Now What...

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So minor backstory... I've been told since I was 18 due to health issues/ surgeries mad such that I will not be able to have kids. I was married (divorced 3 years) during the time I was married I tried every fertility treatment out there and nothing worked. I've always been very careful, even though I know the chances are nil. I still take contraceptives and have now twice taken plan b.

I've been dating an amazing guy for a few months and low and behold here I am suddenly pregnant. I thought of abortion but couldn't bring myself to do it after everything I've been through... including losing my mom to cancer. He is being EXTREMELY supportive of me and I know my family will be great and happy for me after everything I've been through.... It's his family I'm super worried about.

He's trying to finalize his divorce which has not been easy having two kids himself with an ex who really NOT a good person (yes two sides to every story but I've seen how she can be firsthand) and she's dragging things out. Also his family is not only very wealthy but super old school and some of them are very stuck up. His mom couldn't even really accept that he was married and having kids, let alone only dating a short time and getting knocked up. I feel like I'm going to have issues like this happened on purpose or something. (side note his wealth is self made not through his family)

I'm heading out of the country for almost a month next week and plan to tell my family when I get back. He doesn't see his family face to face often but will be having a big get together while I'm away. He wants to tell them then especially his mom so she'll have time to "Accept me and the situation". I've agreed but also worry as I wont be there to face them myself. I've only met them twice and they can sling some nasty stuff out there so I just kinda stick to myself. My bf is the exact opposite of that which I'm very thankful for.

I guess I'm venting more than anything. The last thing I want is to have a strained relationship with his family... but I worry this is going to go downhill... very... very... fast.
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jeane
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i don't see what your alternative is.

you don't want to abort so that means you are having this kid.

barring breaking up with him and being a single mother - i'm guessing you don't want that either - then you are just going to have to deal with his family. unless you insist (and it probably won't work) that his family have nothing to do with you and the child.

it's just one of those situations where you are going to have to make the best of a less than ideal situation.

congratulations though! 🙂
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scorpio1108
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oh I don't plan on giving up the little chicken nugget unless my body says otherwise.

@Phantom_Limbo I can understand after his ex why they wouldn't trust me, as that takes time. This just added more fuel to the dislike fire I think.

All I can do is give it time and hope they can accept me for me. I know who I am and that I'm a good person, my boyfriend sees it, hopefully in time they'll see that to.