Do pisces women fall in love with male friends?

If so, what are the signs or signals?

Friends for how long?
And other information...
People can't respond with any helpful insight yet. The answer could be yes and/or no depending on the circumstance.

No, I have never wanted or fell inlove with a friend. Once you are in friends zone thats where you stay. I can turn a love into a friend but never a friend into a lover. Thats just me some other Pisces woman may very well be capable of doing so.

See for me it totally depends on the how/why we are friends to begin with. I could definitely fall for a friend in the proper circumstances...
(Example: we became friends while dating other people, or even just one person is unavailable. Then finding each other both single at some point - I could see it happening). It's just a question of attraction - and if that's the reason you never dated to begin with or not.

Plus if someone is shy, the interest may not be made evident on the outset.

Possible for me, yes. Did I redundantly cover it? Lol

We been friends for over 30 years. We were girlfriend/boyfriend in the 9th grade (never kissed). Had a passionate kiss in the 11th grade after taking her to a concert. Afterwards nothing became of it because I had a girl friend at the time. We remained friends throughout our college years. We lost touch because we both were in long term relationships with other people. Reconnected with each other again. She got married then later I got married. We stayed intouch with each other. We called each other about 4 times a year back then. In the past 6 year, we communicated more. We go to lunch about 5 times a year but in the past 2 years we gone to lunch more often. When we are at lunch, we have casual conversation and later we vent or frustrations about our spouses ( everytime at lunch). I always had feeling for her that never went away. Recently, I told her. I told her how long I had them. Her response was that why didn't you never tell her. I thought she wouldn't want to deal with me after that but we still communicate at least once a week now. I'm not trying to breakup anything because we both have families. I just want to know does she hae feeling for me too?

I'm wondering why it matters? It's fairly irrelevant of how she feels about you, because you say you aren't looking to break up families. Unless you mean you aren't looking to break up families until you have a guarantee of the outcome?

Listen, you need to jump back to reality. Be content that you've maintained a friendship with this woman for so long. That's a treasure. You chose your wife. If you are so unhappy there to be wondering about the grass you had a glimpse of in the 11th grade, you need to deal with that independent of the Pisces woman. Life rarely offers a guarantee in circumstances like this.

Wow! Such an angry response! Sometimes just knowing is enough without acting on it. My if I know I can move on with my life and still be her friend either way. If she does great. If she diesn't it great because it will take me out of my misery of my consistent love I have for her.

There was absolutely no anger in my response at all. I speak fairly bluntly. If you interpret it as anger, all I can do is tell you - you are misinterpreting. I have nothing vested in this to be angry about. I'm not harping on you for having feelings for her. But if it's misery.... that makes no sense to me.

So if you want to just "know", she's the only one that can tell you that. I'm pretty positive that nobody here can tell you that she does or doesn't. I maintain that it's entirely possible. I have no idea about the probability though.

JonesShirley: Now that you have explained your situation things may be a bit more clear to me. I have never fallen for a man that he and I never had a romantic connection. However I can identify with your situation because I to was involved with something like this. I dated a guy 20 years ago and after about a 1 1/2 of dating something happened and we split. 3 years later he found me and for the last 20 years we remained friends lost contact here and there he got married I had another kid with another man. He finally confessed to me in 2010 that he was still inlove with me and that he needed to clear his conscience and wanted closure he had just gotten out of a divorce. Nothing came of it as I was seeing someone. We remained friends and he tried me again in 2011 again I was seeing someone and declined again, he remained my friend but every time I would see him he would have a glossy look in his face and would always try and kiss me on the lips when we would hug. Well this year 2012 I finally got a revelation about this guy I mean a real one not those sparks that I got here and there, that poofed out just as fast. This time it hit me that he was way more to me then I had realized. Finally I gave him a chance and oh boy I have never felt so loved and never been so much in love. So I say this to you I don't know what the future holds for you guys but if its meant for you guys to be more then you are then you will be if and when the time is right. You said your feelings for her has never changed you continue to love her after all these years. Thats how is was with me and my guy. He said he could never get over me. Food for though there. What is your sun sign?

Thank you Striking. Hiding my feeling was really eating at me. My sign is Capricorn. For some reason I have the vibe the she does have feeling for me. When I text her wishing her a happy holiday. He response are either "you are wonderful", you are awesome, or I LOVE you

Ohhhhh JonesShirley, my man is a Capricorn too..There may be some truth to this..Hmmmmmmm!!!!

"I love you" that one time from me is how it started with us. Cap Man and Pisces Woman can have an Awesome tight bond..

So Striking, when her responds from text says I LOVE you, what does she mean? I don't want to assume. You are a Pisces woman. Is this a friendly jesture or it means something more. She text it again recently after I did something nice for her. This one was I LOVE my friend 4 LIFE 😘 . Is that a message that I need to pay attention to or is it a friendly jesture. I don't know?

Honestly I only tell my man "I love you" my male friends get a love ya!! to me there is a diffrence. The latter is less serious...Thats just me though so don't read to much into it. WE have a way of knowing how a man feels about us, more then likely she knows that you still care about her. I always know. What are you guys bdays?

Mine Jan. 2 hers march 13

I always want to do nice things for her or say nice things to her. It's the only way I can express my feelings for her. I can't express the physically like I want because we are both married.

^^^^^I feel sorry for your wife.

Man, you don't have to do anything physically with this woman but you have already cheated on your wife. Once you're in this spot mentally and emotionally with someone else what is the meaning of your marriage anymore.

I am not trying to judge you here or tell you what you should or shouldn't be doing but this won't go down well. Even if you don't physically do anything, if you pursue this then two marriages are going to blow up. So all I am saying is give your next steps a lot of thought because it's pretty intractable once you go through with this.

Posted by Poisson

Posted by ninalove
^^^^^I feel sorry for your wife.

Thank you.

For the OP- take out of it what you will:
Food for thought

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LOL....I clicked your link after I posted, it was exactly the same concept! 😄

Posted by EusiveSoulll
So basically, it goes back to what deezie had wondered about from the get go.

Love you!! lol

Hey Guys, all i wanted is some open advice before I make a big mistake. Thanks for the eye openning comments. This situation could happen to either one of you.

You're right Poisson. I'm not trying to discount other's attempts.
I'm just bitter for being pegged as angry and therefore excused. 🙂

Sadly, light shed upon an unwilling soul is wasted energy

Deezi, let me clear the air with you. I over exaggerated about the angry comment and I am sorry for that. I am very straight forward to when it comes to giving advise. Poison you are right about your comment. I don't want to blow up any marriages especially my own. I really needed this wake call. Somes when you feel unappreciated and taken for grant by your spouse, it is easy to drift when someone else does show appreciation for you.

Thank you Jones. My intent isn't to bash or make you feel bad. Not in the slightest.
I'd like to help you figure out a way that feels good in your heart to deal with the situation at hand.

You can't equate the two situations either. They're entirely different. Your wife is 100% in your life. This Pisces is not. It's easy to show love and appreciation from afar. It's hard to work at a relationship that you are in. Right?
There's no guarantee that the grass doesn't turn brown once you hop the fence. You still need to water and feed the grass. Cut it.

Everyone (and this is just an aside thought sparked by this conversation, not a direct comment at you because I don't know what your day to day marriage life is like) - these days seems to want someone else to nurture the grass that they want to own themselves. Our world is turning into a very unaccountable place. Do you question why it is that your wife doesn't seem to appreciate you? Do you appreciate her? Have you stepped into her shoes.

My goodness that was a lot of euphemisms and clich?s.

Jonesriley: I hope you work out this issue that alot if married couples go through. Communication is the key with your spouse, especially if you still want the marriage. And FYI: I'd think twice next time bout putting personal business and feelings on these boards. Cause the judge and jury resides here...lol

Posted by deezie


You can't equate the two situations either. They're entirely different. Your wife is 100% in your life. This Pisces is not. It's easy to show love and appreciation from afar. It's hard to work at a relationship that you are in. Right?
There's no guarantee that the grass doesn't turn brown once you hop the fence. You still need to water and feed the grass. Cut it.

Everyone (and this is just an aside thought sparked by this conversation, not a direct comment at you because I don't know what your day to day marriage life is like) - these days seems to want someone else to nurture the grass that they want to own themselves. Our world is turning into a very unaccountable place. Do you question why it is that your wife doesn't seem to appreciate you? Do you appreciate her? Have you stepped into her shoes.

+1. A lot of good points here. Particularly about how his wife perceives him, does he appreciate her enough.

And what's with guys moaning about not feeling appreciated enough and being taken for granted. WTF....

Posted by JONESRILEY
I always want to do nice things for her or say nice things to her. It's the only way I can express my feelings for her. I can't express the physically like I want because we are both married.

You're an emotional cheater .... you don't deserve respect

He admitted himself that he's felt for this woman since 11 grade .. which means he's never even given his wife a chance. Of course shit isn't good at home ... he's been emotionally with another woman for 30 years ... according to him, he has had her on his mind this whole time.


So, how in the fuck, Intrigued, is his wife suppose to measure up to that? Of course, she pales in comparison, because that's the position he's put her in IF he has indeed been wanting this other woman all this time.


:::: shakes head ::::


Of course, now the Capricorn sees what you're saying and believes it's ok to cheat .. because there's always you who will blame his wife

It no biggie about the judging Striking. Just from the experience of dealing with people, people who judges lives in a house that's made out of glass. No one really know me and I don't know them so it doesn't bother me. I'm a little green with is chat thing so I know next time to keep to myself of a close friend. I don't want to damage anything . Thank you guys for the reality check.

Ok... I had a whole thing juxtaposed thing typed up, but it's external to me stuff, and that's not mine to divulge.

It's a cycle between Jones and his wife - it doesn't matter who started it, it matters who wants to fix it. Intrigued, I think you are making the presumption that he has even tried to bring this up with his wife. (I know from experience that a Cap man can be super passive-aggressive about his feelings of not being appreciated - I'm not implying this is Jones, but if we're going to entertain what if's - we need to entertain them all). I haven't seen anything to that effect. I presume he didn't marry this woman because she was always so neglectful to his "needs". It's a choice of working at a relationship/communicating because you love the other person, or looking for an easier way around it.

The intent isn't to place blame or guilt, but to help Jones find resolution if he so desires it. Entirely his choice what he wants to pull out of this discussion.

*dusts eggshells off her feet*

Posted by IntriguedScorp
This might sound old-fashioned but a wife who is tune with her husband should know how to draw up these discussions and find out what's going on. If she hasn't maybe she's not interested in finding out?

Personally I have found men would rather stick pins in their eyes than start a conversation like the one that is needed here.

ARgggghhh.... lol I'm so worked up in this thread - strikes a chord for me. Please don't take offence.

It's not old-fashioned, it's ridiculous. There are a myriad of things that could be going on in this situation. I'm curious to know if you're just playing devil's advocate, or if you sincerely believe that the wife is getting what she deserves by her husband harbouring feelings for another woman, because the wife isn't doing her duty to make this man be a man and accountable for his own shit?

arrrgh... sorry...

Poison, If you are married and you need had this problem from your wife, congratulations and good for you. If you aren't married, then you don know what some men go through sometimes. Yeah, I feel taken for granted. When I work come home and have to cook for my kids everyday even when I am tired. Iron the clothes every night, make sure their homework is done, take them to school, pick them up from school, take the to practice and clean the house . While your wife comes in doesn't offer the help with something, you will feel the same way. She publicly show her dislike from my family Inspite of my family bend over backward to make her welcome. If some says anything about publicly or privately, she believes them, this question is always are the telling the truth about you? So yeah, I am frustrated. After dealing for years, he can you feel affection for your spouse. I feel like love is more action than words.

Virgo

Virgo

I know some of you are stuck on me having feeling since the 11 th grade and my wife never had a chance isn't true. When things don't work out, you move on. Life doesn't stop because you have old feel from someone else. In after the time, I dated for 6 yrs and was madly in love with her. So my moved on after my 11 th grade revelation. The bottom line is maybe be I need some counciling to heel my ill feelings because I have shut down.

I agree with Elusive, that just shifting your focus is asking for trouble.

Don't do the Cap thing and wallow in it as if you deserve to feel bad. Initiate change. Do something to make sure you don't end up grumpy old man because you are disappointed with how life turned out.

Trust me I've seen that happen first hand, it's not pretty, and almost a hopeless state.

Deezi, you said it. That's what I'm feeling like these days, a grumpy old man. I didn't use to be short with people but I am now. I know I was making a mistake with my close friend but I found myself sinking farther in. After listened you all, it helped me see the light. I need to figure out a way to get rid of this resentment I have for my wife.

you Pisces are really something... you can be so good at what you do, all with a different way of doing it *hugz* 😄

You know what though - I will say you are miles ahead of where you could be - because you actually see, and will admit to the state you are in. That right there is good news, and I'm so glad for you - you can still do something about this.

Resentment implies unmet expectations. Expectations in general are doomed for failure. Don't do that to yourself. From here forth, no expectations of anyone but yourself (what you can control). Ironing out the unmet expectations, I'm not qualified to tell you how to do that. I can only answer that question for myself unfortunately. If you feel you need counsel, then that's what you do. If you think you can go about it another way, also great. I do hope that you can work it out though. Sincerely. The world is large and round. There is no need not to live in wonderment every day! Dead ends only exist where you choose to stop trying.

My goodness... I don't know what's going on with my brain today.

Posted by JONESRILEY
Deezi, you said it. That's what I'm feeling like these days, a grumpy old man. I didn't use to be short with people but I am now. I know I was making a mistake with my close friend but I found myself sinking farther in. After listened you all, it helped me see the light. I need to figure out a way to get rid of this resentment I have for my wife.

You're one of the few people on these forums so far that has taken good solid advice. These ladies have given you an amazingly pragmatic view about the situation. I know you are in a tough spot and probably having a lot of doubts, feelings and repressed anger but surely you will figure a way out of this. Nothing is going to be worth blowing up several relationships (that's not judgement just an opinion). I really do wish you good luck, hopefully you will figure things out with your wife and still have a good friend in that pisces lady. At the end of the day some of the best relationships with the opposite sex tend to be platonic.

Oo, also.... on the resentment topic:

Speaking as human beings. Your wife OWES you nothing. Just as you OWE her nothing. That alone (again as human beings, not as husband and wife) means you can't expect her to be your wife first and a human being second (and vice versa for her on you).

We're all humans first, and then the list of other titles second. (Un-ended thought, sort of on purpose, for you to put into that what means the most to you). 🙂

Posted by deezie
You know what though - I will say you are miles ahead of where you could be - because you actually see, and will admit to the state you are in. That right there is good news, and I'm so glad for you - you can still do something about this.

Hahahahaha...see my post! 😄

Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by deezie
You know what though - I will say you are miles ahead of where you could be - because you actually see, and will admit to the state you are in. That right there is good news, and I'm so glad for you - you can still do something about this.

Hahahahaha...see my post! 😄

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hahaha nice 🙂 some sort of other level mind meld today eh? 😛

Posted by deezie

Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by deezie
You know what though - I will say you are miles ahead of where you could be - because you actually see, and will admit to the state you are in. That right there is good news, and I'm so glad for you - you can still do something about this.

Hahahahaha...see my post! 😄

hahaha nice 🙂 some sort of other level mind meld today eh? 😛

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Agreed 😛. You really gave splendid advice on this thread, very insightful and a good learning experience for me too! 😄

@IC - my leo mars enjoys the approval 😛

@Elusive - hahaha I'm not minding my brain today, but it's odd how coherent I feel... not natural 🙂

@Poisson - WILD BALL EATING DOGS 🙂 They gotta eat too right? (ugh... I wanted to address your comment, but had nothing decent lol)

Posted by Poisson
I'm not saying! I'm not that suicidal quite just yet! I already called IC gay...

For which you shall still be punished 😛

Posted by Poisson
I'm relieved we can keep our heads cool in this. You know damn well had he brought this up in another forum there's good chance he might have gotten his balls cut off and fed to the dogs.

Didn't P-Angel already do that in this thread somewhere? 😉