Im bored.. how about a little drama to spice things up? But first, a few questions

How do we feel about calling out cheaters? What if its a woman? We all love to dropkick men who cheat publicly, but what about a woman?

What constitutes doxxing, in your eyes? What if there are many individuals with the same name?

How do we feel about posting email screenshots of your personal emails, but with another person?

How do we feel about holding someone accountable for shitty behavior, after being given every opportunity to own it?

This is all hypothetical, of course.. maybe.. probably not, though.

I wouldn’t feel natural to call out cheaters. I’ve experienced seeing my boss cheat, co-workers cheat.

My boss was a Cap female

Co workers:

Sag (f)

Virgo (m)

I never told on them.

With my boss, she confided so much and told me so much… I saw her cheat on her husband with 3 different men and one was a fellow co-worker. I don’t remember feeling judgy towards her. But I do remember feeling really awkward when I would see her and her husband together and they were SO affectionate together. I was really surprised… and at times felt sad for the husband. I tried to have deep convo with her to try to understand her more… and I did. It was complex.

But I was super judgy towards my Sag co-worker. I stopped talking to her.

I’m not sure why my behavior was so different… but maybe it was because the Sag was such a preacher about “living your best life”, “being spiritual”, being conscious… so, it threw me off and I felt like the drop of disappointment was huge.

The Virgo was male and he was cheating on his girlfriend, I just rolled my eyes with him but didn’t really react either.

Both my boss and the Sag had very nice husbands…. So, it wasn’t cool.



Doxxing for no reason at all is so low. I think I would only see it as ok if the person was scamming people or doing black magic on people or doing terrible things where it was done to warn others.

Otherwise, I would lose total respect for the person doxxing, and would want nothing to do with them… they’d lose me as a fan.

Posted by Mare-E-Sole
I wouldn’t feel natural to call out cheaters. I’ve experienced seeing my boss cheat, co-workers cheat.

My boss was a Cap female

Co workers:

Sag (f)

Virgo (m)

I never told on them.

With my boss, she confided so much and told me so much… I saw her cheat on her husband with 3 different men and one was a fellow co-worker. I don’t remember feeling judgy towards her. But I do remember feeling really awkward when I would see her and her husband together and they were SO affectionate together. I was really surprised… and at times felt sad for the husband. I tried to have deep convo with her to try to understand her more… and I did. It was complex.

But I was super judgy towards my Sag co-worker. I stopped talking to her.

I’m not sure why my behavior was so different… but maybe it was because the Sag was such a preacher about “living your best life”, “being spiritual”, being conscious… so, it threw me off and I felt like the drop of disappointment was huge.

The Virgo was male and he was cheating on his girlfriend, I just rolled my eyes with him but didn’t really react either.

Both my boss and the Sag had very nice husbands…. So, it wasn’t cool.

Doxxing for no reason at all is so low. I think I would only see it as ok if the person was scamming people or doing black magic on people or doing terrible things where it was done to warn others.

Otherwise, I would lose total respect for the person doxxing, and would want nothing to do with them… they’d lose me as a fan.

I can appreciate that POV.

What if it had happened to you? What if you were the one who had their trust broken? What if the one who broke your trust just avoided you, acted like it never happened, and went on to do it to someone else?

Would you want to be told if the person you were invested in wasnt as invested in you, in return? And hadnt been for the past 3 years or possibly more?

I just thought of another co- worrker…

She was a Cancer (f) and she was GA-GA for our star co-worker (Scorpio)… those two were INSEPARABLE and she was too obvious.

I’m not sure how far those two went, but it was so obvious something was happening.

She would stop everything for him.

She was married to a Taurus and she seemed bored with him. She also told me he would get depressions.

Posted by ERROR429
How do we feel about calling out cheaters? What if its a woman? We all love to dropkick men who cheat publicly, but what about a woman?

What constitutes doxxing, in your eyes? What if there are many individuals with the same name?

How do we feel about posting email screenshots of your personal emails, but with another person?

How do we feel about holding someone accountable for shitty behavior, after being given every opportunity to own it?

This is all hypothetical, of course.. maybe.. probably not, though.

1) Depends on context. In theory, yes, cheaters should be called out. But sometimes in the cases of work environment, it may be better not to get involved.

2) It's never ok to release someone else's private information.

3) I'd never post screenshots of anything that's not exchanged in public settings. Having said that, if the emails and messages are really disgusting or crosses a line, it will get brought up in conversations.

4) Shitty behaviour should not be encouraged to continue.

Posted by Mare-E-Sole
I just thought of another co- worrker…

She was a Cancer (f) and she was GA-GA for our star co-worker (Scorpio)… those two were INSEPARABLE and she was too obvious.

I’m not sure how far those two went, but it was so obvious something was happening.

She would stop everything for him.

She was married to a Taurus and she seemed bored with him. She also told me he would get depressions.

Do you believe you can tell when someone is cheating, or thinking about cheating on you by the energy they give off? Even if you dont know exactly what is happening at the time, but the "ah, ha, thats what it was" moment in hindsight?

Ive heard people can, and i know i pickup on energy fairly easily and can sense a lot of things.. most get revealed after the fact, wis is just frustrating, but.. it is what it is.

Posted by victoria-sakura

Posted by ERROR429
How do we feel about calling out cheaters? What if its a woman? We all love to dropkick men who cheat publicly, but what about a woman?

What constitutes doxxing, in your eyes? What if there are many individuals with the same name?

How do we feel about posting email screenshots of your personal emails, but with another person?

How do we feel about holding someone accountable for shitty behavior, after being given every opportunity to own it?

This is all hypothetical, of course.. maybe.. probably not, though.

1) Depends on context. In theory, yes, cheaters should be called out. But sometimes in the cases of work environment, it may be better not to get involved.

2) It's never ok to release someone else's private information.

3) I'd never post screenshots of anything that's not exchanged in public settings. Having said that, if the emails and messages are really disgusting or crosses a line, it will get brought up in conversations.

4) Shitty behaviour should not be encouraged to continue.

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What constitutes private details? Legally, its anything not publicly available, which social media and a person's public online presence isnt included in.. nothing would be uniquely identifying unless you were privy to the more information taht wont be given... but, the caveat would be searching said person's social media would pull this information in the process, along with other people of the same name..

This is still all hypothetical, of course.

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Posted by Mare-E-Sole
I wouldn’t feel natural to call out cheaters. I’ve experienced seeing my boss cheat, co-workers cheat.

My boss was a Cap female

Co workers:

Sag (f)

Virgo (m)

I never told on them.

With my boss, she confided so much and told me so much… I saw her cheat on her husband with 3 different men and one was a fellow co-worker. I don’t remember feeling judgy towards her. But I do remember feeling really awkward when I would see her and her husband together and they were SO affectionate together. I was really surprised… and at times felt sad for the husband. I tried to have deep convo with her to try to understand her more… and I did. It was complex.

But I was super judgy towards my Sag co-worker. I stopped talking to her.

I’m not sure why my behavior was so different… but maybe it was because the Sag was such a preacher about “living your best life”, “being spiritual”, being conscious… so, it threw me off and I felt like the drop of disappointment was huge.

The Virgo was male and he was cheating on his girlfriend, I just rolled my eyes with him but didn’t really react either.

Both my boss and the Sag had very nice husbands…. So, it wasn’t cool.

Doxxing for no reason at all is so low. I think I would only see it as ok if the person was scamming people or doing black magic on people or doing terrible things where it was done to warn others.

Otherwise, I would lose total respect for the person doxxing, and would want nothing to do with them… they’d lose me as a fan.

I can appreciate that POV.

What if it had happened to you? What if you were the one who had their trust broken? What if the one who broke your trust just avoided you, acted like it never happened, and went on to do it to someone else?

Would you want to be told if the person you were invested in wasnt as invested in you, in return? And hadnt been for the past 3 years or possibly more?

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If this happened to me? Married or in a committed relationship and living with the person?!?

I think the first thing I would feel is absolute shock for not seeing the signs. I would be breaking my brain wondering how I could have missed the signs.

I mean… I’m living with the person. So, how could I miss subtle shifts in behavior that seem shady? I would feel like it was all a SCAM. Everything was fake.

He will not avoid me if we are living together. I don’t know what I would do to suffice my initial anger…. But I know I’d be focused on leaving his ass.

Way more focus on leaving, detaching, ending than any type of revenge.

He just better leave me alone though… because if he begs or plays with me more, I might stoop low and start thinking of revenge…

Posted by ERROR429

Posted by victoria-sakura

Posted by ERROR429
How do we feel about calling out cheaters? What if its a woman? We all love to dropkick men who cheat publicly, but what about a woman?

What constitutes doxxing, in your eyes? What if there are many individuals with the same name?

How do we feel about posting email screenshots of your personal emails, but with another person?

How do we feel about holding someone accountable for shitty behavior, after being given every opportunity to own it?

This is all hypothetical, of course.. maybe.. probably not, though.

1) Depends on context. In theory, yes, cheaters should be called out. But sometimes in the cases of work environment, it may be better not to get involved.

2) It's never ok to release someone else's private information.

3) I'd never post screenshots of anything that's not exchanged in public settings. Having said that, if the emails and messages are really disgusting or crosses a line, it will get brought up in conversations.

4) Shitty behaviour should not be encouraged to continue.click to expand

What constitutes private details? Legally, its anything not publicly available, which social media and a person's public online presence isnt included in.. nothing would be uniquely identifying unless you were privy to the more information taht wont be given... but, the caveat would be searching said person's social media would pull this information in the process, along with other people of the same name..

This is still all hypothetical, of course.

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Anything that's not public knowledge and it doesn't have to be identifying either.

Ex: There's a dxp user whose name I know because of the mutual friends we have (also from dxp) on FB. Their name may be showing on the public FB profile but it's not public knowledge. So that name should NEVER be disclosed without consent, even on FB where the profile exists.

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Posted by Mare-E-Sole
I just thought of another co- worrker…

She was a Cancer (f) and she was GA-GA for our star co-worker (Scorpio)… those two were INSEPARABLE and she was too obvious.

I’m not sure how far those two went, but it was so obvious something was happening.

She would stop everything for him.

She was married to a Taurus and she seemed bored with him. She also told me he would get depressions.

Do you believe you can tell when someone is cheating, or thinking about cheating on you by the energy they give off? Even if you dont know exactly what is happening at the time, but the "ah, ha, thats what it was" moment in hindsight?

Ive heard people can, and i know i pickup on energy fairly easily and can sense a lot of things.. most get revealed after the fact, wis is just frustrating, but.. it is what it is.

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It is what it is? Is this what happened to you?

In regards to signs… I’ve learned a lot from seeing others do it. I feel like I can see it without having to try… shift in behavior, energy is off. If it’s off, I won’t say anything, but I will pay close attention… and see what else I find.

But, if I am played and tricked…. I’d just have to learn from it. Make sure I learn the new signs I might have missed.

I don't know. Maybe it's because traditionally, if a woman is unhappy in her relationship, she'll harp on the man. Whereas man is unhappy, he might just cheat.

😆 its good to see youre watching this... youre not going to do it, are you? Is it that Taurus Mars?

Alright..

Ill dedicate a thread to you.

Posted by ERROR429
How do we feel about calling out cheaters? What if its a woman? We all love to dropkick men who cheat publicly, but what about a woman?

What constitutes doxxing, in your eyes? What if there are many individuals with the same name?

How do we feel about posting email screenshots of your personal emails, but with another person?

How do we feel about holding someone accountable for shitty behavior, after being given every opportunity to own it?

This is all hypothetical, of course.. maybe.. probably not, though.

No drama or any energy wasted, I would just look to get away from the cheater or to get them out of my life. No energy would go into that sort of person whatsoever. I have been cheated on and there are things I would do differently than I did in the past. You live and learn.

I just let it go. Any type of narcissistic behavior is best delt with completely removing yourself from the situation with as little input as possible. It's not your job, or even mission in life to change someone that's mentally unstable. If anything the more you call it out, the more stress and anger you invest, the worse things get for you. Even if you can't see it. They already betrayed you. The way you feel will never change from the actions you make, and the past will never change. The more negative dark energy you let into your life the more it will manifest in areas you don't even realize. You just suck it up, and tend to your own mental wellbeing. Let them go be the messed up person they are. Eventually life has its own way of sorting people out naturally.

Posted by Bluemoon86

Posted by ERROR429
How do we feel about calling out cheaters? What if its a woman? We all love to dropkick men who cheat publicly, but what about a woman?

What constitutes doxxing, in your eyes? What if there are many individuals with the same name?

How do we feel about posting email screenshots of your personal emails, but with another person?

How do we feel about holding someone accountable for shitty behavior, after being given every opportunity to own it?

This is all hypothetical, of course.. maybe.. probably not, though.

No drama or any energy wasted, I would just look to get away from the cheater or to get them out of my life. No energy would go into that sort of person whatsoever. I have been cheated on and there are things I would do differently than I did in the past. You live and learn.

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Ok, I agree with "you live and learn" ive lived, and ive learned.... I want ther to learn too.. what lesson does she learn if she just does what she wants and there are no repercussions? Im 80% sure this isn't the first time shes done this shit. And there was ample opportunity to make it right to some degree... but the shame, I know its the shame, the fact that she would have to admit to that shitty behavior and atone for it, that keeps her wanting to avoid it.

Idk, I see two possible worlds:

1 world where she does this shit and has no consequences, doesnt have to sit with anything, and she can go on doing the same shit that im sure shes even doing now to some degree, because its a pattern.

Or another where the nail is in the door, she may hate me, but at least there may be enough disturbance to her patterns that it causes a shift in behavior..

But youre right, its my energy ill be expending, and while I feel bad for the sucker she found now, and would love to pry his eyes open to some shit i know he's had to have been confused over, I also believe in karma... I just happen to sometimes try help karma speed things up a little...

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Posted by Bluemoon86

Posted by ERROR429
How do we feel about calling out cheaters? What if its a woman? We all love to dropkick men who cheat publicly, but what about a woman?

What constitutes doxxing, in your eyes? What if there are many individuals with the same name?

How do we feel about posting email screenshots of your personal emails, but with another person?

How do we feel about holding someone accountable for shitty behavior, after being given every opportunity to own it?

This is all hypothetical, of course.. maybe.. probably not, though.

No drama or any energy wasted, I would just look to get away from the cheater or to get them out of my life. No energy would go into that sort of person whatsoever. I have been cheated on and there are things I would do differently than I did in the past. You live and learn.click to expand

Ok, I agree with "you live and learn" ive lived, and ive learned.... I want ther to learn too.. what lesson does she learn if she just does what she wants and there are no repercussions? Im 80% sure this isn't the first time shes done this shit. And there was ample opportunity to make it right to some degree... but the shame, I know its the shame, the fact that she would have to admit to that shitty behavior and atone for it, that keeps her wanting to avoid it.

Idk, I see two possible worlds:

1 world where she does this shit and has no consequences, doesnt have to sit with anything, and she can go on doing the same shit that im sure shes even doing now to some degree, because its a pattern.

Or another where the nail is in the door, she may hate me, but at least there may be enough disturbance to her patterns that it causes a shift in behavior..

But youre right, its my energy ill be expending, and while I feel bad for the sucker she found now, and would love to pry his eyes open to some shit i know he's had to have been confused over, I also believe in karma... I just happen to sometimes try help karma speed things up a little...

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The consequence of their action is losing me out of their life. All without me expending too much of my own energy.

I will let life and karma do the rest. By you wanting to put further consequences and to make them feel like you feel… you are taking away from the natural process. Not only that, but you are acting as the karma themselves. Just my 2 cents.