The art of attraction

This question is for both the women and the men.

How do you personally go about attracting the person of your desires?

Do you have a certain perfume/cologne?

Do have nice breast, eyes, mouth, legs or ass and know how to use those to your advantage?

Do you change your grooming routine? My boyfriend in college had 3 roommates and one of them came to me when we first started dating and told me he knew my bf liked me when he noticed him showering more often.

Do you seduce with words? Poetry? Are you nicer to those you like then those you're not into?

What is in your arsenal of tricks?

Oh and don't forget your sun and Venus sign....this is an Astrology forum.

Posted by WarAngel

I listen to people.

I talk with people.

I watch people closely and I pay attention.

No tricks, just genuine give a damn - people notice.

Scorpio Sun

Sagittarius Venus

So you use words. That is in itself a trick since not everyone is good with talking to people.

I am Gem Leo moon with Aries Venus

And I had never tried…

It’s talking head off to people all the time when all of a sudden I get hit!

And it’s ALWAYS mutual!

It’s like I don’t DO ‘liking and pursuing’ - it is LITERALLY - CAME, SAW and CONQUERED (none of this ever pre-planned or worked about)

If it’s not a POW—WOW FIREWORKS 💥 ON-THE-SPOT - there is nothing. Period.

But I looove the idea of Monica and Chandler.

Though it would have to be in my next life.

Is this my Aries Venus? 🤔

My intense look is enough to turn heads. Need I say more?

Sun Gemini

Venus cancer

Playfulness

Eye contact

Laughter/flirting

Banter

Sun and Venus in Scorpio

7th house of partnerships

Posted by GammaArietis

I actively avoid them while observing them from a distance. During this time any little thing can turn me off and kill the attraction. 99% of the time this is what happens. For the other 1% that make it through I will summon them to me. I don’t know how it works but it does. Once they’re in my web, a dead giveaway of my interest is feeding them or being more touchy feely. I hate being touched so I reallllly like someone if I want to touch them.

Sun and Venus signs please

And lol. I think this is how it works for me too.

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

My intense look is enough to turn heads. Need I say more?

Sun Gemini

Venus cancer

So you just stare them down into submission?

Posted by GemiMay

I am Gem Leo moon with Aries Venus

And I had never tried…

It’s talking head off to people all the time when all of a sudden I get hit!

And it’s ALWAYS mutual!

It’s like I don’t DO ‘liking and pursuing’ - it is LITERALLY - CAME, SAW and CONQUERED (none of this ever pre-planned or worked about)

If it’s not a POW—WOW FIREWORKS 💥 ON-THE-SPOT - there is nothing. Period.

But I looove the idea of Monica and Chandler.

Though it would have to be in my next life.

Is this my Aries Venus? 🤔

So you use the art of gab like @warangel

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Posted by SeaLion

Posted by GammaArietis

I actively avoid them while observing them from a distance. During this time any little thing can turn me off and kill the attraction. 99% of the time this is what happens. For the other 1% that make it through I will summon them to me. I don’t know how it works but it does. Once they’re in my web, a dead giveaway of my interest is feeding them or being more touchy feely. I hate being touched so I reallllly like someone if I want to touch them.

Sun and Venus signs please

And lol. I think this is how it works for me too.

Aries/Aries

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Same as my ex

Really 🔥😃

Looks and penetrating eye contact.

Libra Sun, Scorpio Venus

Posted by Wizardz_

I don't do anything. I flirt sometimes but it's pretty indiscriminate

Someone once said to me "a lot of people pretend not to give a fuck like it's cool or something but you really don't give a fuck 😂"

So, I guess, if anything it is me not caring one way or the other that sometimes attracts... not like it happens a lot tho, it's pretty random

Gem sun Gem venus

It's called big dick energy (I dont know if you have one or not) and that can be attractive to women. I think I've discussed that on here b4.

If I’m in a sexual af state of mind, you just draw that in. It is all physicality, it’s a look it’s, body language, its lingering, its slow intentional movements. It’s just a projection of immense desire from inside my body.

I don’t really have a perfume for this anymore, (because I have other shit I got to do in my life) but DKNY Be Delicious, got me a lot me a lot of attention. Like strangers would just get their noises up in my neck area in crowded bars. But it doesn’t fit me anymore, just smells like regret and bad decisions to me now.

I got boobs, honestly I get more unwanted attention from them.

I do not seduce with words, I will just wait till I’m close to you, touch you then maybe make out with you. That works good.

Taurus/Taurus

Posted by SeaLion

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

My intense look is enough to turn heads. Need I say more?

Sun Gemini

Venus cancer

So you just stare them down into submission?

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No more like stare them down in command. As if to say your local sherif is in town.

Somehow I just like to be normal without having to be an attraction to people. That's why I would never post my picture on here. The focus would be on me. Some might fall into submission to me. And the talk of the town will begin. Besides I don't need a whole ton of likes. I don't care about likes.

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Posted by SeaLion

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

My intense look is enough to turn heads. Need I say more?

Sun Gemini

Venus cancer

So you just stare them down into submission?

No more like stare them down in command. As if to say your local sherif is in town.

Somehow I just like to be normal without having to be an attraction to people. That's why I would never post my picture on here. The focus would be on me. Some might fall into submission to me. And the talk of the town will begin. Besides I don't need a whole ton of likes. I don't care about likes.

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I love the confidence!

I use humor, body language and flirting with my eyes. Bold stares, so they know that I’m paying attention to them, and then looking away and going about something else to see if they will come to me.

I rarely go up to a guy. I let the opportunity pass if a guy waits on me to pursue him.

Ain’t nobody got time for scary men 🤪😎

Sag Sun

Scorpio Venus

My cleavage comes out on dates mostly, depending on the pervy vibes I get from the guy. The more he doesn’t pay attention, the more cleavage that shows 😜

I used to care about everything on the OP list.

Over the past years, I’ve totally gone against the grain and I dress like a homeless person.

Particularly after turning 40, I just don’t care about attracting anyone but a casting director.

Being genuine and vulnerable on tape is the name of the game.

I wanted to discover who I really am sans the usual

I’m just not interested in attracting men or women for friendship or anything else. It’s just not my focus.

Sagittarius Sun

Capricorn Venus

I have mental wit, natural charisma and overall kind/caring spirit (unless you cross me or meet me on a bad day, lol).

I also think I am good looking, but of course that’s subjective. I have long, blonde hair and larger breasts, pretty eyes and smile. That doesn’t mean I am perfect and everyone’s physical type though. But I don’t have a problem attracting most men.

Gemini sun

Cancer venus

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Posted by DMV

I used to care about everything on the OP list.

Over the past years, I’ve totally gone against the grain and I dress like a homeless person.

Particularly after turning 40, I just don’t care about attracting anyone but a casting director.

Being genuine and vulnerable on tape is the name of the game.

I wanted to discover who I really am sans the usual

I’m just not interested in attracting men or women for friendship or anything else. It’s just not my focus.

Sagittarius Sun

Capricorn Venus

The top thing I can relate to as I had a female friend who said she started wearing baggy clothes and sometimes dirty clothes as she was sick of male attention. Made me feel sad.

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I can relate. There has to be more to life than wanting to draw the eye of a man. No disrespect to the men. Wonderful creatures but I’ve had enough of that life.

Posted by Ixi

I use my mind and communication style to attract with intention. Physicality only after the mind is activated and trained on me.

Virgo Sun

Gemini Mars

Leo Venus

Virgo Mercury

I tend to start communication incidentally. I typically show up to places for my purposes and if there is someone attractive there I'll take note but I won't be moved to make a move off the strength of that alone. I'm not nearly thirsty enough to be moved to action just because of looks alone. It's only if our social wires cross a few times will I bother to engage directly.

As a result of the aforementioned the women I tend to attract will organically be around me (aka I meet her in a shared friend group, or at some place I am naturally like a bar, library, on the job etc.)

Typically conversation is struck by commenting on a mutual event/happening in the space or if I hear something she says which is comment worthy, I'll take it and spin it into a full bodied conversation. I don't like cold start conversations, where clearly the only reason I am talking to her is how she looks. My goal isn't to get at her at this point but just to see if she is interesting. If she is interesting, I will take her digits, and regularly check in, try to meet up with her for lunch, brunch, whatever...treat her well, let her know I find her fly super directly, let her know I'm trying to see whats good.

Typically once I make up my mind, my directness can be off-putting (many a past partner was surprised that I was interested at all), going from joking around to very blunt declarations, quiet bedroom eyes (if she is receptive to my interest), quietly shared observations and desire reveals. Once we are seeing each other casually, I will turn up the heat and presence. At this point I allow my proximity to do work: smell good, look good, allow my voice to do what it does. Touches where appropriate very gentle but timely caresses and direct suggestion. Most of my work to attract involves her mind so I put most effort there.

Thank you. You're one of the few who actually answered my post the way I intended.

Posted by SeaLion

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Posted by SeaLion

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

My intense look is enough to turn heads. Need I say more?

Sun Gemini

Venus cancer

So you just stare them down into submission?

No more like stare them down in command. As if to say your local sherif is in town.

Somehow I just like to be normal without having to be an attraction to people. That's why I would never post my picture on here. The focus would be on me. Some might fall into submission to me. And the talk of the town will begin. Besides I don't need a whole ton of likes. I don't care about likes.

I love the confidence!

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Haha imagine if I had fire. I would of been a showoff and cocky with my commands. That wouldn't be too confident.

I maybe meet someone every 2 to 3 years that I'd consider dating so I don't go out of my way to try to attract anyone. I get approached way more than I approach. I go by my instincts and strong intuition so if I don't go 'wow' immediately I'm usually not motivated. I don't need the attention so I'll either play dumb or boring.



I met the prettiest Indian girl ive ever seen about a year ago so that was the last person I've wanted to date.



I usually hide my traits but if I'm interested I'll open up and be more outgoing and humorous. With varied interests and knowledge, I can connect with anyone from anywhere. I have a good feel for situations and people so things magically seem to work out. I'll start to show a giving and selfless side while showcasing an ability to make anything happen through sheer force of will.



I can get sex when I need it so I'm not hard up to be in a relationship. I usually end up with the super attractive, hot mess but I'm trying to quit that pattern lol. Right now, there's a good looking girl that owns her own property management company that's interested. About a year ago, I went up to talk to her and she was kinda rude and brushed me off (she had a bf at the time but still..) so now I'm like smeh when she tries to get my attention 🙂 Cap Sun/Aqua Venus

i wasn't very confident when i was much younger but as time goes on, i just stopped caring so much lol. and it's weird coz when i did, i started to attract a lot of really cool dudes. lately, i've been attracting people that i usually don't go for but are objectively cooler than other guys.

like recently, i've attracted this guy from this gothic rock band and how often does that happen? he's much older tho but damn he's still cool.

and there's another guy but idk still trying to get to know them better.

Posted by Nightcap-

I maybe meet someone every 2 to 3 years that I'd consider dating so I don't go out of my way to try to attract anyone. I get approached way more than I approach. I go by my instincts and strong intuition so if I don't go 'wow' immediately I'm usually not motivated. I don't need the attention so I'll either play dumb or boring.



I met the prettiest Indian girl ive ever seen about a year ago so that was the last person I've wanted to date.



I usually hide my traits but if I'm interested I'll open up and be more outgoing and humorous. With varied interests and knowledge, I can connect with anyone from anywhere. I have a good feel for situations and people so things magically seem to work out. I'll start to show a giving and selfless side while showcasing an ability to make anything happen through sheer force of will.



I can get sex when I need it so I'm not hard up to be in a relationship. I usually end up with the super attractive, hot mess but I'm trying to quit that pattern lol. Right now, there's a good looking girl that owns her own property management company that's interested. About a year ago, I went up to talk to her and she was kinda rude and brushed me off (she had a bf at the time but still..) so now I'm like smeh when she tries to get my attention 🙂 Cap Sun/Aqua Venus

Did you end up dating the pretty Indian girl?

Posted by SeaLion

Posted by Nightcap-

I maybe meet someone every 2 to 3 years that I'd consider dating so I don't go out of my way to try to attract anyone. I get approached way more than I approach. I go by my instincts and strong intuition so if I don't go 'wow' immediately I'm usually not motivated. I don't need the attention so I'll either play dumb or boring.



I met the prettiest Indian girl ive ever seen about a year ago so that was the last person I've wanted to date.



I usually hide my traits but if I'm interested I'll open up and be more outgoing and humorous. With varied interests and knowledge, I can connect with anyone from anywhere. I have a good feel for situations and people so things magically seem to work out. I'll start to show a giving and selfless side while showcasing an ability to make anything happen through sheer force of will.



I can get sex when I need it so I'm not hard up to be in a relationship. I usually end up with the super attractive, hot mess but I'm trying to quit that pattern lol. Right now, there's a good looking girl that owns her own property management company that's interested. About a year ago, I went up to talk to her and she was kinda rude and brushed me off (she had a bf at the time but still..) so now I'm like smeh when she tries to get my attention 🙂 Cap Sun/Aqua Venus

Did you end up dating the pretty Indian girl?

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No. It was a Tuesday night and I agreed to go out for someone's Birthday even though I was dead tired from working an ungodly amount so I was super low energy and half asleep. One of those where you think you'll see them again but never do.

I'll be honest, I stalk, stalk, stalk. Then, when I decide I like them, I chase and get my person. Honestly, I use this for getting friends as well. 😀

Posted by Cocosugar

I'll be honest, I stalk, stalk, stalk. Then, when I decide I like them, I chase and get my person. Honestly, I use this for getting friends as well. 😀

Def need your sun and Venus sign now lol

Posted by GC69_

I intuitively figure out what they like, what they don’t like, how to keep their attention for more than 20min, and what their passionate about.



Cancer Sun

Leo Venus

Intuitively or "intuitively"? 🤪😂😉

Posted by SeaLion

Posted by Cocosugar

I'll be honest, I stalk, stalk, stalk. Then, when I decide I like them, I chase and get my person. Honestly, I use this for getting friends as well. 😀

Def need your sun and Venus sign now lol

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Guess! 😂😂😂😂😂

No idea.. Maybe I’ve done eye contact, or a smile. I have been accused of having a mischievous smile 🤣 Most of the time I’m pretty clueless and they come after me. When I’ve actually tried it doesn’t work do well, so I’ll go with if there seems to be a connection between us there just is. It just happens..

Posted by ClaireDeLune

Using my seduction powers



Cancer Sun

Virgo Venus

You only get points because of the cute meme. But you really didn't answer the question.

MYSTERIOUS,MYSTERIOUS!



EQUALS

PLEASURE, PLEASURE

Posted by Hypnotoad I have this alter ego who is the most charming mother fucker you ever met and he pulls the hottest girls but idk how he does it and I never know when he's gonna turn up and he's never reliable.

I want to meet him!!

Posted by Dead_Kermit

By just following the path fate destined for me, I guess.

I lived and worked abroad in different places, traveled much. Everyone I met has been a chance encounter, so I have been with women from other nations but so far never with one from my own. Probably me being exotic to them as to looks and height, and a mixture of being charming and witty, attracted them. I never followed sort of a plan or have a recipe for getting to know someone, things just happen. For instance I dine out almost every day, and maybe I just ask someone to accompany me or they approach me out of their own while I’m out. We talk, have fun. Sometimes it ends there. Sometimes we explore the night life of a city or remote and beautiful places or such of history like ancient ruins. I’m quite a romantic as to such, and maybe I Illuminate a ruin with candlelight just for you if I feel like it. You never know where life takes you, but you’ll know if I wish for you to be my warrior queen.

Libra sun and Venus, but I guess it’s the Leo rising that’s more expressive as to grand gestures.

Awe man that's like my dream! Running around Europe with a man!