when a man wont let you see his phone

He wants to see yours and you ask to see his and he refuses. He guards his phone like a hawk, takes.it into the bathroom when he goes. Turns it off when im over.

Claims we are in a relationship?

Im peeping game here.

Is this guy yanking my chain or nah?

Already trying to stuff your Gemini man into a genie bottle, are ya?

Lol.

Posted by RamOfPeace
Already trying to stuff your Gemini man into a genie bottle, are ya?

Lol.

Yes. But shouldnt there be transparency? I have no trouble with him looking at my phone.

I don't let anyone see my phone. It has work sensitive information on there.

Gotta safeguard those pict....ahem I mean files.

I don't let people see my phone. Mostly because of my stalk--I mean search history.

But I also don't ask to see theirs.

Posted by busyeyes88

Posted by KittenLaRouge
He wants to see yours and you ask to see his and he refuses. He guards his phone like a hawk, takes.it into the bathroom when he goes. Turns it off when im over.

Claims we are in a relationship?

Im peeping game here.

Is this guy yanking my chain or nah?

Red flag!!!

The taurus will have me in his flat with his ipad, his phone etc he will leave with me and will even let me find certain numbers on it for him if his hands are tied....

You have no right to be looking or sneaking a peak at each others phones etc as that is private imo but to take his phone everywhere... It's a red flag and a warning...

Is this the pisces?

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Gemini. Hes doing shady ish, imo.

Posted by Andalusia
I don't let people see my phone. Mostly because of my stalk--I mean search history.

But I also don't ask to see theirs.

DICK PIC COLLECTOR!

I mean yes, I need those spreadsheet sent to me now.

Posted by aquasnoz
I don't let anyone see my phone. It has work sensitive information on there.

Gotta safeguard those pict....ahem I mean files.

Ha! Pics eh?

All this looking at one's phone, asking questions like "what are we?" "where is this going?" and the like, are honestly from having too much free time and too many roaches in one's brain.

Why not enjoy the relationship in the present moment instead, rather than self-sabotage? Who cares who he texts, or even sends pictures to?

If he keeps communicating, calls/texts at his own will, seeks dates with you/looks forward to spending all sorts of times with you, then you got it made.

Don't fuck his brain. Or yours, for that matter.

Also, how did that cooking at his place end up? Did he at least tie you up doe?

Agreeing with busyeyes88. There should be mutual trust. You shouldn't have to prove that you're being faithful or whatever and neither should he. Personally, I couldn't tolerate the lack of trust and would leave.

Posted by busyeyes88
OP, blimey what happened to the pisces...

There is no need to be looking at each other's phones as I think it's private but to not leave his phone alone in your presence suggests he does not trust you or that he has something to hide...

I Can hand him my phone I have nothing to hide. He guards his like fort knox.

Posted by aquaaa0214
Agreeing with busyeyes88. There should be mutual trust. You shouldn't have to prove that you're being faithful or whatever and neither should he. Personally, I couldn't tolerate the lack of trust and would leave.

So you cant be transparent?

Posted by KittenLaRouge

Posted by aquasnoz
I don't let anyone see my phone. It has work sensitive information on there.

Gotta safeguard those pict....ahem I mean files.

Ha! Pics eh?

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I kid 😛 I usually dispose of all evidence.

Is the gem a business oriented person? I do safeguard my phone for work purposes, it's got very sensitive information on there.

Posted by aquaaa0214
Agreeing with busyeyes88. There should be mutual trust. You shouldn't have to prove that you're being faithful or whatever and neither should he. Personally, I couldn't tolerate the lack of trust and would leave.

She's been actually *seeing* the guy for less than a month, equal to the amount of time I've been seeing my Gem. Trust is built, not granted. 2-4 weeks is just scratching the surface. Paranoia isn't good imo. But if this is getting in the way already, then it's their own problem and it probably won't last that long.

Posted by RamOfPeace
Also, how did that cooking at his place end up? Did he at least tie you up doe?

Haha! The first date was great

Posted by KittenLaRouge

Posted by RamOfPeace
Also, how did that cooking at his place end up? Did he at least tie you up doe?

Haha! The first date was great

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Illuminate me 😛

Posted by RamOfPeace

Posted by aquaaa0214
Agreeing with busyeyes88. There should be mutual trust. You shouldn't have to prove that you're being faithful or whatever and neither should he. Personally, I couldn't tolerate the lack of trust and would leave.

She's been actually *seeing* the guy for less than a month, equal to the amount of time I've been seeing my Gem. Trust is built, not granted. 2-4 weeks is just scratching the surface. Paranoia isn't good imo. But if this is getting in the way already, then it's their own problem and it probably won't last that long.

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So what? I can hand him.my phone. Nothing to hide.

Posted by KittenLaRouge

Posted by RamOfPeace

Posted by aquaaa0214
Agreeing with busyeyes88. There should be mutual trust. You shouldn't have to prove that you're being faithful or whatever and neither should he. Personally, I couldn't tolerate the lack of trust and would leave.

She's been actually *seeing* the guy for less than a month, equal to the amount of time I've been seeing my Gem. Trust is built, not granted. 2-4 weeks is just scratching the surface. Paranoia isn't good imo. But if this is getting in the way already, then it's their own problem and it probably won't last that long.

So what? I can hand him.my phone. Nothing to hide.

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Eeeh just seems like extra headache to me. Checking phones, all these supposedly aerious talks over nothing that is actually important. But I'm not you, so do as you please. Lol

Posted by aquasnoz

Posted by KittenLaRouge

Posted by aquasnoz
I don't let anyone see my phone. It has work sensitive information on there.

Gotta safeguard those pict....ahem I mean files.

Ha! Pics eh?

I kid 😛 I usually dispose of all evidence.

Is the gem a business oriented person? I do safeguard my phone for work purposes, it's got very sensitive information on there.

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No, unless hes a drug dealer

Posted by aquasnoz

Posted by Andalusia
I don't let people see my phone. Mostly because of my stalk--I mean search history.

But I also don't ask to see theirs.

DICK PIC COLLECTOR!

I mean yes, I need those spreadsheet sent to me now.

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Also, the timing of our two comments.

/dead

Posted by aquasnoz

Posted by Andalusia
I don't let people see my phone. Mostly because of my stalk--I mean search history.

But I also don't ask to see theirs.

DICK PIC COLLECTOR!

I mean yes, I need those spreadsheet sent to me now.

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Also, the timing of our two comments.

/dead

He's hiding something it's obvious.

Posted by thinktoomuch
If HE askes YOU to see YOUR phone, then why not just ask him, why you can´t see his then? Talk to the boy!
If you just hand him your phone and then ask to see his and he denies you, then that´s an entirely different story.

After a month and you already think like this, I´d say you´re not really gonna work out...

this is exactly what happened he asked for the code to my phone, i handed it to him and said here, it doesnt have a code you can just see it i have nothing to hide. i said can i see yours he said no i said why, he said dont ask me again and wouldnt let the phone out of his sight. even took it into the bathroom.

Posted by frostey91
He's hiding something it's obvious.

thank you

Posted by busyeyes88

Posted by KittenLaRouge

Posted by busyeyes88
OP, blimey what happened to the pisces...

There is no need to be looking at each other's phones as I think it's private but to not leave his phone alone in your presence suggests he does not trust you or that he has something to hide...

I Can hand him my phone I have nothing to hide. He guards his like fort knox.

My point is, it is not necessary to hand him your phone unless he needs.to use it... I gave my phone to my Taurus the other day as he needed to use one as his was occupied and I had no hesitation handing it to him....

People do not need to be checking on each other... A person's phone ipad laptop computer etc imo is private. I would not touch. But it is obvious there is no trust here.. How long have you been in a relationship?

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i need transparency in a relationship

Posted by cuteboy

Posted by KittenLaRouge
He wants to see yours and you ask to see his and he refuses. He guards his phone like a hawk, takes.it into the bathroom when he goes. Turns it off when im over.

Claims we are in a relationship?

Im peeping game here.

Is this guy yanking my chain or nah?

maybe he's private and don't want to share what he has on his phone to anybody be it lover, spouse or just a friend. quite honestly i don't blame him. i sure as hell don't want no one looking into my phone. and i don't even ask my fiance to let me see her phone because what she has on it is none of my business.

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It has to be both ways though. Either they both can see it or neither. Honestly it's too early for this shit anyway. They have only been dating for like a week or so...

I dont care. If a man gonna cheat, gonna cheat.

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Posted by thinktoomuch
If HE askes YOU to see YOUR phone, then why not just ask him, why you can´t see his then? Talk to the boy!
If you just hand him your phone and then ask to see his and he denies you, then that´s an entirely different story.

After a month and you already think like this, I´d say you´re not really gonna work out...

this is exactly what happened he asked for the code to my phone, i handed it to him and said here, it doesnt have a code you can just see it i have nothing to hide. i said can i see yours he said no i said why, he said dont ask me again and wouldnt let the phone out of his sight. even took it into the bathroom.

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Two way street.

He's cheating. Period. Make it work or move on. Sorry.

Posted by Koniucha
Maybe he likes to play games on his phone while he sits on the toilet? Make the time go by faster

A very optimistic thought by nah

Posted by Koniucha
Maybe he likes to play games on his phone while he sits on the toilet? Make the time go by faster

So cute :3

Posted by Magenta_Azure
He's cheating. Period. Make it work or move on. Sorry.

He is deceiving they haven't even been together long enough to cheat. He's decieving...

I knee this was a going to be a disaster from the jump...

Posted by frostey91

Posted by cuteboy

Posted by KittenLaRouge
He wants to see yours and you ask to see his and he refuses. He guards his phone like a hawk, takes.it into the bathroom when he goes. Turns it off when im over.

Claims we are in a relationship?

Im peeping game here.

Is this guy yanking my chain or nah?

maybe he's private and don't want to share what he has on his phone to anybody be it lover, spouse or just a friend. quite honestly i don't blame him. i sure as hell don't want no one looking into my phone. and i don't even ask my fiance to let me see her phone because what she has on it is none of my business.

It has to be both ways though. Either they both can see it or neither. Honestly it's too early for this shit anyway. They have only been dating for like a week or so...

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I handed him my phone I have nothing to hide

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Posted by KittenLaRouge
He wants to see yours and you ask to see his and he refuses. He guards his phone like a hawk, takes.it into the bathroom when he goes. Turns it off when im over.

Claims we are in a relationship?

Im peeping game here.

Ils this guy yanking my chain or nah?

sounds like a scorpio man...
although if I had asked he would of shown me, but I just never did & didn't care that went threw mine..

some people are just more private and guarded then others and may not have anything to hide...just the principle but I see your point completely about him looking at yours...

insecurities...

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He turns it off when im there and takes it into the bathroom

I know Kitten I'm on your side. However did you ask to see his phone and how long after you have been dating?

Posted by candyclouds
I would give him 3 months to decide whether you really like him, he really likes you and whether this is going to be a serious official relationship.(it actually takes 6 months or a year to know him better, but at least for now)

Then I would tell talk with him if he also thinks you should be official etc. AND I would tell him what I understand from a serious relationship:

Transparency
Being exclusive- no sending or receiving pics from other people even if only from internet
Telling flings from the past that You have a bf /gf if they message you and ask for pics or call or meeting..

the list can go on. You need to talk about it all. But after about 3 months.

He said were in a relstionship

Posted by Koniucha

Posted by frostey91

Posted by Koniucha
Maybe he likes to play games on his phone while he sits on the toilet? Make the time go by faster

A very optimistic thought by nah

I was being sarcastic.

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😄

Posted by frostey91
I know Kitten I'm on your side. However did you ask to see his phone and how long after you have been dating?

3 weeks. He said let me see your phone I handed it to him, I said let me see yours he said no. I said I think your texting othrr females. He said, prove it

Posted by JDrake
KLR said that he wanted to see her phone, she let him, but when she asked him to reciprocate, he refused.

The issue here is not "when" or "whether" this should happen, it's whether there should be reciprocity in this scenario. The answer to that is "yes."

He pulled a fast move on her and took advantage of her. I don't blame her for being pissed.

KLR, this guy is trouble with a capital "T." Initiate immediate DUMP protocol!

Thank you. This is Exactly what im thinking as well. Dude is running game.

Posted by Koniucha

Posted by aquasnoz

Posted by Koniucha

Posted by frostey91

Posted by Koniucha
Maybe he likes to play games on his phone while he sits on the toilet? Make the time go by faster

A very optimistic thought by nah

I was being sarcastic.

😄

I thought it was pretty obvious 😛

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I knew you were playing devil's advocate...That was obvious. I was just shutting it down because OP is right.

There is not much we can do for the Kitten

KittenLaRouge slow down...Just slow down

Don't be so transparent with a man that is not being transparent with you. It must be mutual because if it's not mutual naturally you're going to feel suspicious if it's one sided.

You've demonstrated you're already ALL IN by giving up your phone without blinking and that can make some men feel like pulling back which has a tendency to make a woman feel paranoid, afraid and clingy.

He's guarding his privacy fiercely like a lot of single men do.

Next time don't be so quick to offer up your phone even if you don't have anything to hide unless and I mean unless he's offered to give you the same mutual access to his phone.

He could be hiding something for sure. It's early situation and I'm sure he has not rid himself of all his old contacts just yet, that will come much later as things get more serious.

He could have just been testing to see if you're more into him than he's into you by pushing boundaries. Women that are more into a man will give up their freedom easily and shirk her own boundaries just to show a man she's available, this behavior can help you or hurt you depending on his real intentions to date you seriously or not.

I would suggest being a little bit more stingy with your personal life until a man can demonstrate he's in it for the long haul, right now it's way too early to tell if this is going to be a long term or short term situation.

So for now leave the phone issue alone. Put a code on your phone and before eagerly handing over your personal private information including access to phones, ipads etc make sure it's a mutual situation where you're both sharing or you'll find yourself in these same situations going forward with him or any man.

Posted by frostey91

Posted by Koniucha

Posted by aquasnoz

Posted by Koniucha

Posted by frostey91

Posted by Koniucha
Maybe he likes to play games on his phone while he sits on the toilet? Make the time go by faster

A very optimistic thought by nah

I was being sarcastic.

😄

I thought it was pretty obvious 😛

I knew you were playing devil's advocate...That was obvious. I was just shutting it down because OP is right.

There is not much we can do for the Kitten

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Would u letba girl see your phone

Posted by KittenLaRouge

Posted by JDrake
KLR said that he wanted to see her phone, she let him, but when she asked him to reciprocate, he refused.

The issue here is not "when" or "whether" this should happen, it's whether there should be reciprocity in this scenario. The answer to that is "yes."

He pulled a fast move on her and took advantage of her. I don't blame her for being pissed.

KLR, this guy is trouble with a capital "T." Initiate immediate DUMP protocol!

Thank you. This is Exactly what im thinking as well. Dude is running game.

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He is not worth it.

It sucks yall work together.

Sketchy cannot be one sided.

I would chuck up the deuces now.

I have nothing to hide...

Posted by frostey91

Posted by KittenLaRouge

Posted by JDrake
KLR said that he wanted to see her phone, she let him, but when she asked him to reciprocate, he refused.

The issue here is not "when" or "whether" this should happen, it's whether there should be reciprocity in this scenario. The answer to that is "yes."

He pulled a fast move on her and took advantage of her. I don't blame her for being pissed.

KLR, this guy is trouble with a capital "T." Initiate immediate DUMP protocol!

Thank you. This is Exactly what im thinking as well. Dude is running game.

He is not worth it.

It sucks yall work together.

Sketchy cannot be one sided.

I would chuck up the deuces now.

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+ 100

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Posted by thinktoomuch
Could be he has pics, he doesn´t want you to see, but they could just be pics.

This. or dirty freaky type videos he don't want her to see. heck i got shit like that on my phone in case i get in a horny mood 😛.

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I wouldnt get mad at that

Posted by KittenLaRouge

Posted by frostey91
I know Kitten I'm on your side. However did you ask to see his phone and how long after you have been dating?

3 weeks. He said let me see your phone I handed it to him, I said let me see yours he said no. I said I think your texting othrr females. He said, prove it

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Yeah... HUGE red flag.

Prove it? Fuck you buddy. Why the hell even say that? Course you can't "prove it" because mofo won't let you see his phone.

I agree with others. If he was flying straight and true he wouldn't (shouldn't) mind, imo.

I would say mirror him (my Scorpio Moon demands it!). Pull back and see what he does. He says you'll NEVER use/see his phone? Well don't EVER show him yours.

You say you need transparency in a relationship. I can relate to his. If it is truly a relationship need then you should move on to someone else who respects or also has that need.

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Posted by frostey91
I know Kitten I'm on your side. However did you ask to see his phone and how long after you have been dating?

3 weeks. He said let me see your phone I handed it to him, I said let me see yours he said no. I said I think your texting othrr females. He said, prove it

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He said prove it, huh. Do yourself a favour and drop him, he's a control freak and that whole "prove it" thing is emotional abuse. It's not going to get better, these things only get worse.

Posted by DMV
I dont care. If a man gonna cheat, gonna cheat.

I agree, if that's what they want to do, they'll find a way.

Besides, things can be easily erased beforehand.