DEVASTATED Aries

Aries female and Pisces male?..

I REALLY NEED ADVISE. I met a Pisces male four months ago. We met through a semi mutual friend. This pisces guy made me feel like I was the center of his universe. He was the one always calling me, always wanted to spend time with me, he just wanted me. Our intimate times were MIND BLOWING, and the time we spent together we both had soooo much fun. He opened up to me about his life, and how I made him feel when I was with him. I tired to limit our time spent together to only once or maybe twice a week. If I let him see me everyday?he would.

Problem #1..I'm 28 and he's 22. He's very stable so he's ok with me in that area. I live alone with my 8 y/o daughter. Me and my X split up two years ago(I've dated within the two years but nothing near serious) I haven't brought a man to my home. I don't let men come to my home unless I am POSITIVE the man is going to be in my life for a while (yea I'm an over protective mom). He tells me that he understands, but I know it bothers him.

Problem #2?This guy made me feel tooo vulnerable, he was too good to be true. Mid-Jan. I pushed him away and stop seeing him, because he made me a little upset. I let my Aries nature get the best of me, and of course he forgave me. Everything that I did was OK for him. That scared me so I shut him out of my life for a month, but he still called and wanted to see me. Eventually I gave in...and we were having our normal discussion one evening and it slipped out that he was intimate with his ex-g/f. I asked him what's up with that and he said it was more for her then for him, AND he confessed they talk all the time. I was DEVASTATED.

Dont get envolved!!! Run!!! LOL! Seriously 🙂

The next day he calls me as usual as if nothing happened, and I ignored his calls for a couple days?I was so hurt. Then I e-mailed him?.*****you're a nice guy, but I don't deal with men that takes steps back, and you're not ready for a woman like me, so continue to F your ex-g/f since she needs you sooo much. I thought you were different but your just every other male out there****** (no offense to the men reading this?.I was really upset at this particular guy). He didn't respond and I haven't heard from him in a week. I MISS HIM SOOOO MUCH, because he had so much fun together. I have so many questions I want to ask him?but I'm scared to contact him. Was I feeding too much into this guy? I'm devastated because he lied?He told me there was no one else??

Advise would be helpful....please go easy on me though. I'm really confused.

He will always "take steps back" I've been envolved for 2 years with a Pisces and every other women that dates a Pisces has the same story...

Leave while you still have the strength to. If you dont cut it now you will continue to play a back and forth game with him until you eventually get tired of it. The story always ends the same....

You will eventually be so drained that it will all be meaningless to you.

Sorry I know i seem bitter but i'm not I just know where your headed and its long and draining adventure.........take it for what you will.

Take what he did as the big picture of your relationship...

Thanks lv24...Maybe you're right. What's up with the "taking steps back"? I have two brothers that are pisces, my best friend is a pisces, my favorite aunt is a pisces, and in my opinion they are all different.

"I pushed him away and stop seeing him"

"and of course he forgave me. Everything that I did was OK for him."

"That scared me so I shut him out of my life for a month"

"he still called and wanted to see me. Eventually I gave in"

"I don't deal with men that takes steps back, and you're not ready for a woman like me"

"I MISS HIM SOOOO MUCH"


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"What's up with the "taking steps back"?"


Good question ... what is up with people who teeter back and forth, and play push & pull games? Often it leaves a person to question whether the one pushing & pulling on feelings is really sincere or not, and might even cause the person to seek refuge in anothers arms so they can feel wanted.

If you find out the answer as to why people play these games .. will you come back and let me know?

Thanks .......

Male perspective here.

First, water-fire sucks. Now that I said it, here we go...

His ex is a piece of ass on the side, or maybe he is testing the waters to see if he really cares for her. Either option is possible. That he told you means he's not trying to hide it from you and wants to see how you will react.

If ex is just a side dish, he's looking for a safe landing before he gives her up. This is no different from women who stay with men they don't care for, but have an open eye for something better.

If he's testing the waters, then it gets more complicated.

While your reaction is understandable, it's probably turning him off....

It sounds the other way around to me ... she pulls, pushes, pulls, pushes, back and forth ..... he's just trying to keep her on the side, so she won't bail completely on him .. and doing this by trying to make her work him harder sexually to get his jollies off by telling her there's another woman .....


In fact, there may not even be another woman ... think about that, if you love somebody and are cheating ...

You're not going to TELL them, lol

I would make the assessment that because she's fucking with his head, with this "I want you", "I don't want you", "I want you", "I don't want you" .... emotional game of hers, that he decided to fuck with her head.

Aries and thier games ... it always comes back to kick their ass and then they come in here and complain about being a victim.

"It sounds the other way around to me ... she pulls, pushes, pulls, pushes, back and forth"

Sounds about right.


"I would make the assessment that because she's fucking with his head, with this "I want you", "I don't want you", "I want you", "I don't want you" .... emotional game of hers, that he decided to fuck with her head."

yeah, i picked up that possibility. Some men are willing to chase. Some won't.

"In fact, there may not even be another woman ... think about that, if you love somebody and are cheating ...

You're not going to TELL them, lol"

You're assuming that he loves her (XM). If he did have an ex-gf and still cared for the ex-gf more, he's not gonna tell her (ex-gf). Who really knows if he has an ex-gf? He could be making it up.... or not. Even somethings XM is telling us may be shaded from what really happened. At some point, we have to just examine the facts and check out the nuances that we can.

"You're assuming that he loves her .."


Good point ..... either way it happened to be, if my man told me he cheated, I wouldn't be talking about missing him.


lol

Question ... you ask for advise .. on what, exactly?


How to winner a cheater back?

How to stop being devasted?