@MissLibra
13 Years
Moving Forward
His job is not transferable like mine is. He'd lose his retirement if he left it. His family lives close by him. No kids at home. He owns his own home.
The move is about 200 miles away.
Have you considered just filling your house with cats OP?
who needs a relationship
Posted by FrostedElly
Posted by MissLibra
The move is about 200 miles away.
So between a three to four hour drive? That's not terrible. If their adjacent major cities it could be less with a flight.
It's natural for it to be daunting. But if you also have a lot of excitement over it and you have faith in the stability of the relationships future why not. If you doubt him or his steadiness there's probably a reason for that.
You just have to sort out whether it's normal jitters or legitimate doubts.
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It's not the relationship or him. I feel safe and confident that those are good. It is the change. I'm not good with changing things. I feel guilty about doing this for "me". I've always been here with my kids. This feels like a new chapter of my life and it's a bit scary. I've raised my kids by myself. They are happy and healthy, doing their own thing now. I feel like it's my turn to do for myself but I feel guilty and somewhat selfish. I am having trouble justifying that with myself.
Posted by hydorah
Have you considered just filling your house with cats OP?
LOL...cats are not for me.
Posted by SensitiveBlues
200 miles thats nothingBut I'd be pissed
That's another thing...missing out on little stuff with my kids and grandson.
Posted by SensitiveBlues
Don't sell your house!Rent it
I've been considering that. The market is so bad right now for selling.
Honestly.don't sell anything to shack up with him, someone said rent out and I think that's a fabulous idea, if he wants you to move in then that's fine at least you'll have something to fall back on if you guys get sick of each other from living together.....and you'll have money.In the bank
But honestly you're kids and grandkids need you, you shouldn't feel that because they are a family that you're not a part of that.
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My kids are grown and have their own lives. I am now at a point in my life where I have a career, a big empty house, and a long distance relationship with a really great guy. This past weekend we looked at houses in his area. This was a very spontaneous thing. He asked how hard it would be to transfer my job to his area. I could.
How do I do this...move away from what I've always known...leave my kids and grandkids, and father? How do you go about moving forward emotionally with a huge change like this? I haven't even done it yet, but already feel guilty, kind of selfish.