majority of people.
Shit, I have a hard time meeting people. Didn't use to. Now I am so bust with my goals and family that I am always on a mission and focused when doing something or thr peole I do meet are married or in relationships. No joke, one other coworker and I are single and I was at a function of 12 peole and I was thr only single one.
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If you call wading through old men, pedophiles, and perverts easy...than I guess. *shrugs* lol



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Okay well you brought up indian men so I wasn't entirely off topic.
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Didn't say it was. But the US is relatively conservative when it comes to sex as opposed to other countries, including various South American countries. You're saying it "obviously works" and then bringing up an entirely different culture and country. That's like comparing apples and oranges.

Their fucked approach may "work," but what, one in fifty? One hundred? I remember reading an article awhile back that discussed guys and their stupid dick pics and how they approached online dating specifically. They see it as a game of chance. ...which is understandable to an extent considering some desperate or trashy chick will be down for such gross behavior.

That said, wtf is up with the violent responses to rejection then? They obviously have some sort of expectation for supposedly playing chance in such a tacky, intrusive way.
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@Arielle83- But sister knows sister like guy takes her out by chatting and meeting him instead of other sister. The one that actually introduced them in the first place well imagine that this happens you can't trust anyone.

The big husky fake stripper dude with 2 kids and he had 4 kids, and he wasn't that young so lied about kids, his age, and weight.. This is actually common since I have been online before and it is also a deal breaker because I got to know right away......
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You get what you get trying to internet "date". I guess people want to sit around at home and not get up and meet someone. I look at it as getting up and leaving the house and putting some thought in to appearance (on all sides, you and the other people), and brain power, and natural selection, and learning social skills, etc. is just how it goes. I never have and have no interest in trying some internet dating site. There are countless women outside and it is not that hard at all. So people who put themselves through that get what they get. I am not talking about the people who for whatever reason that is their way to meet others because the conventional ways arent really readily there. But if your a regular person take a shower, put some clothes on and go somewhere. Try to work on your shyness and awkwardness its calld growth and learning.
some people dont wanna leave the house though...

or they work and dont have time.

either way, that's probably why internet dating is so big.
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To keep it real to me that's weak as *insert explicit language* to do that. I know plenty of people who take dating sites serious for finding a mate and some have successful and others still trying . If you have to pose as someone then it''s what clear to me that you aren't comfortable as yourself.
maybe these guys are secretly wanting to be a woman.


I was shocked when I was watching that "Sensei" tv netflix series, with all the lesbian and gay, bisexual very explicit scenes. I thought it was bordering on rated x. lol

then i found out that the producer/director was a man, and turned his body into a woman but still loved women, so basically a lesbian loving a lesbian.

he just felt more comfortable being a woman, but still loved women.