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Should you be allowed to date if you dont have a job?
Can You Date Without a Job
Yes, you can date without a job. While financial stability is important, emotional connection and mutual understanding are key. Being honest about your situation and focusing on building trust can lead to meaningful relationships regardless of employment status.
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Yes?
Idk. I kind of get what your saying, but in a sense forcing sexual tension upon people could backfire if applied to quickly.
Lol yes you should. Besides, if you make it a law, it will only become more attractive to do so lol.
I also feel that the color of your skin matters too. White unemployed people.. should be on a per individual basis. Everyone else should be denied to be on the market.
*make a law forbidding dating without a job*
Just any job? I can think of some interesting ones.
Posted by elllesque
"allowed to date" is a pretty strong statement.In my personal experience, I have had less of a problem with this than the person who was unemployed. In the future, that would be the *only* reason I wouldn't pursue. Not due to financial stability.....but the emotional instability that comes with it (insecurites, etc.)
full-time jobless billionare?
isnt that taking advantage of the other person. I mean theyre going to look past all that in the beginning but after a while, they will grow to resent your inability to pay for dates.
If we're talking always jobless, yeah I don't think that's going to last long but hey when there's a taker, there's always a giver.
If you're going dutch you're outta luck.
Posted by DMV
isnt that taking advantage of the other person. I mean theyre going to look past all that in the beginning but after a while, they will grow to resent your inability to pay for dates.you're running with the idea that don't have a job = don't have money
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notwithstanding trust funds, 401Ks, or CDs...
one cannot have money without a job
Posted by tiziani
lmaofor what it's worth, I don't think it's sensible to date when unemployed. But going as far as "allowed" or "not allowed" is pushing it.
How about those who always work 24/7 should not be allowed to date.
Posted by aquasnoz
If we're talking always jobless, yeah I don't think that's going to last long but hey when there's a taker, there's always a giver.If you're going dutch you're outta luck.
when there is a giver, theres always a taker.
absolutely right
is true tho
Posted by tiziani
lmaofor what it's worth, I don't think it's sensible to date when unemployed. But going as far as "allowed" or "not allowed" is pushing it.
How about those who always work 24/7 should not be allowed to date.
I think that law naturally takes care of itself don't you 😛
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Just a lot of anger and broken hearts!
Posted by DMV
isnt that taking advantage of the other person. I mean theyre going to look past all that in the beginning but after a while, they will grow to resent your inability to pay for dates.you're running with the idea that don't have a job = don't have money
notwithstanding trust funds, 401Ks, or CDs...
one cannot have money without a job
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What about playing poker in your spare time?
Posted by DMV
isnt that taking advantage of the other person. I mean theyre going to look past all that in the beginning but after a while, they will grow to resent your inability to pay for dates.you're running with the idea that don't have a job = don't have money
notwithstanding trust funds, 401Ks, or CDs...
one cannot have money without a job
What about playing poker in your spare time?
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you can sell drugs for all i care. just as long as you carry your own weight and aint trying to live off of me
Posted by DMV
isnt that taking advantage of the other person. I mean theyre going to look past all that in the beginning but after a while, they will grow to resent your inability to pay for dates.you're running with the idea that don't have a job = don't have money
notwithstanding trust funds, 401Ks, or CDs...
one cannot have money without a job
What about playing poker in your spare time?
you can sell drugs for all i care. just as long as you carry your own weight and aint trying to live off of me
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Have you been bitten by a tarantula?
Posted by elllesque
I've also concluded that it's tough out here for a career driven woman...Men in my world (the 9-5 world) will try to compete with me salary wise and the single men I encounter in my age range can't....which leaves me pissy when they make it an issue.
Those that do things their own way......seem to have no desire to compete with me. I like it that way and am attracted to that.
I would like salary to be a nonissue in my relationships.
I much prefer to be a muse over an adversary 🙂
Getcha a Venus in Sag guy 😛
Posted by DMV
isnt that taking advantage of the other person. I mean theyre going to look past all that in the beginning but after a while, they will grow to resent your inability to pay for dates.
I'm okay with you working so I don't have to.
unless you look at someone and think to yourself "they have a job and will support me while I remain jobless. im not gonna even look for a job" I don't think it should matter, because someone can still be jobless but trying to get a new job.
unless it's mutual agreement, I don't think people should be leeches and live off of someone else or rely on someone else. but it depends on every circumstance I guess. every situation and every person has different reasonings behind their decisions, and let's face it there will always be the one who reasons that they should find someone to live off of. that's just a fact.
Posted by elllesque
I've also concluded that it's tough out here for a career driven woman...Men in my world (the 9-5 world) will try to compete with me salary wise and the single men I encounter in my age range can't....which leaves me pissy when they make it an issue.
Those that do things their own way......seem to have no desire to compete with me. I like it that way and am attracted to that.
I would like salary to be a nonissue in my relationships.
I much prefer to be a muse over an adversary 🙂
it is tough out there. but there are some jewels.
i mean how many of you DXP's are broke and dating.
Posted by elllesque
I do think your opinion is painted by your venus, dmv. you can equate love to the quantity and quality of material things.there is nothing wrong with that.
I would not feel comfortable paying all the bills if I lived with someone (unless it was temporary and the time frame agreed upon) nor would I like footing the bill every time we went out.....at some point....if someone wasn't even trying.....I would grow resentful.
I do think that someone who may not have a lot disposable income could still find ways to show love and affection. Evenings in. Walks in the park. Spending quality time. I value those things a little more than *things*.
I can't deal with a man without passion though. There are men out there that do want women to take care of them.....I am not speaking about those men. I would prefer to not cross paths with that scenario.
totally agree. Olive Garden is $ 6.95 for all u can eat soup salad, breadsticks.
i just dont understand why women date bums and then complain that theyre dating bums.
Some men are still bums because us women are NOT putting our foot down and demanding more of them. we're allowing them to not see their true potential.
Posted by elllesque
I do think your opinion is painted by your venus, dmv. you can equate love to the quantity and quality of material things.there is nothing wrong with that.
I would not feel comfortable paying all the bills if I lived with someone (unless it was temporary and the time frame agreed upon) nor would I like footing the bill every time we went out.....at some point....if someone wasn't even trying.....I would grow resentful.
I do think that someone who may not have a lot disposable income could still find ways to show love and affection. Evenings in. Walks in the park. Spending quality time. I value those things a little more than *things*.
I can't deal with a man without passion though. There are men out there that do want women to take care of them.....I am not speaking about those men. I would prefer to not cross paths with that scenario.
totally agree. Olive Garden is $ 6.95 for all u can eat soup salad, breadsticks.
i just dont understand why women date bums and then complain that theyre dating bums.
Some men are still bums because us women are NOT putting our foot down and demanding more of them. we're allowing them to not see their true potential.
I can most certainly agree with this.
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The dollar menu is cheaper
No
I only care about implementing a law to forbid fixed signs to date other modality.
They should only date fixed. It's as the good lord jesus intended.
Posted by elllesque
There are men out there that do want women to take care of them.....I am not speaking about those men. I would prefer to not cross paths with that scenario.
pimpin ain't easy
Posted by DMV
isnt that taking advantage of the other person. I mean theyre going to look past all that in the beginning but after a while, they will grow to resent your inability to pay for dates.
So you mean someone unwilling to GET a job, then...
Right?
Posted by Ands2016
no money to buy lube but DJ says no need for lube... if you take your time
Lmao
I have...... but I also had 7k nest egg to pool from... but yeah I guess it is if you can pull at least 40% of the weight in the relationship... sure why not..
Posted by elllesque
...and the trash...I refuse to take out the trash if I am in a relationship.
—?? ummm okay.....
I'd never let you lift a finger Ellle 😉
Posted by elllesque
...and the trash...I refuse to take out the trash if I am in a relationship.—?? ummm okay.....
I was being silly (but I really hate the chore of taking out the trash)
click to expandI've had to do that. It's horrible
only you PP hahahahahahaha ....... thank GOD you made it through....
Posted by elllesque
...and the trash...I refuse to take out the trash if I am in a relationship.
Are you at least a great cook?
$ menu...........
Posted by elllesque
...and the trash...I refuse to take out the trash if I am in a relationship.Are you at least a great cook?
I can be whatever you want me to be *libra venus with neptune in the 1st* 😛
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Posted by elllesque
...and the trash...I refuse to take out the trash if I am in a relationship.Are you at least a great cook?
I can be whatever you want me to be *libra venus with neptune in the 1st* 😛
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I need you to take out the trash, I'm excellent cook 😛
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Dazed should sing this to you Ellle lol.....
it's not polite to spit........(sigh).....
Jesus. Let's try again...
Posted by DMV
isnt that taking advantage of the other person. I mean theyre going to look past all that in the beginning but after a while, they will grow to resent your inability to pay for dates.
I'm not seeing the dilemma. The other person can decide to stay home and not date said jobless person. No one is forced to go out and pay for a date.
I find this interested, because once you throw gender into the mix and we're having s different conversation.
Posted by DMV
i mean how many of you DXP's are broke and dating.
😆! You should have started the thread with this.
Posted by Damnata
I only care about implementing a law to forbid fixed signs to date other modality.They should only date fixed. It's as the good lord jesus intended.
this I can get behind
Posted by Ands2016
the taurus rule is if you 6x your first paycheck you can date.
I mistakenly left my paycheck stub on my dining room table. This taurus I was dating saw it and I cant get rid of his ass.
he only wants me for my abiliy to make money and make him cum.
Posted by Ands2016
no money to buy lube but DJ says no need for lube... if you take your time
I like different lubes. Fire and Ice, all that tingle shit is good.
Posted by elllesque
I am an idependent career woman and I do not demand or expect my partner to equal or exceed me in the financial arena.I do, however, expect him to meet or exceed my passion though.
Which means he has to have that zest for life, his own independence and not be codependent on me or anyone else.
id like to add to this, a good work ethic
Posted by AriesLady8
This topic is hilarious. I wouldn't recommend it. You're focus should be on getting yourself together. Plus it will eventually create problems if you're male or female. No one wants a man who can't provide and no ones wants a lazy hoe with no ambition.
exactly. How could anyone date a bum? Male or female.
Posted by BlackNova
Dear thread,
The comments posted by Ellesque following my hidden post, which related to modern career women, now have no context.
Please ignore her subsequent posts. She is not crazy woo woo .....I just...changed my mind about entering this discussion.
Now you know how we men feel !
Thanks.
wait, your a dude?
Posted by Ands2016
the taurus rule is if you 6x your first paycheck you can date.I mistakenly left my paycheck stub on my dining room table. This taurus I was dating saw it and I cant get rid of his ass.
he only wants me for my abiliy to make money and make him cum.
borrow money from him 😛
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Hmmmmmm
Posted by PhoenixRising
Jesus. Let's try again...Posted by DMV
isnt that taking advantage of the other person. I mean theyre going to look past all that in the beginning but after a while, they will grow to resent your inability to pay for dates.I'm not seeing the dilemma. The other person can decide to stay home and not date said jobless person. No one is forced to go out and pay for a date.
I find this interested, because once you throw gender into the mix and we're having s different conversation.
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lol at the first part.
Im mainly referring to men since society seems to accept that a woman stays home barefoot and pregnant.
Posted by MagicMona
i think people should be focused on getting a job instead of trying to date. people want to go out, do things, etc. that costs money. unless both parties are fine sitting in the house doing nothing but netflix and chill. last time i checked, netflix costs money too. so does the condoms to 'chill'. being a broke ass and dating does not mix.
And what electric company accepts magic beans?
I totally agree with everything you said.
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thoughts?