He's Engaged! (Page 2)

Posted by tubbyscubby

Posted by MorningMist
So? Why are so nasty? Because you know you need to move on and you don't . You know I think you were the bad friend in all this. You just need to justify why you are so ugly .

dude, are you about to cry?

bitch shut up already. not only am i bad friend but if you were here right now i'd cut ya and gut ya.

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hmmmm *narrows eyes* I've heard this "I'm gonna cut ya" lame ass shit from only one other member here....

tubby if u don't want opinions or input why do u put ur shit on the boards asking for it?

obviously your codependent & NEED others in your life...but the vile insults & hideous personality just confirm why people don't want to be there....

ya soooo many peeps walk away from u & don't care about u cuz it's them...?! no it's def u...

Oh boy. The drama continues.


That was me, btw, that Hardcandy is referring to 😉 Its okay, you can say my name. I said I would probably cut that gemini chick if she were in front of me, because honestly, I probably would have. My temper is something Ive been working on. She was the nastiest chick to ever grace these boards. Racist and plain disgusting.


Anyway, I'm not surprised HC has graced us with her presence. She always conveniently shows up when the drama starts, and never gives up an opportunity to high five everyone who is going against the person she dislikes...bandwaggoning is her favorite thing to do on DXP.


On that note, I'll bow out of this one semi-gracefully 🙂

ms p typical psshh.,, u said u'd cut many here so pls don't back track...again

& speaking of running in with drama & joining in... I seem to remember carrying u & 3 others on my back round here for well ova a year....

so let's not rehash all shall we

threatening to cut someone on the internet tsk, tsk

good idea MsP and thanks for offering a relevant perspective.

^ now that's psycho vix....

ur cool no worries 🙂

bitch, i'd beat you with a metal bat, set your ass on fire and bury you in a pet cemetery just so you could be resurrected and i could do the shit all over again.

WHAT'S YOUR POINT?!

i swear to god if i met you and you looked at me sideways i'd bitch slap you like your husband does when he returns from visiting one of his many mistresses.

Monty Python and Izzard are hilarious. I grew up with Python, Hill and others. Bit dated, but do you enjoy the shows on PBS, like 'Keeping Up Appearances', 'Father Ted', 'Ab Fab', 'Waiting for God', as 'Time Goes By', 'Chef', 'Fawlty Towers', etc? I've got all of 'Black Adder' on disc. Love it.

haha tubbs u'd need a bat u pussy!

at least I got a hubby u jealous zero!

ur here crying that some dude kicked ur tired ass to the curb & is now rubbing it in ur face cuz he is wifing a chick who he knows is betta than you!!!!


Hahahaha classic

face it tubbs some *coughs* chicks just rn't wife material....sucks to be u...

yeah, i wish i was so totally married to a man who never wanted to spend time with me. that has to be awesome to wake up morning after morning knowing that your husband has nutted up in some whore he met at the bar the night before.

i hope your marital sex is protected.

does your husband know that you flirt with guys on dxp in private to fill the constant void in your california king?

Hello everybody! Just read the whole thread and WOW! he he 😉

I am going to actually contribute what I had planned before I even read anything but the OP from TC.
I have NO feelings left for my ex whatsoever but we have also stayed friends. People around me wonder why I have made that choice b/c of some of the stuff we went through and all of his absurd stupidity but I am a very forgiving person. I will tell you that I had a weird feeling when I was aware that he was dating someone and it wasn't jealousy either b/c there is NO WAY I would EVER want him back! I even had a relationship before him but I think it is more of an ego thing maybe? Or maybe just wondering what could of been if we had been compatible or maybe even just really feeling sorry for the other woman...lol.
I would definitely go to the wedding though and have a great time...with a date!
I don't know if my contribution helped or really makes sense b/c I don't know why I would even have any feelings but utter happiness that he was finally moving on with someone else and no more worries about him trying to work his way back down my pants...lol! (He does try)
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private? Neva...all my psuedo flirting/joking is done on the boards...

ur interest in my marriage & sex life is odd tubbs...

I get plenty thx 😄

Posted by Beetleguese
haha Benny Hill was a weekly staple I so looked forward to as kid, but then I was about 11 so the bewbies probably added to my anticipation.

I caught a few episodes of Ab Fab, good stuff and of course Fawlty Towers was on when I was a young un.

Are You Being Served was another good one 🙂

I used to LOVE Benny Hill!! I was way too young to be watching it and don't know why my mother let me but I was happy about it! His little smirks would just crack me up!
Haven't seen all the others you and VB mentioned though.

@ MorningMist Ahhh, enjoying good programming. I enjoy Gordon Ramsey very much. He walks in there, takes over. Doesn't pull any punches, it's great. I've been in a lot of kitchen settings over the years so it's a definite house cleaning.

@ BG, LOL I wondered who the pervy man was chasing the girlies around. But it was funny just the same. French and Saunders are just really funny women. So is Catherine Tate. I miss BBC America. Bit camp, but Graham Norton I like as well. And who is that woman..big woman, Joe Brand! She makes me laugh a lot. 🙂

but the interest & information u state is amazing considering I rarely mention hubby here....hhmmmm ur delusions r lovely but I'm thinking it's b'cuz u r the bar skank u like to fill ur head with lovely fantasies of how things play out...sorry tubbs bar ho's rarely get wifed it's why they tell themselves things lk u do...

YES! 'Are You Being Served' and one of my faves, since I adore mystery; 'Brother Cadfael' and the classic 'Miss Marple'.

Posted by Stpatrickspisces
Hello everybody! Just read the whole thread and WOW! he he 😉

I am going to actually contribute what I had planned before I even read anything but the OP from TC.
I have NO feelings left for my ex whatsoever but we have also stayed friends. People around me wonder why I have made that choice b/c of some of the stuff we went through and all of his absurd stupidity but I am a very forgiving person. I will tell you that I had a weird feeling when I was aware that he was dating someone and it wasn't jealousy either b/c there is NO WAY I would EVER want him back! I even had a relationship before him but I think it is more of an ego thing maybe? Or maybe just wondering what could of been if we had been compatible or maybe even just really feeling sorry for the other woman...lol.
I would definitely go to the wedding though and have a great time...with a date!
I don't know if my contribution helped or really makes sense b/c I don't know why I would even have any feelings but utter happiness that he was finally moving on with someone else and no more worries about him trying to work his way back down my pants...lol! (He does try)
😉

it distracted me long enough to remind me that that scorp bitch with the absentee husband is going to be posting about me for the next couple of pages simply because she can't help but be all in mah bidness. i like how she tried to attack MsP again and how the fish exited gracefully. take note of how the scorp obsesses over that as well. sick fuck.


@stpatty,

yea, i echo that as well. just because a relationship ends doesn't mean that the person is satan. i think i just regarded it simply as we were supposed to be friends all along and we misconstrued that friendship for something more. we got the physical "what if's" out of the way and after a while settled into what we should've been all along...friends.

on a side note, this morning when he called, i said "Congratulations" i felt like Vesta Williams and i sooooooooo wanted to burst into song.

crap, that reminded me of one of my male friends who got married last year. he was so worried that his ex was going to show up at the wedding. she threatened to go in all black, with a black veil and said that she would do the funeral wail throughout.

HA!

Check them out St.Pat, 'Thin Blue Line' too, that's with Rowan Atkinson. 🙂

Him being a Scorp does not surprise, he's intense. I dig him. My father didn't ban much from the house, other than the obvious. He did ban sports, mainly because he wasn't interested. 😉

You'd like my Dad quite a bit BG, not much of him not too like. He's got a sarcastic wit, a good brain, he's the realest man I know. One very loved individual he is. I like to think he passed it along in his daughter.

Well when your eyes are full of mammaries ( dear Lord in heaven, there are TWO ) and your palms are sweating to fill them with flesh it rattles the cage a bit. Heady stuff for a pubescent lad. LOL 2,3, could be page 20, as long as they're there in full glory.

OMFRIGGINGGOODNESS! I flove Chef, Mr. Bean (Rowan Atkinson). I was too young for Benny Hill, but saw plenty of reruns - loved the dirty ole' men! Classic! AbFab 🙂 And yes, I think Gordon Ramsey may have stolen a thing or two from Chef!

@ Original topic. When my ex-fiance' got married, my feelings were mixed, and without going into too much personal detail, I knew that the marriage wasn't going to work (it lasted maybe 4 years). But, they have two lovely children, and I told him that was the reason he was supposed to be with his (now) ex-wife. I didn't/don't want any children, but he did, so it worked out (in that respect) perfectly for him. I didn't want to get married either but I thought I loved him enough to marry him (which clearly I must not have since we didn't get married - I have committment issues). I had known him for a long time (we went to college together, and dated for 8 years and were engaged the last year or so of our relationship). I felt like our friendship transcended anything, and you know what, it has. We've been a part for many years and I've met his new girlfriend, I love his kids, it just wasn't meant for us to be together like that. Will he always be a part of my life? Absolutely, but trust me, he did his own dirt while we were in our relationship, and many of my friends and family questioned me being friends with him, but I know in my heart of hearts it's the right thing. I've always been there for him, and he's always been there for me - and I feel no sexual chemistry or anything with him anymore; it's strictly friendship! Tubby, you are in a different situation in that you haven't been able to address your "beef" you have with him in respect to the way you felt he treated you during your mother's death. I was able to air my grivances to my ex, and it made all the difference in the world, because I was able to get rid of any ugliness, resentfulness or inability to "move on" once I just basically cussed him out (LOL). It was cleansing and I learned alot about myself because of it.

*grievances

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Posted by venusianbull
You'd like my Dad quite a bit BG, not much of him not too like. He's got a sarcastic wit, a good brain, he's the realest man I know. One very loved individual he is. I like to think he passed it along in his daughter.

Sounds like a cool dude, plus he likes bikes too right? I'm sure he's instilled his values and traits in you as well, plus he modeled you into a cook which means when a man says 'shut up and make me a sammich!' you can at least do the sandwich part 😉

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He's where I got my love of cars and bikes. Was raised around in them, and of course he did all of these things. You know, being raised by a man definitely has its advantages. Breaking wind is funny, I could care less if the toilet seat is up at night ( learned that one right quick, check or get a dunking ), I am not afraid of spiders, snakes or bats. We laugh and laugh around each other. 🙂 I may surprise, I can definitely make a sandwich, but the shutting up costs. And I always get paid in full. 😉

UGH fourth, like the 'Mirror' or 'OK!' Like our 'Enquirer', what a load of rubbish it all is.

*smh* Sentence structure made no sense, and take 2: I was raised around them. Much better.

If they DO fourth you know exactly the ones into it like that. They have roughly two brain cells to rub together, suspicious genetic patterns ( quite possibly extra chromosomes ) and the children standing in line behind them have a vacant expression and a runnel of snot in their divot. I suspect their names are Cletus and Bailey Barbara Jo, but I'm not 100% . 😄

Posted by USCTaurusGal

Tubby, you are in a different situation in that you haven't been able to address your "beef" you have with him in respect to the way you felt he treated you during your mother's death. I was able to air my grivances to my ex, and it made all the difference in the world, because I was able to get rid of any ugliness, resentfulness or inability to "move on" once I just basically cussed him out (LOL). It was cleansing and I learned alot about myself because of it.

^thanks for sharing. i so totally think if the aqua and i were in the same state we'd probably have a similar dynamic. maybe what stpatty said is right. maybe it's in part ego but i so don't want this man but i don't want ill will to befall him either. i also am happy to know that we were able to maturely work through it. i think an ex-couple that can part ways and not end in a "War of the Roses" results in both people being better for it. i am surprised that you have yet to work through your commitment issues but this thread is about my dysfunction so i'll let that alone.

and i agree. i never got to let it all out and as MsP said, letting it out now would just be...pointless. i wouldn't even know how truthfully.

as surprising as this may seem, i'm not a yeller. i don't argue that way. my sag bro hates it. when we would argue, he'd yell and scream and every now and again i'd say something fucked up to make him yell and scream louder. i grew up with two fiery personalities so cursing/yelling isn't my style which is why i obviously never got the resolution i needed. truthfully, i'm more likely to hit when i've reached an extreme than i am to yell. given i can't beat his ass, it's a wrap.

I'm quite comfortable with that BG. Very much so. 😉

Most excellent, LOL.

Haven't read the thread yet, cuz I saw it going off-topic real quick. As long as it's gotten and since it's a Tubby thread, I'm sure it's WAY off-topic now, so I'll just answer the OP before I read it all the way through.

My Libra (aka Friends With ALL My Exs) has gone through this at least twice. His most recent ex-gf before me (the nutso Pisces that threw herself at him right in front of me in an attempt to get him back) got married last summer. He didn't seem bothered by it at all, said he was happy for her. Though he did make a few comments about the guy privately to me - an ex-con with a CSC record viewable online. His ex has pretty bad judgment about men, and even told the Libra he was her "first nice guy" and that he was "too nice" when she dumped him for the Internet guy she'd been cheating on him with (a liar and user who took her for a helluva ride, left her broke and destitute in a few months) So when she got with this ex-con guy and a month later got married, my Libra wasn't too impressed. We were invited, but did not attend the wedding.

A couple months ago, his ex-fiancee (the OTHER member of his Triad of girls born the THIRD week of February - I sense a pattern!) got married to the guy she'd left my Libra practically at the altar for, after 7 years together. (She'd been cheating with that guy for over a year and my Libra was crushed. Like a sad non-romance book crushed, left with all those bills and debts crushed, crawl into a bottle and nearly DIE crushed.) So it's been years, and she's his ONLY ex my Libra's NOT still friends with (her [her man's?] choice) and he wasn't even told about the wedding, much less invited. A cousin of hers told him they were getting married that weekend. He was pretty quiet. I asked him if it was bothering him, her getting married. He said he was happy for her, but yeah maybe it hurt just a tiny bit, deep down. Which in my Libra-speak, who would say torture my Zulu warriors hurt just a tiny bit... he was pretty damned hurt. Didn't mean he wanted her back. Didn't mean he wasn't happy with ME. Just that he was nostalgic and hurt, because he really loved her and had planned to spend the rest of his life with her.

I understand, it's happened to me too. I'm old, I've dated a lot - so there are plenty of exs that move on, get new partners, get married, have kids, whatever. And I always FEEL that hurt and pain, that joy and infinite love, wallow in it for an hour or a day or two, but I never really show it. (But if you KNOW me, you might notice I'm quiet and reflective.) I just feel it, through and through.. experience all the bittersweet joy and pain of what we once shared.. then move on again. Jealousy? Maybe (I am very athazagoraphobic!), but I think it's not quite/just that. It's a whole soup of strange and twisted emotions, with genuine happiness for them floating around on top. And it always makes me appreciate my Present life even more, and I count my blessings and realize I'm not doing so badly myself.

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Posted by USCTaurusGal

Tubby, you are in a different situation in that you haven't been able to address your "beef" you have with him in respect to the way you felt he treated you during your mother's death. I was able to air my grivances to my ex, and it made all the difference in the world, because I was able to get rid of any ugliness, resentfulness or inability to "move on" once I just basically cussed him out (LOL). It was cleansing and I learned alot about myself because of it.

^thanks for sharing. i so totally think if the aqua and i were in the same state we'd probably have a similar dynamic. maybe what stpatty said is right. maybe it's in part ego but i so don't want this man but i don't want ill will to befall him either. i also am happy to know that we were able to maturely work through it. i think an ex-couple that can part ways and not end in a "War of the Roses" results in both people being better for it. i am surprised that you have yet to work through your commitment issues but this thread is about my dysfunction so i'll let that alone.

and i agree. i never got to let it all out and as MsP said, letting it out now would just be...pointless. i wouldn't even know how truthfully.

as surprising as this may seem, i'm not a yeller. i don't argue that way. my sag bro hates it. when we would argue, he'd yell and scream and every now and again i'd say something fucked up to make him yell and scream louder. i grew up with two fiery personalities so cursing/yelling isn't my style which is why i obviously never got the resolution i needed. truthfully, i'm more likely to hit when i've reached an extreme than i am to yell. given i can't beat his ass, it's a wrap.

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I'm not a yeller either. It's not necessary, and trust me, I don't need to raise my voice for a person to know they are about to get the wrath. Also, in my situation too, it was an ego thing as well, and also my personality, in that, I was so pissed off at him for making me have to stoop to a lower level than I felt necessary. I call the shots, and I can't stand when I allow myself to stoop to the level of others. I just think I am above that kind of sh $ t, so when I have to go "there" it just makes me even angrier - like that person has "won" over me to drag me down to their usele

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I just think I am above that kind of sh $ t, so when I have to go "there" it just makes me even angrier - like that person has "won" over me to drag me down to their useless level. Digressing - perhaps you don't feel you can approach him about this now ergo, "water under the bridge," but if it helps you move on, you may have to talk to him someday...or not!

lol @nefer...yes, my threads are rather kindergarten mental hospital. still, i appreciate those who at least attempt to answer the OPs. if i want advice, i will ask for it. if i want personal perspective, don't give me advice without including the personal perspective. that seems to escape some folk.


he was pretty damned hurt. Didn't mean he wanted her back. Didn't mean he wasn't happy with ME. Just that he was nostalgic and hurt, because he really loved her and had planned to spend the rest of his life with her.

^i think i would've felt that way if we were together longer. your libra has been through the ringer and i'll be damned if i'm friends with all of my exes. one is enough. it's exhausting truthfully and besides, i don't need dude's who've seen me naked hanging around together.


@USC, sorry, i didn't meant to imply that you were out of control. i thought about the way that would come across when i typed it. i guess what i was saying was that i wish i had just let it all out way back when. to do it now, he doesn't deserve it. no one should be judged on who they were.

and i agree, losing control for me is akin to admitting defeat. as much shit as i talk, my blood pressure remains at an even keel...i don't care how angry i may appear. via the net or otherwise, "in control" is how i like to be. yelling/crying signifies a loss of control.

i definitely have to learn how to emote in a way that doesn't result in my pushing the offense down. i don't like that i've harbored this for so long. part of me feels like it's natural. then at the same time, i dunno. maybe there's a better way. i guess that's why i posted. if he knew i felt this way, he would be so disappointed in me and hurt.

anyhoo...

Posted by venusianbull
Check them out St.Pat, 'Thin Blue Line' too, that's with Rowan Atkinson. 🙂

I will do that! I am sure they can be found on that internet thingy...lol. 😉

Posted by tubbyscubby


@USC, sorry, i didn't meant to imply that you were out of control...and i agree, losing control for me is akin to admitting defeat. as much shit as i talk, my blood pressure remains at an even keel...i don't care how angry i may appear. via the net or otherwise, "in control" is how i like to be. yelling/crying signifies a loss of control.

No worries...it's all gravy 😉. Yes, agreed. I have a friend who says I am always at "50,000 feet." Meaning - I don't usually let too much get to me, but when it finally does; it's not good. Agreed, that yelling and crying (in my opinion too) signifies a loss of control. It works for some people, it's just not my cup'o'tea.

Whenever you are with someone and it doesn't work out, and then you hear about a life changing event going on in their lives in passing (or they call you up and tell you what's going) - it can sometimes make for some weirdness. It doesn't necessarily mean you want to be with them, or that you are harboring some unrequited love for them...I just think it's human nature to feel a little nostalgia of what you once had, or how close that person used to be to you. I have friendships that have fallen by the wayside as well, and I'll hear things about their lives in passing, and I think, "Aww, I miss talking them, maybe I should call them?" But I never do...time does heal all wounds, and as that email that goes around periodically, "There are friends for evert season."

grrrr..."every"
*good grief *

you are ruthless...in your head! you're a libra, you'd contemplate having a backbone then when she called you'd go spineless. my libra friend talks a good game but when it comes time to confront...NOTHIN!

and i think he's just a weirdo aqua. i honestly don't think he's making the obvious connection but eh...

truth is, i'm glad he told me. i think it would be kinda messed up if he would have hidden it from me and one day he just ups and says, oh by the way, i'm married. i mean, if we're friends, he's supposed to be able to just talk and that's what he did. his timing sucks though...it really really sucks but it always has 😛

yep, definitely no, "what's up, how are you?" calls. those types convos are left for email. i think if there were more of the, "hey, how ya doin'" calls it'd be less obvious what he's doing. i still don't get the motivation really other than it's something pivotal, he's proud, he wants to share it with people close to him. eh...is what it is.

and yeah prince. the aqua tends to hold me to promises i made waaaaaay back when and after we broke up and he attempted to rekindle things, i explained why i couldn't/wouldn't but i told him that i would always wish the best for him...that when the day comes, i'd be at his wedding smiling and snotting up like everyone else because all i want at this point is for him to be happy.

where that's still true, i'm with you, i just don't do weddings. i went to my aunt's years ago (had to i was a kid) and that's it. i have had friends and fam members who've had ceremonies and luckily, i had other shit to do on most occasions or was out of state and just couldn't be bothered with traveling for it.

so i dunno, i might break down and go because i did give him my word but lord, it'd be better if they weren't getting married in bumfuck so i could at least make a trip out of it ya know? also, i'm not so sure he'd go to mine. frankly, i won't be having one so i'll never know the answer to that anyway.

well, if you know who lasts that long, i wouldn't mind having him on my arm. speaking of which, i need to email you...

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Posted by LovelyScorp
...and I thought I had a big ego and denial issues.

nah, but i heard you have a large, gaping vagina though.

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This is hilarious though!!!! LMAO