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Posted by DonJohnson
i don't get why are people getting caught up.

The men that DMV is attracting is a very very small minority in the real world. Even majority of black men would think those girls in the video are too big.

Look at black athletes or movie stars. which one of them has a big girl like that when they have choices? very rare.



idk about athletes or movie stars. celebs front in general for everyone. Look at Tiger Woods ratechet ass. His wife was grade AOK, but that wasnt who he was out screwing. he was screwing the total opposite of her clean cut image.
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Posted by DonJohnson
i don't get why are people getting caught up.

The men that DMV is attracting is a very very small minority in the real world. Even majority of black men would think those girls in the video are too big.

Look at black athletes or movie stars. which one of them has a big girl like that when they have choices? very rare.



BUT, lets take another look at celebs. Groupies study these men and conform to the women of their dreams. i dont see a problem with this.
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Black men love big women, love white women, love black women yes they will date all sizes which is why their stock is so high. Of course I can't speak for all black men but from what I do know is they have the ability to look past what others perceive as flaws and love a woman anyway.

As long as a woman is confident, loves herself, values herself, secure in who she is she can't lose, her stock is high, she's wanted.

My husband is white but he's dated some thick women, one woman was plus size which includes women like me whose in the middle, size 6 is not exactly thin in my opinion.



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Posted by DonJohnson
i don't get why are people getting caught up.

The men that DMV is attracting is a very very small minority in the real world. Even majority of black men would think those girls in the video are too big.

Look at black athletes or movie stars. which one of them has a big girl like that when they have choices? very rare.



BUT, lets take another look at celebs. Groupies study these men and conform to the women of their dreams. i dont see a problem with this.
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But you are NOT a groupie...right? Groupies aren't into meaningful relationships they are either looking for money or connections to a certain life style . So ofcourse they would modify themselves to attract the basic desires of their conquest. But it's a business for them, they're just wearing their uniform.
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i don't get why are people getting caught up.

The men that DMV is attracting is a very very small minority in the real world. Even majority of black men would think those girls in the video are too big.

Look at black athletes or movie stars. which one of them has a big girl like that when they have choices? very rare.



idk about athletes or movie stars. celebs front in general for everyone. Look at Tiger Woods ratechet ass. His wife was grade AOK, but that wasnt who he was out screwing. he was screwing the total opposite of her clean cut image.






don't get confused dmv.



there are women men date/marry. there are women men fuck on the side.


which one do you want to be?
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yes it matters. I need to be his end all be all. If he marries me looking one way and is fucking something completely different, we have a problem!
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i don't get why are people getting caught up.

The men that DMV is attracting is a very very small minority in the real world. Even majority of black men would think those girls in the video are too big.

Look at black athletes or movie stars. which one of them has a big girl like that when they have choices? very rare.



idk about athletes or movie stars. celebs front in general for everyone. Look at Tiger Woods ratechet ass. His wife was grade AOK, but that wasnt who he was out screwing. he was screwing the total opposite of her clean cut image.






don't get confused dmv.



there are women men date/marry. there are women men fuck on the side.


which one do you want to be?



yes it matters. I need to be his end all be all. If he marries me looking one way and is fucking something completely different, we have a problem!
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A true woman.
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Posted by DonJohnson
silliness.


cheating almost has nothing to do with how a wife/gf looks.


i know this first hand.

vast majority of time,let me simplify this....... guy just wants a new pussy.



+1 Shouldn't the issue be that he's cheating? Not how the chick he's cheating with looks... If he cheated with someone who looked like you would that make you feel better? A man who cheats is a man who likes variety (of looks AND personality) and shouldn't be in a committed relationship anyway
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Posted by DMV
There are man who marry a girl who has all that he is looking for in a wife. looks, personality, etc.

He marries a size 6 but is out screwing 16s and 20s. we all need to get on the same page here lol.

Stop frontin for the streets.





That has nothing to do with what a guy WANTS. That just shows what a dirtbag he is that he will flaunt his cheating like that, as if the cheating isn't bad enough.

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Groupies are disposable and have zero long term value. Clock is ticking on her ass to either get a baby or a ring or get disposed of by a new less used up groupie member. It's all ratchet. How many baby mamas do lil wayne have?

Amber Rose baby mama. Kim Kardashian baby mama. Most of the groupies are baby mamas not wives.

Take a look at most of the stars including athletes and may of them are not marrying black women, they marry white, hawian, asian, asian/white mixed with black, philipino etc etc so the question is...How is a black woman supposed to mold herself into the woman of his dreams when he's not even checking for a black woman. It's not realistic to mold one self, she either got the IT factor or she don't.

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"yes it matters. I need to be his end all be all."

I'm not sure it's possible to be someones end all be all in the looks department. I mean I think Japanese men are the hottest men walking the face of the earth; however the guy I love is not at all japanese. If we make it official it's not going to cancel my obsession with Japanese men, it's merely me making the decision to share myself with him and him only. IMO ofcourse
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Posted by fembot
"yes it matters. I need to be his end all be all."

I'm not sure it's possible to be someones end all be all in the looks department. I mean I think Japanese men are the hottest men walking the face of the earth; however the guy I love is not at all japanese. If we make it official it's not going to cancel my obsession with Japanese men, it's merely me making the decision to share myself with him and him only. IMO ofcourse



end all be all involves the whole spectrum. I dont think its a far stretch. If i want to be someones end all be all, there has to be a guy out there who wants to be my end all be all.

a billion people on the earth, i cant be the only one with this mindset.
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"yes it matters. I need to be his end all be all."

I'm not sure it's possible to be someones end all be all in the looks department. I mean I think Japanese men are the hottest men walking the face of the earth; however the guy I love is not at all japanese. If we make it official it's not going to cancel my obsession with Japanese men, it's merely me making the decision to share myself with him and him only. IMO ofcourse



end all be all involves the whole spectrum. I dont think its a far stretch. If i want to be someones end all be all, there has to be a guy out there who wants to be my end all be all.

a billion people on the earth, i cant be the only one with this mindset.
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You could be right...statements like that always give me pause as it sounds too much like wanting to control/consume the other person. But that may just be me. I never really want to be the only thing my guy has going for him. But I might be interpreting your comment wrong

"skullcrush her until she barfs."

I got 2 mental pictures from this statement...I'm not sure which is worse. lol
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Don't all men like variety? DJ would you say the majority of men cheat?




man 55% of men ADMIT to cheating.

this is a fact.


I personally know several men who thinks visiting massage parlors or hookers isn't cheating.


LOL

the world's oldest industry doesn't support itself. the main clientelle isn't young, fit men. it's married men.

This thread is making me wish I was a lesbian. Men suck. I think I'll stay single for a while.
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yup... 😐
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+1 Fembot

Cheating has very little to do with size and has more to do with a man desiring variety outside of his marriage, we can't blame size on cheating.

Cheating is a lacking character and boundaries issue not a size issue.



lets say size is an issue. then what? do you divorce or do you make your partner happy?
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Exactly @Tiki33

I'd hope that the 2 people could find a happy compromise...especially in the case of a marriage. For me personally I'm unwilling to change things about the foundation of myself (that I don't already want to change) just to keep a man. If I start doing that for him, where does it end? I've basically just shown him that I can be bent to serve his will (regardless of my own identity). That's just not something I can allow myself to do. I'd like to think the 2 people would work out the cosmetic issues prior to marriage though...
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Posted by DonJohnson
you women are too impressionable.

the modern divorce and break-up has been successfully marketed to you just like a myriad of ridiculous things concepts. that is why over 70% of divorces are initiated by women now.

unhappiness has been marketed to you.

you people are tearing yourselves apart over accepted norms since the dawn of mankind.

*cues mangina intercepting this thread to white knight whilst being a cheater on the downlow.

I'm just being real with y'all. it is what it is. accept it perhaps...... and move forward with life. men and women are different. find a good provider whose heart stays home. that is enough. live happily ever after.




I'm going to play devil's advocate here. Lets say that you, DJ, are happily married but you like some variety on the side and someone you can disrespect, etc. for pure sexual gratification. Lets say your wife is also doing the same behind your back. Is it a problem?
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i already know im kinda impressionable. If a man gives me a compliment on my leggings, best believe i will have 3 more pairs before the week is over.

Same with anything really. If i man tells me he likes my hair, if he likes a certain color, shit i could go on for days. shoes, earrings, weaves, etc etc

if he likes it, im doing it.

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That sounds obsessive. 😐 Do you feel your self esteem is connected to gaining approval from men?
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"If someone told me they like me a brunette, im not going to swerve to blonde right?"

You would if YOU wanted to be blond. Why would you stay brunette to please someone else IF you'd prefer to be blond? Wouldn't you want to make yourself happy first?



but i dont prefer blonde. i AM making myself happy. Seeing him happy makes me happy. i was brunette first n foremost. Now i got a good reason to stay that way.

cmon guys. mars in virgo here.

Also, it should also be vice versa. Im no dummy, im not going to keep making someone else happy if my needs arent getting met.
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I'm going to play devil's advocate here. Lets say that you, DJ, are happily married but you like some variety on the side and someone you can disrespect, etc. for pure sexual gratification. Lets say your wife is also doing the same behind your back. Is it a problem?





typical comeback that i've addressed time and time again.



the liberal media has successfully brainwashed most into thinking the genders are equal on all levels.


i do not subscribe to that theory. men and women are very different on many many levels. we are talking psychologically. biologically and emotionally.


when i say female i mean most females, so don't come at me with I KNOW THIS GIRL bs.

Females are emotionally linked to sex. they are emotionally vulnerable before, during and after the act. this can not be disputed. so by the time a female has finished cheating with a man.... her emotional stability would've changed.


This is on top of the biological fact that the female runs far greater risk. she is more likely to get pregnant by another man and she is more likely to be a carrier of STD. all of this natural arrangements should psychologically lead her to be the prize in courtship.


Meaning she should naturally guard her sexuality more closely. dicks are free. pussy isn't free afterall. remember that.

so by the time she's willing to forego her emotional, psychological and biological vulnerabilities to cheat on her man...... it is a far more serious act than a man cheating on a female. not even close when you carefully examine every aspect that I just outlined.
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But if you're going to argue about the damage it does to a woman, psychologically, the same could be argued for what it does for a woman to find out her man cheated on her.
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And you didn't actually answer the question, DJ....you side-stepped it.




i did answer it.


i wouldn't accepted it because it's a far more serious act by the time a female cheats with another man. she would've changed emotionally and psychologically. much deeper than a physical act.
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ok, that you did say. Understood. But the psychological damage done to a woman when her guy cheats.....that's a problem, too.
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And you didn't actually answer the question, DJ....you side-stepped it.




i did answer it.


i wouldn't accepted it because it's a far more serious act by the time a female cheats with another man. she would've changed emotionally and psychologically. much deeper than a physical act.
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The problem with this is that margin of men who carry on emotional affairs and the margin of women who carry on non-emotional affairs. Each side is capable of the other. I'm not willing to accept that the man I settle down with will cheat because it's just a physical act for him (even it if is). If that's the only option left in the dating pool then picture me alone with a bunch of cats and an english bulldog.

As MoonArtist said the emotional damage done by finding out the man you love shared an intimate part of himself with another woman is just not worth accepting that as a reality.
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"the hurt you feel has been seared deep in your psyche from media programming. OH HOW COULD HE CHEAT! OOMG! WORLD IS OVER!"

If this is the case then consider their (the media) mission ACCOMPLISHED. I am admittedly programmed. But I also feel I could engage in an open relationship if the bond is strong enough and everyone is being 100% honest. But the idea that he can be out slinging it to any Beth, Mary Jane or Shameka while I'm at the house eating bon bons just does not work for me...
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+1 Fembot

Cheating has very little to do with size and has more to do with a man desiring variety outside of his marriage, we can't blame size on cheating.

Cheating is a lacking character and boundaries issue not a size issue.



lets say size is an issue. then what? do you divorce or do you make your partner happy?



Exactly @Tiki33

I'd hope that the 2 people could find a happy compromise...especially in the case of a marriage. For me personally I'm unwilling to change things about the foundation of myself (that I don't already want to change) just to keep a man. If I start doing that for him, where does it end? I've basically just shown him that I can be bent to serve his will (regardless of my own identity). That's just not something I can allow myself to do. I'd like to think the 2 people would work out the cosmetic issues prior to marriage though...
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+1 Fembot

Marriage has layers DMV and size can be USED as an excuse to cheat. People cheat b/c they choose to cheat, if they lack something within themselves they'll cheat.

No one can make a man cheat, if he's a cheater he'll cheat just because it's his choice to cheat whether the excuse is valid or not valid.

I love chubby, to me chubby is adorable, my husband is fit, very fit but I don't want nor desire to cheat on him with a chubby person.

Preference is not a necessity. We may prefer a certain type but we won't die or stop breathing if we have something or someone outside of that preference.
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DMV although you say "I love myself" none of what you've said actually describes you loving yourself.

You come across codependent and lack a strong sense of self b/c women who have evolved and developed an authentic self do not just chunk it away for a compliment or to get more compliments which is a form of approval seeking behavior.

Don't you think you're enough? Is who you are right now, without morphing and changing and turning yourself inside out enough?

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+1 Fembot

Cheating has very little to do with size and has more to do with a man desiring variety outside of his marriage, we can't blame size on cheating.

Cheating is a lacking character and boundaries issue not a size issue.



lets say size is an issue. then what? do you divorce or do you make your partner happy?



Exactly @Tiki33

I'd hope that the 2 people could find a happy compromise...especially in the case of a marriage. For me personally I'm unwilling to change things about the foundation of myself (that I don't already want to change) just to keep a man. If I start doing that for him, where does it end? I've basically just shown him that I can be bent to serve his will (regardless of my own identity). That's just not something I can allow myself to do. I'd like to think the 2 people would work out the cosmetic issues prior to marriage though...



+1 Fembot

Marriage has layers DMV and size can be USED as an excuse to cheat. People cheat b/c they choose to cheat, if they lack something within themselves they'll cheat.

No one can make a man cheat, if he's a cheater he'll cheat just because it's his choice to cheat whether the excuse is valid or not valid.

I love chubby, to me chubby is adorable, my husband is fit, very fit but I don't want nor desire to cheat on him with a chubby person.

Preference is not a necessity. We may prefer a certain type but we won't die or stop breathing if we have something or someone outside of that preference.
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so would you divorce or conform?
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@DJ the real question is ARE THOSE WOMEN HAPPY? I mean really happy. Or are they just adhering to the rules of their culture by remaining silent. Notice how many of those women end up leaving those same husbands when they migrate to America or say the UK.

Now this might be because they also fall victim to the same "programming" you say we've all fallen for OR it could be because they were never really happy with their husband cheating to begin with. And as soon as the realized they didn't have to accept that behavior, they stopped accepting it.

I think the ego of women AND men is such that we don't want ANYONE else touching our stuff. It's human nature IMO...
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LMAO & +1 @LillLou... It pays to build a self you can be happy with alone

@DMV I would fight for my marriage with everything I have in me BUT if the thing he wants me to change is something I actually love about myself or would be too compromising to my identity (and he can't get past it and/or compromise on it) then I guess we'd have to take that unfortunate divorce step.

If I were to change something extremely important to me (like say my beliefs) then I'd no longer be the woman he married and claimed to love til death do us part. But hey maybe I'm wrong for that...
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actually yep- I've been thinking about the recent exes/ trials and tribulations, been on a couple of dates lately with guys who just don't float my boat, and if the ultimate outcome of it all- getting married to someone who is more than likely to cheat on me, I think I'll stick with what I've got...

2 cats and a fine ass... 😄





okay you still have a fine ass.

what happens when it turns to cottage cheese in 10 yrs? with another 50 yrs of life to go.

you sincerely do not want kids?
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haha- I can spurgle (sperm burgle) if I want kids- which incidentally won't help the size or shape of my ass... but in the meantime I have 3 cute wee nieces I can borrow.

Also, I could get hit by a bus in 3 years time- I know I don't want to be miserable, and I know that for me, getting cheated on would make me miserable. This is of course, just my view, and if I happen to meet an amazing guy who treats me like a princess then that would be amazing- he is welcome in my life according to my terms (as tiki and fembot and moon etc said- no cheating bastards)...

That's my life according to me, peer reviewed, statistics all totally above board and whatnot...
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Posted by tiki33
DMV although you say "I love myself" none of what you've said actually describes you loving yourself.

You come across codependent and lack a strong sense of self b/c women who have evolved and developed an authentic self do not just chunk it away for a compliment or to get more compliments which is a form of approval seeking behavior.

Don't you think you're enough? Is who you are right now, without morphing and changing and turning yourself inside out enough?



how can you tell me that I dont love myself? I take offense to that, you dont know me as well as you think you do.. I have one blog where I talk about how I enjoy compliments and how I like to go out of my way to please a man and that makes me codependent? That means I dont love myself? I lack a strong sense of self? What type of shit is this? Im not your definition of evolved or developed?

Sometimes you people reach too far with the conclusions you draw. Not everything is a case of low self esteem. FFS

I havent even talked about my personality here but conclusions are drawn.