LadyNeptune
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I feel like my husband won't change. Should I leave him?
Your signs?
What's y'all signs. I left my Leo of 3 years because he was so lazy and unmotivated. I on the other hand am super driven.
He's now homeless and has been for 2 years. I have done so much without him and feel like he would've done nothing but hold me back. I'm fully self sufficient and buy all of my own things new car my own place etc.
Sounds like you actually wanna work and like nice things he may be holding you back.
Once u start talking care of a man he gets used to it 😒
If it were me I'd be gone. I don't love any man enough to be homeless with him
He's now homeless and has been for 2 years. I have done so much without him and feel like he would've done nothing but hold me back. I'm fully self sufficient and buy all of my own things new car my own place etc.
Sounds like you actually wanna work and like nice things he may be holding you back.
Once u start talking care of a man he gets used to it 😒
If it were me I'd be gone. I don't love any man enough to be homeless with him
I can't with this.
Three weeks isn't even a long time. Sure he could make more of an effort. But a marriage is a partnership. To me it is no longer "yours" and "mine", but ours. Bills need to be paid, guess what most of those bills are household bills that are both of your responsibility to pay.
Your marriage won't last because you're already keeping score. He obviously didn't always have an employment issue before, because if he did, you'd be dumb as shit to get married anyways. And if he did, then you knew wtf you were getting into before it, and I don't have sympathy for you if that's the case.
Regardless, we are only getting you side of the story. If this was years of this, I would think differently, but your talking a matter of weeks, or a few months at best.
Three weeks isn't even a long time. Sure he could make more of an effort. But a marriage is a partnership. To me it is no longer "yours" and "mine", but ours. Bills need to be paid, guess what most of those bills are household bills that are both of your responsibility to pay.
Your marriage won't last because you're already keeping score. He obviously didn't always have an employment issue before, because if he did, you'd be dumb as shit to get married anyways. And if he did, then you knew wtf you were getting into before it, and I don't have sympathy for you if that's the case.
Regardless, we are only getting you side of the story. If this was years of this, I would think differently, but your talking a matter of weeks, or a few months at best.
Posted by TomSawyerSo your advice is for him to deal drugs. Your wack.
Instead of seeking a green light on pulling the trigger, you could make this scenario interesting.
Withdraw 1000-2000 $ , give it to him on monday and tell him the new rules:
"You have a week to double this money".
Either he doubles it and he finds some thrill in making good money
Or he goes to the casino and gambles it ( + -, never know)
Or lastly, he refuses.
In which case it'll be your call what to do from then on.
All of you fail at reading.
Nowhere did she say that this was only 3 weeks. This has been an ongoing problem and that for the LAST three weeks, he hasn't worked at all. i.e. one of the gaps she referred to when he has work on and off. Three weeks is the off period currently which is a long fucking time.
Fucking pay attention, jfc. It gets old constantly seeing people misread these posts over and over.
OP, like someone else said, if you're mentally checking out, you may very well have to consider ending things. However, the big question is have you addressed this with him? Have you told him you're considering leaving? Because he sounds like a huge fucking mama's boy who's content with you just pitching in while he's a lazy pile of shit who thinks he can dictate what's done with the finances he's not doing shit for.
Have a serious talk and if ish doesn't change, move on. It's just going to get worse. All you've done is be passive and enable. DO something about it.
Nowhere did she say that this was only 3 weeks. This has been an ongoing problem and that for the LAST three weeks, he hasn't worked at all. i.e. one of the gaps she referred to when he has work on and off. Three weeks is the off period currently which is a long fucking time.
Fucking pay attention, jfc. It gets old constantly seeing people misread these posts over and over.
OP, like someone else said, if you're mentally checking out, you may very well have to consider ending things. However, the big question is have you addressed this with him? Have you told him you're considering leaving? Because he sounds like a huge fucking mama's boy who's content with you just pitching in while he's a lazy pile of shit who thinks he can dictate what's done with the finances he's not doing shit for.
Have a serious talk and if ish doesn't change, move on. It's just going to get worse. All you've done is be passive and enable. DO something about it.
If you aren’t divorcing - do what I do.
When I get him questioning about why I spent what I spent I say ‘I work’ and I walk out to my room.
It took a while. I think he finally got it.
And opening your own account in the same bank is a quick thing!
Then you can transfer money between accounts. And again - he gets anxious - who cares? Just do what you doing.
And start looking for better man!
These lazy asses are a nuisance!
How is your sex life? Is he lazy there as well?
When I get him questioning about why I spent what I spent I say ‘I work’ and I walk out to my room.
It took a while. I think he finally got it.
And opening your own account in the same bank is a quick thing!
Then you can transfer money between accounts. And again - he gets anxious - who cares? Just do what you doing.
And start looking for better man!
These lazy asses are a nuisance!
How is your sex life? Is he lazy there as well?
Posted by nikkistarid have to agree with this.
I can't with this.
Three weeks isn't even a long time. Sure he could make more of an effort. But a marriage is a partnership. To me it is no longer "yours" and "mine", but ours. Bills need to be paid, guess what most of those bills are household bills that are both of your responsibility to pay.
Your marriage won't last because you're already keeping score. He obviously didn't always have an employment issue before, because if he did, you'd be dumb as shit to get married anyways. And if he did, then you knew wtf you were getting into before it, and I don't have sympathy for you if that's the case.
Regardless, we are only getting you side of the story. If this was years of this, I would think differently, but your talking a matter of weeks, or a few months at best.
this is weird to be even complaining when you got married.
you both dont sound like you have any money
so it sounds like you needed to marry a millionaire, not some poor schmuck who cant keep a job. 😢
let him go and let him be, and find yourself a rich man.
Posted by Gemitati
If you aren’t divorcing - do what I do.
When I get him questioning about why I spent what I spent I say ‘I work’ and I walk out to my room.
It took a while. I think he finally got it.
And opening your own account in the same bank is a quick thing!
Then you can transfer money between accounts. And again - he gets anxious - who cares? Just do what you doing.
And start looking for better man!
These lazy asses are a nuisance!
How is your sex life? Is he lazy there as well?
lol
as if men's only asset is sex. lmao
i was just thinking that Madonna sang and danced to "Material girl"....
but she turned out to be the woman who takes care of boy toys. lol isn't that IRONY.
OP, try and get a rich man!!! millionaire is the first step, then try for billionaire.lol
like this woman but...remember, his birthday!! and be nice to the mother. lol
like this woman but...remember, his birthday!! and be nice to the mother. lol
Posted by lisabethur8Not only asset but if he is cheap, lazy AND don’t perform - out!Posted by Gemitati
If you aren’t divorcing - do what I do.
When I get him questioning about why I spent what I spent I say ‘I work’ and I walk out to my room.
It took a while. I think he finally got it.
And opening your own account in the same bank is a quick thing!
Then you can transfer money between accounts. And again - he gets anxious - who cares? Just do what you doing.
And start looking for better man!
These lazy asses are a nuisance!
How is your sex life? Is he lazy there as well?
lol
as if men's only asset is sex. lmao
i was just thinking that Madonna sang and danced to "Material girl"....
but she turned out to be the woman who takes care of boy toys. lol isn't that IRONY.
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IF he performs - than I can understand why she is stays.
But you could figure out what I said without me chewing it up for you. Couldn’t you?
Posted by Gemitatii just want your attention. lolPosted by lisabethur8Not only asset but if he is cheap, lazy AND don’t perform - out!Posted by Gemitati
If you aren’t divorcing - do what I do.
When I get him questioning about why I spent what I spent I say ‘I work’ and I walk out to my room.
It took a while. I think he finally got it.
And opening your own account in the same bank is a quick thing!
Then you can transfer money between accounts. And again - he gets anxious - who cares? Just do what you doing.
And start looking for better man!
These lazy asses are a nuisance!
How is your sex life? Is he lazy there as well?
lol
as if men's only asset is sex. lmao
i was just thinking that Madonna sang and danced to "Material girl"....
but she turned out to be the woman who takes care of boy toys. lol isn't that IRONY.
IF he performs - than I can understand why she is stays.
But you could figure out what I said without me chewing it up for you. Couldn’t you?click to expand
Posted by lisabethur8Needy bitch! Lmao...Posted by Gemitatii just want your attention. lolPosted by lisabethur8Not only asset but if he is cheap, lazy AND don’t perform - out!Posted by Gemitati
If you aren’t divorcing - do what I do.
When I get him questioning about why I spent what I spent I say ‘I work’ and I walk out to my room.
It took a while. I think he finally got it.
And opening your own account in the same bank is a quick thing!
Then you can transfer money between accounts. And again - he gets anxious - who cares? Just do what you doing.
And start looking for better man!
These lazy asses are a nuisance!
How is your sex life? Is he lazy there as well?
lol
as if men's only asset is sex. lmao
i was just thinking that Madonna sang and danced to "Material girl"....
but she turned out to be the woman who takes care of boy toys. lol isn't that IRONY.
IF he performs - than I can understand why she is stays.
But you could figure out what I said without me chewing it up for you. Couldn’t you?click to expand
Posted by lisabethur8
id have to agree with this.
this is weird to be even complaining when you got married.
you both dont sound like you have any money
so it sounds like you needed to marry a millionaire, not some poor schmuck who cant keep a job. 😢
let him go and let him be, and find yourself a rich man.
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I recommend you to reread the whole post because you didn't get the point across at all.
Is not the money, is his attitude towards jobs, family economy and her. From her version, he is not only lazy, but doesn't want her to have money for her even though she's the provider in this moment and the biggest problem, doesn't "let" her buy things accusing her of being selfish. Is easy to ask for partnership and commitment when is the other who is doing sacrifices.
Ok let me give you some more details so you can understand my situation better.
This past 3 weeks he's been at home because his job has been slow. I know it's been only 3 weeks but I've been giving away ALL my earnings even before this. For months!!! I've been SUPER responsible financially but I haven't been able to buy something for myself for helping out and that's why I got the full time job!!! I thought things were going to change but since he's been at home not working I still can't enjoy a part of the money I'm working for. I get sad when I get my paycheck because I still have to help put since my husband is not working. He said he was going to find a stable job but he's picky and only wants a job he likes instead of just taking anything.
I'm not saying I want all the money for myself but I think it's time for me to enjoy some of my earnings after a long time not being able to. My husband always questions me saying: "Why do you have this urge to buy things?" I think its stupid to give him explanations of how I want to use the money I work for.
It's true that I could be more patient since it's only been 3 weeks but while he's at home he doesn't cook either. He doesn't know how to cook but he could learn since he's at home all day. If marriage is a partnership then why is he not doing any sacrifices while I'm outside working full time? I come home at night and find him in his pijamas on the computer or watching tv. It just upsets me that he thinks I'm selfish when I've been helping all this time without buying anything for myself. And I can't have a separate account or just give him a percentage because he said the noney is "ours"
This past 3 weeks he's been at home because his job has been slow. I know it's been only 3 weeks but I've been giving away ALL my earnings even before this. For months!!! I've been SUPER responsible financially but I haven't been able to buy something for myself for helping out and that's why I got the full time job!!! I thought things were going to change but since he's been at home not working I still can't enjoy a part of the money I'm working for. I get sad when I get my paycheck because I still have to help put since my husband is not working. He said he was going to find a stable job but he's picky and only wants a job he likes instead of just taking anything.
I'm not saying I want all the money for myself but I think it's time for me to enjoy some of my earnings after a long time not being able to. My husband always questions me saying: "Why do you have this urge to buy things?" I think its stupid to give him explanations of how I want to use the money I work for.
It's true that I could be more patient since it's only been 3 weeks but while he's at home he doesn't cook either. He doesn't know how to cook but he could learn since he's at home all day. If marriage is a partnership then why is he not doing any sacrifices while I'm outside working full time? I come home at night and find him in his pijamas on the computer or watching tv. It just upsets me that he thinks I'm selfish when I've been helping all this time without buying anything for myself. And I can't have a separate account or just give him a percentage because he said the noney is "ours"
Posted by GemitatilolPosted by lisabethur8Needy bitch! Lmao...Posted by Gemitatii just want your attention. lolPosted by lisabethur8Not only asset but if he is cheap, lazy AND don’t perform - out!Posted by Gemitati
If you aren’t divorcing - do what I do.
When I get him questioning about why I spent what I spent I say ‘I work’ and I walk out to my room.
It took a while. I think he finally got it.
And opening your own account in the same bank is a quick thing!
Then you can transfer money between accounts. And again - he gets anxious - who cares? Just do what you doing.
And start looking for better man!
These lazy asses are a nuisance!
How is your sex life? Is he lazy there as well?
lol
as if men's only asset is sex. lmao
i was just thinking that Madonna sang and danced to "Material girl"....
but she turned out to be the woman who takes care of boy toys. lol isn't that IRONY.
IF he performs - than I can understand why she is stays.
But you could figure out what I said without me chewing it up for you. Couldn’t you?click to expand
Posted by Blackburnthen why is she with him? 😕Posted by lisabethur8
id have to agree with this.
this is weird to be even complaining when you got married.
you both dont sound like you have any money
so it sounds like you needed to marry a millionaire, not some poor schmuck who cant keep a job. 😢
let him go and let him be, and find yourself a rich man.
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I recommend you to reread the whole post because you didn't get the point across at all.
Is not the money, is his attitude towards jobs, family economy and her. From her version, he is not only lazy, but doesn't want her to have money for her even though she's the provider in this moment and the biggest problem, doesn't "let" her buy things accusing her of being selfish. Is easy to ask for partnership and commitment when is the other who is doing sacrifices.click to expand
Posted by lisabethur8
then why is she with him? 😕
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She is actually thinking wether she should divorce him.
PS. Asking us about a situation we know nothing more than what you tell us isn't the best option. Don't rely on us to make an important decision.
Posted by RedemptionSongPosted by miriyahhh
What's y'all signs. I left my Leo of 3 years because he was so lazy and unmotivated. I on the other hand am super driven.
He's now homeless and has been for 2 years. I have done so much without him and feel like he would've done nothing but hold me back. I'm fully self sufficient and buy all of my own things new car my own place etc.
Sounds like you actually wanna work and like nice things he may be holding you back.
Once u start talking care of a man he gets used to it 😒
If it were me I'd be gone. I don't love any man enough to be homeless with him
Agreed.
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mirryah and frog avatar peep named redemption
in real life i know this pisces woman, well she's a bff with my sister,
and she's with a bi polar mentally dysfunctional guy who is super sweet. she's a full time worker and wants children badly and she met him and he can't do multi task like take care of children at home and grocery shop
we ask..why doesn't he just go grocery shopping with the baby? But you see men can't multitask, he can only do one thing at a time and that's stay home and tend to the baby. well maybe some men can but it's not something he can do.
he doesnt work and stuff but why is she with him?
is it love?
Posted by BlackburnPosted by lisabethur8
then why is she with him? 😕
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She is actually thinking wether she should divorce him.
PS. Asking us about a situation we know nothing more than what you tell us isn't the best option. Don't rely on us to make an important decision.
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if it were me in her position, we would go to marriage counseling.
but most of the time they still end up divorce.
although, it is a good way to have some lessons for the next time.
Posted by lisabethur8
if it were me in her position, we would go to marriage counseling.
but most of the time they still end up divorce.
although, it is a good way to have some lessons for the next time.
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Some things can be fixed, others not. Everything is a lesson, but sometimes even if we think we know people when the moment comes they don't behave as expected.
Posted by Blackburnactually the first post suggests she knew him already and his personality/character.Posted by lisabethur8
if it were me in her position, we would go to marriage counseling.
but most of the time they still end up divorce.
although, it is a good way to have some lessons for the next time.
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Some things can be fixed, others not. Everything is a lesson, but sometimes even if we think we know people when the moment comes they don't behave as expected.click to expand
i dont know why she's changing her mind about him.
Posted by lisabethur8
actually the first post suggests she knew him already and his personality/character.
i dont know why she's changing her mind about him.
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She doesn't suggest that.
She has the right to change her mind, though.
Posted by Blackburnit does to me.Posted by lisabethur8
actually the first post suggests she knew him already and his personality/character.
i dont know why she's changing her mind about him.
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She doesn't suggest that.
She has the right to change her mind, though.click to expand
there's a saying going around with men,
women are always trying to change men.
when men wont change.
she's changing her mind cause she got frustrated that he's NOT changing who he is, his core.
she saw this man as a project most likely and then decided that its too much work to be with this man
this is her first sentence...plain sight.
I would like some feedback regarding my husband's mindset because I'm having a hard time changing his mind.
Posted by RedemptionSongPosted by lisabethur8Posted by RedemptionSongPosted by miriyahhh
What's y'all signs. I left my Leo of 3 years because he was so lazy and unmotivated. I on the other hand am super driven.
He's now homeless and has been for 2 years. I have done so much without him and feel like he would've done nothing but hold me back. I'm fully self sufficient and buy all of my own things new car my own place etc.
Sounds like you actually wanna work and like nice things he may be holding you back.
Once u start talking care of a man he gets used to it 😒
If it were me I'd be gone. I don't love any man enough to be homeless with him
Agreed.
mirryah and frog avatar peep named redemption
in real life i know this pisces woman, well she's a bff with my sister,
and she's with a bi polar mentally dysfunctional guy who is super sweet. she's a full time worker and wants children badly and she met him and he can't do multi task like take care of children at home and grocery shop
we ask..why doesn't he just go grocery shopping with the baby? But you see men can't multitask, he can only do one thing at a time and that's stay home and tend to the baby. well maybe some men can but it's not something he can do.
he doesnt work and stuff but why is she with him?
is it love?
Thin line between love and confusion. If she is happy with the situation who are we to judge. The OP on the other hand wants better for herself.
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that's fine then, she should leave.
cause there's nothing worse than a woman complaining all the time and unhappy. (yes i'm putting myself in that position as well)
Posted by lisabethur8it does to me.
there's a saying going around with men,
women are always trying to change men.
when men wont change.
she's changing her mind cause she got frustrated that he's NOT changing who he is, his core.
she saw this man as a project most likely and then decided that its too much work to be with this man
this is her first sentence...plain sight.
I would like some feedback regarding my husband's mindset because I'm having a hard time changing his mind.
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What you read is not what she wrote. But is not your reading skills what are lacking. It must be really hard for you to be a woman having your mindset. If she should've known better, then he should've known she is supposedly a spender and be a provider for her, right? Well, is not the 40's anymore.
Stop looking at everything as man and woman. Here one person is demanding work and understanding from another person, and she is not getting it (again, from what OP tells us). Anything more is jumping to conclusions.
Posted by Ikyfllol i'm not the OP.Posted by lisabethur8You’re unhappy?Posted by RedemptionSongPosted by lisabethur8Posted by RedemptionSongPosted by miriyahhh
What's y'all signs. I left my Leo of 3 years because he was so lazy and unmotivated. I on the other hand am super driven.
He's now homeless and has been for 2 years. I have done so much without him and feel like he would've done nothing but hold me back. I'm fully self sufficient and buy all of my own things new car my own place etc.
Sounds like you actually wanna work and like nice things he may be holding you back.
Once u start talking care of a man he gets used to it 😒
If it were me I'd be gone. I don't love any man enough to be homeless with him
Agreed.
mirryah and frog avatar peep named redemption
in real life i know this pisces woman, well she's a bff with my sister,
and she's with a bi polar mentally dysfunctional guy who is super sweet. she's a full time worker and wants children badly and she met him and he can't do multi task like take care of children at home and grocery shop
we ask..why doesn't he just go grocery shopping with the baby? But you see men can't multitask, he can only do one thing at a time and that's stay home and tend to the baby. well maybe some men can but it's not something he can do.
he doesnt work and stuff but why is she with him?
is it love?
Thin line between love and confusion. If she is happy with the situation who are we to judge. The OP on the other hand wants better for herself.
that's fine then, she should leave.
cause there's nothing worse than a woman complaining all the time and unhappy. (yes i'm putting myself in that position as well)
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just putting myself in her position.
but it sounds like she is the type that likes to make a project out of man, to change a man and help him/motivate him to be better.
it's a noble cause, but if you saw his first true character, his core who he is, i really doubt he'd change.
it's either you accept him for who he is or leave.
if you leave, then he will be alone or find another woman who will put up with him like that.
if he can find a woman like you, OP, i'm very positive he could easily get another one to replace you.
Posted by BlackburnPosted by lisabethur8it does to me.
there's a saying going around with men,
women are always trying to change men.
when men wont change.
she's changing her mind cause she got frustrated that he's NOT changing who he is, his core.
she saw this man as a project most likely and then decided that its too much work to be with this man
this is her first sentence...plain sight.
I would like some feedback regarding my husband's mindset because I'm having a hard time changing his mind.
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What you read is not what she wrote. But is not your reading skills what are lacking. It must be really hard for you to be a woman having your mindset.
Stop looking at everything as man and woman. Here one person is demanding work and understanding for another person, and she is not getting it (again, from what OP tells us).click to expand
it is hard for me. lol but i get no complaints from men. especially my husband.
Posted by lisabethur8
it is hard for me. lol but i get no complaints from men. especially my husband.
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I'm my own boss.
Posted by Blackburnok that's good for you.Posted by lisabethur8Posted by BlackburnPosted by lisabethur8it does to me.
there's a saying going around with men,
women are always trying to change men.
when men wont change.
she's changing her mind cause she got frustrated that he's NOT changing who he is, his core.
she saw this man as a project most likely and then decided that its too much work to be with this man
this is her first sentence...plain sight.
I would like some feedback regarding my husband's mindset because I'm having a hard time changing his mind.
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What you read is not what she wrote. But is not your reading skills what are lacking. It must be really hard for you to be a woman having your mindset.
Stop looking at everything as man and woman. Here one person is demanding work and understanding for another person, and she is not getting it (again, from what OP tells us).
it is hard for me. lol but i get no complaints from men. especially my husband.
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I'm my own boss.
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Posted by tizianiThat’s what she said...
From your other post, I take it that your husband has changed just not in ways that bring out the best in either of you. He sounds like he's even more needy of what you bring to the relationship than even before.
I'm an Aries with Cancer moon
He's an Aqua with Sag moon
He's an Aqua with Sag moon
I don't know how long you have been married, but my sister is in a very similar situation. For the past three years she has been working full time and supporting her lazy Leo ass husband who constantly keeps tabs on her spending. One time we were out and she bought something small for herself. He saw it online and called her to scream at her. Like your husband he also doesn't want to work just any job, but also thinks he has the right to spend money and expensive shirts and iphones. You need to give him an ultimatum to start bringing money in the house and more than everything, listen to your intuition girl.
Posted by Monsterchick741i still believe that you are trying to make a project out of him.
Let me just add one more thing. I can't obviously tell every single detail about my marriage but one time I was arguing with him. He started yelling at me and I got mad because I never yell at him. But he has always been disrespectful when I try to talk to him about things I don't like. I got tired and told him I was going to leave if he continued yelling at me and he threatened me. He said he was going to take all my savings out of the bank if I decide to leave. I'm talking about old savings I had even before marrying him.
So this tells you a lot about someone. He's the one that is obsessed with money, not me. What right does he have to take my savings? Almost like he wants to rob me. I never married him for his money. When I met him we both worked and I was always independent. But now we live together and have bills to pay and stuff. But I never imagined he was going to make problems if I want to spend. Even if it's things for our own house he gets bothered.
and it sounds like he is insecure with mental illness or something/ bipolar can't function.
you need to just ACCEPT him as he is, or leave.
people say it's weak if you leave but honestly it's more painful for you to stay cause you gonna be miserable.he has no respect for you, so why are you bothering?
he will be filing for disability mental illness after you both divorce if he's smart. and go to the psychiatrist. to get help.
i would hope he would do that while married with you but he sounds really bad at marriage, meaning he cannot compromise and help you out. Just wants to make your life miserable.
what's the rest of your chart? i see you are double cardinal. he's sun fixed, moon mutable (just like justin timberlake aqua sun/sag moon)
Posted by Taniwha
Regardless of who's money it is, you would both be allot better off if you just saved the money instead of consuming useless products. SAVE your money and don't spend it on useless shit.
It's only been a few weeks so don't stress about that, sit down and talk to him about your anxiety about him not working. Talk about your future and how the two of you are going to get out of the situation your in and get ahead. Ask him if he would like to pursue a new carrier, not just some 9 to 5 job to get by but an actually job that will provide for your family for ever. You guys need to sit down and have a big chat about whats going on.
Don't go spend your money on useless crap right now because you don't have any money spare to do so. You need to save it up and keep saving. One day you be able to spend it on something you really wan't like a degree in bio-engineering or what ever the hell you wan't to do with your life.
that doesn't really solve her problems.
just being frugal doesn't help in her case cause he is controlling all the assets while not working.
she said he doesnt even want to be an uber driver?? which at least is income coming in
Posted by tizianimindset is strange.
"Can you tell me if it's normal for me to always give away all my money without using it for myself when I worked for it and earned it?"
What you're asking does not sound normal to me.
but his mindset is also strange.
they are both bad at marriage and finances.
Posted by Diannathats what i read too. pwer control jealousy.
This has nothing to do with money and everything to do with power, jealousy and control.
Limiting her spending money also limits her social activities. Without money for clothing, he is also controlling her appearance. He doesn't want other men to notice her so he makes sure that a cute dress is not in the budget. This man is insecure.
It sounds like op is ready to take her power back.
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OP wrote it and she knows.
Posted by TheRabbitConstruction comes to mind, when she is talking about his work.Posted by Cancervirgo15degreesI'm actually leaning towards this answer being the best...although I can't necessarily make a judgment about the husband's work ethic. There are jobs that slow down significantly or stop during winter months (but are busy AF during warmer months) and some folks treat those times like a vacation until business picks back up.
I sort of get the impression OP is irresponsible with money and just wants to spend the second she gets her hands on the moula amd it stresses him tfo .
If she had a part time job then he was probably the main bread winner all these years. Unless they live in a box under a bridge.
If someone told me to drive for uber i would tell them to gtfo.
I was also very picky and never could keep a job. Now well...I dont need to work really.
Finally, i need more info cause i feel like there are a lot of holes in this story or shit missing.
So imma say stop being a fucking princess, quit spending all your money when you have fuck all to spend atm, and whats yours is actually not yours cause your goddamn married, and if you didnt understand that part you should have never gotten married.
That is all.click to expand
Posted by TheRabbitYea I have several close friends that work it. They make a ton during spring to early Fall, but dont work all of Winter. They sit around and playing pc games all Winter.Posted by nikkistarThat's what I thought too. Most of those guys work 5 or 6 twelves during the warm months then are sporadic during winter. They make enough to save and be fine during time off.Posted by TheRabbitConstruction comes to mind, when she is talking about his work.Posted by Cancervirgo15degreesI'm actually leaning towards this answer being the best...although I can't necessarily make a judgment about the husband's work ethic. There are jobs that slow down significantly or stop during winter months (but are busy AF during warmer months) and some folks treat those times like a vacation until business picks back up.
I sort of get the impression OP is irresponsible with money and just wants to spend the second she gets her hands on the moula amd it stresses him tfo .
If she had a part time job then he was probably the main bread winner all these years. Unless they live in a box under a bridge.
If someone told me to drive for uber i would tell them to gtfo.
I was also very picky and never could keep a job. Now well...I dont need to work really.
Finally, i need more info cause i feel like there are a lot of holes in this story or shit missing.
So imma say stop being a fucking princess, quit spending all your money when you have fuck all to spend atm, and whats yours is actually not yours cause your goddamn married, and if you didnt understand that part you should have never gotten married.
That is all.click to expand
Posted by TheRabbitI know, right? We should stop using logic.Posted by nikkistarIDK, mang. This doesn't sound nearly as juicy as some of the other theories.Posted by TheRabbitYea I have several close friends that work it. They make a ton during spring to early Fall, but dont work all of Winter. They sit around and playing pc games all Winter.Posted by nikkistarThat's what I thought too. Most of those guys work 5 or 6 twelves during the warm months then are sporadic during winter. They make enough to save and be fine during time off.Posted by TheRabbitConstruction comes to mind, when she is talking about his work.Posted by Cancervirgo15degreesI'm actually leaning towards this answer being the best...although I can't necessarily make a judgment about the husband's work ethic. There are jobs that slow down significantly or stop during winter months (but are busy AF during warmer months) and some folks treat those times like a vacation until business picks back up.
I sort of get the impression OP is irresponsible with money and just wants to spend the second she gets her hands on the moula amd it stresses him tfo .
If she had a part time job then he was probably the main bread winner all these years. Unless they live in a box under a bridge.
If someone told me to drive for uber i would tell them to gtfo.
I was also very picky and never could keep a job. Now well...I dont need to work really.
Finally, i need more info cause i feel like there are a lot of holes in this story or shit missing.
So imma say stop being a fucking princess, quit spending all your money when you have fuck all to spend atm, and whats yours is actually not yours cause your goddamn married, and if you didnt understand that part you should have never gotten married.
That is all.click to expand
Posted by nikkistarwow you guys. i didnt think about construction workers, that he maybe in that field. makes sense.Posted by TheRabbitI know, right? We should stop using logic.Posted by nikkistarIDK, mang. This doesn't sound nearly as juicy as some of the other theories.Posted by TheRabbitYea I have several close friends that work it. They make a ton during spring to early Fall, but dont work all of Winter. They sit around and playing pc games all Winter.Posted by nikkistarThat's what I thought too. Most of those guys work 5 or 6 twelves during the warm months then are sporadic during winter. They make enough to save and be fine during time off.Posted by TheRabbitConstruction comes to mind, when she is talking about his work.Posted by Cancervirgo15degreesI'm actually leaning towards this answer being the best...although I can't necessarily make a judgment about the husband's work ethic. There are jobs that slow down significantly or stop during winter months (but are busy AF during warmer months) and some folks treat those times like a vacation until business picks back up.
I sort of get the impression OP is irresponsible with money and just wants to spend the second she gets her hands on the moula amd it stresses him tfo .
If she had a part time job then he was probably the main bread winner all these years. Unless they live in a box under a bridge.
If someone told me to drive for uber i would tell them to gtfo.
I was also very picky and never could keep a job. Now well...I dont need to work really.
Finally, i need more info cause i feel like there are a lot of holes in this story or shit missing.
So imma say stop being a fucking princess, quit spending all your money when you have fuck all to spend atm, and whats yours is actually not yours cause your goddamn married, and if you didnt understand that part you should have never gotten married.
That is all.click to expand
we should ask the OP though.
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