Virgo Moons - What r u like in relationships?

Hey Virgo Moons. Just curious to what you're like in a relationship?

Bump.

Come on, surely someone will share!

I tend to get very quiet around the person I am interested in. I really want to know all I can about them, and I make a real effort to dig into their thoughts, ideas, and past.

Usually I am mostly flippant and unconcerned about such things, you see. But Ye Olde shields come down, and I tune in as closely as I can. Leaves me quite vulnerable, which is not my natural state.

Okay. When you're really into someone, how are you? How do you show it? When you are in love how do you show it? Will you ever say it? What turns you on? Etc, etc, etc.

Hey there--I am a pisces sun, cancer rising and virgo moon. When I initially like someone, I agree with what was said earlier, I can get very quiet around them. That is at first, when I do not really know them, so I am cautious. I also tend to be a bit insecure, so I like to feel the other person out to see if they are "feeling" me too. If I think someone is not into me, I will remain detached and cool. But, if that person gives me something to work with, then I def open up and become less and less worried. When I am in love I am 100% devoted to that person and I will show my affection in all kinds of ways; small gifts, cards, cleaning their place, hidden surprises. And yes, if I say I love you, then you should believe it. I am steadfast and loyal, sometimes to a fault.

further, I am very verbal/mental, meaning conversation is super important to me. I notice ALL details. I need to be stimulated mentally just as much as physically and emotionally. If I am attracted to someone but start talking to them and find that there is no "mental" chemistry or no "meeting of the minds" then I usually back away pretty quickly. In addition, if I am interested in someone, if they text me I will always text them back that day and if they call me I will always return their calls.

Thank you! I appreciate your response.

i"m an aries pisces cups with a virgo moon. If I"m really into someone, I will be shy. I will let you know in subtle ways I like you but unless I see some kind of sign from you that you are interseted, I will back off quickly. I tend to analyze everything. I remember everything you tell me and hear it again when I am in the quiet of my own mind. Like another poster said, the mental connection HAS to be there. I'm a very deep person and I need someone who wants to dig..with me.

Okay. Now, how about the exclusive and intimate stages of a relationship?

And if someone, say after how many months (you tell me) asks you to tell them how you feel, how would you feel about that?

(we've been 9 months, btw. He used to say stuff like "you're sweet, glad we met up" and "I'm quite fond of you" etc. but not as much anymore. On the other end of what yall are saying, I feel the emotion and see the actions).

I liked being able to tell that someone I truly loved, that I truly loved them. It wasn't something I would say casually,however. When I would say it, I really wanted it to have meaning and feeling behind it.

I am Aries, and have the notorious Aries trait of doing whatever I damn well please, whenever I damn well please. If I hurt your feelings, well, gee, I really probably didn't mean to, but oh well. You can suggest that I do something, but if you "order" me to do something, expect a tooth and nail fight. Well, that is unless you are "The One and Only!" If this is the case, I tend to arrange myself around you. I may not really want to, but you can expect that I will change my plans to fit yours. I also tend to worry a great deal about hurting your feelings. To hurt you, is to hurt myself. Not something I want to do at all. And, most amazing of all, if you tell me "Get Thee Hence!" you are doggone right I am going to be there.

Now, I may not be really happy with you ordering me around, changing my plans, and you being "oversensitive," but I will pull myself back, and do whatever I think it will take to make you happy.

I may also be very hurt by you, in fact, I expect off and on you will hurt me rather badly. I can be way sensitive, you see, though most people will never know. But, I am also hugely forgiving. Too forgiving actually. You will pretty much "win" all the arguments, no matter how lacerated your leave me.

Bottom line, "The One and Only!" pretty much becomes the focus of my entire world. And please remember the point that others here have made. I will notice EVERTHING!!! You change your hair, I will notice. I may or may not mention it, but I will notice. You start leaving your keys over here rather than over there, I will notice. I will analyze, re-analyze, and the over-analyze everything. The only way to handle this is by being open and honest with me. You can't hide when something is different, or wrong. Secrets will only serve to make me unhappy.

In reading back through all this, I sound a bit creepy, don't I....

No, not creepy at all! It's very sweet and helps a lot!!!!

I've noticed he's mentioned things that I said I wanted to do or things that I told him. I might had said something three months ago and I didn't think he was really listening at the time.

I know Virgo moon people freak out REALLY easily and are kind of control freaks if things don't go as they planned. They can be fussy and perfectionist, as expected

What would make a virgo moon move forward?
What would make a virgo moon back away?

What would allow me to move forward toward a real relationship would be having my feelings reciprocated. As I mentioned, I will become very vulnerable. If I feel that you aren't going to stomp my heart, then we move forward.

I will also become more open with you about my true feelings. I was married to the same person for 30 years. More than once she would comment that people I/we knew causally thought I was so much "fun." She wanted to know why I wasn't so much fun around her. As I told her, I wasn't going to lie to her. I said that she got to see the real me, not the "facade" that I put on for people who I was not that close to. If you start to see a person very different than say a co-worker sees, you are probably getting close to the real me.


What pushed me away was simply being mean spirited and treating me without any respect. She stopped concerning herself with my feelings. My take on the situation was that I was "the live in handyman who happened to be allowed to pay the mortgage." She never cheated, or was outright hateful, rather she became totally unconcerned about my feelings and what I wanted. Basically, the vacuuming became more important than I. I endured a lot of neglect for a long time, but in the end, my most deep and sensitive self simply was either going to be destroyed or I was going to leave. I left.

Understandable and I don't blame you. I'm sure it was devastating. Thanks for being so open.

I think Virgo moons are sweet people, just a basic kindness so them.

Basic kindness and respect, that is all we really desire.

Well, that a regular "snuggling," if you get my drift....

I've never asked him how he feels about me. He's an aqua sun, virgo moon, cap venus and pisces mars.

I see the actions, feel the emotion, see the look in his eye. He contacts me often, spends a lot of quality time with me. He has us in a relationship on facebook. Takes me to family gatherings, went to my family reunion. I know he cares. He's told me. I know he's happy with us - he has said so. He's just never told me he loves me.

I am wondering how he would feel about me saying it first. Well, I did. I was a little buzzed on new years eve (not drunk), right after the NYE kiss, I whispered in his ear that I loved him. He didn't say it back, but gave me another kiss. Since then (yes it's only been a few days), but, I feel a total shift to the better in our relationship. MORE quality time thus far. At least I didn't scare him away.

Plus, we're older and we both have baggage from previous marriages. Love isn't a word to be tossed around carelessly. Because of our baggage, I think we're both more cautious and leery.

Well, you told him that you loved him, and that didn't freak him out. The only thing I can do is guess at what he is thinking. I am guessing he is debating with himself if you are "The One!" That can take just a bit of time.

His behavior seems very positive. Doing all those family things is a really positive thing. As I have mentioned, finding out all about you is something I would be doing. Also, previewing you to my family is also be an important step.

Thanks for responding!

I didn't plan to say it, it just popped out. Alcohol = no filter! lol! Ah well, it's out there now. He's spent everyday with me since then and even bought me something big I needed (used) and fixed it so I could use it! Sounds all positive!

I read that Virgo moons will appreciate someone who doesn't demand that they tell them how they feel. I'm trying to respect that. Plus with the Aqua sun, he's probably not going to be saying stuff like that until he is straight up positive.

I agree with your thought process, dofacc. I think he's weighing it out and still not quite sure. No rush from me!

Say What?!?!?!!? He SPENT MONEY! on something PRACTICAL?!?!?!? Lady, he has decided, and you are IT!!!!


And hey, if you can get whatever it is used, and fix it up, well now we are talking. After all, we are talking Virgo here, and there is certainly no reason to get all Moon Eyed (yuck, yuck, yuck) about the whole thing.
Oh wait, he probably is all Moon Eyed, in reality.

An example from my personal experience. My scorp is a neat freak. That is one of the reasons we split, cause "slob" really is a kind way of describing me.

So, one time I bought her one of those Roomba automatic floor sweepers. She was pretty nonplussed. Then I pointed out to her that what I had really given her was "time," cause that stupid thing would be doing at least some of the vacuuming for her. Ah, yes, I do remember those scorp stares well, and I got one there.

Course, I was lying to myself. While she did use the Roomba, it simply let her polish the door knobs more, instead of me as I had hoped.

And oh yeah, the time factor here speaks volumes to me also. For an "Independent" sort, I sure like being around my lady.

I'm a Cap and practical is a GOOD thing! And something used you can fix = saving money which is an even BETTER thing!!! Needless to say, I was quite impressed and quite happy!

Dofacc, thank you for your comments. It is very reassuring to hear your thoughts on everything.

Too bad your wife didn't polish you more than the door knobs! 😢
Sounds like you're a guy worthy of that kind of special attention! And for the record, anything that saves me time is a big plus!!