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Alcohol and Erectile Disfunction in Younger Men
It happens from time to time to most men I think. They can get stressed out with their careers or too much alcohol intake..a lot of issues. And the nervousness obviously.
It's too soon to think of erectile disfunction.
Had a raging boner all night followed by a performance of a life time whole 2 minutes of it - possible diagnosis the hang of shaaaame.
Before we went out, he made a commitment not to drink for the evening. I found that interesting since we have always drank liquor on all of our previous dates.
He probably drinks more (and more often) than you realize.
Normal drinkers don't say things like that, typically-- no wonder you thought it was odd.
That may not be all.. and this is just a guess, but:
Take an otherwise healthy man and feed him opiates on a regular basis, and you're looking at a host of issues-- not the least of which you got a taste of-- so to speak.
Is he a Virgo?
Hard on all night + coming too fast = personal issues or it had been awhile for him.
Who knows. I was with someone who had a tendency to finish quickly. The first time we were together it was "sorry, it'd been awhile."
...but then it proceeded to happen all the time. I generally didn't mind because he could recover pretty quickly, but I've always wondered why that was considering he was a young guy too.
Then there are times I wonder if it was just with me, seeing as how he sleeps around like whoa now and it's like why would you want to sleep around with a bunch of people who mutually know eachother, knowing you're mister 2 pump chump?
...the things an inquisitive minds wonders, haha.
You know, it could be a lot of factors aside from alcohol. Alcohol could affect him more drastically than others, assuming he isn't totally wasted. There are also other varying factors like what he eats and drinks, as there is a lot of nasty shit guys will eat and drink (junk food and energy drinks) that could be a chain reaction to why it won't go up.
Hell, maybe he got himself off prior to seeing you and now things won't cooperate.
And then sometimes, guys just have zero control over whether their little friend wants to cooperate. Telling him to relax probably didn't help matters any. Guys get embarrassed about that stuff and insisting he relax when he has no idea just adds to the problem.
Before we went out, he made a commitment not to drink for the evening. I found that interesting since we have always drank liquor on all of our previous dates.
He probably drinks more (and more often) than you realize.
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It's not erectile dysfunction. I can't feel anything below my waist when I'm wasted. I learned it the hard way, in the middle of a threesome. lol
Basically I avoid excessive alcohol intake if I know I'm going places. Problem solved. =)
Thanks for all the responses. He's a Taurus and a PHD candidate at one of the top engineering schools on the east coast. He's really smart and enjoys what he does. Though, I think he stresses more than he would like to admit. He maybe nervous around me too. He made a comment last week regarding me, saying that "i think i may have out done myself this time". I really like him and hope ED is not the case. As this would likely take a toll on the relationship.
Also, I said he made a commitment to not drink for that evening, maybe bc he was assuming we would most likely have sex on Friday evening and he probably didn't want the alcohol to affect his performance. I don't think he drinks everyday or is an alcoholic.
Posted by duchessedenemours
You could always find a ton of magazines with Viagra ads and place then strategically around your place when he comes over. 😄
Lol Yes you do be trollin
Posted by Redbull
Im sorry but i chuckle quite profusely at some of the stories on here. Some i outright lol to.
Me too. But I was seriously confused by this situation. Happy to hear you found it amusing if nothing else.
Posted by enfant_terrible
It's not erectile dysfunction. I can't feel anything below my waist when I'm wasted. I learned it the hard way, in the middle of a threesome. lolBasically I avoid excessive alcohol intake if I know I'm going places. Problem solved. =)
I really hope this is the case. And seeing how he kept a hard on the previous night when he had no alcohol intake, I believe this is it.
Posted by enfant_terrible
It's not erectile dysfunction. I can't feel anything below my waist when I'm wasted. I learned it the hard way, in the middle of a threesome. lolBasically I avoid excessive alcohol intake if I know I'm going places. Problem solved. =)
I really hope this is the case. And seeing how he kept a hard on the previous night when he had no alcohol intake, I believe this is it.
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So why didn't you jump him then?!
Pfft, women.... you want everything when it suits you! 😛
Posted by enfant_terrible
It's not erectile dysfunction. I can't feel anything below my waist when I'm wasted. I learned it the hard way, in the middle of a threesome. lolBasically I avoid excessive alcohol intake if I know I'm going places. Problem solved. =)
I really hope this is the case. And seeing how he kept a hard on the previous night when he had no alcohol intake, I believe this is it.
So why didn't you jump him then?!
Pfft, women.... you want everything when it suits you! 😛
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Lol I was on the last day of my menstrual cycle. And yes, we do want everything when the time is right.
You guys really don't know that it was the drinking? That's why he didn't drink on Friday....
"A couple of drinks can loosen inhibitions, allowing people to explore their sexuality in a relaxed manner. However, alcohol can also impair sexual functioning. Alcohol is a depressant. It works on the nervous system by slowing down brain function, breathing and pulse. The effect is often psychologically stimulating, since emotions and desires flow more freely. However, while alcohol may boost sexual desire by helping a person to relax, it can decrease performance, especially where erections are concerned."
Posted by justagirl
You guys really don't know that it was the drinking? That's why he didn't drink on Friday....
Are you addressing the OP, or everyone who has responded?
Because several people have already mentioned the drinking. 😉
Posted by justagirl
You guys really don't know that it was the drinking? That's why he didn't drink on Friday....Are you addressing the OP, or everyone who has responded?
Because several people have already mentioned the drinking. 😉
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Mainly the OP Monty.. but yes I saw the other 3 people that said this as well.. I guess I should have said I agree with what others have said it's the drinking? 😛
dam phone.. that was supposed to be an ! not a ? at the end lol
Posted by enfant_terrible
It's not erectile dysfunction. I can't feel anything below my waist when I'm wasted. I learned it the hard way, in the middle of a threesome. lolBasically I avoid excessive alcohol intake if I know I'm going places. Problem solved. =)
I think that's more from the cuppage you seem to enjoy doing than the drinking 😛
It could be numerous things, drinking too much could be one of them.
Stick to beer and you'll be fine, as many as you want. Mix in shots and hard liquor, and you'll be afflicted with the dreaded "whiskey dick". Been there too many times.
Nerves is another perfectly logical explanation.
ED...nope. I'd cross that one off the list.
Posted by justagirl
dam phone.. that was supposed to be an ! not a ? at the end lol
Oh, lol I didn't even notice it till you pointed it out. 😛
Nerves. He has to get comfortable.
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I spent this valentine's weekend with a really wonderful guy that I've been dating for about a month now. We got together on Friday night and had a really romantic dinner at one of my favorite restaurants. Before we went out, he made a commitment not to drink for the evening. I found that interesting since we have always drank liquor on all of our previous dates. I stayed over his place on Friday and he had an erection for most of the night. We didn't have sex because I was on the last day of my cycle. We had sex for the first time on yesterday afternoon. He came pretty quickly, lasting about two minutes. Fast forward to later on that evening, after he had a couple glasses of wine. We were kissing, caressing and undressing, both of us turned on. He just couldn't get it up. I was really patient and compassionate, asking him was he nervous and telling him to relax. He really didn't want to open about it though. I didn't probe too much. He is 26 years old. Isn't he too young to suffer from ERectile disfunction? Was the alcohol a contributing factor? Thoughts or suggestions would be helpful.