the fam

I'm really, really, really not getting along with my father right now. We can't be around each other for more than five minutes without one of us wanting to kill the other (I don't mean that seriously, of course, just figuratively). I'm sorry to say it, but what it comes down to is that he is not a nice person. He just isn't. He embarrasses me in public by being a jerk to sales clerks, he's many times embarrassed me in front of friends that I've had over by being a jerk (especially to my guy friends), he drives my mother crazy all the time, he never remembers anything you say 2 minutes after you said it, often he doesn't listen at all to what you're saying (which is why I rarely talk to him at all anymore, or for more than a minute at a time)...and I can't stand his political beliefs, and he can't stand mine, and it makes for some very uncomfortable moments when he blurts out something he likes about some republican or the president, and I'm like, "well I don't feel that way at all". And from there, half the time he just laughs, the other half of the time he turns into this major jerk and goes on and on about why his way of thinking is literally the right way (he honestly says that) and that everyone else is stupid. He sometimes makes racist comments, which he'd deny but which anybody would agree are totally out of line (though they're not the n-word or anything, still these comments piss me off), he just damn well bugs the hell out of me, and I'm sure the feeling is mutual. I do not understand him *at all*, and he does not understand me. We have gotten into some major, major screaming fights in the past, and though I wouldn't necessarily say he was abusive when I was a kid, he definitely spanked and hit me a lot, but so did my mother, although my dad would use a lot more strength when doing it. He just has this attitude that brings me down, almost always when he's around. In fact, this sounds bad but I can barely even stand being in the same room with him, most of the time.

I don't know...I mean, I know I'm lucky to have a father, but that doesn't negate any of what I've said. I really, really want to move out but I also really, really want to start school soon and working the job I'm working now (which I'll keep while I go to school) I will not have enough money to pay rent, continue paying all of my bills *and* pay for school at the same time. So for a little while, I'm still stuck, but I can honestly say I'd almost rather not go to school and just get out of here. 😢

calm down girl....
Is your father a VIRGO..??if yes..then let me help you to crack his mind......🙂

however....if you are dependant ...then try to learn "ignore-the-fact-and-reality" skill....🙂it helps alot
Cheers and good luck
yours
Qbone

What I try to say is that, try to respect your parents as long as it is possible for "you" and "your limits", but sometimes adults are jerks and they don?t consider that there is another ?being ?in the house that take "notes" from any situations and their actions "arrogants..?? "So, try to show yourself as "visible" to their eye's, not by dramatise the situation, but act wisely and thoughtfully to show your parents, that their attitude is not appreciated by you.

and ..
good luck again

ehh...."wise words from my mind..??....hmmmm" something is wrong.

hehe

I know that you are a "smart girl"...and i am not worried about your actions....🙂.
just let me me know the results of youe actions...🙂
Hugs and kisses
yours
Qbone

Oh boy, I hope you all read my big long response to all this that was up for a few days before the boards stopped working for a little while; it's gone and may never be back now. lol....just let me know if you didn't see it and I can try to rewrite it as best I can.