To See or not To See...

So which do you prefer??_

Sex in the dark?

or Sex in the light? 🙂

state sun/venus/mars please

Probably the dark... But not too dark ya know?

Aqua, that's all I got.

i like it with the lights on and i DO mind it if I can't see. seeing is massive a turn on.

cap/cap/aqua

I don't mind sex in the light but I feel like sex in the dark is so much more powerful, exciting and has a more natural flow. I think it helps me to detach from reality and just really enjoy my partner in this cocoon.

Not complete dark though, more candle light/moonlight.

oops venus/sun in gemini and mars in pisces

Posted by CreepyPants
i like it with the lights on and i DO mind it if I can't see. seeing is massive a turn on.

cap/cap/aqua

Really huh... What do you look at?

Lamps on. It's nice to be able to look into their eyes.

Cap/scorpio/aqua.

Posted by CreepyPants
i like it with the lights on and i DO mind it if I can't see. seeing is massive a turn on.

cap/cap/aqua

Yup, yup. Maybe it's an aqua mars thing.

Posted by truecap
Lamps on. It's nice to be able to look into their eyes.

Cap/scorpio/aqua.

Yeah, that's nice... Enough light for that!


If there up is too much light, I worry I will be turned off by something I see. I know, weird.

Scratch --up

No preference, although by moonlight or candles is nice.
Can/Gem/Can

In the dark. More passionate and more creative

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Posted by CreepyPants
i like it with the lights on and i DO mind it if I can't see. seeing is massive a turn on.

cap/cap/aqua

Really huh... What do you look at?

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the knots in the wood ceiling obviously 😛

jp 😄 his face and the action 😉. mostly his face cuz yum ...facial expressions of ecstasy

Sex in the light-- preferably daylight.
To me it's about engaging all the senses, and without the visual aspect it's just not sex 😛

Sun Leo/Venus Cancer/Mars Leo

Posted by aquapiscescusp
If there up is too much light, I worry I will be turned off by something I see. I know, weird.

Sounds like you have a hard time getting lost in the moment. Just relax and it rip! lol 😉

Posted by Sunshinedaze
I don't mind sex in the light but I feel like sex in the dark is so much more powerful, exciting and has a more natural flow. I think it helps me to detach from reality and just really enjoy my partner in this cocoon.

I'll co-sign this one. I love the intensity that's brought to all the other senses in pitch black, and there's also quite a bit to be said for groping everything until you figure out where you are. 😈

Virgo/Libra/Virgo

I prefer Darkness, maybe with a pinch of light beaming in from outside.

Sun Scorp/ Venus Scorp/ Mars Libra

Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by aquapiscescusp
If there up is too much light, I worry I will be turned off by something I see. I know, weird.

Sounds like you have a hard time getting lost in the moment. Just relax and it rip! lol 😉

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Lol omg maybe. God forbid I see something I don't like, it's over just like that. Then try explaining something grossed you out 😢

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Posted by CreepyPants
i like it with the lights on and i DO mind it if I can't see. seeing is massive a turn on.

cap/cap/aqua

Yup, yup. Maybe it's an aqua mars thing.

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i was wondering about that too. they do say aquarius is an exhibitionist placement lol ??_whoever ~they~ are

People have sex in total darkness—
Cap/Sag/Scorp

If I were high preferably in the light, sober it wouldn't matter

Dim light is my favorite.

but out of those 2 choices...the light it is.

virgo/cancer/aries

i can see why sex in the dark is preferable. no pun intended.

but really??_ you can't look into each others eyes if you can't see anything. eye contact is amazing.

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Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by aquapiscescusp
If there up is too much light, I worry I will be turned off by something I see. I know, weird.

Sounds like you have a hard time getting lost in the moment. Just relax and it rip! lol 😉

Lol omg maybe. God forbid I see something I don't like, it's over just like that. Then try explaining something grossed you out 😢

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An ex of mine would get freaked out about shit that accidentally poppes into her head during sex, such as relatives or gross people she's seen during the day... and I was like, who gives a fuck what accidentaly poppes up into my mind, it's just a free flow of thoughts. If it's inappropriate but I'm not turned on by it, it slips out of my mind just as quickly.

Of course if grandma accidentally popped into my mind and I found myself enjoying it... that would freak me out. But since I wouldn't enjoy it, I wouldn't even think of it twice.

So what are some of the things you'd get freaked out by seeing? Like, the guy wearing socks? 😛
I guess sex tapes are out of the question? lol

A virgo guy friend once told me that he quit seeing/sleeping with some poor chick because the faces she made in the sack were hysterical. i guess eventually it was a turn off?

we all have our quirks i guess.

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
If there up is too much light, I worry I will be turned off by something I see. I know, weird.

Sounds like you have a hard time getting lost in the moment. Just relax and it rip! lol 😉

Lol omg maybe. God forbid I see something I don't like, it's over just like that. Then try explaining something grossed you out 😢

An ex of mine would get freaked out about shit that accidentally poppes into her head during sex, such as relatives or gross people she's seen during the day... and I was like, who gives a fuck what accidentaly poppes up into my mind, it's just a free flow of thoughts. If it's inappropriate but I'm not turned on by it, it slips out of my mind just as quickly.

Of course if grandma accidentally popped into my mind and I found myself enjoying it... that would freak me out. But since I wouldn't enjoy it, I wouldn't even think of it twice.

So what are some of the things you'd get freaked out by seeing? Like, the guy wearing socks? 😛
I guess sex tapes are out of the question? lol

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Enfant, there was a Leo guy --years back -- he had everything I liked in a man. Everything was going great until that fateful day in that well lit bedroom. He was so into flexing his muscles (not that one) and checking himself out in the mirror, totally turned me off.

Sad day indeed. I broke that off shortly there after.

😄

Dim lighting kinda takes away the sass! It's not a Spanish soap opera, ladies. The emotional aspect, the merging of the souls or whatever you want to call it, qualifies as "dim lighting" to me. I don't need to dim the setting aswell. The physical aspect should be VULGAR, as god intended 😛

I love sex in the dark during thunderstorms though!

I can appreciate both.
And no, you can't make me pic one over the other.
🙂

Aquarius, Pisces, and... Pisces

Posted by aquapiscescusp
Enfant, there was a Leo guy --years back -- he had everything I liked in a man. Everything was going great until that fateful day in that well lit bedroom. He was so into flexing his muscles (not that one) and checking himself out in the mirror, totally turned me off.

Sad day indeed. I broke that off shortly there after.

😄

Riiight.... a Leo flexing his muscles in the mirror during coitus, yeah that didn't really happen 😛

Sure it wasn't a certain Cancer with Pisces moon? lmao

Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by aquapiscescusp
Enfant, there was a Leo guy --years back -- he had everything I liked in a man. Everything was going great until that fateful day in that well lit bedroom. He was so into flexing his muscles (not that one) and checking himself out in the mirror, totally turned me off.

Sad day indeed. I broke that off shortly there after.

😄

Riiight.... a Leo flexing his muscles in the mirror during coitus, yeah that didn't really happen 😛

Sure it wasn't a certain Cancer with Pisces moon? lmao

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No, definitely a Leo. See, has the lights been dimmer we would be married today. I still mourn that relationship, damn fool.

Hadddddd

So if THAT was the only thing standing in the way of marriage, then damn gurrl.... gotta hand it to you, you must be very superficial! lol

Dim or no lights.

Full lighting and especially daylight, all one's flaws are fully apparent. 😢

Posted by enfant_terrible
So if THAT was the only thing standing in the way of marriage, then damn gurrl.... gotta hand it to you, you must be very superficial! lol

How does that boil down to being superficial if its a turn off? Not gonna marry a guy who's not doing it for me.

C'mon now, not all Leos are the same... I hope. Are they?

I disagree that bright or even daylight heightens the senses. If anything it can be overwhelm calling attention away from the other senses. It seems as uncomfortable as music being too loud, or the temperature being too cold/hot. All things that can totally be overcome in the moment and matter not, but imo not exactly conducive to getting into the best state of mind.

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Posted by enfant_terrible
So if THAT was the only thing standing in the way of marriage, then damn gurrl.... gotta hand it to you, you must be very superficial! lol

How does that boil down to being superficial if its a turn off? Not gonna marry a guy who's not doing it for me.

C'mon now, not all Leos are the same... I hope. Are they?

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Well, I'm just working with the idea that EVERYONE has something their partner thinks is a turn-off, if not flexing the muscles in the mirror then it's those cheap-shots they recycle in every heated argument with you, etc.

I get the turn-off factor, I just don't get how something so insignificant can be the reason to break up with someone. Have you actually ever been with someone who didn't have a turn-off factor? Or is it that you have a strong aversion to people who are into themselves... even if they're into you? And inside you. 😄

Judging by my avi, you think I'm marriage material? 😆

Posted by SanchoMuyTerrible

Posted by munchkin
Dim or no lights.

Full lighting and especially daylight, all one's flaws are fully apparent. 😢

Yeah, and some men are fucking mean about it.

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I guess that's when you start pointing and laughing?

Posted by TMV

Posted by SanchoMuyTerrible

Dim or no lights.

Full lighting and especially daylight, all one's flaws are fully apparent. 😢

Yeah, and some men are fucking mean about it.

I guess that's when you start pointing and laughing?

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And if the guy's no laughing matter? What's a girl to do then? 😛

Kick him in the nuts...?!

Posted by enfant_terrible

And if the guy's no laughing matter? What's a girl to do then? 😛

Kick him in the nuts...?!

She could do that, sure. Or she could grab a can of hairspray and a Zippo lighter.

You know, whatever works. 😈

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Posted by enfant_terrible
So if THAT was the only thing standing in the way of marriage, then damn gurrl.... gotta hand it to you, you must be very superficial! lol

How does that boil down to being superficial if its a turn off? Not gonna marry a guy who's not doing it for me.

C'mon now, not all Leos are the same... I hope. Are they?

Well, I'm just working with the idea that EVERYONE has something their partner thinks is a turn-off, if not flexing the muscles in the mirror then it's those cheap-shots they recycle in every heated argument with you, etc.

I get the turn-off factor, I just don't get how something so insignificant can be the reason to break up with someone. Have you actually ever been with someone who didn't have a turn-off factor? Or is it that you have a strong aversion to people who are into themselves... even if they're into you? And inside you. 😄

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LOLOL

But I don't like show offs....

There's a lot to be said for both.

Dark - people are generally more uninhibited. There are also certain facial expressions or bodily movements that FEEL really good, but don't necessarily look so good...lol. If you're always in the light you can be overly conscious of what the other person is seeing, and start performing instead of being as fully immersed as you could be.

Light - especially with men being so visual, I think its essential that you get it on in some form of lighting from time to time. Alot of eye contact during sex also can enhance every aspect IMO - sexual, emotional, etc. It deepens the intimacy and causes a rise in a lot of the same chemicals that kissing, massage, and orgasms themselves do. Its also something that I've found couples need to practice, because if you don't really trust each other, accept each other, etc., its hard to maintain.

Ideal to me is candlelight or in front of a fireplace. Something about the amber tones are just intrinsically romantic. And it seems to make everyone look better - flaws are not as pronounced, the skin glows, etc.

Posted by enfant_terrible
Judging by my avi, you think I'm marriage material? 😆

Are you available?

sun cancer
venus cancer
mars taurus

LIGHT. i want to see his face when he's turned on, excited, did i mention TURNED ON. you know when it gets to that heavy breathing + kissing, i open my eyes just so i can see the face and have it engraved in my memory. DARKNESS is for cuddling

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Posted by enfant_terrible
Judging by my avi, you think I'm marriage material? 😆

Are you available?

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Depends. You believe in polyamory? 😛

Posted by tiziani
"those cheap-shots they recycle in every heated argument with you"

Lol guilty

Posted by clingyKarens
sun cancer
venus cancer
mars taurus

LIGHT. i want to see his face when he's turned on, excited, did i mention TURNED ON. you know when it gets to that heavy breathing + kissing, i open my eyes just so i can see the face and have it engraved in my memory. DARKNESS is for cuddling

++++++++^^^^^^^^^, now that's hot!

Oh sorry....
Gem/gem/gem...