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10 Things That Happen When You’re An Intuitive In A Family Of Sensors

The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator identifies two main modes of perceiving information. The first mode involves focusing on the tangible, concrete stimulus in a given situation: This is called sensing, and people who prefer this mode are known as sensors (represented by the letter S). The second way of perceiving the world involves focusing on the intangibles – identifying what is not apparent in the physical environment and connecting abstract ideas. This is known as intuition, and those who use it are referred to as intuitives (represented by the letter N).

Sensors make up the majority of the population – and they ought to. Sensors are the reason our world is not falling apart at the seams. But because of the population imbalance, it is entirely common for a young intuitive to find themselves growing up in a family of sensors. And no matter how lovely, devoted or keenly intelligent all parties are, sensors and intuitives speak two different languages. Here are a few struggles that arise when an intuitive (particularly someone who uses intuition as their dominant function – namely ENTPs, ENFPs, INTJs and INFJs) grows up in a family of sensors.

1. Whenever you asked “Why” as a kid, you got a completely different answer than what you were expecting.

When you asked “Why is the boy on TV sad” you already knew it was because someone kicked him. What you really wanted to know is why bad things happen to good people and whether or not there’s a karmic balance to the Universe. Unfortunately it’s difficult to phrase those questions when you are four.

2. So. Much. Family. Gossip.

It’s not that you don’t want to know about what’s going on with your family. It’s just that you want to know different parts of what’s going on with your family. “Your cousin Sally started working at the nursery!” Is not of great interest to you. What are Sally’s aspirations? Where does she see herself in ten years? What is it about human nature that compels us to nurture our young with a sense of unending compassion? These seem to be more relevant questions. But we’re already onto your cousin Kelly, who is dating someone new.

3. What you are doing will always be of infinitely greater interest to your family than what you are thinking.

When your parents call, they want to know three things: Are you keeping warm, are you making enough money to remain alive and have you eaten any vegetables this week? What’s on your mind is not important. It can be frustrating at times but you have to admit… you do occasionally forget to eat your veggies.

4. In order to be taken seriously, you have to show rather than tell.

Sensors place more weight on what you do than what you talk about. So if you want your family to appreciate your interest in science, you’re going to have to first achieve distinction from an accredited University and publish several wildly successful scientific papers. Then – and only then – will your family give weight to what you have to say about the scientific theory you’ve had the same opinion on for years.

5. Your definition of ‘family bonding’ is wildly different than your family’s definition.

Your definition of ‘bonding time’ involves sharing ideas, discussing theories and coming to deeply understand each other’s core motivations and beliefs. Your family’s definition of ‘bonding time’ is going ice-skating together. Tomato, tomato.

6. Trying to discuss your feelings is a stressful experience for everyone.

For sensors, feelings are a matter of cause-and-effect. If you can’t relate a particular feeling you’re having to a specific, tangible experience that necessitated it, your family has a tough time understanding why you’re feeling the way you are. The good news is, feelings are often related to specific, tangible events. And it may just take a conversation with a sensor to make you realize that your problem isn’t quite as complex as you thought it was.

7. If you’re not doing something physical, it’s assumed you’re doing nothing.

Reading up on a topic that you’re interested in is considered ‘doing nothing’ with your day. Going to soccer practice is considered doing something. Go figure.

8. You genuinely question your own sanity at times.

Because they’re highly in tune with their environments (at least compared to intuitives), sensors usually come off as significantly more levelheaded than intuitives. Intuitives spend their time wrapped up in the world of thoughts and possibilities – and can subsequently work themselves into mind funks that sensors just cannot… well, make sense of. When an intuitive spends enough time around non-intuitives, it becomes incredibly easy to start questioning their own sanity. After all, nobody else seems to be troubled by the sort of theoretical problems that keep you awake at night. Is something deeply wrong with you?

9. You relate so hard to “Calvin” in Calvin & Hobbes it hurts.

Our favorite little ENTP comic-book character offers the perfect depiction of what it’s like to be an N-dominant child growing up in a family of sensors. No wonder he had to imagine himself an intuitive tiger friend. We all could have used a little Hobbes growing up.

10. At the end of the day, you have to admit that you couldn’t have done it without them.


If there’s anything we can all agree on, it’s that the world needs a mix of both sensors and intuitives. And in your case, sensors are the reason you’re the person you are today – they made sure you were fed, clothed, well-rested and cared for in a way that does not come naturally to you. And it’s hard to complain about that.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/05/10-struggles-of-being-an-intuitive-in-a-family-of-sensors/

Lots of good stuff here Nata 🙂

7. If you’re not doing something physical, it’s assumed you’re doing nothing.

Reading up on a topic that you’re interested in is considered ‘doing nothing’ with your day. Going to soccer practice is considered doing something. Go figure.



Yes.

Ugh.


*validated*


Thanks, Damny. 🙂

10 Things I Wish I Could Tell My Younger ENFP Self

1. YOU ARE NOT CRAZY.

Yes you have half the attention span and double the mood swings of everyone else you know – but these are both simply quirks of your personality that you’ll learn to manage with time. It’s also a product of being surrounded by people who perceive the world using an entirely different set of cognitive functions than you do – once you start meeting likeminded people and working at something you love, your moods will even out and your attention span will magically spring into existence. Funny how that works!

2. There are other people out there who feel things as strongly as you do.

The intense passion that you bring to everything you love is not unique to you. There are millions of people out there who experience the world with all of the depth, intensity and passion that you do. It’s just that very few of them live in your hometown. Don’t worry! You’re not alone!

3. The things you perceive to be your weaknesses will end up being your greatest strengths.

Your stubbornness, your restlessness and your tendency toward over-analysis are going to take you further in life than you could ever imagine. There is no sense in trying to tone down who you are. Be the strange, emotional, fiercely independent person that you are and learn from every waking second of it.

4. You’re not going to be this indecisive forever.

Your main function is a perceptive function, which means that in your younger years you’re going to just want to EXPLORE. DISCOVER. ADVENTURE. And you’re never going to want it to stop.

As you grow up, your decision-making functions (introverted feeling and extroverted thinking) are going to mature and suddenly you’re going to be this person who is capable of making decisions (I know. What?!). It’s going to be awesome. Until then, just enjoy the chaos. It’s a lot less stressful when you realize it’s not going to last forever.

5. To attract people who are like you, you have to act like you.

There are so many other intuitives out there who think along the same lines as you do – but you’re never going to meet them if you’re spending all your time trying to act like something you’re not to fit in with the sensors. Be your loud, speculative, adventurous self – that’s precisely how you’re going to attract the people you want to be around.

6. Ignore every person who ever tells you “You can’t.”

What they really mean is “I can’t.” You’re an ENFP. Everything you want in life, you’re going to make sure you get, because you don’t mind going the extra mile. And you’ll be surprised at how under-crowded that extra mile is.

7. University is not the only way to get an education, nor is it the sole measure of intelligence.

When you do go to school, you’ll learn more from late-night talks with your classmates than you will in any lecture hall. You learn through doing, through debating, through experiencing and through reflecting. So don’t stress too much about memorizing the textbook – your ability to think on your feet is going to take you much further than your GPA ever will.

8. You don’t know as much about other people as you think you do.

You are quick to jump to conclusions about others and it’s going to get you into hot water more than once. Remember that introverted feeling is based on your own experiences – and those don’t always relate to others’ experiences. Listen a little more, assume a little less. You have infinitely more to learn from other people than you think you do.

9. Do more of what you love and less of what you think you should do.

Disinterest is your kryptonite. You are 100% guaranteed to be bad at anything you try to do that doesn’t interest you and the easy solution to this is to simply not do it. You CAN make a career out of traveling, out of freelancing; out of whatever passion you happen to be invested in. You’re just going to have to think outside the box to get there –luckily, that is your strong suit.
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10. So many things about yourself are going to change but the core things never will.

90% of your interests are fleeting – and that’s okay! It’s good to know a little bit about a lot of things. The 10% of your interests that aren’t fleeting are pervasive as hell – and you already know what those are. Stay true to your morals, true to your passions, true to your inclinations and true to yourself. You already know who you are. Now it’s just a matter of what you’re going to do about it.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/05/10-things-i-wish-i-could-tell-my-younger-enfp-self/

Here’s Which Friends Character You Are Based On Your Myers-Briggs Personality Type

ENFP – You are Phoebe Buffay



Zany, creative and full of new ideas, Phoebe Buffay plays an exaggerated version of the classic ENFP. No speculation is too out-there for this unconventional character who lets her extroverted intuition run wild when it comes to evaluating her career and romance options. When she needs to make a decision, Phoebe uses a strong set of internal morals to govern her. She is a classic ENFP – if her song lyrics won’t convince you, her outlandish actions will.

ENTP – You are Chandler Bing



Though he flips between displaying introverted and extroverted characteristics, Chandler’s extroverted intuition is indubitably his lead function – his quick wit is his most defining trait. Of all the characters on the show, Chandler is always the first to pick up on what’s being left unsaid – and then he rushes to rectify the situation, regardless of how inappropriate his comment may be. Classic ENTP.

ESFP – You are Rachel Green and/or Joey Tribbiani

With two such fantastic ESFP characters, how could we ever choose between them?



Rachel embodies a realistic, well-developed ESFP character who plays on her strengths. She uses extroverted sensing to establish a successful career in the fashion industry and introverted feeling to nurture deep, caring relationships with those around her. She is the ESFP we all wish we had in our lives – spontaneous, enthusiastic and funny yet also responsible, driven and grounded. Rachel embodies an excellent depiction of a mature ESFP.



Joey Tribbiani, everyone’s favourite ladies man, plays a childlike caricature of the ESFP. Highly impulsive and emotional, Joey’s inferior functions never get developed and he remains eternally dependent on the other characters to take care of him. Being the charming ESFP that he is though, nobody minds. After all, he’s just so endearing.

ESTJ – You are Monica Geller



Opinionated, high-strung and perfectionistic, Monica is a classic ESTJ. She is sure of what she wants and moves confidently toward her goals in any situation. She feeds off the energy of others but also believes that everything and everyone has its proper place – making her just a wee bit bossy. If her cleaning habits don’t convince you of her personality type, her attitude as a chef certainly will.

ISTJ – You are Ross Geller



Focused, detail-oriented and just a little bit irritable, Ross displays undeniable ISTJ characteristics. Though the nature of the show focuses mainly on his feelings, Ross is a thinker at heart. He is drawn to intellectual pursuits and derives energy through his inner world of thoughts and, well, dinosaurs. His never-ending quest for the security of marriage is a classic SJ trait – ISTJs in particular want to get their lives settled down and in order as quickly as they possibly can.

ESFJ – You are Janice



Despite her undeniably irritating catchphrase (and voice in general), Janice played a surprisingly mature character. She cares deeply for the people around her and remains loyal to a fault to her loved ones. She wants nothing more than for the people around her to be happy and well taken care of. Janice was a well-developed ESFJ character who didn’t deserve the bad reputation that she got.

ISTP – You are Jack Geller



Jack Geller has to be the most hilariously underrated character on the show. Frank, quirky and pervasively aloof, he plays a typical ISTP. He sees things as they are – nothing more, nothing less. A typical perceiver, he lets his wife make most of the important decisions while he simply comes along for the ride – and provides unassumingly hilarious commentary.

ISFP – You are Tag



Sweet, goofy and all-around loveable, Tag played a (well, slightly under-developed) ISFP. His first function – introverted feeling – clearly governed his decisions, as he didn’t let the rules stop him from dating his boss. His extroverted sensing was expressed through his goofy, fun-loving nature that kept him scooting through life by the seat of his pants.

ENFJ – You are Kathy



Expressive, intuitive and nurturing, Kathy displayed every quality of a confident ENFJ. Though her romantic indiscretion may have been a wee bit out of character, her chemistry with Chandler was undeniable. Her reactive extroverted feeling ran her life and her introverted intuition sometimes took a bit of time to catch up – nonetheless she played an ENFJ character to a T – or should we say, to an F.

INTP – You are David



The brilliant yet hopelessly awkward scientist who left Phoebe to move to Minsk – who could forget David? His introverted thinking kept him thoroughly invested in his research, while his extroverted intuition was responsible for the hilarious one-liners he consistently doled out. David was indecisive, speculative and wholly invested in his work – all classic INTP traits.

ESTP – You are Mike Hannigan



Goofy, unpredictable and tolerant of Phoebe’s many quirks, Mike displayed various characteristics of the easy-going ESTP. He showed confidence in his physical pursuits (a single game of ping-pong was enough to make us aware of his competitive nature), an open-minded attitude, and he was quick to act on his decisions – once he finally got around to making them. Mike was a textbook ESTP and like most ESTPs, it was difficult not to love him.

INFJ – You are Carol



Though she was caring by nature, Carol was definitely a feeler second and an intuitive first. She took time to realize her feelings for Susan – she needed a same-sex encounter to actually happen before she was able to come to terms with her own sexual orientation. After that point, Carol’s inability to keep living a lie was a classic INFJ move. She remained true to herself, but showed Ross compassion along the way. Despite not seeing a lot of Carol throughout the show, her calm, pensive vibe was a dead INFJ giveaway.

INFP – You are Paul Stevens



Okay, we may be reaching a bit here – Friends was severely lacking in INFP characters. The closest appropriation we got was Bruce Willis’s fantastic portrayal of Paul, the no-nonsense father of Ross’s young flame Elizabeth. As the series unfolded, we saw a much softer side to Paul – one that revealed a rich inner emotional world. One so rich, in fact, that Rachel had to break up with him for his overly-emotional tendencies. But hey, he was a neat guy. And his self-pep-talk was a hilarious display of introverted feeling.

ENTJ – You are Pete Becker



Successful, organized and goal oriented to a fault, Pete was the perfect example of a fully-thriving ENTJ. He latched quickly onto new challenges regardless of what they entailed – from starting a multi-million dollar company to becoming the Ultimate Fighting Champion. Determined, personable and successful, Pete was an ENTJ through and through.

INTJ – You are Charlie Wheeler



Decisive, self-assured and tirelessly intellectual, Charlie was a textbook INTJ. She allowed research to rule her life and was attracted to intelligence in a partner above all else. Her under-developed introverted feeling was clear in the way she hopped from partner to partner without concern for their emotions. Introverted intuition and extroverted thinking were clearly her stronger suits.

ISFJ – You are Gunther



Loyal right to the end, Gunther was the absolute embodiment of an ISFJ. He was quiet yet devoted, wanting Rachel to be happy even more than he wanted to be with her. Though we didn’t see much of this character on the front line of the show, Friends just wouldn’t have been the same without Gunther – offering us the ultimate tale of unrequited love.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/05/heres-which-f-r-i-e-n-d-s-character-you-are-based-on-your-myers-briggs-personality-type/

8 Struggles Every Intuitive Perceiver Encounters In The Workplace (ENFP, INFP, ENTP, INTP)

1. Having to follow standardized procedures.

Perceptive, intuitive types see the big picture rather than the intricate details – which means that doing something for the sake of a formality is endlessly frustrating to them. If they know a project is going to get approved, why wait a week for the official go-ahead to come through? That’s wasted time. Let’s just start now and keep quiet about it. Right, guys? … Guys?

2. Being quick to pick up on things but slow to follow up on them.

Intuitive perceivers quickly see the general principles behind systems they are presented with: Which means they tend to “Wow” their employers by their innate understanding of the workplace during the first week or two. The downside of this is that they start to lose momentum once the day-to-day drudgery of working takes over: just because they picked up on a concept with ease doesn’t mean they’ll remain stimulated by it – which happens to be a dire requirement for the intuitive perceiver when it comes to working efficiently.

3. Wanting autonomy but requiring structure.

NP types are creative problem solvers – they enjoy speculating various solutions to problems and dislike being bound to traditional methods of getting things done. That being said, this type thrives best in a structured environment – one where they are balanced out by judging types who can ensure that their plans are thoroughly carried out. Intuitive perceivers may come to resent this type of environment, but at the same time they need it to really get anything done.

4. Constantly requiring a new challenge.

Perceptive, intuitive types thrive on rising to challenges and overcoming obstacles by channeling their creative thinking skills. If they manage to find a workplace that presents them with an endless flow of novel challenges, these types are happy as a clam. If, however, they find themselves stuck in a relatively static environment, where the work doesn’t change much day-to-day, it’s a disastrous recipe for restlessness. The more this type repeats the same mindless tasks, the more detached and consequently the more careless they become. When placed in static environments, intuitive perceivers actually may become worse at their job over time.

5. Disliking professional pleasantries.

Social niceties are torture for intuitive perceivers. Breaking communication down into a series of meaningless phrases seems unbearably futile. The client wants a service and we can provide it. Do we really have to talk about their day for twenty minutes first? And do I really have to call this client “Ma’am” while she’s yelling at me over the phone? It seems a little trite at this point.

6. The inclination to challenge any rule that doesn’t make sense.

If an intuitive perceiver doesn’t see the over-arching point of what they’re doing, they loathe doing it. These analytical types have a knack for intuitively understanding how a system could be improved upon and they quickly grow frustrated by having to adhere to inefficient guidelines. More than a few NP types have gotten themselves into hot water by arguing with their bosses about the nonsensical nature of how things are getting done – especially if their boss is someone who’s hard-pressed to sway from traditional methods.

7. The tendency to over-exert oneself when presented with various options.

If there’s anything a perceptive intuitive enjoys, it’s a new challenge or opportunity. NPs – particularly those of the extroverted nature – are inclined to experience the problem of their eyes being bigger than their stomachs, both in and outside of the workplace. They will quickly jump on board with new projects and may find themselves suddenly working incredible amounts of over-time – after all, they have so much to get done! Though they’re not sure where all of this extra work came from… they agreed to something three weeks back, right?

8. The insatiable need to progress paired with the equal and opposite need to explore other options.

Intuitive perceivers are highly aware of opportunities that exist in their external environment – this means they’ll be speculating about climbing the corporate ladder to the top of the company before they’ve even walked into their interview. Their ambition is fierce, but so is their wandering eye. Intuitive perceivers are aware of all options that are available to them – both in and outside of the company. Their tendency to flit from career to career means they may never climb to the top of any corporate ladder – but they sure will half-scale quite a few.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/05/8-struggles-every-intuitive-perceiver-encounters-in-the-workplace/

Here’s Which Harry Potter Character You Are Based On Your Myers-Briggs Personality Type

ISTJ – You are Harry Potter



Principled, single-minded and selflessly devoted to the pursuit of justice, Harry was a textbook ISTJ. Though he was not always a fan of the spotlight he’d been forced into, Harry took his role as a warrior against dark magic incredibly seriously. He was prepared to go to any lengths necessary to defend what he believed to be right – demonstrating classic ISTJ conduct.

INFP – You are Luna Lovegood



Romantic, speculative and perceptive of connections that evaded others, Luna Lovegood was a classic INFP. Though her head-in-the-clouds nature was certainly an exaggeration of the norm for this type, she was anything but shallow or unintelligent. Luna was sharp, fearless and loyal where it mattered – and throughout the Harry Potter series, it mattered a lot.

ENTP – You are Fred and George Weasley



Clever, opportunistic and mischievous to the core, Fred and George Weasley were clear-cut ENTPs. They saw opportunities absolutely everywhere and considered no idea too fanciful to bring to fruition. Their quick wit and personable natures kept them out of any trouble that they encountered – they were the ultimate Harry Potter bad boys and they pulled it off with the effortless charm that only ENTPs can truly manage.

ESTJ – You are Minerva McGonagall



Sharp, strict and fiercely protective of her loved ones, Professor McGonagall displayed all the best traits of a well-developed ESTJ. She didn’t mind looking like the bad guy when it came to discipline, so long as it served the greater good of protecting those under her watch. She made every decision based on logic and loyalty – the two main principles that governed her life.

INFJ – You are Albus Dumbledore



Wise, introspective and eerily adept at understanding the motivations of others, Dumbledore was the epitome of a well-developed INFJ. He was fiercely analytical when it came to determining right from wrong and he was frequently able to see things in a universal scheme rather than simply referring to what was immediately apparent. Dumbledore’s wise, protective nature represented the INFJ archetype in its most developed form.

ESFP – You are Ron Weasley



Adaptive, present-oriented and sometimes entirely indecisive, Ron offered a sweet portrayal of the loyal ESFP type. Though his bravery wasn’t always center stage, Ron was willing to put his own needs (and fears) aside to battle alongside his loved ones. He’d always rather be doing something than dwelling on something, which makes him the perfect companion and sidekick for the no-nonsense ISTJ Harry.

ISFP – You are Rubeus Hagrid



Sweet, protective half-giant Hagrid offered an unconventional look at the ISFP personality type. While he was certainly an introverted personality – living alone always suited him best – he became passionately involved with any neglected creature he came across and held the people (and animals) he loved close. Hagrid’s spacey yet devoted attitude was a breath of fresh air in the Harry Potter series – just as ISFPs so often are in real life.

ESFJ – You are Molly Weasley



Selfless, worrisome and – above all else – endlessly devoted to her family, Molly Weasley portrayed the tried and true ESFJ mother archetype. Every scene we saw Molly in showed her fussing over one of her children or loved ones – she wanted nothing more than to know that the people she cared about were happy, healthy and taken care of. She was an undeniable extroverted feeler.

ISTP – You are Cedric Diggory



Coordinated, rational and naturally perceptive of systems in his external environment, Cedric Diggory was an excellent example of the ISTP personality. His natural inclination towards cracking codes and surmounting physical obstacles made him a shoe-in for the Triwizard Tournament – until, of course, he died in it.

ENFJ – You are Lily Evans Potter



Though Lily Potter appeared only in flashback scenes throughout the series, her personality was undeniably reminiscent of the ENFJ type. Outspoken, empathetic and just, Lily was the quintessential ‘mentor’ personality. She exceeded her peers in maturity and stuck up unabashedly for the underdog. Lily was adept at seeing the good in people and was self-sacrificial to a fault – after all, her extroverted feeling was precisely what kept Harry alive.

ESTP – You are Ginny Weasley



Outgoing, athletic and action-oriented to a fault, Ginny offered an interesting perspective on the ESTP personality portrayed in a female character. Despite being the youngest of a large family of wizards, Ginny didn’t let anyone push her around. She knew what she wanted in life and never hesitated in going after it – she displayed the epitome of the ESTP attitude.

ENTJ – You are Draco Malfoy



Decisive, analytical and naturally socially dominant, Draco Malfoy offered a fantastic portrayal of the ENTJ personality. In his younger days, Draco drew on his extroverted thinking to follow in the path of his villainous father and establish himself as an alpha personality. In his later years, Draco showed a drastic development in both introverted intuition and introverted feeling, which caused him to re-evaluate the dark direction in which his life was headed. Draco’s character developed drastically throughout the Harry Potter series, offering a glimpse of the ENTJ personality at both its worst and – in flashes – its best.

ENFP – You are Nymphadora Tonks



Quick-tempered, passionate and fiercely devoted to whatever cause she took on, Nymphadora Tonks offered a spot-on portrayal of the ENFP personality. Though clumsy and unconventional by nature, Tonks got by on her metamorphic abilities – she could quickly change into whatever form she needed to take on to achieve her objective. Her unorthodox transformational abilities were an oddly perfect metaphor for the ever-changing, fiercely determined personality of the ENFP.

INTP – You are Remus Lupin



Guarded, analytical and tirelessly philosophical, Remus Lupin offered the best portrayal of an INTP that J.K. Rowling was willing to give us throughout the Harry Potter series. Lupin desired a logical solution for everything and despaired when logic failed him – his decision to marry Tonks, for example, was one that he deeply regretted after realizing his child may be born a werewolf. Though he was stood behind the Order of the Phoenix, Lupin wasn’t one to believe whatever he heard – he took all new information with a grain of salt, which is an undeniable INTP trait.

ISFJ – You are Dobby



Dutiful, nurturing and endlessly devoted to the people whose morals he believed in, Dobby was the undeniable embodiment of an ISFJ personality. Though it’s arguable that all house elves displayed ISFJ-like qualities, Dobby seemed to feel them on an absolute core level. Right to the end of his life, Dobby was focused on serving the people he loved. He was happiest when he was helping the people he loved – a classic ISFJ trait.

INTJ – You are Severus Snape



One of the most brilliantly developed characters in the series, Severus Snape portrays a fantastic example of the sharp, calculating INTJ. Though cold and distant by nature, Snape displayed his loyalties through a clever deception of the Dark Lord. He was able to manipulate one of the most powerful wizards of all-time – a feat that could only truly be managed by a type as intuitive and stealthy as the INTJ.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/05/heres-which-harry-potter-character-you-are-based-on-your-myers-briggs-personality-type/

Here’s Why ENFPs and INFJs Make The Best Friends For Each Other

1. They are essentially inside-out versions of each other.

INFJs and ENFPs use their cognitive functions in the same order (N, F, T, S) but all of the functions that are introverted in an ENFP are extroverted in an INFJ and vice versa. This means that the two types often share similar values, but approach them from refreshingly opposite perspectives. An ENFP generates possibilities where an INFJ analyzes the specifics and an ENFP applies introverted morality to situations where the INFJ looks at the Universal consequences. They are essentially always analyzing different sides of the same coin, which is fascinating for both parties.

2. Their reasoning abilities compliment one another.

Because their cognitive functions are inverted, INFJs and ENFPs can see each other’s blind spots. The ENFP can suggest an idea that would never have occurred to the INFJ and the INFJ can provide a detailed explanation for what the ENFP does not intuitively understand. These types are basically the Ying to each other’s Yang and the balance it creates is uncanny.

3. They’re both kind of ambiverted.

Though the INFJ is introverted, their extroverted feeling requires them to socialize a fair amount in order to stay balanced. And while the ENFP is extroverted, their introverted feeling requires them to withdraw and analyze their feelings more often than the average extrovert. As a result, both types border on the ambiverted side. They’re comfortable socializing, or they’re comfortable staying home and watching Netflix together. What more can one ask for in a friend?

4. They prioritize the same kind of structure.

Despite the fact that INFJs are judgers, their main function is a perceptive function. For this reason, they tend to be lax on things like organization of their physical environment (at least compared to sensor judgers) and more interested in structuring their future – a topic that the ENFP shares a keen interest in. When an ENFP generates a grandiose plan for the future, the idealistic INFJ is able to work out the details – making the duo a dream team.

5. They bring out the best in each other.

While the INFJ is deeply analytical, they sometimes need an extrovert to help them open up and discuss their deeper thoughts and beliefs. On the flip side, the scattered ENFP benefits from the focus and structure that the INFJ brings to their over-the-top ideas. These two types tap into each other’s strengths almost effortlessly, and they naturally bring out the best in each other.

6. They both take their close relationships very seriously.

As with any friendship or relationship, conflict can arise between these two types. The good news is, neither of these types will shy away from resolving the issue in the interest of maintaining the relationship. They are both intuitives first and feelers second – meaning their inclination in the wake of a disagreement will be to look at the bigger picture. And for ENFPs and INFJs, the bigger picture always includes the people they love most.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/05/6-reasons-why-enfps-and-infjs-make-the-best-friends-for-each-other/

Ask An INTJ: Do You Have A Heart And How Do We Win It?

Q: So before we get into the juicy questions, there are a few linguistic nuances that readers wanted clarified. The first one relates to success – as an INTJ, what is your definition of success?

INTJ: My definition of success correlates with my vision of long-term projects. Success is being able to have made some kind of impact or influence on the world that is in line with my personal morals. INTJs like long term projects and success is viewed in that way too – it’s kind of a long term project of trying to make an impact in away that fits with our vision of the world and our ideals.

Q: What are INTJ ideals like?

INTJ: We’ll get to that later – it ties into our expression of introverted feeling.

Q: Fair enough. Next clarification – what is your definition of failure?

INTJ: To me, failure is any situation in which I feel useless.

If something goes wrong and [the INTJ] can reason why it happened, that’s fine – we can look at it and theorize that we could have done X, Y or Z to prevent the situation. The problem was the plan. But if something goes wrong for no reason that is apparent to us, it’s easy to internalize that and assume that we ourselves were the problem. This is especially prevalent in the social sphere. For example, if I reach out to a friend multiple times and they don’t get back to me, I’ll fail to see a flaw in my plan and then have to ask myself if the problem is me.

To give another example – this time from the academic sphere – INTJs tend to set very high ideals for themselves academically. If we feel like we’re making progress on those ideals that’s great but if we’ve given it our all and still can’t seem to make our ideals, that’s when we have to put ourselves into question. That’s when we’re forced to ask ourselves if we’ve failed.

Q: Interesting. Last definition question – how do you define the experience of love?

INTJ: This is a really tough one.

My definition of love involves a deep connection and a sense of unity. It should involve the qualities of openness, honesty and safety – safety both in the sense of security and also in the sense of feeling free to open up and come out of my shell with whomever I’m with. I want to be able to enjoy the presence of the other person both in conversation and in silence – to be able to bask in their presence.

It’s important to INTJs that the other person has an understanding of us and how we operate. But we also want the relationship to improve us and help us learn more about both ourselves and about the other person’s world. Relationships are somewhat of a puzzle to us, but one that we enjoy discovering.

Q: In terms of choosing a partner, are there any particular types you usually find yourself drawn to?

INTJ: I think INTJs are much more open to relationships with other intuitives because they’re already seeing the world using a similar learning style. This helps in conversations too, because we’re also communicating in a similar style or “language.” I think intuitives are naturally more receptive and understanding of each others’ ideas, and there is less of a chance of being misinterpreted. That’s huge when it comes to understanding the INTJ and them understanding you – because we really do want to understand the other person. When the other person’s intuitive, there are more shared interests, more to talk about, there’s more to explore. We get really energized and excited about that. It’s not that we can’t get excited about sensors – it’s just easier and more natural with intuitives.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/06/ask-an-intj-do-you-have-a-heart-and-how-do-we-win-it/

How To Spot Each Myers-Briggs Personality Type On Facebook

INTJ: Posts their newest life epiphany every 3-5 days and allows very few photos of themselves on their page just in case that Facebook conspiracy they read about is true.

ENTJ: Checks into a lot of networking events and is wearing a suit in every tagged picture they have.

ISTJ: Re-posts a lot of sarcastic Internet pictures that capture their frustration with general mankind without them having to say it outright.

ESTP: Gets tagged in a lot of drunk unicycling photos that gives their relatives anxiety.

ISTP: Invites you to play Candy Crush Saga several times a day despite the fact that you haven’t seen them IRL for years.

ESFJ: Gets married at 22 and posts nothing but wedding pictures for five years until they have a child – then posts nothing but baby pictures.

ESTJ: Profile picture is a professional headshot – just in case potential employers are looking.

ISFJ: Dutifully ‘likes’ any status you post that stays up for ten minutes or more without any interactions because they have your back.

ESFP: Got a job as a party rep straight out of college and now sends you an endless stream of event invites along the lines of, “Killersnake DJ Spinoff at 11th Street Lot – VIP access only, ladies free before 12.”

ISFP: Takes more selfies per day than you’ve ever taken in your life.

INFP: Alternates between posting happy photos of them with their friends and getting into vehement arguments about human rights issues with their conservative uncle.

ENFP: Enthusiastically changes their relationship status/location/career path every 2-3 months and somehow gleans hundreds of likes from it every time.

ENFJ: Posts a lot of statuses along the lines of “Ugh so done with this,” in hopes you’ll ask them what they’re so done with.

ENTP: Argues with the INFP’s humanitarian posts, just for the hell of it.

INFJ: Exclusively posts Gandhi quotes.

INTP: Hasn’t posted anything in years – but you suspect that they are always watching.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/06/here-is-how-to-spot-each-myers-briggs-personality-type-on-facebook/

10 Reasons Why Everyone Needs An ESFP In Their Lives

1. They’re surprisingly accepting of others’ quirks.

Though the ESFP tends to be socially dominant, they are surprisingly accepting of others. This type lives in a world of people possibilities, which means they enjoy learning about people just as they are – without trying to change or fix them. ESFPs will meet your strange quirks, your odd habits and all the little things that make you ‘you’ with curiosity rather than judgment – and they’ll often match you with their own set of quirks.

2. They help you get out of your head and fully experience life.

Introverts, judgers and intuitives alike tend to struggle with getting out of their heads and embracing life as it is. Luckily, this is the ESFP’s forte. This type – alongside their logical cousin the ESTP – is one of the most truly present-oriented types. One moment you’re having coffee with your ESFP friend and the next you’re hiking up a mountain or shutting down a club. You’re never quite sure how you got there, but you’re usually glad that you did. Life with ESFPs is nothing if not an adventure.

3. They usually come with an entire social network.

ESFPs are perhaps the most naturally sociable types – they like to know everyone and have everyone know them. For this reason, ESFPs usually have a large social network that they’re more than happy to introduce you into. You’re never alone when you have an ESFP friend – you’re a part of a large group of loosely connected yet genuinely awesome people.

4. They’re incredibly compassionate.

Though they’re extroverted sensors first and foremost, ESFPs also have introverted feeling as their secondary function – making them incredibly sympathetic to the pains of others. ESFPs don’t shy away from the hardships of their friends – they’ll be the first ones to offer a shoulder to cry on or a long talk when you need one. Plus they’re never afraid to lighten the mood with a poorly timed joke – a truly underrated skill in today’s sensitive age.

5. They are shockingly adept at analyzing your emotions.

Because ESFPs come across as happy-go-lucky individuals most of the time, their true depth and wisdom is often overlooked. This type combines extroverted sensing with introverted feeling to analyze your intentions in a refreshingly honest way – they don’t dig for drama that isn’t there and they don’t make excuses for you. They can tell when you’re being shallow, when you’re being selfish and when you’re being insecure – even when you’re lying to yourself about all of it. Plus they usually know exactly what will pull you out of your own mess – even if you’re not ready to admit it to yourself.

6. Their go-with-the-flow attitude is both refreshing and relieving.

ESFPs are not afraid to let plans change. This present-focused type relishes in the chaos of everyday life and whenever you’re freaking out about a change of plans, they’re already enjoying the exciting alternative that the change has made available. This type truly does make the best of whatever they’re have, wherever they are and it’s an endlessly refreshing attitude to be around.

7. They’re a Godsend in social situations that you aren’t feeling.

ESFPs get along with everyone – and I mean everyone. This type is an absolute natural in social situations and if you’re not feeling super enthused at a given party or gathering, they’re more than happy to take center stage. ESFPs can command attention like no other type – which is wonderful for when you want the attention taken off yourself.

8. Their openness allows for an incredibly genuine connection.

Though introverted feeling tends to be a relatively guarded function, ESFPs value human connection immensely – and they don’t mind opening up about themselves in order to achieve that connection. ESFPs will see whatever embarrassing or difficult situation you’re going through and raise you one embarrassing or difficult situation from their own past – they are surprisingly empathetic and open in all the right ways.

9. They’re hilarious.

ESFPs see the readily apparent humor in everything – and what they lack in wit they make up for in sheer enthusiasm. This type isn’t afraid to laugh at their own jokes as they’re telling them and the joy they emit while doing so will put a smile on your face even if the joke itself doesn’t.

10. Once you have an ESFP in your life, things will never be the same again without them.

Something about the warm, excitable ESFP nature is just impossible to replace. Once you grow accustomed to having one in your life, you won’t be able to imagine life without them – or at the least you won’t want to. I’d say it was a shame that this type is only 5% of the population… but let’s be real – this world couldn’t handle more than that. If there’s anything ESFPs are bad at it’s keeping a low profile – and that’s part of why we love them the most.

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22 Differences Between A Healthy And An Unhealthy ENFP

1. A healthy ENFP is outgoing and welcomes new people into their lives with warmth. An unhealthy ENFP is reclusive and guarded.

2. A healthy ENFP understands that they have good days and bad days, and knows how to take care of themselves on the latter. An unhealthy ENFP thinks the whole world is coming to an end every time they have a bad day.

3. A healthy ENFP is brainstorming new ideas and is unafraid to try out the best ones. An unhealthy ENFP is scared to try new things and sticks to the safest route.

4. A healthy ENFP is happy for others and wants to celebrate their good fortune. An unhealthy ENFP is jealous of others and petty about their success.

5. A healthy ENFP can commit to what they feel strongly about. An unhealthy ENFP is flippant and indecisive, even when they know what they want deep down.

6. A healthy ENFP is enthusiastic about others ideas and aims to help them brainstorm new plans. An unhealthy ENFP is negative about others’ ideas and pokes holes in their theories or plans.

7. A healthy ENFP understands that social interaction is important to them. An unhealthy ENFP denies this and thinks that they can ‘go it alone.’

8. A healthy ENFP listens to others points of view. An unhealthy ENFP lashes out at others, believing they always know best.

9. A healthy ENFP is creative and imaginative. An unhealthy ENFP feels bleak and has a difficult time coming up with new ideas.

10. A healthy ENFP seeks stimulation through brainstorming new ideas. An unhealthy ENFP seeks stimulation through dangerous or self-defeating activities.

11. A healthy ENFP is confident and self-assured. An unhealthy ENFP requires an excessive amount of external validation to feel good about him or herself.

12. A healthy ENFP is optimistic and brave. An unhealthy ENFP is anxious and worried.

13. A healthy ENFP wants the best for those around them. An unhealthy ENFP manipulates those around them to achieve what he or she wants.

14. A healthy ENFP enjoys taking on new challenges. An unhealthy ENFP shies away from novel opportunities, doubting his or her ability to handle them.

15. A healthy ENFP is charming and personable with others. An unhealthy ENFP is disinterested and awkward around others.

16. A healthy ENFP is passionate but keeps themselves in check. An unhealthy ENFP is obsessive and unyielding.

17. A healthy ENFP gives their loved ones space to explore and be independent. An unhealthy ENFP fears the people they love will disappear on them.

18. A healthy ENFP is thoughtful and seeks out meaningful experiences. An unhealthy ENFP distracts themselves through any means necessary.

19. A healthy ENFP welcomes changes in plans and situations. An unhealthy ENFP wants to be in control of everything.

20. A healthy ENFP follows through on commitments that they know are important to other people. An unhealthy ENFP flakes on plans and doesn’t consider the feelings of those around them.

21. A healthy ENFP is aware of their physical needs and takes care of their body. An unhealthy ENFP goes to extremes – either totally neglecting their physical needs or absolutely obsessing over them.

22. A healthy ENFP knows when he or she needs help. An unhealthy ENFP is scared to admit that anything’s wrong at all.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/06/22-differences-between-a-healthy-and-an-unhealthy-enfp/

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How To Spot Each Myers-Briggs Personality Type On Facebook

INTJ: Posts their newest life epiphany every 3-5 days and allows very few photos of themselves on their page just in case that Facebook conspiracy they read about is true.

ENTJ: Checks into a lot of networking events and is wearing a suit in every tagged picture they have.

ISTJ: Re-posts a lot of sarcastic Internet pictures that capture their frustration with general mankind without them having to say it outright.

ESTP: Gets tagged in a lot of drunk unicycling photos that gives their relatives anxiety.

ISTP: Invites you to play Candy Crush Saga several times a day despite the fact that you haven’t seen them IRL for years.

ESFJ: Gets married at 22 and posts nothing but wedding pictures for five years until they have a child – then posts nothing but baby pictures.

ESTJ: Profile picture is a professional headshot – just in case potential employers are looking.

ISFJ: Dutifully ‘likes’ any status you post that stays up for ten minutes or more without any interactions because they have your back.

ESFP: Got a job as a party rep straight out of college and now sends you an endless stream of event invites along the lines of, “Killersnake DJ Spinoff at 11th Street Lot – VIP access only, ladies free before 12.”

ISFP: Takes more selfies per day than you’ve ever taken in your life.

INFP: Alternates between posting happy photos of them with their friends and getting into vehement arguments about human rights issues with their conservative uncle.

ENFP: Enthusiastically changes their relationship status/location/career path every 2-3 months and somehow gleans hundreds of likes from it every time.

ENFJ: Posts a lot of statuses along the lines of “Ugh so done with this,” in hopes you’ll ask them what they’re so done with.

ENTP: Argues with the INFP’s humanitarian posts, just for the hell of it.

INFJ: Exclusively posts Gandhi quotes.

INTP: Hasn’t posted anything in years – but you suspect that they are always watching.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/06/here-is-how-to-spot-each-myers-briggs-personality-type-on-facebook/

"ENTP: Argues with the INFP’s humanitarian posts, just for the hell of it."

Here’s How To Attract Each Myers-Briggs Personality Type

ENFP: Flirt with them once and then act completely unattainable. ENFPs love a challenge.

INFP: Act like you have a deep, brooding secret that you’re too guarded to reveal. The INFP will not sleep, eat or breathe until they’ve broken down your walls.

ESTP: Act sweet, wide-eyed and impressed by everything that they do. Their ego will respond well to your fuel.

ENTP: Challenge their logic and rebut their manipulative tactics.

INTP: Take initiative. Take initiative again. Repeat until INTP notices your existence. Then take initiative again.

ESFP: Look good, make it clear that you’re available and then just hang around for a while. Their natural ‘people curiosity’ will eventually drive them to come after you.

ISTP: Infiltrate their social circle, see them regularly, match their level of nonchalance and then put sex on the table.

ESTJ: Have excellent hygiene and constantly tell them they’re right.

ISTJ: Be bubbly enough to warm their hearts but scattered enough to imply that you need their help.

ISFP: Be adventurous and playful and take an interest in them – then give them space to sort out their feelings and come to you.

ENFJ: Act like the stereotypical bad boy/bad girl but show glimpses of deep emotion– they’ll clamor to figure you out and bring out the best in you.

ISFJ: Act like a superhero, but one who needs to be taken care of. They’ll jump at the chance to nurture your reckless spirit.

INFJ: Be one big, walking paradox. Look them deep in the eyes and tell them that you ‘Need them’ to help figure yourself out.

ESFJ: Be popular amongst your mutual peers but make it clear that you often forget to eat lunch or get enough sleep. They’ll lust obsessively after the chance to be the one who takes care of you.

ENTJ: Assure them that a relationship with you is a low-risk investment that will yield a sizeable emotional return. Be strong in your character, but not stronger than them.

INTJ.: Present them with a completely unprecedented way of thinking about something they were previously decided on. You’ll shake their foundation and win their admiration.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/06/heres-how-to-attract-each-myers-briggs-personality-type/

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"ENTP: Argues with the INFP’s humanitarian posts, just for the hell of it."

lmao, that's an aries friend of mine too. infurriating mofo.

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"ENTP: Argues with the INFP’s humanitarian posts, just for the hell of it."

lmao, that's an aries friend of mine too. infurriating mofo.

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Lol!

Why You Should Date Each Myers-Briggs Personality Type

ISTJ: They are loyal to the core and the ultimate providers.

ESFP: Their warmth and spontaneity will make each day you spend with them more exciting than the last.

INTP: Their thoughts and emotions run deep – you will never have a shallow or uninteresting conversation again.

ENFP: Their positive energy will light up your life.

ENFJ: They will listen to your deepest, darkest secrets and love you even more for them.

INTJ: Their fascinating minds will make you reconsider the way that you think about everything.

INFP: They will love and understand you even better than you love and understand yourself.

ESTJ: They are tremendously committed to their relationships and fiercely protective of their loved ones.

ESTP: Their spontaneity and enthusiasm will sweep you off your feet – and their straightforward attitude is endlessly refreshing.

ISFJ: They will support you without any reservation, both practically and emotionally; from the day they meet you until the day they die.

ENTJ: They will find a concrete way to help you achieve literally everything you’ve ever wanted in life.

ISTP: Their straightforward, live-for-the-moment attitude is both refreshing and compelling.

ISFP: Their soulful, artistic personality will give you a new appreciation of the world that surrounds you.

INFJ: They will take the time to deeply understand you and will empathize with you on every level.

ESFJ: They will make sure your every need is met from the moment you meet until the day you die.

ENTP: They are a goldmine of weird, creative ideas and you will never be bored again.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/06/why-you-should-date-each-myers-briggs-personality-type/

What Each Myers-Briggs Type Does On Vacation

ENFP: Wants to dine, live and mingle like the locals in order to have the most authentic experience possible.

ESFJ: Makes sure everyone’s wearing sunscreen and wakes up early each morning to pack the group lunch.

ESFP: Has a whirlwind vacation romance.

INTJ: Selects the optimal hotel, dining and entertainment options by methodically narrowing down a list of possible selections prior to the trip.

ISFP: Sees a great photo op, wanders into a back alley to capture the perfect lighting and gets lost. Rejoins the group three days later.

ESTP: Convinces everyone to go bungee jumping.

ISFJ: Thoughtfully selects souvenirs for loved ones back home and mementos to put in their scrapbook.

ENTP: Somehow learns the local language in less than a week and charms their way into everything for free.

INTP: Embarks on a solitary road trip with no fixed destination.

ISTJ: Schedules visits to every museum and historical site within a hundred mile radius.

ESTJ: Manages the trip budget.

INFJ: Spends vacation volunteering on a local organic farm.

ENTJ: Calculates (and enforces) the precise amount of time that ought to be spent at each tourist attraction, based on an algorithm that compares utiles of happiness to time spent admiring beautiful landmarks.

INFP: Hopes no one notices that they snuck away to a secluded beach to read.

ENFJ: Spends the trip resolving group conflicts and ensuring that their travel companions are enjoying themselves.

ISTP: Stays home and enjoys the solitude of everyone being gone at last.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/06/what-each-myers-briggs-type-does-on-vacation/

The ENFP’s Guide To Dating Guardians (ISFJ, ESFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)

ENFP and ISTJ

Though these types share all four cognitive functions, they use them in completely opposite order – leaving plenty of room for conflicts to develop. It is common for these types to feel initially attracted to each other, as each is strong in the other’s area of weakness. The ISTJ may be drawn to the ENFP’s friendly nature and ability to think outside the box, whereas the ENFP appreciates the capable, grounded nature of the ISTJ. Over time however, these two stubborn personalities are prone to clashing as they have vastly different communication styles and can’t always tune into each other’s values. This relationship has the best chance of success if both parties are able to develop their third function (extroverted thinking for the ENFP, introverted feeling for the ISTJ), as it is the auxiliary function in the other party.

Strengths of this pairing: At best, the ENFP will appreciate the ISTJ for their reliability, their togetherness and their ability to translate ideas into concrete actions. The ISTJ will in turn admire the ENFP for their positivity, their ambition and their ability to connect with others with ease. Practically speaking, these types balance out one another’s weaknesses and do have the potential to learn and grow from one another.

Potential pitfalls of this pairing: At worst, the ENFP will view the ISTJ as close-minded, stubborn and overly rigid and the ISTJ will see the ENFP as impractical, over-dramatic and inconsistent. Both parties have strongly-felt personal morals that they are generally are unwilling to budge on – this can be a point of contention if the values do not line up. The ENFP dwells primarily in the abstract whereas the ISTJ dwells in the tangible here-and-now, which can make communication difficult.

Verdict: This pairing is best to avoid. While two committed partners may certainly be able to make this relationship work, it would involve an intense amount of effort and would likely leave one or both partners feeling unfulfilled over time.

ENFP and ESFJ

These partners have two cognitive functions in common, but the stacking of these functions are mismatched, which can lead to strained communication. Both the ENFP and ESFJ are people-focused individuals who are comfortable making decisions based on their feelings, so they may initially connect on a surface level. This type may enjoy participating in similar activities and often find themselves in the same group of friends. However, the closer these two get the more they realize that they have less in common than they may have initially expected. These types may struggle to understand each other unless the ESFJ has significantly developed their Ne and can brainstorm ideas with the ENFP, or if the ENFP is comfortable applying their Fi to analyze the emotions of others.

Strengths of this pairing: Both partners are extroverted people-people who enjoy being surrounded by loved ones. Two healthy partners of these types can bond over their love of bringing others together. At best, the ENFP will appreciate the energy, selfless nature and outgoing attitude of the ESFJ whereas the ESFJ will appreciate the ENFP’s energy, warmth and positive outlook.

Potential pitfalls of this pairing: Because the ESFJ’s feeling function focuses on others, they may have trouble understanding the ENFP’s system of internal morals that they use to make decisions. Conversely, the ENFP may not understand the ESFJ’s fascination with the goings-on of those around them. At worst, the ENFP will see the ESFJ as shallow, judgmental and fake, whereas the ESFJ will see the ENFP as scattered, selfish and overly-theoretical. The ENFP may feel as though the ESFJ is trying to control them and the ESFJ may feel as though the ENFP does not appreciate all they do for them.

Verdict: While these types may not outright dislike each other, they are not necessarily well suited for a long-term partnership. They are likely to struggle to achieve a meaningful emotional connection – something that is highly important to both parties.

ENFP and ESTJ

While these parties share all the same functions, they prioritize the use of these functions in very different order, leaving room for many potential clashes. On the positive side of things, both parties are ambitious, goal-oriented and personable. On the negative side, the ESTJ takes pride in sharing their way of doing things with others and the ENFP does not appreciate being told what to do. On the flip side, the ENFP enjoys exploring different options whereas the ESTJ values quick, logical decisions. This pairing works best if each can develop their third function, which is primary in the other – meaning the ENFP could get on board with the decisive, results-oriented nature of the ESTJ and the ESTJ could brainstorm ideas with the ENFP.

Strengths of this pairing: Both partners are extroverted in nature and enjoy reaching decisions through talking them through aloud. At best, the ENFP will appreciate the ESTJ’s pragmatism, reliability and straightforwardness and the ESTJ will appreciate the ENFP’s drive, open-mindedness and sense of humor. They can bond over their goal-oriented nature and will often find that putting their heads together allows them to find the best possible solution to a given situation.

Potential pitfalls of this pairing: While the ESTJ values the tried-and-true method, the ENFP enjoys examining all possible solutions to a given situation. These differences in attitude are likely to frustrate both parties. At worst, the ENFP will view the ESTJ as bossy, overbearing and too set in their ways, whereas the ESTJ will view the ENFP as directionless, overly distractible and lacking common sense. The moments of connection they may experience when the ENFP applies their Te are likely to be overshadowed in time through their differing opinions on most topics.

Verdict: While ENFPs and ESTJs may get along in social situations, their destinies are unlikely to lie with each other. These types are both crystal clear on what they want out of life – and those visions are unlikely to line up.

ENFP and ISFJ

ENFPs and ISFJs share two cognitive functions – introverted sensing and extroverted intuition, but what is first in one’s stacking is last in the other’s and vice versa. As a result, it is can be difficult for these two to find common ground as one would always have to be using their inferior function in order for natural communication to take place.

That being said, there is an element of opposites-attract to this pairing, as the ENFP may find the grounded nature of the ISFJ comforting and the ISFJ may enjoy the excitement the ENFP brings to their life. Additionally, both parties tend to be quite committed to the relationships they enter into and are therefore willing to work as a team to make the relationship a happy and healthy place to be.

Strengths of this pairing: Both partners prefer making decisions based on their feelings and are therefor happy to compromise – to an extent – for the good of the relationship. At best, the ENFP will appreciate the ISFJ for their reliability, their selfless nature and their calming presence whereas the ISFJ will appreciate the ENFP for their warmth, their enthusiasm and their commitment to personal ideals.

Potential pitfalls of this pairing: There is a large potential for miscommunication with this pairing, as the ISFJ tends to show love by running errands and physically providing for their partner whereas the ENFP places a strong emphasis on affirming words. Both partners may at times feel as though their partner is neglecting their needs, whereas in reality the acts of love they’re showing are simply going unnoticed. At worst, the ISFJ will consider the ENFP to be selfish, overly impulsive, unreliable and overwhelming in their desire for exploration, whereas the ENFP will see the ISFJ as petty, passive-aggressive, uninterested in topics of importance and lacking a backbone.

Verdict: This pairing will stand the best chance if both partners values line up and they are willing to put work into the relationship. It’s not the worst pairing out there but understanding one another will certainly never come naturally for these types.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/06/the-enfps-guide-to-dating-guardians/

INTJ bits make me want to laugh-cry.

How Each Myers-Briggs Type Contradicts Their Own Stereotype

ENFP

Stereotype: ENFPs are hyperactive social butterflies who never stop spewing off about their feelings.

Reality: ENFPs have intuition and thinking as their extroverted functions, meaning they’re much more comfortable posing questions and debating ideas than they are talking about their feelings. They are also highly reflective and need more alone time than any other extrovert – many ENFPs actually initially assume themselves to be introverts!

INFP

Stereotype: INFPs are fragile emotional snowflakes who cannot deal with facts or hard logic.

Reality: Though INFPs certainly prefer using emotion over logic, they are more than capable of getting things done when they need to. This type can actually be incredibly resourceful and organized, as they will go to any lengths necessary in pursuit of what they believe is right. As a highly pensive type, INFPs are quite focused and often even mistype as judgers.

ENFJ

Stereotype: ENFJs are emotionally invasive and never stop probing others about their feelings.

Reality: ENFJs are actually quite adept at setting boundaries and respecting the privacy of others. If they are asking you highly personal questions, it’s not an act of exploitation – it’s because they genuinely want to help you resolve a problem and require a better understanding of where you’re at in order to do so.

INFJ

Stereotype #1: INFJs are rare snowflakes who are wildly unlike any other type and are incredibly difficult to understand.

Reality: Though they are statistically the rarest type, this does not mean that INFJs are the most creative or the most individualistic type (that would be INFP on both counts). In reality, INFJs have extroverted feeling, which means they’re highly in tune with social norms and value fitting in with a group above expressing their individuality. They are statistically rare in the sense that their specific combination of cognitive functions is uncommon, but this does not mean that they are the misunderstood artists of the world (Again, that would be INFPs or ISFPs).

Stereotype #2: INFJs are the natural counselors of the world, who want nothing more than to care for and nurture you.

Reality: Though they certainly do care for others, INFJs can often come across as cold if you don’t know them well. They lead with introverted intuition, which makes them infinitely more interested in analyzing big-picture problems than helping you sort out your relationship issues – they are empathetic to a fault but they’d usually rather be analyzing than empathizing.

ESTP

Stereotype: ESTPs are too impulsive to be reliable or faithful.

Reality: ESTPs see what they want and they go for it – which means that when your interests are aligned, nobody will be more devoted or attentive than an ESTP. This type can certainly be impulsive, but their extroverted feeling keeps them in line with how their actions affect others and once they make a commitment to someone, they are often quite adept at seeing it through. “I don’t want a relationship,” means, “I don’t want a relationship.” But on the other hand, “I do,” means, “I do.”

ISTP

Stereotype: ISTPs are daredevil adrenaline-junkies who live, breathe and sleep extreme sports.

Reality: Though ISTPs are highly sensory-oriented, their first mode of information processing is introverted thinking – meaning they’re much more interested in discovering how things work than they are in simply experiencing them. Some ISTPs have a tendency toward extreme sports but others are too rational to justify the risks of such activities – they prefer staying safe over risking their livelihood at the mercy of their auxiliary function.

ISTJ

Stereotype: ISTJs are unbearably rigid and set in their ways.

Reality: Though they do enjoy the tried-and-true method above the experimental ones, many ISTJs are incredibly analytical by nature. They are constantly taking in new facts and measuring them up against each other for practicality and efficiency. If a new method beats out an old one, they have no trouble swapping it out and bringing on the new.

ESTJ

Stereotype: ESTJs are bossy know-it-alls who only want to control the people around them.

Reality: Though ESTJs do tend to err on the side of know-it-all-ism, they do so as a genuine attempt to help the people they care about. This type is not malicious or spiteful – they simply see the most efficient way to do something and want to share. This type actually cares quite deeply about the people they’re close to and always wants to help them achieve the best results possible.

ESFJ

Stereotype: ESFJs are shallow and petty, only caring about the latest gossip and who’s dating who.

Reality: ESFJs lead with extroverted feeling, which mirrors the values of those around them. This means that if they are raised in an environment that values education, analytical analysis and personal growth, they will take on those values with a passion. ESFJs are only as petty as the people around them – their natural first instinct is to be supportive and inclusive to a fault.

ISFJ

Stereotype: ISFJs are neurotic and uptight – they are desperate to secure a partner and have a family as quickly as possible.

Reality: Though ISFJs do tend to make excellent parents, they’re not all in a rush to shack up and pop out a few. Their first function is a perceptive one (introverted sensing), which means that their feelings come second to their interests. Because they aren’t dominant judgers, this type also isn’t neurotic as a rule. On the contrary, they can often veer toward type B personalities – they’re more interested in keeping the peace than getting exactly what they want.

ESFP

Stereotype: ESFPs are shallow, one-dimensional party animals who are only interested in having a good time.

Reality: ESFPs are incredibly emotionally intelligent – they can dissect peoples motivations and desires with incredible accuracy and employ their findings effectively. This type is highly observant and can figure out just about any system or pattern that they put their minds to – their realism works to their advantage and makes them infinitely sharper than they let on.

ISFP

Stereotype: ISFPs are superficial and flakey.

Reality: Of all the sensor types, ISFPs are perhaps the most intuitive and spiritual. This type is highly observant and highly analytical – they are even apt to confuse themselves with intuitive types. Though they may appear to be off in la-la land regularly, the ISFP’s mind is always reeling – they are constantly analyzing what’s going on around them and what it means on a deeper level.

INTP

Stereotype: INTPs are emotionless and socially awkward.

Reality: INTPs are incredibly deep thinkers and correspondingly deep feelers. They are just as capable as (if not more capable than) any other type when it comes to experiencing deep emotions – they just aren’t as keen to express them. In the same vein, INTPs are not socially awkward by default – they are definite introverts but they are more than capable of developing their extroverted intuition to interact with the world around them. Enjoying social interaction and being capable of it are two different things.

ENTP

Stereotype: ENTPs have no follow through and cannot commit to anything for the life of them.

Reality: Though they do flit quickly between ideas, ENTPs are highly motivated to achieve and they possess impressive follow-through when they set their minds to something. They don’t care much for externally imposed attention to detail but when they’re self-motivated to get something right, they’ll cross every I and dot every T until it’s exactly how they imagined it.

ENTJ

Stereotype: ENTJs are alpha personalities who will squash or betray whoever it takes in order to get to the top.

Reality: Though they certainly are top dogs, ENTJs take social relationships incredibly seriously and would never want to tarnish their good name by going against their word. They can also be surprisingly sensitive when it comes to sticking up for the underdog and will often go to great lengths to ensure that they are giving fair and equal treatment to all.

INTJ

Stereotype: INTJs are narcissistic know-it-alls who think that everyone else is intellectually inferior to them.

Reality: INTJs are indisputably aware of their own intelligence – but they’re also radically open-minded. This type is constantly taking in new information and deciding how each new piece fits into the puzzle that they’re assembling in their mind. They want to see a situation from all possible angles – which means they want to hear your take on it, even if they don’t necessarily agree with it off the bat.

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8 Signs That Your Friend Is An ISFP

1. They’ll sometimes disappear for days at a time.

You had plans to chill on Thursday but by the time Thursday rolls around, they’re nowhere to be found. You’d be worried if this didn’t happen pretty much all the time. You have no doubt that they’ll return a few days from now with skinned knees, tanned skin and five hundred pictures from a music festival you’ve never heard of. You just go with it.

2. They somehow always look amazing.

Even if they haven’t showered in three days and are dressed in a simple white t-shirt and jean shorts. How do you do that, ISFP? How is your aesthetic always so perfectly on point? Part of you hates them for it but mostly you’re just glad that you have them around to take you shopping.

3. Their Instagram is to die for.

ISFPs have a keen eye for the beautiful and somehow always intuitively know just how to frame a picture. They’re always the one holding the camera when you go out drinking, traveling or even when you’re just spending a day chilling at home. There aren’t many people you trust to post photos of you without you seeing them first, but with your ISFP friend, you’d trust your life.

4. You’re never entirely sure what they’re thinking.

ISFPs are intrinsically mysterious characters. Their thoughts and emotions run deep and they’re hesitant to share themselves fully with the world. You usually have to do some coaxing to figure out what’s going on below the surface with your ISFP friend – and even once you do get them talking, you’re never entirely sure that you have the whole story.

5. Conflict is incredibly stressful for them.

Your ISFP friend isn’t just stressed if someone is upset with them – they’re stressed if anyone they know is upset with pretty much anyone else they know. ISFPs are natural peacekeepers and above all else, they want the people they love to feel happy and harmonious. Conflict is uncomfortable for them and they’re never truly happy unless they’re sure that everyone around them is happy and at peace as well.

6. They’re who you turn to whenever you need new music.

ISFPs have this incredible knack for knowing exactly what’s going to be cool six months from now. They’re who you go to whenever your music collection is waning and you want to know just what’s up and coming. They have an intuitive knack for knowing what will appeal to others and they’ll make you a playlist like nobody has ever made you a playlist before.

7. They’re unexpectedly down for almost anything.

Despite seeming reserved in nature, your ISFP friend is the one person you can call up at 2pm on a Tuesday to see if they want to take a spontaneous road trip and almost always have them reply, “Sure, let’s go.” ISFPs are the masters of spontaneity and they’re always up for a new adventure — even if their subdued demeanour doesn’t suggest as much.

8. They’re just so effortlessly cool.

ISFPs invented the notion of being cool without even trying. You’d be jealous of how they pull it off but you honestly can’t be bothered – you’re just happy to bask in their coolness and appreciate having them as a friend.

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Here’s What You Should Do For A First Date Based On Your Myers-Briggs Personality Type

ISFP – Go to a flea market or bazaar.



You’re all about discovering the new and unusual – and markets are the perfect place to do just that. You can hunt for undiscovered treasures with your date – you’ll learn quickly whether you love or hate their taste and you can share your own unique flare with them. Plus the strange objects you inevitably come across make for great conversation starters.

ESTP – Go Geocaching.



You have an adventurous spirit and it’s important to you that any potential partner can keep up. Geocaching offers a fun challenge that plays up your outdoorsy nature and gives your natural strengths the chance to shine through. It’s a fun challenge that will set you apart from all the people they’ve been ‘grabbing a coffee’ with.

ENFP – Go To An Improv Comedy Show.



Having fun with your date is important to you – and nothing’s more attractive than someone with a sharp mind. Visiting an improv comedy show will lighten both of you up and get you laughing – you’ll be able to see whether your senses of humor line up and who knows – maybe they’ll need a volunteer to go up on stage! You can impress your date with your own quick wit or better yet, give them a chance to showcase theirs.

INFJ – Visit A Used Bookstore Together.



You’re looking for an intellectual partner and as far as you’re concerned, there’s no better judge of character than what someone likes to read. You can peruse the shelves together and swap literary suggestions – you’ll walk away with a new appreciation of your date and a list of new things to read. It’s simply win-win.

ESFP – Go To A Karaoke Bar.



They call you ‘The Performer’ for a reason – you aren’t shy about getting up on stage and showing the audience what you’ve got! Karaoke gives you the chance to get silly with your date and lets both of you show off a little. If they’re too inhibited to try it, chances are they aren’t the partner for you – you need someone who knows how to have fun and who can keep up with your free-spirited nature.

ISFJ – Go Wine Tasting Together.



Quality is more important than quantity to you – this applies to both drinking and dating. Going wine tasting together gives you an opportunity to bond over a new experience – and it’s classy as hell. You can scope out your date’s etiquette and impress them with your pre-existing knowledge. Plus the drinks will help you both loosen up.

INTP – Go Star Gazing Together.



If there’s anything you hate, it’s small talk. You’re most confident when you’re discussing a topic you’re highly knowledgeable about and with a little bit of research, the galaxy above us can be exactly that. Take your date out for a laid-back date where you check out the stars and ‘wow’ them with the science behind the sights. If the season is right, catch a meteor shower while you’re at it!

ESFJ – Visit A Local Farmer’s Market And Cook A Meal Together.



You’re deeply connected to your community and the ideal date for you starts at home – by checking out what’s happening locally and welcoming your date into your world. You can chat in a natural setting as you prepare food together and then try it out – your culinary skills and your people skills will shine through with ease as you create and experiment together.

ISTJ – Visit A Museum Together.



You’re an information sponge and once you learn something new you never forget it. Take your date to a local museum and impress them with your intricate knowledge of all that lies inside. They’ll be impressed by your diligence and the artifacts will provide plenty of go-to conversation pieces.

ENTJ – Take A Class Together.



You’re all about progressing and learning new skills – and you want a partner who shares those values. Try a cooking class, an improv class or even a language class – you can bond with your date over your developing skill and learn something new while you’re at it! Best case scenario you find love – worst case scenario you’ve picked up one more skill that puts you ahead of the game. You can’t lose!

ISTP – Try A New Sport Together.



Take your date kayaking, mountain biking or rock climbing to bring out their athletic side – you love new physical pursuits and you want a partner who feels the same way. There’s nothing sexier to you than an adventurous date and what better a way to gage someone’s spirit of adventure than by trying a new physical challenge together?

ESTJ – Attend Trivia Night At A Local Bar.



You’re a natural when it comes to remembering facts – which is why Trivia night is your time to shine. You get to have fun with your date in a way that engages your competitive spirit and allows you to show off a little. The two of you can bond over your desire to win – and celebrate once you inevitably do.

INFP – Attend A Poetry Open Mic Night.



Your creativity is your most attractive trait – and what better a way to highlight that than at an event specifically geared toward artistic expression? You and your date can discuss your favorite readings, brainstorm new ideas and maybe even present your own work if one (or both) of you is feeling bold. It’s a great way to get to know each other beyond the surface level – which is extremely important for INFPs.

ENFJ – Volunteer Together.



Your friendly, giving nature defines who you are – and what better a way to connect with a date than by giving back to the community that you care about together? You’ll quickly see if your date shares your philanthropic nature and if they do, they’ll only become that much more attractive in your eyes.

INTJ – Attend A Lecture Or TED Talk Together.



If this sounds boring to your date, they’re probably not the date for you. You’re all about learning new perspectives, which is why intellectual environments inspire you. You can fuel your minds and then discuss the topic after the fact. You’ll learn more than the usual niceties about one another and even if the date goes badly, you’ll have learned something from the evening – which means it wasn’t a waste at all.

ENTP – Visit An Escape Room.



You’re all about solving puzzles and your date shouldn’t be the only thing you’re picking apart for clues. By visiting a local escape room, you can showcase your ability to think under pressure and solve the seemingly unsolvable. You’ll be energized by the challenge and can bond with your date over solving it. After all, there’s nothing more attractive to you than a partner who can keep up with your fast-paced mind.

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The ENFP’s Guide To Dating Rationals (INTJ, ENTJ, INTP, ENTP)

ENFP and ENTP

Both ENFPs and ENTPs lead with extroverted intuition – which means that when you get these two types together, they finally have someone else who understands the chaos that rages inside their mind. This is an undeniably fun pairing in the short term – easy and enjoyable for friendships – but things get significantly more complicated when romance is added to the mix. The similarities between these types break down altogether when it comes to emotions, as the Fi + Te pairing doesn’t sync naturally with the Ti + Fe stack.

Strengths of this pairing: Both parties can appreciate the other’s creativity, high energy and openness to new ideas. At best, the ENFP can appreciate the ENTP’s rational analysis of new ideas and the ENTP can appreciate the ENFP’s commitment to their morals. Both partners are likely to enjoy spending time around someone who intuitively ‘gets’ their fondness for synthesizing new concepts.

Potential pitfalls of this pairing: ENFPs value having a deep emotional connection with their partners, whereas ENTPs show their love through attentiveness and accommodation of their partner. The ENTP’s combination of introverted thinking and extroverted feeling are difficult for the ENFP to understand, as they share neither of these functions. As a result, the ENFP may view the ENTP as cold, uncaring and immoral. The ENTP also has a difficult time understanding introverted feeling paired with extroverted thinking and they may view the ENFP as selfish, dramatic and overly sensitive.

Verdict: While this is certainly a fun pairing, it doesn’t bode well in the long-term. Both types work best with a grounded partner who can balance out their high energy level. Best to avoid this combination for serious relationships.

ENFP and INTP

These types share two functions (extroverted intuition, which is primary for the ENFP and secondary for the INTP, and introverted sensing, which is last for the ENFP, third for the INTP). This gives them some common ground, particularly if the INTP is comfortable using their extroverted intuition regularly. This relationship offers a relative degree of comfort, as neither type finds the other particularly intimidating and both are somewhat laid-back in nature.

Strengths of this pairing: Both types are very open-minded and enjoy exploring new ideas from different angles. At best, the ENFP will appreciate the INTP’s intellectually explorative attitude and will be energized through mutually brainstorming new ideas. The INTP will, at best, appreciate the ENFP’s understanding of emotions and their openness to new ideas. Both will appreciate the other’s independence, intellectualism and wit.

Potential pitfalls of this pairing: The most prominent function these types share is extroverted intuition, which is not dominant for the INTP. This means that to connect on an intuitive level, the INTP would always be using their auxiliary function, which would exhaust them. At worst, the INTP would view the ENFP as overwhelming, irrational and overly emotional. The ENFP would, at worst, see the INTP as reclusive, uninteresting and overly critical. Any conflicts that arise will likely be difficult to resolve, as the decision-making functions of these types are opposite to one another and used in reverse order.

Verdict: Though this relationship may be comfortable, it gives way to many potential misunderstandings that are not easily resolved. Not ideal for romantic relationships.

ENFP and ENTJ

This pairing can be quite effective if both partners have developed their inferior functions. If the ENFP is comfortable using their extroverted thinking and the ENTJ is comfortable using their introverted intuition (their auxiliary function, which balances out the ENFP’s extroverted intuition), the two can find a great deal of common ground. Both types are extroverted go-getters who enjoy examining abstract concepts and putting their ideas into action.

Strengths of this pairing: Both types are interested in the viewpoints of others, and will likely enjoy analyzing each other’s differing perspectives on various topics. At best, the ENFP will find the structured, down-to-earth attitude of the ENTJ grounding and the ENTJ will find the spontaneous, enthusiastic nature of the ENFP refreshing. In many ways they will balance one another out, and will likely challenge one another to develop their inferior functions. As an added bonus, both types are highly enthusiastic and inventive when it comes to intimacy. The sexual chemistry is usually on point.

Potential pitfalls of this pairing: If the ENFP has poorly developed extroverted thinking, the ENTJ may view them as scattered, overly theoretical and too emotional for their own good. If the ENTJ has poorly developed extroverted sensing and introverted feeling, the ENFP may view them as cold, controlling and overly rigid.

Verdict: This can be a highly satisfying relationship for both partners, particularly if they are open to developing their inferior functions. Definitely worth a shot. With two mature partners, this pairing has serious long-term potential.

ENFP and INTJ

The ENFP-INTJ relationship is theorized to be one of the best MBTI pairings. Both types are highly independent, highly analytical and highly unconventional by nature. Though these types do often experience a natural connection, it’s important to note that there are still potential trouble areas for the pairing. Both types are somewhat prone to narcissistic tendencies in their youth, which means that this pairing will work best once each partner has developed their inferior functions and is open to the other’s input. Between two mature partners, the ENFP-INTJ pairing can be sheer gold. These types naturally bring out the best in each other and have opposing weaknesses or blind spots, which makes for a well-rounded team.

Strengths of this pairing: Both types enjoy exploring new ideas, debating theoretical issues and speculating future plans. Additionally, both partners place a high emphasis on self-improvement and enjoy exploring ways to optimize both themselves as individuals and their relationship. At best, the ENFP will appreciate the INTJ’s deeply analytical nature and structured lifestyle, whereas the INTJ will appreciate the ENFP’s open-mindedness and enthusiastic nature. These types are apt to bring out the best in each other, as the ENFP naturally understands social nuances that the INTJ struggles to comprehend and the INTJ delves deeply into the theoretical issues that the ENFP has trouble understanding or implementing.

Potential pitfalls of this pairing: This type gets into hot water if the ENFP has poorly developed extroverted thinking or if the INTJ has underdeveloped introverted feeling. In this case, the ENFP is likely to view the INTJ as cold, overly rigid and narcissistic or selfish. The INTJ is, in turn, likely to view the ENFP as scattered, over-dramatic and unable to apply or follow through with any of their ideas.

Verdict: Get two well-developed types together and this pairing is pure gold. Both partners will challenge the other to grow past their weak spots and continue to self-actualize. Put a ring on it.

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